Do I have a right to be angry?

[Kim&Chris]

Or am I over-reacting?

Here's the story in short form:

First, my sister is a complete jerk, but I completely love her two little girls, one of whom is my goddaughter.

I normally try to take this child as frequently as I can....day trips to the zoo, the aquarium, a 'girls day' at the mall, stuff like that. I am lucky...I normally get to do this stuff a few times a month. To me, that means the world .

Now, my sister knows how much I love these kids, yet never invites me to school plays, etc. Why? We do not get along, and have not since we were kids.

So here's why I'm upset: A few days ago, I found out that my niece was going to sing in a school play, and that family members were free to come. I asked if I could go, and my sister said 'yes' (reluctantly). I was so excited!

The day before the school play, she called me in work and asked me not to come, stating that she had already asked our mom, and wanted it to be a special day 'just for Mom-Mom'. No problem, I didn't mind.

Today I found out that another one of my sisters went!

Is it me, or is this really nasty of my sister (the one with the kids) to do? If you think I'm overreacting, don't be afraid to say so, but I believe she simply didn't want me there. It's really sad, because my niece and I are the best of friends, and I'm sure she would have been happy if I had been in the audience.

 

[Missy1961]

She is so wrong. And I bet she is jealous of the wonderful relationship you have with your niece.

 

[Kim&Chris]

Thanks. I kinda thought so, but I am angry that I thought I might be misjudging the situation.

 

[Patty3]

I am so sorry that your sister did this to you. You are not over reacting that was just plain mean and my feelings would definitely be very hurt. I do not understand why she even made you a godmother knowing that she has these feelings towards you??? Could your sister be upset because you only take your goddaughter out and not the other little girl?

 

[gshoemate]

I agree, she is wrong. And if family members were free to come, I would of went and sat by myself and not let your sister know that you were there.

 

[snoopy]

She is wrong. I have family members that I don't get along with, but I would never get in the way of their relationship with my kids (unless of course it was an abusive one.....barring something of that nature, I feel like my kids can never have too many people who love them. )

 

[Serena]

You have every right to be angry.

 

[Kim&Chris]

The little girl just turned 2, and has an eating disorder. She really can't go "out" like other kids for that reason. However, if she was able to eat solids, I'd take her along with us in a second.

 

[huckster]

wrong , she was thinking of her feelings not yur neice's. jmho

 

[bubie2.5]

I would be upset and angry. If she feels that way, why did she made you godmother of her daughter? It's not fair for you and your niece.

 

[Rippington'sFan]

Sounds like your sister has some real issues. Is that her stuck to the tree below in my sig picture? What a witch or "B"itch.

You certainly are NOT over-reacting. I would sense that since you treat her kids so good that there is some kind of jealousy of you. I certainly hope things can turn around for you and your sisters relationship. That really does stink to have a bad relationship with a family member.
Best of luck to you.

 

[Kim&Chris]

Originally posted by Rippington'sFan
Sounds like your sister has some real issues. Is that her stuck to the tree below in my sig picture? What a witch or "B"itch.

You certainly are NOT over-reacting. I would sense that since you treat her kids so good that there is some kind of jealousy of you. I certainly hope things can turn around for you and your sisters relationship. That really does stink to have a bad relationship with a family member.
Best of luck to you.

THANKS! YOU GUYS ARE THE BEST.

 

[Epcotgal8]

No, you're not overreacting. No matter what kind of relationship you and your sister have, she should be thankful that her daughters have such a supportive aunt.

 

[Tuffcookie]

Your sister is not being very mature. It is in her own child's best interest to have as many loving people involved in her life, as possible! Next time I would just go.

TC

 

[missypie]

Why do you need to ask to go to her play? Are you in a very small town where everyone know who shows up where? Just go to whatever events of hers you want to. You don't have to sit with the family at all. At our kids' schools there are lots of divorced parents who both attend all their kids events...they don't sit together. There are no confrontations - they just both show up independently to support their kid. I don't see why you can't do the same thing in the future.

 

[skuttle]

I would be angry, too. No one can every have *too many* people who love and care about them. Even if you and your sister dont' get along, she should be mature enough to realize the good you do for her children and encourage that relationship.

 

[nativetxn]

This would have hurt me terribly I'm so sorry that you had to experience this, {{{HUGS}}} sweetie.

Katholyn

 

[disykat]

I don't think you have the "right" to be angry, but you have a good reason to be! I can't imagine any reason why your sister wouldn't have been okay with you being there. She could have her special time with grandma after the play - not during!

It sounds like there are some jealousy issues at play. With your sister and possibly with your other sister and grandma as well.

 

[Winka]

Is there ANY way you can talk with your sister and reconcile? What about the sister that went to the recital-can she mediate?

For the sake of your relationship with your neices is it possible for you two to get over whatever jealousy/resentment or whatever stands between you ?

Good luck and I'm really sorry.

 

[cheyita]

Originally posted by Winka
Is there ANY way you can talk with your sister and reconcile? What about the sister that went to the recital-can she mediate?

For the sake of your relationship with your neices is it possible for you two to get over whatever jealousy/resentment or whatever stands between you ?

Good luck and I'm really sorry.

That was my first thought too. Maybe you can extend an olive branch or two. This doesn't have to be an admission of being wrong - just an attempt to take the relationship in the right direction from this step forward.