DISappearing Peeps...A fastpass to THIN! Part 4

[dwheatl]

Did I tell you I saw Disneyland Mama and we ate ate that Cafe Orleans? I ordered (and shared with DH) a deep fried Monte Cristo sandwich. The cheese one. Oh Lordy! I ate 1/4 th of it. And. It. Was. THE. Best. Thing. EVER!!!!!

It was worth the 4 pound gain! NOW, to lose said 4 pounds!!!!

Didn't i tell you they were great at the cafe orleans? Here's hoping the lbs. come off in no time.

I thought I was ok this year (this will be the 4th MD without my mom) but I don't think I am. I hide things so well on the outside that even DH doesn't know. I don't know if I am going to head to the in-laws tomorrow. I just don't think I am ready. Is that selfish of me? Is it time to just pull myself up and go? Ugh. What really hurts the most is that neither of my best friends asked how I am doing. It's probably my fault for not reaching out. It just makes me feel alone and I just hate feeling that way.

If you can't go, please explain to your husband why. I'm not a MIL yet, but I would be hurt if I didn't know why my DIL didn't come. If your DH could just explain that you are still missing your mom terribly, your MIL should understand. Here's another

Funny thing. I was at the grocery store and I heard a guy asking if they had any mother's day cards from cats. I wanted to tell him to look in the $1 section, since most cats aren't big spenders.

 

[Wonders10]

I thought I was ok this year (this will be the 4th MD without my mom) but I don't think I am. I hide things so well on the outside that even DH doesn't know. I don't know if I am going to head to the in-laws tomorrow. I just don't think I am ready. Is that selfish of me? Is it time to just pull myself up and go? Ugh. What really hurts the most is that neither of my best friends asked how I am doing. It's probably my fault for not reaching out. It just makes me feel alone and I just hate feeling that way.

I'm sorry you're feeling blue. If you think going to the in laws will make you feel worse or just uncomfortable or sad, then don't go. But I agree that you should tell your DH. His mother should understand. And if she doesn't, then too bad - what is she made of stone? (sorry, that sounded mean). Anyway, do what is going to make you feel best. And you need to celebrate Mother's Day too! You're a horse mom! Do something special for yourself and maybe something that will remind you of the good memories you had with your own mom.

Funny thing. I was at the grocery store and I heard a guy asking if they had any mother's day cards from cats. I wanted to tell him to look in the $1 section, since most cats aren't big spenders.

Ok, a couple years ago I did the same thing except I was looking for a card "from the dog". When I asked, the woman didn't even bat an eyelash and knew right where to go! I tied it to her leash and told her to "find mommy". It was so cute how she ran all excited right into my mom's lap to give her the card. What a smarty pants. I tried to get one this year for my mom (from the dog) but I couldn't find any.

 

[AnnNan]

I thought I was ok this year (this will be the 4th MD without my mom) but I don't think I am. I hide things so well on the outside that even DH doesn't know. I don't know if I am going to head to the in-laws tomorrow. I just don't think I am ready. Is that selfish of me? Is it time to just pull myself up and go? Ugh. What really hurts the most is that neither of my best friends asked how I am doing. It's probably my fault for not reaching out. It just makes me feel alone and I just hate feeling that way.

I'm sorry you're feeling sad. Only you can know what you need to do. I hope you can enjoy some memories of happy times with your mom. I'm sorry about your friends, but I feel sure they wouldn't hurt you on purpose. If they haven't been in the same situation they can't know how bad it is for you unless you share it with them. It is so easy to be wrapped up in our own stuff that we forget about the people around us - even close friends - especially if you "hide" that. Or just not to know what to say or whether it will help or make you feel worse. Maybe things will look better in the morning. I'll be praying for you. Mother's Day is hard on a lot of people.

 

[lexmelinda]

HAPPY MOTHER'S DAY, PEEP MOMS! ​

I got a big decorated envelope from my son who is in kindergarten and in it was a fill in the blanks letter for me in his sweet little kindergarten hand writing. Here's is what it says with his additions in bold....

