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[FHS_chick_2005]

It is comfortable here

im just miserable because i dont feel good too.. i think i over did it yesterday

 

[Tat2ddisneymom]

I've got long sleeves and jeans on and I'm cold. Even turned the heat on this morning.

 

[FHS_chick_2005]

I've got long sleeves and jeans on and I'm cold. Even turned the heat on this morning.

ya'll are lucky there is no smilie giving the finger.. because you guys would get it right now.. in such a loving way!

 

[Trentmom]

I wore jacket yesterday and thursday. It was actually chilly

 

[FHS_chick_2005]

I wore jacket yesterday and thursday. It was actually chilly

its 95 out right now.. 85 in our house.. I want to go swimming..

Josh and I went to lake Beryessa yesterday and it was fun except for the hiking down to the lake.. i lie.. that part wasnt that bad.. it was back up that was bad..

 

[Tat2ddisneymom]

ya'll are lucky there is no smilie giving the finger.. because you guys would get it right now.. in such a loving way!

Oh, but there is.

 

[FHS_chick_2005]

Oh, but there is.

close enough I guess!

 

[Trentmom]

Trent has been playing dress up for a few days.



I finally was able to snap one picture of him before he changed into his next outfit


Excuse my mess in the living room, but I do not feel like cleaning right now

 

[Leger13]

Trent has been playing dress up for a few days.



I finally was able to snap one picture of him before he changed into his next outfit


Excuse my mess in the living room, but I do not feel like cleaning right now

that is SO cute Sharky!!! Thanks for sharing that. Just adorable. You have your own little jack sparrow

 

[Trentmom]

that is SO cute Sharky!!! Thanks for sharing that. Just adorable. You have your own little jack sparrow

Thanks girl

 

[Leger13]

Yes, that is a great idea!!



Do you have a pic of the costume? Maybe I missed it.

Basically our mom's group tiff is this: (I certainly welcome your advice).

There is one girl in the group of 14 kids that has food allergies -- all Dairy, eggs and tree nuts.

We meet most every Wed from 10-1pm, and bring snacks and lunch.

So it was said that we should eliminate all dairy, eggs and tree nuts from our playgroup. I asked what about just being cautious and not eating them around the girl, washing hands thoroughly, etc. It's not like we share the food or even that everyone eats at the same time.

I also wanted to know what dairy/eggs/tree nuts meant so I called the mom for clarification and she said -- no milk, no mayonaisse, no cheese, no yogurt, no Ranch dressing, careful on crackers and bread if made with milk or eggs, no hard-boiled eggs, no egg salad sandwich, no chicken salad sandwich, no homemade cookies or cakes or brownies (if milk or eggs in them), no goldfish crackers or other cheese-type crackers, nothing with pecans, walnuts, no granola bars, etc.

I said well, it's not worth it to bother with snacks or lunch at all then. There isn't much left to eat. (Guess I should have kept those thoughts to myself...)

I understand she has food allergies but they go out to eat all the time and the girl is in pre-school, so it's not like she's never around dairy/egg/tree nuts. She even said they go to birthday parties with cheese pizza and cake. So I don't understand why our playgroup is any different.

So the group is making those of us who feel the way I do that we are either really stupid and not getting it or are completely selfish.

I certainly welcome all your advice. I'm not sure what the "right" thing to do is here.

- I guess my options are go to play only and leave when DD or I get hungry.
- Go out and buy foods that are dairy-egg-tree nut free whether I want them or not
- Just go to the other playgroups that don't have these restrictions
- ????

Have you more experienced moms encountered this?

since I am not a mother I am limited on my advice but I think it is totally uncalled for for that mom of the allergic kid to ask everyone to change their diets on the days you have play group just because her kid is allergic. SHE needs to be the one looking out for her kid and not limit everyone else. SHE should be the one getting the odd looks for even making such a rediculous request of everyone involved in the play group. If I were a mother and facing this kind of thing I would probably just find another play group. I'm sure there are plenty around. Is your DD very attatched to any of the kids there? If not I would say make the switch. Hope you get it figured out

 

[Leger13]

Today was Geoffrey's Birthday at Toys R US.

