***Disney Design Addict's Chit Chat,Designs and Pixie Dust! Everybody WELCOME!*** Part 5

[Eeyorecln]

Good evening everyone.

DS(4-almost 5) and I were walking out of the mall today (in the rain) and I was holding packages and the umbrella. I told him to hold onto me before we started walking to the car and while we were walking to the car. I was also holding his head toward me with my arm that was holding the umbrella. Anyway, I moved my arm to use the remote to unlock the car and he saw a puddle in the middle of the driveway and darted away. As he moved (it all happened so fast) I screamed his name and moved toward him and a lady in a SUV slammed on her brakes and swerved to the side to avoid hitting him. This happened 6 1/2 hours ago and I am still shaking. I feel like an awful mother for letting go of him in the first place and I'm even more upset because he doesn't realize how dangerous it was. DH, my SIL and I have all talked to him and he just shrugs it off. I don't know what to do to get him to understand .
Anyway, I just needed to talk about it and if anyone has any advice I'd love to hear it. It will be a long time before he walks without holding our hands again.

Sending PD to calm your nerves. I can only imagine how scared you must have felt. I'm sorry I can't offer any advice, I have the same problem with 1 of my sons. Doesn't comprehend how dangerous things can get. Hopefully, someoneelse can help.

 

[Eeyorecln]

Hey girls...that's right isn't it? There doesn't seem to be any testosterone around here lately!

I'm having a rough day. Funny y'all were talking about old people.My mother lives with us,she'll be 84 in Jan...she was 40 when she had me.Anyway she has Alzheimers.She can still dress herself and go to the bathroom herself,make toast and warm coffee in the microwave and that's about it. Some days are more than I can handle and today was one.I think Joe being gone made me feel even worse.He eases some of the tension and pain for me.She drives me nuts most of the time.The woman who was my Mom is gone.When she talks about stuff it's from when she was a kid until about when she was in college..it's like me and my childhood never existed...it's so frustrating.I'm not sure she knows who Erich is all the time anymore either.One night last week she had a picture and asked Erich to find Aunt Tis (her nickname)...Erich said You're my GRANDMA not my Aunt. I know I need to find myself a support group here in town but I never think of it until I've settled down after some incident.Her Dr. told me I needed to take care of myself,because Alzheimer care givers go through so much, that they suffer so much stress from the sitiutaion,the Alzheimer person doesn't because they haven't a clue.siiiiiiiiigh Thanks for letting me b*itch!

Night y'all!

I agree a support group can help. Also, just venting helps a lot. Hope tomorrow is a better day.

 

[Pooh67_68]

I'm having a rough day. Funny y'all were talking about old people.My mother lives with us,she'll be 84 in Jan...she was 40 when she had me.Anyway she has Alzheimers.She can still dress herself and go to the bathroom herself,make toast and warm coffee in the microwave and that's about it. Some days are more than I can handle and today was one.I think Joe being gone made me feel even worse.He eases some of the tension and pain for me.She drives me nuts most of the time.The woman who was my Mom is gone.When she talks about stuff it's from when she was a kid until about when she was in college..it's like me and my childhood never existed...it's so frustrating.I'm not sure she knows who Erich is all the time anymore either.One night last week she had a picture and asked Erich to find Aunt Tis (her nickname)...Erich said You're my GRANDMA not my Aunt. I know I need to find myself a support group here in town but I never think of it until I've settled down after some incident.Her Dr. told me I needed to take care of myself,because Alzheimer care givers go through so much, that they suffer so much stress from the sitiutaion,the Alzheimer person doesn't because they haven't a clue.siiiiiiiiigh Thanks for letting me b*itch!

 

[marcij]

Deb -- hope your dad is continuing to improve. The picture of your boys was adorable. Jake's play is this morning -- he wore the bear costume yesterday and said everyone loved it.

Baloo -- definitely check in to the support group. It really helps to have people to talk to who are living what you are going through. They may have helpful ideas, as well as being a good outlet for your frustrations.

Now for a question off topic For you who have made your shirts, how did you decide where to position the transfer? We did manage to print out several transfers last night, and hope to get them ironed on tonight before we leave for Disney tomorrow. Any last minute advice before we iron?

Hope you all have a great day!

 

[cocowum]

Okay, I'm back from a great trip!! I was gone less than a week and there are 150 new pages. I'll never catch up. Can someone give me the condensed version??? Please.

BTW I'd like to say thanks to MidNite, our shirts were a huge hit! Thanks for the awesome designs

 

[my3princes]

OK - one more before I stop my own posting party....

I think Victoria's "Secret" is that she never had kids, and if she did she certainly didn't breastfeed.

Great picture.

Deb

 

[my3princes]

Hey girls...that's right isn't it? There doesn't seem to be any testosterone around here lately!

