I have a dilemna that I hope you all will help me with. I received a birth announcement from a cousin that I have not spoken with in 3 years. She got mad about something I said or did, don't really know what, and held a grudge. The only contact I have with her is sending Christmas cards. We also send birthday gifts to each others sons, as she is Nicholas' Godmother, as I am her DS's. Truthfully, I don't know why we continue to do that. Our kids have no idea who we are, we never see them (live on opposite sides of the country). Anyway, would you send a gift for the birth, or simply a card? Half of me says send the gift just to prevent further rifting, but the other half says "why?" I could use some advice.