Disney after divorce

[tink20]

If you and your spouse, went to WDW a lot throughout the years (like HS graduation, honeymoon, with another couple who are your best friends, first time with your 2 kids, and a few other trips) Would WDW be ruined for you now, if you and your spouse are divorced, due to them cheating?
Or could you get passed it and make new memories?

 

[Thundergod]

I would have a hard time going...It would be really painful to me.. I am just that way though I guess.


I guess I might make a go at it if my new SO was totally hawt!

 

[Goofyluver]

There's always new memories to be made at Disney.

 

[FredinFL]

Oh hell honey, no way someone's gonna ruin Disney for me! I'd find some way to get over it.

 

[goofyernmost]

The first time I went to WDW with my now X-wife was in 1983. We went as a family, me, her and our two daughters. We divorced in 2001, after many trips there.

I started going alone after the divorce and can tell you that the only thing I thought about were the good memories. Divorce for any reason does not take away your past life, it only alters your present one. I remember the good times, the fun, the adventure and the shared experiences. Sometimes that makes me a little sad that we can no longer share those past memories while making new ones, but it is what it is.

Our divorce wasn't about cheating or abuse...it was about mental illness (not just my imagination...is was confirmed) that took over her life. She could no longer be married and left.

To be honest, even with the sad parts, I never really think about it as a woulda, shoulda, coulda type experience just a look back compared to present. I still enjoy my trips very much. It wasn't about us, it was about the place itself.

I do sometimes wish that I could find that person out there that I could not only love, but that could share my enjoyment of Disney and the parks. The longer I get in the tooth, however, the less likely that seem to be able to happen.

 

[hereyago]

Oh hell honey, no way someone's gonna ruin Disney for me! I'd find some way to get over it.

For dang sure.


OP: Honey, best revenge is living well. You have a couple kids, make new memories with them there.

Divorce is like a death and even if someone passed away who I went to WDW with-unless it was my child-I would keep doing what I love to do and going to places that made me happy.

 

[GRUMPY PIRATE]

guess it would depend on if the cheating took place at WDW.

if not, then heck no.

just go either by yourself, or with someone else and creat new memories.

...and drink some fruity rum drinks while you are there!

 

[plutotek]

I grew up going to Disney, long before I met DW, and were a divorce to happen, I would still continue going. Maybe I wouldn't go at a certain time of year because of memories, but I would probably get past that, too.

 

[tink20]

For dang sure.


OP: Honey, best revenge is living well. You have a couple kids, make new memories with them there.

Divorce is like a death and even if someone passed away who I went to WDW with-unless it was my child-I would keep doing what I love to do and going to places that made me happy.

Its not me, its my younger sister. She is the one who got me crazy about WDW, (we never got to go as kids) we all went in 2008 the whole family, we took our parents (their first time at WDW) this was the last trip of her marriage. She hasn't been back since, I just hope one day she can go back and have fun. Anytime I mention WDW, she says, there are other places to go and she has no interest in going to WDW, she used to love WDW.

 

[hereyago]

Its not me, its my younger sister. She is the one who got me crazy about WDW, (we never got to go as kids) we all went in 2008 the whole family, we took our parents (their first time at WDW) this was the last trip of her marriage. She hasn't been back since, I just hope one day she can go back and have fun. Anytime I mention WDW, she says, there are other places to go and she has no interest in going to WDW, she used to love WDW.

Oops, sorry I went to assume land. maybe time will help and she will go back again.

 

[marie1203]

This is a hard one for me. We had so many great memories of WDW with DH, in fact DH loves Disney as much as I do. It will be hard to go back without him, it might take a little while, but I would return to WDW if we were to get divorce. I like to think we are not so I won't worry about .