My Mom

My Mom is the best!
She has Blue eyes and brown black hair. She weighs 150 pounds and is 34 years old. I think my Mom looks pretty when she gos to the pool. My Mom's favorite thing to do is tickl me. I love her because she is pretty. Happy Mothers Day 2007​

It's a keeper! (...and I'm 34! Did you catch that part?)

But like Ann Nan said, this is also a sad day for folks like Tara who've lost their moms, moms who've lost children, and ladies who want to have children and haven't had that opportunity. Let's be considerate of those people too.

I thought I was ok this year (this will be the 4th MD without my mom) but I don't think I am.

Tara, here's a big for you, sweet girl! Don't go to the inlaws...they'll understand.

I don't want to toot my horn, but toot toot! I have finally finished the slideshow for my mom and I think I may make her cry!

She will cry. Even I cried when I watched the one my brother made for my mom.

I wanted to tell him to look in the $1 section, since most cats aren't big spenders.

HAVE A WONDERFUL SUNDAY, EVERYONE!

 

[Eventer98]

If you can't go, please explain to your husband why. I'm not a MIL yet, but I would be hurt if I didn't know why my DIL didn't come. If your DH could just explain that you are still missing your mom terribly, your MIL should understand. Here's another

Thanks everyone for the kind words and thoughts. I feel a little better this AM. It helped to wake up to DH making waffles!! I think, like MHL said, it just sneaks up on you. I have yet to go to DH's parents house for MD. This year would be the first. They know the whole situation and always ask if I am coming but never give me a problem if I don't. But I think I should try and go this year since we are married. It's not until 1pm so I have time to decide. Thanks again for all the hugs...it really helps even though they are coming from far away!!!

 

[dance2874]

PROM NIGHT 2007!!!!

My little baby boy (Jordan, turning 18 next week) just left to go pick up his girlfriend for PROM! You should see him in his rental tux and new haircut!!!!

They're on their way back here for the corsage/ picture ceremony. I'm a wreck!
I'm not sure why, though. It's such a pivotal milestone, prom.

I'm giggling to myself that their idea of a fancy-shmancy dinner is Red Lobster. Where my gourmand son will order fried shrimp and french fries and a Sprite. She has her heart set on crab. I told her to protect her dress with plastic bibbing.

He debated putting the top up on his Barney-purple convertible LeBaron. I told him her hair would muss. OY! I hope he remembers to put his napkin on his lap and hold the chair out for her.

Yes, I yam a wreck. Nearly 18 years of training to be tested tonight!


UGH!!!!!

Aww..we need pictures!!! We went to dinner last night for our anniversary (shamless plug, 6 yrs yesterday )and we saw some kids there for prom. Chilis isnt my idea of a Prom location, but whatever works. It was not my idea of a romantic dinner either...but we just wanted something quick before going to a movie. We have plans to celebrate a bit more next week...more on that later.

I thought I was ok this year (this will be the 4th MD without my mom) but I don't think I am. I hide things so well on the outside that even DH doesn't know. I don't know if I am going to head to the in-laws tomorrow. I just don't think I am ready. Is that selfish of me? Is it time to just pull myself up and go? Ugh. What really hurts the most is that neither of my best friends asked how I am doing. It's probably my fault for not reaching out. It just makes me feel alone and I just hate feeling that way.

OK, weighing in late on this, but I still say dont go if you think it is going to be too much. Married or not, I dotn see the difference. I would rather have my DIL call me or send along a card or something than force herself to come when she is clearly not ready. Now if by 1 you feel ready, go of course! But if you still feel it is going to me too much I wouldnt push it this year. I am sure she will understand and would rather let you have your time to reflect on things than have you there trying to be happy for her...if that makes sense.

Ugh, swimsuit season! I dont mind my top half, really. BUT, the bottom half requires a sarong stylishly and loosly tied and cute flip flops.

Have you looked at the Lands End one's? You can get different sized tops and bottoms. Even some with slimming help.

I did try those yesterday...more on that later too....

Funny thing. I was at the grocery store and I heard a guy asking if they had any mother's day cards from cats. I wanted to tell him to look in the $1 section, since most cats aren't big spenders.

Too funny! You know...my cats didnt get me squat this year. The bums!

