Disney Wonder Sept 3-7,2006 Part 2

[suzannef]

Thank you. Its great to know I have great friends, familyo,p ;- and my faith to cling to. (Excuse TJ's typing). Ip;[]= ve been combing the internet for sites regarding loss and its just rough. We went to church today, but I started bawling.

My dad's response was, well maybe it was this was part of god's plan. this is after he scolded me about even getting pregnant, speaking to me like a 5 year old. o.k., off that soap box now...

Thanks again, if you have any words of advice, I'd love to hear them. (Suz or any one)

Sorry about your dad's insensitivity. Why people feel like they have the right to comment about your reproductive life is beyond me

Taeja I have to say what helped me through it may not work for you as we lost our first baby at 12 weeks and I ended up getting pregnant about 2 1/2 months later and then delivered Angelina on the exact date we lost the first baby one year later. That always helps me when I feel sad about it. I feel that God gave us Angelina to help us ease our pain and she has always been such a wonderful child. She will be 13 in a month Man how time flies. You are in a different situation, but I truly hope you will find a way to help deal with your loss and certainly give those 4 beautiful little ones that are here an extra hug and kiss every chance you get.

 

[LittleBlue22]

Kinda a long story.. but... here goes.

..so there is a snapshot of what has been in my mind the past week... Part of me is super scared but the other part knows that I love him and from a legal sense, it'll make our lives a lot easier. Seems silly to wait for something that will only help us...

Who knows!

P, I can so relate, I have a pretty crappy relationship with my parents too. After telling my mom about the loss of Heaven, she said, I'm s sorry, I don't know when we'll be able to come out....blah blah blah. My dad is worse, he's in his own little universe. Cling to your husband, your pets, and kids (some day). They will sustain you and be your glue through life. Some times, I feel like what's the point in telling them any thing regarding my life or the kids. They show no sense of caring. Its tough, I wish I had a better relationship with my parents and vice versa. But they just don't see the importance of family.

I could really keep going, but I don't want to rant and bore you all.

Hang in there Patsy

 

[LittleBlue22]

Sorry about your dad's insensitivity. Why people feel like they have the right to comment about your reproductive life is beyond me

Taeja I have to say what helped me through it may not work for you as we lost our first baby at 12 weeks and I ended up getting pregnant about 2 1/2 months later and then delivered Angelina on the exact date we lost the first baby one year later. That always helps me when I feel sad about it. I feel that God gave us Angelina to help us ease our pain and she has always been such a wonderful child. She will be 13 in a month Man how time flies. You are in a different situation, but I truly hope you will find a way to help deal with your loss and certainly give those 4 beautiful little ones that are here an extra hug and kiss every chance you get.

I had no idea you had a baby! Congratulations! I had no idea you were pregnant. That's what I've found on some loss sites, is the mentioning of having another one after miscarriage. I'll be walking in my dr. appt. this week saying, o.k, I'd like a D&C and Depro Privera please.... It does feel very final. But yes, I have four great kids that keep me busy as well as work. Wow, what a mixed blessing to have her b-date the same date.

No, no #5 in the future for us. This one was an unexptected surprise and then having the rug pulled out from under us/me is enough.

 

[LittleBlue22]

Thanks.

We're so glad to have him back!

We came home last night and he'd discovered where I'd boxed up all of his toys and he had them strung EVERYWHERE across the floor, and he was actually curled up in the box chewing on a bone.

Tom said "He's like a kid."
and I said.. "Nope! But he's pretty good practice!"

Correct me if I'm wrong, but I recall you saying you didn't want to get married or thought you wouldn't get married.... and now look what you said....

 

[LittleBlue22]

Thanks.

He bought me a ring tonight..

oooohhhh aaaaaaahhhh

 

[LittleBlue22]

Oh, I'm sure you guys remember my friend who just had her baby and her husband is deployed?

He's on his way home for two weeks!!

He finally gets to meet his cutie-pie. She's so happy, it's contagious!

Hooray, I'm sure that was a happy reunion The baby is so handsome

 

[LittleBlue22]

Yep. I told him we were going, he's sat and talked quite a bit to Tom before (Uncle served Vietnam-- had a lot of questions for Tom about how things were now vs. then!) and he said something about how maybe, knowing the deal with my dad, it would benefit me to get married. Knowing he felt that way made it easy to tell him- he was thrilled!

Anyone else have anything exciting going on??

I can always fill you in about drama at our daycare staff, kid, or parent wise

 

[LittleBlue22]

Oh man. The visitation was the roughest thing.. It doesn't help that I am allergic to flowers and I swear this building was FULL of them. I've never seen anything like it.

His parents stood by the coffin and greeted us all-- his mom was crying, but she wanted to meet everyone and hear their stores. I barely made it five minutes without tearing up. I couldn't stand it. Tom wants to go back tomorrow, but man.. I don't know if I can hold it together through the services.

His mom has his AIM signed on saying "From Patrick's mom: Please keep sending the messages, they are very dear to me."

Now I'm crying all over again.

sorry for your loss Patsy

 

[LittleBlue22]

He was.

This is random, but where is Taeja?

I got lost.

 

[LittleBlue22]

Went and got a dress today.. a real dress..

http://www.davidsbridal.com/bridal_gowns_detail.jsp?stid=1590&prodgroup=159

You looked hot in it!

 

[LittleBlue22]

I'm baaaaaaaaaaaack.

I'll try to post pictures later, we're unpacking right now!