 

[mtemm]

when dh and I were going thru a bad spell (he had an affair, we separated, were heading for divorce) I had a long talk with myself and decided that I absolutely refused to let him take disney away from me. we had honeymooned there, took several pre-kids trips there, and had taking our kids there for their first trip 6 months before I found out about the affair. I knew it would be hard, but I decided to plan a new trip there for the kids and I. Even planned it to fall on our anniversary, the same time we always went to wdw. figured it would keep me busy and my mind off of it, and would help establish new memories for me and the kids.

we ended up reconciling a few months before the trip, so I never did take that trip without him, he was able to come along. But I really would have. And while I believe I would have had some tough moments, I think I would have also been able to save wdw for myself with that trip.

I was even able to see bright spots. One thing that even was kind of fun was planning things my way without all the usual give/take compromises. don't get me wrong, I am very happy we reconciled and he was able to come with us, but I did see how I could make it a great trip even if that hadn't happened.

 

[mtemm]

Its not me, its my younger sister. She is the one who got me crazy about WDW, (we never got to go as kids) we all went in 2008 the whole family, we took our parents (their first time at WDW) this was the last trip of her marriage. She hasn't been back since, I just hope one day she can go back and have fun. Anytime I mention WDW, she says, there are other places to go and she has no interest in going to WDW, she used to love WDW.

She's right, there are other places than wdw. Maybe that's what she needs right now, to see something fresh/new. has she gone anywhere else/suggested anywhere else?

as for wdw, my guess is over time she'll be back, though.

I'm so sorry she is dealing with this right now. It is so painful. And still pretty fresh from the sounds of it. (((HUGS))) to her.

 

[21hearts]

If it was me I would still go to WDW & make new memories. My kids would be crushed if we didn't go to WDW anymore.

 

[MichelleVW]

If you and your spouse, went to WDW a lot throughout the years (like HS graduation, honeymoon, with another couple who are your best friends, first time with your 2 kids, and a few other trips) Would WDW be ruined for you now, if you and your spouse are divorced, due to them cheating?
Or could you get passed it and make new memories?

I would get passed it....no way would I let anyone ruin Disney for me!

 

[tink20]

mtemm, thank you for sharing your story. She is doing better.

 

[Buckalew11]

Oh hell honey, no way someone's gonna ruin Disney for me! I'd find some way to get over it.

This.

It'd be harder and the 1st trip would probably be the hardest.

Divorce is like death and it was really hard the first few times at WDW after my dad died. It was hard for mom but she's a trooper and is making new memories.

Good luck to your sister. My sister is divorcing too and they would have been married 35 years in June. Divorce is a really tough thing to live and have hope through.

 

[ALittleDisneyFan]

I was a WDW fairytale bride and am now in the middle of a divorce. I went back in dec with DD for the first time. I'll admit, it was a little odd. I didn't have anyone to gush over ressies to, and I felt a little panicked pre-trip over going by myself with DD.. no one to help.

BUT.

We survived. It was actually the calmest trip I've EVER had. I love WDW and even though it's where we vacationed and married.. I'll still go back. There was no cheating though - just pure stupidity on his end!

 

[marcemc]

Oh hell honey, no way someone's gonna ruin Disney for me! I'd find some way to get over it.

I so agree with this.

 

[Disney Doll]

The first time I went to WDW with my now X-wife was in 1983. We went as a family, me, her and our two daughters. We divorced in 2001, after many trips there.

I started going alone after the divorce and can tell you that the only thing I thought about were the good memories. Divorce for any reason does not take away your past life, it only alters your present one. I remember the good times, the fun, the adventure and the shared experiences. Sometimes that makes me a little sad that we can no longer share those past memories while making new ones, but it is what it is.

Our divorce wasn't about cheating or abuse...it was about mental illness (not just my imagination...is was confirmed) that took over her life. She could no longer be married and left.

To be honest, even with the sad parts, I never really think about it as a woulda, shoulda, coulda type experience just a look back compared to present. I still enjoy my trips very much. It wasn't about us, it was about the place itself.

I do sometimes wish that I could find that person out there that I could not only love, but that could share my enjoyment of Disney and the parks. The longer I get in the tooth, however, the less likely that seem to be able to happen.

Too bad you live so far from CT. I have a friend who would be perfect for you!