 

[dance2874]

OK, so the bathing suit quest began yesterday. It was bad...very bad. I looked on about 10 different websites and really didnt find anything I thought was perfect really. (as if there is such a thing) I then headed to the mall for the horrors of the fitting rooms and mirrors It was rough, really rough. I had on about every suit and combination in the mall and nothing worked. My neck and skin are actually sore from trying on. It sucks. The styles I want, do not have enough support for the twins. The ones that do without hurting my neck, look like really ugly moo moos. The ones that worked the best were the lands end ones, thanks UM! Unfortunately they are never on sale and where I went they were about $40-50 for each piece. (I am hoping for a 2 piece tankini style.) I cant spend that much in good conscience. So I will await a sale or a miracle. Maybe the plastic surgery fairy will come help me and the twins out and I wont have this problem!

On another note....My mom kept DD overnight last night. Her first sleepover! She was very excited! Actually they both were I think. She as watching her anyways and we were going to be home pretty late from our movie, so she decided to have her sleep over. AND, next week she is taking her out of town without me or DH to my sisters wedding shower...which I have to miss because of work. She leaves on weds for a week. What the heck am I going to do without her???? It is so quiet here this AM and I can only imagine what a week fo this will feel like On the plus side, DH and I get to have some grown up time to go to dinner or 'out on the town' if we want to next week, which will be weird and nice a tthe same time.

Hope everyone has a great day, mothers or not!

 

[AnnNan]

HAPPY MOTHER'S DAY, PEEP MOMS! ​

I got a big decorated envelope from my son who is in kindergarten and in it was a fill in the blanks letter for me in his sweet little kindergarten hand writing. Here's is what it says with his additions in bold....

My Mom

My Mom is the best!
She has Blue eyes and brown black hair. She weighs 150 pounds and is 34 years old. I think my Mom looks pretty when she gos to the pool. My Mom's favorite think to do is tickl me. I love her because she is pretty. Happy Mothers Day 2007​

It's a keeper! (...and I'm 34! Did you catch that part?)

I think he loves his mom!!!! so sweet!

On another note....My mom kept DD overnight last night. Her first sleepover! She was very excited! Actually they both were I think. She as watching her anyways and we were going to be home pretty late from our movie, so she decided to have her sleep over. AND, next week she is taking her out of town without me or DH to my sisters wedding shower...which I have to miss because of work. She leaves on weds for a week. What the heck am I going to do without her???? It is so quiet here this AM and I can only imagine what a week fo this will feel like On the plus side, DH and I get to have some grown up time to go to dinner or 'out on the town' if we want to next week, which will be weird and nice a tthe same time.

Hope everyone has a great day, mothers or not!

Happy Anniversary!
Wow - a week - I guess you needed the practice night, but if you haven't heard from her she must have done pretty well! And, except for the quiet - which you might get used to. Not really - you're doing pretty well too! Have you thought of some project that you've been waiting to do that you could finish while she's gone!? I always have a list, and I don't have kids to distract me, and I STILL don't get them finished - at least not quickly.

so how was prom UM?!

Happy Mother's Day everyone!

 

[dance2874]

Oh yeah, I have a list. Lots of things are getting cleaned out around here when she is gone...especially her toy room. There are so many toys there she doesnt play with that need packed up. And my spare room/scrapbook room is a disaster. I will keep busy and I do have to teach/babysit which s why I cant go...even so, I will have lots of time to miss her

 

[punkin413]

I thought I was ok this year (this will be the 4th MD without my mom) but I don't think I am. I hide things so well on the outside that even DH doesn't know. I don't know if I am going to head to the in-laws tomorrow. I just don't think I am ready. Is that selfish of me? Is it time to just pull myself up and go? Ugh. What really hurts the most is that neither of my best friends asked how I am doing. It's probably my fault for not reaching out. It just makes me feel alone and I just hate feeling that way.

thinking of you today.

 

[punkin413]

I also need to get over the fact that I hate wearing shorts. I just don't like the way I look in them so it is hard for me to like any.

i'm the same way. i hate the way i look in shorts. so i cropped all our disney pics to hide my legs!

 

[punkin413]

HAPPY MOTHER'S DAY!!!!

hope everyone has a great day!