Geoffrey the Giraffe was walking around the store and Trent high Fived him. Glad he was not too afraid. Get him ready for those Disney Characters again.



They had coloring and arts and craft and gave out Fireman hats and batman maks. Trent had a good time.






Look Mom, I did an Art Project

Very good job on the art project Sharky. I give you an A+

 

[Marshay]

i pretty much agree with you...im not a mom, so im not sure if my opinion matters so i'll just ask a question...Would it be easier to just go to another playgroup that doesnt have any restrictions?

Oh, sorry, I didn't mean to exclude moms. I just figured others have been through this before. Yes, I know another playgroup that meets at the library, same day, same time and a lot closer to my house...so it would actually be a LOT better.

However, I feel like I shouldn't just ditch the old group ... I'm thinking I may just try to do every other week or so and do both groups.

That was hilarious!!!

Braeton was lactose intolerant, now he's lactose sensitive. But anyway, when he could not have milk, cheese, ice cream yogurt etc.... I simply brought his own food if we were going somewhere where food was supplied and let other moms know so they could help me watch that he didn't get anything he wasn't supposed to have. On a picnic I made sure he wasnot sitting next to any food he wasn't supposed to eat and kept wet wipes and antibacterial gel by me. I also carried Benadryl for JUST IN CASE. While some allergies are severe enough they cannot even breath it in, if this girl can go to resturaunts etc... that is obviously not the case. if everyone brings their own food then maybe ya'll should just have an agreement for the kids not to share their food in this case so that the child can not accidentally eat the wrong thing.

You didn't do anything wrong, with these types of allergies they are most likely having to special order their food or buy at the Health Food store. Bless that poor Moms heart But she is going to have snap out of it. When this kid goes to school the school is not going to make all the other kids eat the same thing. They are going to feed her something different. I teach a little girl on occasion that has a protein definciency and it's horrible. she can't hardly eatanything, but you just have to make adjustments and go on!!!!

It's definitely an ingestion thing and the mom doesn't know if it's a contact thing or not. The little girl had an allergic reaction in her eyes for no apparent reason when she rubbed her face against her mom's arms -- her mom had been doing dishes and cleaning out a container of potato salad (Yes, they have dairy, egg & tree nuts in their house) at the time. So the mom thinks that maybe some of the egg/milk got into her eyes. But they don't know for sure.

glad you are feeling okay, but sorry about the nausea. I think I'd hate that part the most!

How cute....your dd cracks me up!

oh, I also read the post about the mom's group, and I think it's total bull that they are making you feel like crap because you want the rest of the kids to be able to eat normal things. I'd be tempted to find another group. Since, I'm not a mom, I can't give any real advice though. Sorry.

All advice is welcome. We never share meals (even the kids). Moms always sit with their kids to eat.

Yeah, I feel like I'm the bad person here ... someone even "suggested" I am not a Christian b/c I won't agree to honor her request

No Marshay you are not out of line. I don't understand why the rules are different for this playgroup either. She herself admits that they go to other things with these things there. Unless DD had a special little friend in this playgroup go with another one and avoid all of the stress and strain.

Yes, DD really likes one of the little girls a lot and I go scrapbooking with this group each month, too. I also go to church with one of the moms, too, so I am definitely involved in the group.

We are dealing with the allergy thing right now in Trent Class. The girl in her class is allergic to all nuts and especially tree nuts. We can not bring in anything from a bakery or if on the box it said processed in a peanut facility, then those are big no as well

Heres the deal, if she ingests any or if one of the kids have it on their hand, even smallest trace, she could go into anapheltic shock (spelling?)

So, I asked for a list of what she could have. It has helped a lot.

Now, she does not have the dairy or egg thing. That makes it a lot harder for you.

Since she can be in the same place where they have pizza and such, then the dairy one must be just an ingestion one, where she would have allergic reaction.

