Disboards Dissapointment

[kmedina]

Most people are extremely helpful and just want to give you an opinion (that may or may not agree with what you are saying). I think very highly of the DISboards and most of the posters on it. People really want to share whatever they can, so others can learn from it (good, bad or ugly sometimes).

A very small group of others, I think are rude on purpose. I have seen thread after thread where the same few people instigate arguments. You can actually click on find more posts by this user and see negative comment after negative comment and quite a few threads they've helped close. You can either ignore these people or realize they are doing it to everyone, not just you. Some people are just very unhappy. It is about the same as a real life encounter with an unhappy person.

Ironically, one of those people posted a similar comment in a different thread about Dl people being nicer (he has not appeared on this one yet). It made me wonder if he realized that he may be bringing a lot of negativity on himself. I have not been on the Dl boards (since I have been so many times and there is not as much to do there), so I am not sure if they are actually nicer or not.

When it comes to trip reports, I have noticed people are nicer as a pp mentioned. I spent more than 3.5 hours reading a trip report the other day. Despite the fact that she posted multiple pictures (which did not come out of course) of her family on dark rides like PotC, mentioned catching up to her family who was already in line and other things that would have gotten her flamed on the regular boards, not one person mentioned anything about it (including myself).

For every poster that will give you a hard time about taking your family sick into the parks, you will probably find more who will say they would have done the same (since everyone always mentions how much they spent on their trip, so they should enjoy every minute of it). Take everything with a grain of salt. Try not to let others upset you too much, but stand up for yourself to a point where there will be no obvious winner. Enjoy the boards. I am glad you are posting!

 

[sillylily]

The problem, of course, is that one person's witty and insightful response is another person's flame. And vice versa. There's no "one size fits all" measurement for this.

Probably only a very small percentage of posters intend to be mean or offensive, but the rest of us sometimes end up offending others without meaning to. Some of us could stand to be more considerate. Some of us could stand to be less sensitive. "Talking" in a forum, with no verbal or visual cues, only exacerbates the problem, and the emoticons are a poor substitute. No, wait...I meant:

In the end, freedom of speech can be an offensive pain in the butt. But it's certainly better than the alternative.

Here, here! I'm sorry anyone has their feelings hurt over a thread. I tend to keep my posts fairly innocuous, so as to avoid hurting people's feelings. That being said, I say brush off the flamers. If you let them get to you, and take your happiness over something as wonderful as your first trip, you let them win. I deal with (quite literally) some of the angriest people on the planet every day. I decided a long time ago that other people being unhappy and miserable should never steal my sunshine. Feel free to ignore the naysayers.

 

[sillylily]

Oh, and totally off-topic; Duffy, your kitten siggie actually made me laugh out loud. That happens to be one of my bigger pet peeves! ☺

 

[livndisney]

Not offended by your post And no I'm honestly not asking for people to beg me for my TR. I simply came on here dis-heartened this morning. To clarify where I'm coming from and why I felt like I didn't want to post: I had posted last week from WDW after the first two days and we had an illness going through the family. We were trying to make the best of it and plans got changed but that's ok, my point was that sometimes you can't plan for everything and must go with the flow or let it ruin your vacation. I read updates on it this morning and after seeing so many people tell me my family had no business going to the parks at all, and how dare I spread sick germs. Then I read another thread with other mean remarks. And I simply thought, well I could start my TR now, but I can't do it without including our families illness which drastically changed things. And I don't feel like having to defend myself for continuing with our plans. My feelings were already hurt enough from one post, so why put another one out there to be criticized. I felt like any valuable information I had to offer or magical moments I had to share would be overshadowed by the fact that people will continue to say we had no right to be in the parks. Make sense? I just sat and wondered why people are mean on here....it's Disney related! And I should have kept my mouth shut, as I NEVER ever say anything mean to anybody on these boards and am always so very grateful for the help I receive. But at the same time I feel like someone should put out there how disspointing it can be for others to read some of the rudeness. Some of us do take it personally and I am just one of them.

