Disrespect

[phorsenuf]

nvm

 

[caitlinsmom]

I'm convinced if the outside world heard 1/2 the things we say to each other in a very saracastic kidding way they would be mortified. However...now if a stranger came up to us and said the same thing -- would be totally offensive.

This reminds me of DD's ringtone for me! People get all upset with her because she has Ding Dong the Witch is Dead for my ringtone on her phone. I think it's hilarious!!! She tells me, people get all bent out of shape when it rings & she says "oh that's my mom calling".

My ring tone for my mom is "Ding Dong the Witch is dead" also. I'll be somewhere with my DD and her friend, my phone will ring and her friends yell "your mom is calling". It's not meant to be mean, my mom's name is Dorothy and wanted a Wizard of Oz song for her ringtone.

 

[goofinoff]

Why do you care what someone you don't even know says to his wife who you don't know? He wasn't saying it to you, he wasnt saying it about you or your mother or sister or daughter. I will never understand the whole "that offends me" way of thinking. I think that is one of the problems we have these days. We can't do or say anything because we may offend someone. God forbid we wish someone a merry CHRISTMAS! It may offend someone! Oh sorry, I said God! I hope I didn't offend anyone! I say lighten up. There are bigger issues in this world to worry about.

 

[ThreeBeans]

Did you ever see "The Princess Bride?" Remember the part where the narrator said:



My Mom has a nickname for my Dad. It's a spinoff of something a beloved, long since passed, family member once said. Someone who didn't know us, or the context, might think she was insulting Dad.

When she says it, she's saying "I love you."

When she says it, my Dad hears "I love you".

She uses it in private and in public, cause I don't think she much cares who hears her tell Dad that she loves him. And I know he loves to hear her use that nickname, no matter where it's said.

No one outside of that family in Costco will ever know the meaning of "ball & chain" to them. To you, it's disrespectful, to her, it could have meant "I love you."

My husband and I speak the language of sarcasm to each other. It's very much affection-based.

 

[dominiondad]

Getting offended on behalf on somebody else never leads to good things. If the wife was offended, I'm sure she is capable of addressing the situation her way. I know my "ball and chain" does.

 

[Minnesota!]

wouldn't ever register with me as something to be offended about. DH's ring tone for me used to be Buck Cherry's "Crazy *****".

 

[Momvic5]

Ummmmmm....tag fairy? LOL

My tag would have something to do with balls - decorative or not! LOL

 

[WowLookAtThat]

My husband calls me his albatross. Much more literary.

 

[Gumbo4x4]

I don't like that movie. Therefore the line offends me.

Will you be our newest bestest buddy and big toe?

 

[MissMichigan]

Add me to the camp of "wouldn't have given it a second thought." It's not my business how people speak to their own spouse, in public or not, in front of children or not. Unless you personally know the couple and their dynamic, and the context, it's not something that's any of your business to begin with, let alone to make a comment to a stranger about. I'd personally be much more offended by someone listening in and making comments to me about something like that than I would be if I heard someone make the comment.

As many of the PP's have said, couples form their own way of talking to each other and put their own meanings on things.

For example, I have a tendency to wander off, often out of earshot, and often when Db is not looking. If he calls my name, I tend not to hear. But for whatever reason, when he whistles, I know it's him right away and turn to look for him. I'm sure some stranger could see that exchange and think he treats me like i'm a dog. But for us, that's just the easiest/most effective way for him to get my attention in public. Came in handy on black friday, i'll tell ya that! lol.

 

[The Wise One]

You'd die if you heard DH and I talk to each other. We always "yell" at each other. He says I need to get in the kitchen and make him a sandwich, I tell him women don't take out the garbage, I'll jokingly refer to him as my "master", and he'll yell "WOMAN" if we're joking around and says he owns me/I'm his property.

We don't mean any of it, but we do it ALOT.

 

[hiwaygal]

Will you be our newest bestest buddy and big toe?

Only if I get to choose the nail polish

 

[1Mouse2RulethemAll]

OP, you would be mortified if you saw my DH and I. He will literally walk up and smack my tush in the store. And shopping with my FIL, I don't know how my MIL stayed married to him for 40 years, as he will say the oddest things just to get a rise out of people.


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[spacemountainmom]

I would say that you have to know the context. I had a friend whose dh was rather bossy and kind of a jerk. When she was pregnant with their first child, he TOLD her that she WOULD breastfeed. She was really upset about it. My response to her was when he grew the necessary parts, he could make that decision. She ended up breastfeeding and he continually referred to her as the "milk truck". I had a very hard time not punching him in the face. I thought it was rather disrespectful. It wasn't like he was helpful in any other way either. I guess he figured he'd done his part when he donated half the dna.

I don't feel bad saying any of that because I knew the context of the situation.

BTW - My ringtone on dh's phone was Meredith Brooks' song with a name for a female dog. I call it my theme song. He did get quite a bit of grief from other people though.

 

[snarlingcoyote]

I don't like that movie. Therefore the line offends me.

Hmph. I think that movie is pure genius. I'm offended that you're offended by the line.

 

[LilyWDW]

I do believe that someone needs to get their nose out of other people's business.

 

[tinkerbellandeeyor]

I tell my mom I have a lot of **** to do some times and my friends were offended by that go figure they told me how disrespectful I was for saying that with out listening to her side of the conversation. So unless you hear the entire conversation please butt out

 

[tvguy]

I don't know if she was upset or mot. I just found it terribly disrespectful.y.DH has NEVER said things like that my or my children's presence

Guess you had to be there, all I see is love, respect, and a sense of humor in that comment (and relationship).

 

[shortbun]

I don't see the problem. I'm sure he was just fooling around. My husband and I do that all the time. Our kids know that too. Hardly anything to get your panties in a bunch about.

What have things become that now even messing around with your loved ones in not PC anymore. Some days I really weep for our future.

Weep for your own future. Crassness and sexist jokes have no place in mine, so no crying necessary.

 

[happygirl]

I do believe that someone needs to get their nose out of other people's business.

I agree, unless he was saying it to you MYOB