So I would adhere to the no peanut or tree nut rule, as that is very dangerous.

However, no dairy or egg is a tad bit much I think.

So, I would talk to the mom calmly and see how serious the dairy and egg one is. If it is jut ingestion, like I said, then I would tell her you will still be bringing those in and you will just keep it away from her daughter.

I would not join another group as allergies are everywhere in kids nowadays

Yeah, my sis who is a teacher said that when one of the nurses works in the building that day, no one can bring/serve onions. Weird!

Yes, you are right -- it's the dairy one that I really have trouble with. Milk or a milk by-product is in most everything. And I just can't enjoy a sandwich without cheese or ranch dressing or mayo or some other dairy product. But I'm also a big cracker/granola eater to keep the nausea at bay right now.

I also don't feel like we should go out and buy a bunch of stuff right now that would be "Anna-safe" b/c DH only has a job for the next 5 days...

And yes, it's definitely an ingestion but possibly a touch as well.

I'm just wigging out over the hypocrisy of it all. If her parents kept her away from dairy, egg and nuts nearly all the time (i.e., not in their house, not to other parties, etc) then I would feel better about complying.

Sigh...I don't know why I'm having such difficulty with this ...

Trent has been playing dress up for a few days.

I finally was able to snap one picture of him before he changed into his next outfit

Excuse my mess in the living room, but I do not feel like cleaning right now

Oh, this is great!!! Are you taking that to WDW, too??

 

[Marshay]

since I am not a mother I am limited on my advice but I think it is totally uncalled for for that mom of the allergic kid to ask everyone to change their diets on the days you have play group just because her kid is allergic. SHE needs to be the one looking out for her kid and not limit everyone else. SHE should be the one getting the odd looks for even making such a rediculous request of everyone involved in the play group. If I were a mother and facing this kind of thing I would probably just find another play group. I'm sure there are plenty around. Is your DD very attatched to any of the kids there? If not I would say make the switch. Hope you get it figured out

Thanks for the advice -- even if you aren't a mother I didn't mean to exclude anyone ... just thought that maybe someone went through this (like Sharkey is doing now).

I totally agree with this and that's why I find it so odd that I am the only one who is vocalizing (another agrees with me but doesn't want to rock the boat) that this might not be the only way to handle it.

I did ask the mom, "well, when you come to my house, what are you going to do?" (since we take turns hosting). And her reply was, "well, that is my responsibility and if you must have dairy/egg/nuts, then just make sure you wash your hands and surfaces really well."

 

[Trentmom]

Very good job on the art project Sharky. I give you an A+

Thanks

Oh, sorry, I didn't mean to exclude moms. I just figured others have been through this before. Yes, I know another playgroup that meets at the library, same day, same time and a lot closer to my house...so it would actually be a LOT better.

However, I feel like I shouldn't just ditch the old group ... I'm thinking I may just try to do every other week or so and do both groups.



It's definitely an ingestion thing and the mom doesn't know if it's a contact thing or not. The little girl had an allergic reaction in her eyes for no apparent reason when she rubbed her face against her mom's arms -- her mom had been doing dishes and cleaning out a container of potato salad (Yes, they have dairy, egg & tree nuts in their house) at the time. So the mom thinks that maybe some of the egg/milk got into her eyes. But they don't know for sure.



All advice is welcome. We never share meals (even the kids). Moms always sit with their kids to eat.

Yeah, I feel like I'm the bad person here ... someone even "suggested" I am not a Christian b/c I won't agree to honor her request



Yes, DD really likes one of the little girls a lot and I go scrapbooking with this group each month, too. I also go to church with one of the moms, too, so I am definitely involved in the group.



Yeah, my sis who is a teacher said that when one of the nurses works in the building that day, no one can bring/serve onions. Weird!

Yes, you are right -- it's the dairy one that I really have trouble with. Milk or a milk by-product is in most everything. And I just can't enjoy a sandwich without cheese or ranch dressing or mayo or some other dairy product. But I'm also a big cracker/granola eater to keep the nausea at bay right now.

