Tink-erin-belle
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Oh Erin...
I am so sorry that you've had to go through all of this...that's a lot of stress (having divorced parents... I know the stuff that goes on can really take its toll on a person- physically and emotionally... so I hope that you are taking care of yourself and getting what you need as well as the kids... you need to feel well too...)
I think it speaks well of your character that despite your split from your ex you amicably tried to do custody arrangements & even when he was behaving badly you still felt some compassion for him...
...Having said that... your primary concern is your kids and yourself... I'm glad this seems resolved and I hope you and the children can move forward peacefully...
Poor Coy... do you know how many things 13 year olds say that they don't really mean when their upset? How awful for him...
True... Bless her... she has such a sweet heart...![]()
Thanks, Patricia. I am getting better at taking care of myself first so that I can be able to take care of the kids. It is hard to do, though! I always want to give give give! But I have started to recognize when I am spreading myself too thin.
Even though I think my ex is a complete moron sometimes, I do also feel sorry for him sometimes. I was in that courtroom thinking, If you had just TALKED to me or our kids, you wouldnt be getting reamed by the judge right now! I think that the kids and I will be able to put all of this behind us, and I hope that their dad doesnt say anything negative about the trial when they go to his house this weekend. I want us all to just move on. I feel so bad for Coy. No kid should be put in that position between his parents. He said something out of anger and he has been paying for it since July, and I felt terrible for him. When I got home on Tuesday, I gave him a big hug and I said that it was all over. He asked me, So no more court? Thats it? We really get to stay with you? and I could see the relief in his eyes
Little miss True is a sweetie pie
Erin, you are just so awesome.You are the best Mom and I'm sorry you had to go through this, but so glad it's over! I LOVE the cake!
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Thanks, Karen! Im glad this is over now, too! The cake was awesome. True is wise beyond her years, I tell ya!
What a huge relief to have the custody issue behind you. The summer before Marissa was a Freshman, we had to redo the custody stuff. We had joint with the ex seeing them every other weekend. Lets just say, after the police were involved, Marissa didn't want to see him ever. She was scared to go over there. I got a good lawyer. The ex was served and he just brushed it aside or something. He defaulted. Never answered the summons. So, by default, I got full legal custody of both. Jacob still sees him for one or two weekends each month. Marissa goes to dinner maybe once or twice a month. She still doesn't spend the night there. Maybe once since this happened. I let the kids decide how much time they wanted and since he defaulted, that is what was ordered. Instead of the 6 weeks during summer, he now just gets 2 weeks with Jacob. My ex actually wants his pay garnished. It is the only way he will pay. When he moved from Texas to Oregon, he made me set it up, so I pay $50/year to have the state garnish it. I was married for 6 short years and I just wish young people would realize that the decisions they make will determine their future. We have been divorced for 11 years and he still can be a jerk to me and it does affect the kids.
I am glad that you can breathe easier now and I loved the cake.
Thanks, Shannon! Im sorry that you had to go through a custody issue too! It sounds like it must have been a pretty traumatic situation for Marissa not to want to spend the night there with her dad anymore. Poor thing! That is unbelievable that your ex didnt even answered the summons, but I am glad it worked out in the end. I think that it is sad that some parents dont realize that they are causing their kids to pull away. My kids have occasionally just stayed home instead of going to their dads because they know that they will be bored over there since he doesnt spend much time with them. I dont get that. If, God forbid, I was the one who had visitation with the kids every other weekend, I would spend every waking second with them because I would know that I wouldnt get to see them again for two weeks! One day, the kids are going to probably stop visiting their dad altogether. They will be teenagers with social lives, activities and jobs and they wont have time for him or me for that matter so you would think that he would make the most of the time he does have with them, right? Oh well. My ex wanted his pay garnished, too! I guess he knew that he wouldnt pay child support unless it was coming directly from his check. Back when the child support order was originally entered (2004, I think) he was going around boasting, I put child support on MYSELF as if taking financial responsibility for his kids wasnt something he was supposed to do!
You are so right that decisions that we make when we are young will impact our whole lives. I wouldnt trade my kids or any of my experiences for anything in the world, but I had my son when I was 26, got married at 27, had True when I was 30, and I was separated and on my way to divorce when I was 31. So, I have often said to my sisters and brothers Look at me. You dont want to end up like me!
Of course, I am very happy with where I am in my life now, but it took me a long time to get to this point! Having awesome kids helped

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Yeah, that isnt as easy as it looks! I followed the tutorial for creating them in Word and although they were great instructions, I didnt get the name fills to turn out quite like how I wanted:
As far as UO, I am thinking of a Harry Potter shirt and a Dr. Seuss shirt. I dont think I will do a shirt for Sea World
Well see.
) and I saw these transfers:
I might just end up going to Michaels because I can make sure they are the right size and color. Anyway, back to the transfers, has anyone ever used them? How do they hold up? If you used something else, then what? A long time ago, I read that someone on the design boards sold transfers (light and dark) but I dont think I have the link to her site anymore. Would anyone recommend those transfers (I want to say her name is Amy) because I can look for the link if hers are good. I welcome any tips on the transfers! I want to make sure our t-shirts last! I have also been looking on the boards and Pinterest for tie-dye techniques. I dont think I am adventurous enough to try the Mickey Head tie-dye, but I do kinda want to try. I might just end up doing a tie-dye and putting a transfer on top. Will that work? Or would the dye somehow interfere with the transfer? Im excited to get going! 






Ive always wanted one because I have always wanted to travel internationally, but it just hasnt happened yet. So I am going to get mine and I am going to get passports for the kids, as well. No, they arent going on this trip (and, boy, are they jealous!) but I wanted for us to all get our passports at the same time so that we can all renew them at the same time. Considering that they are 14 and 10, it seems kinda silly because they will be grown before they need to renew their passports, but I am OCD in that way where I like to do things all at once
I think Disney is a wonderful travel brand, so I think that the first time we travel abroad, Id want to do it with them. I looked into one of their tours once that covered parts of England and France. It looked amazing! English men and French food! Oh, wait, Ill be travelling with my kids
Harry Potter and French food
Those trips and flights are a bit expensive, though, so it might be a couple of years until I can really plan one. For now, I might be able to look into a cruise for next year or maybe I can drive the kids up to Canada next summer. Im just excited about all of the possibilities! 
I am so excited for Kyle. I know I am going to cry my eyes out at his graduation
I cried at each of my siblings high school graduations! I am such a sap! My mom, True and I have already planned out the menu and we are looking to get decorations this weekend. We have to prepare for the party all next week because people will be coming to my house straight after the graduation, so we wont have time to prepare anything that day. So we have been organizing and cleaning well, to be fair, my mom has done most of the cleaning and I finally got my landlord to clean the carpet upstairs. I have been having a lot of issues with my landlord, but that is a completely different story
It's ok, you are right, until someone has bashed you or given you trouble about homeschooling, you aren't really in the club yet. So WELCOME!