At least there's less brown where you are now

Yep, we're married.

Taeja-- I'm so sorry for you and your family for the loss. You're all in our thoughts. I'm so glad we found you again!!

Thank you P

 

[LittleBlue22]

I hope every one has a great week. I'll be on bed rest until I have the procedure done, I had two sets of bad contractions yesteray and had to leave a family wedding early. Then, this morning during church I had two light cramps and haven't gone any where since. I missed the call from the OB-gyn nurse on Friday so I'll find out when the pre op and the D&C will be tomorrow. Its been tough being in limbo all weekend.

On a lighter note, its been nice reading about every ones doings, plans, and dreams. Lisa, I'm sorry you didn't win any thing at your party, but that must've been a fun event. Has your mom decided to sail with you?

Zwe, I've been temped to write you about more Goofy gummies. When we went to WDW for christmas we had to cut our vacation short so I wasn't able to stock up before we left.

We've decided to homeschool the kids this Fall. Our curriculum has already arrived and K is ready to fly through KG before summer is over.

Who knew that a daycare could have so much drama. I've been interim director since late February and it simply amazes me. I almost prefer to work with men instead of being in a network of women. If you'd like daycare stories (I have one almost daily), let me know. However, this week, I'll be out this week. I can call and get info from a very reliable source.

 

[LCTsMom]

Hang in there, TaeJa! I wish I had some wonderful words of advice but all I can offer is my heartfelt sorrow and a virtual hug! If you need to talk, or vent, or cry, know that we're here to listen, always!

That's very cool that you've decided to homeschool. I've always admired the dedication and committment of homeschool parents. I've been subbing in the elementary school and I've found that teaching is not my calling! Good thing I wasn't planning on going back to school for it.

As for your daycare stories, I worked in two different daycares when I first moved to Florida. I anticipated having my kids and being able to take them with me when I worked. Unfortunately, I got to see the less than perfect side of the coin and found it wasn't for me. (I must have worked for the real whackos, it realy scared me away from that line of work for good! So much so that I couldn't even consider daycare as an option for my kids over the years. ) Amazingly enough I've made it 17.5 years without needing daycare and now I have two great teen sons (and one girlfriend!!! )to leave my 8 year old with.

I've found that in the end, it's all about what works for your situation.

 

[Piecey]

Hang in there Patsy

I'm DONE with them! Part of me has thought.. okay, maybe I can still try with them. That feeling is long gone!

Tom went to dinner with my dad before we left.

Tom said my dad kept tearing me down and telling him all these things about me, Tom said it almost seemed like he was trying to convince him not to marry me! He said he defended me all night. That broke my heart and I just told Tom he's all I need and I'm done with them. I'll be so much happier and emotionally happier without their bull!

 

[LCTsMom]

Oh Patsy, how sad!

 

[LittleBlue22]

that sounds so familiar P. My dad was adiment that B not marry me either. My dad tried his best to scare him away from me, but obviously after almost 14 years, it hasn't worked. Whose hurt more by our lack of relationship, my kids. They don't know their grandparents very well. Even they think its sad that we don't all get along. My dad is an expert complainer. That's all I hear from him is negativity and why expose my kids to that, so in a way, its a double edged sward with my parents.

Congrats Lisa on finally subbing! As long as the daycare kids aren't my kids, I'm fine.

Be ready for me to cry, vent, etc. after the procedure. I feel like I've gotten to one emotional mark and then I'll have a whole batch of others coing soon. Thanks Lisa.

 

[Piecey]

Oh Patsy, how sad!

It's pathetic. They're too stubborn and full of themselves to admit they were crappy, absent parents. Now they've got a son who doesn't care because he's benefiting financially from them and a daughter who doesn't need them because she learned very young to take care of herself. I did at least get that from them-- I learned I could only count on myself from a very young age!

He said my dad just kept bringing up things from when I was a kid and how I don't forget and I don't forigve and I hold a grudge and how much my apathy and disdain for them "hurts" and how he knows one day I'll turn on Tom, too! I was shocked. It still hurts.

 

[LCTsMom]

The best lesson learned is for us to be better people and show those close to us how very important they are!

 

[purplern]

Lct and Zwe said:

I think originally the old thread was just closed, and we started this new one. But they must have gotten some complaints and started "new" threads for all of the closed ones. BECAUSE, the same thing happened on our Sept 2008 cruise meet thread, and someone started a new one. I don't remember there ever being a link before to the continuation, if that makes sense. We could just all go over there!

Yesterday 08:49 PM
LCTsMom: I'm very confused now. It looks like we have two open threads. Read this. Someone figure out what heck is going on, I am totally LOST! This link is to a thread that says PART 5. What the heck is THAT? HELP!


My reply:

I'll go where ever you tell me to.

Thank you very much. We were very surprised to find out we were pregannt and shocked to find out we no longer were. its been an emotional week. I haven't had the procedure done yet, so, this week will be yet again, emotional. Please pray for us as we continue to heal. R the oldest is taking it the hardest, she's our most emotional child. It breaks my heart to see her so sad and to experience such a painful thing at such an early age.

I have so much to catch up on this thread, I had no idea it existed! Our Patsy's getting married?! Congratulations!

TaeJa glad you're back! So sorry to hear!! Our prayers are with you!

 

[purplern]

I'm baaaaaaaaaaaack.

I'll try to post pictures later, we're unpacking right now!

YEAH!!!