I'm glad to hear that I'm not the only one who has felt like this however, and it reminds me of the good guys on here, which is clearly the majority. So thanks for making me feel like I'm not alone.

So the short version is, you want to post about your trip, but you don't want anything to say anything negative about you and your family being sick in the parks.

 

[WLSILVERCREEKSPRINGS]

I'm also sorry to say that the majority of the pot stirrers and "meanies" on the board IN MY OPINION seem to be the guys - not ALL of them certainly. I have met and made great friends with some of the guys who post on the boards. Women tend to be much more helpful, like we're helping our friends or our children, whereas the men seem to be more likely to state their opinion and not care if it hurts someone else's feelings.

I'm generalizing, of course, and don't mean to paint anyone with a wide brush. It just seems like we turn into our genetic roots personalities - the men are aggressive, while the women are the nurturers. I bet message boards are a great study in sociology.

Now that's funny right there ..... I can't decide if I like the nurturing tone or helpful tone of your message about men

 

[newserenity]

I hope you had a great trip. I wouldn't let the negative ones ruin your spirit or keep you from sharing. There are many here that would love to read about your 1st Disney World trip.

That said, this is a public message board and having been a member of many I have yet to find one without any negative people. Kinda like the real world, you know? Just ignore the bad apples!

 

[duffy]

Oh, and totally off-topic; Duffy, your kitten siggie actually made me laugh out loud. That happens to be one of my bigger pet peeves! ☺

Thanks. People either love it, as you do, or hate it. I occasionally get "hate" private messages about it.

Like I said before, I just click the "back" button. If it's a "hate" message, I definitely DO chuckle first.

It's the internet. That's what the internet DOES. Annoys some, amuses others.

Just like the Dis.

PS: I'm a woman.

 

[quigs3]

I love everything Disney - going to WDW, talking about WDW, and reading about WDW! If I'm reading a thread that's turning unpleasant, I leave it and find another one. The DIS boards are no different than anything else in life. You have your positive people and you have your negative people, but you control who you surround yourself with. That said, I have enjoyed many of the threads, and I think the bulk of the people leaving comments are just like me - people who simply love Disney!

 

[disneyjunkie]

I don't get it. Why do you think it's mean for people to say your family should not have gone to the parks sick? You say you tried not to let the illness ruin your trip. But by going to the parks, you run the risk of having your sickness ruin someone else's trip. Why is it mean, nasty, rude...to point that out?

 

[sharona]

OP - the original thread that you're upset about: You got about 90% of the responses sympathizing with you and offering their hope for a speedy recovery (I was one of them). There were maybe 3 or 4 posts from people that were upset about you taking a sick child to dinner and to the park. And those people were shouted down by others showing you support and saying they would have done the same. Not sure what you have to complain about.

Glad you enjoyed the rest of your trip. Post your TR in the TR forum, there is very little challenge or opinion offered there.

Good luck!

 

[mom2rtk]

Post your TR in the TR forum, there is very little challenge or opinion offered there.

Good luck!

Everyone keeps saying that, but I can tell you that's not always the case. Probably not quite like it is in this forum, but it's certainly not immune.

 

[Planogirl]

Is anyone else wondering who is on this list of nasties?

OP, anywhere you go you will run into people who have different posting styles and some might be a bit abrupt to put it kindly. Most people are nice though just like most were nice on your other thread.

I personally don't understand why some people care what some strangers think so much. Just ignore them and go with the flow is what I say.

 

[disneyjunkie]

I have to agree with Mom2rtk. Posters do/will post their opinions in trip reports. Some poster will view those opinions as rude and/or nasty. I remember one from a few years ago about a sick family member. The poor kid was puking and pooping while the family tried to tour the parks. That report got pretty heated. Another heated TR included the OP's take on the world showcase restaurants. (the OP believed that the food in Mexico was not true Mexican food. However, the food at Epcot was)LOL One Pre trip report included the OP's concerns about not being able to pay for the trip. She stated that they didn't have money to pay their bills. Some posters said they should cancel the trip. That didn't go over well.