I'm having a rough day. Funny y'all were talking about old people.My mother lives with us,she'll be 84 in Jan...she was 40 when she had me.Anyway she has Alzheimers.She can still dress herself and go to the bathroom herself,make toast and warm coffee in the microwave and that's about it. Some days are more than I can handle and today was one.I think Joe being gone made me feel even worse.He eases some of the tension and pain for me.She drives me nuts most of the time.The woman who was my Mom is gone.When she talks about stuff it's from when she was a kid until about when she was in college..it's like me and my childhood never existed...it's so frustrating.I'm not sure she knows who Erich is all the time anymore either.One night last week she had a picture and asked Erich to find Aunt Tis (her nickname)...Erich said You're my GRANDMA not my Aunt. I know I need to find myself a support group here in town but I never think of it until I've settled down after some incident.Her Dr. told me I needed to take care of myself,because Alzheimer care givers go through so much, that they suffer so much stress from the sitiutaion,the Alzheimer person doesn't because they haven't a clue.siiiiiiiiigh Thanks for letting me b*itch!

Now on to fun stuff!

Brendita..Congrats on the raise and bonus!

Tammi...your shirts look great! Like the little Mickeys scattered around!

Kate...cool beans a bonus in your house too! I hate taxes on bonuses and prize money.I don't think "extra" stuff should be taxed.10% tax across the board for EVERYONE IMHO!
Can't wait to see Julia in her Belle dress! Make sure you get Nick on video.I have a couple of Erich talking that crack us up still!

I LOVE your MM wreath!

MinnieMouseMom...I love your Christmas card!!!

bengalbelle..I'm with Rosiejo I want to see the picture Kate fixed up too!
OMG I just read about you DS!! TG he's okay.I'd keep him in hand from now on.You said he shrugged it off...it might be too late ,I'm not sure he'd understand but I believe I'd punish him,meaning take away something he likes for a day or two.When he keeps asking why tell him it's because he was doing somthing he wasn't suppose to do. for you Mom!

Rosiejo...I love reading your posts...my two are only stealing baubles I picture your tree dripping with diamonds!!!

Glynis..OUCH!! Glad your feeling better...Ummm one of my favorite bible quotes seems apprpriate here...This too shall pass!

Marti...good to see you back! I missed you too! What the heck is Santa drinking...and can he pass some to me.I could use a little nip about now!

VICTORIAS SECRET!!!!

tinknme and Glynis...a Mom at Erich's school just told about box cake cookies last week.She told me chocolate taste really great,that you follow the box directions but leave out the water.She said sometimes she'll roll them in powdered sugar before putting them on the pan.I'm going to try these this weekeend for Erich's Christmas party on Mon because they sound sooooo easy!

mommykds...good luck with your girly party! Sounds like fun!!

tinker1bell and Steffy....awww how great! I actually have an ornament to send you that I made ,I'm so behind this year ....you'll probably get to use it next year Steffy!

DDAers...y'all ROCK!

Deb...thanks for pointing out the sugar cookie doug!! You're boys look so handsome...love the tie!

Kate and Marti...that scares me you 2 drinking then RAPPING!!!

I'm pretty tired again tonight!

Night y'all!

Baloo, I can sympathize with you. I took care of my DGrandmother for the last 18 months of her life. She had Parkinson's Disease, diabetes, a touch of dementia and a list of other ailments a mile long. She had real mobility issues due to the Parkinsons and did not always make it to the bathroom in time. She had to wear depends all the time and couldn't understand why we had to change them if she only wet them a little. They are fairly expensive so she wanted to save money. I tried to explain that it was gross and that she would smell if she did that, but she was old and it didn't matter. I had to control her sweets due to the diabetes. The dementia would have her seeing bugs. It was tough, but I know in my heart that she appreciated it and that I did the right thing. My kids got the chance to know their great grandma and they still talk about her and how much they miss her. My mom lives 10 minutes from here so she was great about helping out and she would come down while I worked. I actually ended up getting done as it took more time than I had with a full time job. Keep your chin up and find some respite help. You need time to get away. The visiting Nurses can be a godsend. Also organizations may be able to send patient sitters that are volunteers to come in an sit with her. Someone closer to her age may be able to relate to her childhood memories. PM me if you'd like to talk.

Deb

 

[my3princes]

I must be tired tonight... these are striking me as funny!!

I just go up and I think they're funny too.

Deb

 

[my3princes]

Diamonds I wish! Ok so give me an "american" lesson... what do you guys call the round things that hang on your trees??

Your baubbles are our ornaments.

Deb

 

[PNO4TE]

Just glad that we've been able to able to make you smile. Let the healing begin!!

Beautifully said, Marti!

 

[PNO4TE]

Well I have officially moved back into the realm of poster on this thread....

Welcome back, Theresa!

Our last concert of the season was tonight....oldest daughter in band and jazz band....only flute in both...had a solo....made me cry

YAY!! MORE musicians!

 

[tmfranlk]

My older 2 sons had their holiday concert tonight. It was a very good concert. Nick is in the band and the hand drumming group as well as his class chorus. Hunter is just in his class chorus, but will be able to join hand drumming next year. We bought them hand drums at Epcot on our last trip. Here is a photo of the kids before the concert.

Deb

Such handsome boys! Thanks for sharing, Deb.

 

[my3princes]

Deb -- hope your dad is continuing to improve. The picture of your boys was adorable. Jake's play is this morning -- he wore the bear costume yesterday and said everyone loved it.