I also don't feel like we should go out and buy a bunch of stuff right now that would be "Anna-safe" b/c DH only has a job for the next 5 days...

And yes, it's definitely an ingestion but possibly a touch as well.

I'm just wigging out over the hypocrisy of it all. If her parents kept her away from dairy, egg and nuts nearly all the time (i.e., not in their house, not to other parties, etc) then I would feel better about complying.

Sigh...I don't know why I'm having such difficulty with this ...



Oh, this is great!!! Are you taking that to WDW, too??

its okay. You have a lot on your plate right now and your emotions are running high.

I felt the same way at first, why do I have to change what trent eats because of this other child

But then I thought, what if it was Trent. I would be so protective of him at this age and would be overly cautious too while they are young, while they are helpless, and you are the only one who can protect them, ya know..


But calling you a non christian because of this was uncalled for and crazy

 

[Leger13]

Thanks for the advice -- even if you aren't a mother I didn't mean to exclude anyone ... just thought that maybe someone went through this (like Sharkey is doing now).

I totally agree with this and that's why I find it so odd that I am the only one who is vocalizing (another agrees with me but doesn't want to rock the boat) that this might not be the only way to handle it.

I did ask the mom, "well, when you come to my house, what are you going to do?" (since we take turns hosting). And her reply was, "well, that is my responsibility and if you must have dairy/egg/nuts, then just make sure you wash your hands and surfaces really well."

oh that's alright...didn't feel excluded but wanted to put it out there that I'm not a mom just in case my advice was not good since I have not been through anything like that.

I read in your post above that someone even suggested that you are not a christian because of your non compliance with the allergy thing. My God, can they be any more judgemental!? If anything these women aren't being very good friends to you if they are judging you in that way. That is so insulting.

so does this allergy mom expect you to NEVER have dairy and those other things in your home even when their not around? Of COURSE you would wash your surfaces before they came over. I'm sure you wash them constently since you are a mother and don't want your DD or your DH getting sick or anything like that. I think it is just insanely rude how these women are being to you. It is not cool how they are subjecting you to such stress while you are pregnant over something like this anyways. How long have you been part of the play group? And why is this allergy issue just coming up now?

 

[Trentmom]

Oh, I forgot to answer the last question.


I will probably take the pirate costume, too, along with the power ranger costumes. That way he has a few things to choose from for the Halloween Party

 

[Leger13]

sorry to post and run but im sleepy and wanna spend some time with chris before bed time. Hope you all have a good rest of the night. Nighty night!

 

[betsywdw]

Hey Everyone

I didn't really read back...today has been nuts with trying to get ready for the trip. I hate leaving my house unorganized so it always seems like double the pressure to get things done Makes me wonder why I just do not stay organized all the time and then I would have one less worry

I will miss you all and if I can snag SIL's PC..will hop on if I get a chance.

Have an awesome week

Luv to all

 

[cherbear]

Trent has been playing dress up for a few days.


I finally was able to snap one picture of him before he changed into his next outfit


Excuse my mess in the living room, but I do not feel like cleaning right now

that is just SO DARN CUTE!!!!

sorry to post and run but im sleepy and wanna spend some time with chris before bed time. Hope you all have a good rest of the night. Nighty night!

awww man...sorry I missed ya!!!!!

Hey Everyone

I didn't really read back...today has been nuts with trying to get ready for the trip. I hate leaving my house unorganized so it always seems like double the pressure to get things done Makes me wonder why I just do not stay organized all the time and then I would have one less worry

I will miss you all and if I can snag SIL's PC..will hop on if I get a chance.

Have an awesome week

Luv to all

girlfriend, I wonder the same thing ALL the time

I'm gonna be scrambling tomorrow since I know I won't be in my own house for 2 friggin weeks! ugh!

I will miss you too!! I can't believe you are leaving tomorrow! You are gonna have so much fun!!!

I think I still saw your light on....but if you're gone, I hope you have a great night with wonderful Disney dreams, and a ton of fun on your trip!!!