 

[TheNextBelle]

I have been here a couple of months....I do have another small disney forum that I'm a member of....and they are all like family....and yes, it is like a fairytale over there....its cozy, but yet not alot of disney info that I needed.

Since I have joined here, I have learned alot....I mean alot! Yes, I have noticed alot of negativity...but again....let it go....there are alot of different people on here from everywhere with different opinions, so with that being said it is hard to have EVERYONE agree on the same thing.

If I see this negativity going on.....I move on to something else....Im here to learn about Disney....not other peoples negativity.

 

[Rhonna]

This trip was our first to the World and I switched from the Disneyland side to the World side of the boards, and I must say, I don't feel comfortable here. Every other post has someone flaming someone else.

I can't wait until our next Disneyland trip where I will relish the family like community of those boards, and be an active participant again.

Everyone else is covering the flaming issue so I was going to comment on a different aspect of the DL vs. WDW forums.

I have used the DL forums a few times for trips (but don't frequent it normally). I found them to be nice, as you say, but there aren't as many posters or long time regulars and often days would go by before I would get an answer to a question and it might or might not have had enough detail that I needed. Or it might not be answered at all and I would have to bump it up.

Not really a complaint, just an observation. The DL boards aren't as active or fast moving. Of course, it usually isn't as much work to plan a DL trip vs. WDW and I grew up going to DL so it would just be a few questions here and there, but usually a slow response.

Although the WDW boards have gotten a bit "intense" in the last year or so, the volume and instant access to answers is really helpful when planning a trip.

It's like comparing a moderate highway (DL forum) to a high speed autobahn (WDW forum).

 

[mkarizona]

As a DL vet I found that going from DL to WDW was a culture shock both on the boards and in person.

 

[maxiesmom]

It was just an observation in the ones I've seen be quite nasty, what I meant by it was they are probably the types that enjoy posting to get reactions , and by no means a reflection on the people who have been on these boards posting helpfully and friendly for years.
I appologise at how that came accross, this is a prob with typed words, there's no body language to assist what people say, I didn't mean it how you've taken it, but am aware how you'd see that,
And thanks for the "young-un".. At 37 and currently feeling much older due to school hols.. I'll happily take that!
Sorry again x

Thanks for taking the time to explain. No harm no foul!

 

[Mamu]

Stick with us were not a bad lot. You will always find a few negative people.

I for one would love to hear about your experiences.

 

[Winue]

I do agree that sometimes things get out of control for no reason... but some people like drama, and like to create it. People are like that on these boards, in real life, in families, etc. You need to ignore it and stay away from people like that.

BUT... saying that... that other "circle" board... where people take info from here, just to make fun of it and to bash people... those people need a life. To read an entire message board, where there are so many new things each day, and to make fun of and cut up specific people? thats where I draw the line. Because of THAT, it makes me uncomfortable to post certain things here, and when others post certain things I feel bad for them, knowing that these "bullies" have nothing better to do than to make fun of others.

and now... LOL... I sit back, and let them go crazy with this post.

 

[MikeandSulley]

Everyone else is covering the flaming issue so I was going to comment on a different aspect of the DL vs. WDW forums.

I have used the DL forums a few times for trips (but don't frequent it normally). I found them to be nice, as you say, but there aren't as many posters or long time regulars and often days would go by before I would get an answer to a question and it might or might not have had enough detail that I needed. Or it might not be answered at all and I would have to bump it up.

Not really a complaint, just an observation. The DL boards aren't as active or fast moving. Of course, it usually isn't as much work to plan a DL trip vs. WDW and I grew up going to DL so it would just be a few questions here and there, but usually a slow response.

Although the WDW boards have gotten a bit "intense" in the last year or so, the volume and instant access to answers is really helpful when planning a trip.

It's like comparing a moderate highway (DL forum) to a high speed autobahn (WDW forum).

This, I've been over there a couple of times in planning my DL trips and I've had questioned go unanswered. I don't like posting over there for this very reason. I think it goes both way, if you frequent the WDW board more often, the DL board is uninviting, because there isn't much going on. I don't dare ask about my hotel choice, because I'll just get told to stay at the HOJO or Candy Cane Inn.