Baloo -- definitely check in to the support group. It really helps to have people to talk to who are living what you are going through. They may have helpful ideas, as well as being a good outlet for your frustrations.

Now for a question off topic For you who have made your shirts, how did you decide where to position the transfer? We did manage to print out several transfers last night, and hope to get them ironed on tonight before we leave for Disney tomorrow. Any last minute advice before we iron?

Hope you all have a great day!

I just tried to center them (eyeballed it) and on adult shirts I started about 2 1/2 to 3'' below the collar. I can't believe your trying to do shirts today. I hope that Jake's play goes well and that you have a wonderful trip. I'm so jealous.

Deb

 

[tmfranlk]

Good evening everyone.

DS(4-almost 5) and I were walking out of the mall today (in the rain) and I was holding packages and the umbrella. I told him to hold onto me before we started walking to the car and while we were walking to the car. I was also holding his head toward me with my arm that was holding the umbrella. Anyway, I moved my arm to use the remote to unlock the car and he saw a puddle in the middle of the driveway and darted away. As he moved (it all happened so fast) I screamed his name and moved toward him and a lady in a SUV slammed on her brakes and swerved to the side to avoid hitting him. This happened 6 1/2 hours ago and I am still shaking. I feel like an awful mother for letting go of him in the first place and I'm even more upset because he doesn't realize how dangerous it was. DH, my SIL and I have all talked to him and he just shrugs it off. I don't know what to do to get him to understand .
Anyway, I just needed to talk about it and if anyone has any advice I'd love to hear it. It will be a long time before he walks without holding our hands again.

How scary! I can't even image how that must have felt. The only advice I have is to tell him how scared you were. Maybe he'll be concerned about making you sad and afraid even if isn't worried about himself.

 

[my3princes]

I've heard lots of complaints about weather, but I had to share. I woke up to sunny skies here in Vermont this morning. We have a balmy -10 degrees here. The kids won't even be able to go out to recess it's so cold. Expecting a huge snowstorm tomorrow. Hopefully it will warm things up a bit. I love the snow, but can live with temps in the positive numbers.


Deb

 

[PNO4TE]

Thanks everyone. After I posted it here I had a good cry. Now if I could only get rid of this sick feeling in my stomach. My father died unexpectedly 2 years ago last Monday, and my brother died unexpectedly 1 year ago next Monday. December really makes my family nervous. Silly, I know...but it does . That just added to my fear from today.

 

[my3princes]

banglebelle,

I think that most of us have experienced the kids breaking free and they never seem to grasp how dangerous it is. The good news is that they will eventually mature enough to understand the "rules". The bad news is that you now know that you need to hold his hand a bit longer. When my kids pull a stupid stunt like that I just tell myself that they will be all grown up to soon. It just proves that they still need their Mommy. This may seem a little nieve, but it somehow helps me deal.

I remember when my oldest was about 3 years old. We were at my brother's house. Nick climbed up on his coffee table and ran across it. My brother yelled at him and he looked at db and calmy replied "I didn't know the rules". We still laugh about it now. This is certainly not the same situation and he wasn't in danger, yet it still shows how kids perceptions are different than ours.

Deb

 

[tmfranlk]

I did read that -

I got hardly anything done! I wrapped all my in-law gifts - which is a good bit - but my side is just waiting to go!!

There are 7 grandkids in my family - soon to be 8 and we SPOIL them rotten!! I am the only one who lives here - so my mom and I do all the shopping and wrapping - when my sisters show up - Christmas is ready and waiting for them - pretty sweet deal if you ask me!

look what they sent me this year for shopping for them:

That is so cute! Did she make it or buy it in WDW? I used to do all of my mom's shopping just to make her life easier (grocery store worker during the holidays). I loved it because I like to buy presents, but didn't have much money to go all out on my own.

 

[PNO4TE]

I'm having a rough day. Funny y'all were talking about old people.My mother lives with us,she'll be 84 in Jan...she was 40 when she had me.Anyway she has Alzheimers.She can still dress herself and go to the bathroom herself,make toast and warm coffee in the microwave and that's about it. Some days are more than I can handle and today was one.I think Joe being gone made me feel even worse.He eases some of the tension and pain for me.She drives me nuts most of the time.The woman who was my Mom is gone.When she talks about stuff it's from when she was a kid until about when she was in college..it's like me and my childhood never existed...it's so frustrating.I'm not sure she knows who Erich is all the time anymore either.One night last week she had a picture and asked Erich to find Aunt Tis (her nickname)...Erich said You're my GRANDMA not my Aunt. I know I need to find myself a support group here in town but I never think of it until I've settled down after some incident.Her Dr. told me I needed to take care of myself,because Alzheimer care givers go through so much, that they suffer so much stress from the sitiutaion,the Alzheimer person doesn't because they haven't a clue.siiiiiiiiigh Thanks for letting me b*itch!

Oh, Baloo...

 

[tmfranlk]

I'll come and wrap!! I love to wrap....I usually get lots of small presents for this reason....more to wrap....I think it may be a sickness!!

Me too!! DH can't figure out why I insist on wrapping every item separately instead of bunching the dvds altogether or putting things in a big box.