 

[UtahMama]

Good Morning Skinnie Peeps! Happy Mother's Day!

I did get a card from my CATS! It even was a Hallmark I don't really like cats very much (mine are divas!) but THAT was funny!

Eventer-

Melinda! You look darn good for 34. I'd say! I'll take your weight! I don't even thing my skeleton weighs 150

Punkin- I crop my legs out too....or I strategically place 2 kids next to me to hide. I often get comments that I'm not overweight from people reading my TR's. I just say, you only see what I want you to SEE!

Dance- I hate old-lady looking bathing suits. WHY isn't their supportive/YOUNG styles for plus sizes???? I don't dig the pointy built in cups either. I am NOT pointy!

 

[eeyore45]

Thanks everyone for the kind words and thoughts. I feel a little better this AM. It helped to wake up to DH making waffles!! I think, like MHL said, it just sneaks up on you. I have yet to go to DH's parents house for MD. This year would be the first. They know the whole situation and always ask if I am coming but never give me a problem if I don't. But I think I should try and go this year since we are married. It's not until 1pm so I have time to decide. Thanks again for all the hugs...it really helps even though they are coming from far away!!!

Adding more and thank you for sharing a very personal part of your heart - its not easy, and I feel honored that you trust me enough to share your pain!! There are no easy words, no easy answers, just reach down in your heart and decide - sometimes its easier to be around people, and sometimes its easier to be alone - but you do get to decide!!

Aww..we need pictures!!! We went to dinner last night for our anniversary (shamless plug, 6 yrs yesterday )and we saw some kids there for prom. Chilis isnt my idea of a Prom location, but whatever works. It was not my idea of a romantic dinner either...but we just wanted something quick before going to a movie. We have plans to celebrate a bit more next week...more on that later.

OK that is sweet UMA - cant wait to hear more details!! Dance, my son thought to take his date (group date, but ds doesnt decide things!! lol) well they were 'put off time and again at the nice restaurant in town, so they knew they'd be late, and they decided they didnt want to give the fancy acting snooty restaurant their money - they went to a fast food Chinese place - Its a mom and pop place and do have great food, not all fried... but we're talking tile floors, cheap tables, paper napkins!! and all in their prom finery - dagnabit wish I could've showed up for pictures!!

OK, weighing in late on this, but I still say dont go if you think it is going to be too much. Married or not, I dotn see the difference. I would rather have my DIL call me or send along a card or something than force herself to come when she is clearly not ready. Now if by 1 you feel ready, go of course! But if you still feel it is going to me too much I wouldnt push it this year. I am sure she will understand and would rather let you have your time to reflect on things than have you there trying to be happy for her...if that makes sense.

more hugs Tara
I did try those yesterday...more on that later too....


Jen, do you know where there is a Land's End Outlet?? I got a 2 piece tankini for around $40 the top is a halter style, the bottom skirt - and I know at my size nothin is gonna 'help'... but dagnabit, I deserve to be at the pool watching dd! So I SUCK IT UP, and just do it! And glad I dont have to look at me! You will be fine!

Too funny! You know...my cats didnt get me squat this year. The bums!

i'm the same way. i hate the way i look in shorts. so i cropped all our disney pics to hide my legs!

Now cut that out - PEEPS - Love the body you are in - stop worrying about what you look like, start loving who you are and thump anyone else - y'all tell me that - so you better start believing it too, or I'll never leave this house!!

In the Parade Section of the paper it says if you just reduce your calorie intake by 250 calories AND increase your exercise by 250 calories a day, YOU WILL LOOSE A POUND A WEEK!! OK BODY what's YOUR problem??? DID YOU NOT GET THAT MEMO???



Melinda Definately a keeper, when Dd was 3 she wrote this for me (Yep, Ikept it, and just got it out to share! Her Preschool teacher transpsed dd words!) " My Mother is a Super #1 Mom because - She gives you all of things She dance, she gives you food, and I love her because the stars come with.'

Doncha just love that "the stars come with" me!!

Still no presents here - I gave DS $80 to take DD shopping, to Hallmark, and to take her to lunch - spend the day with her I say... and they came home 4 hours later... "where did you eat lunch" "we didnt - we ran out of money" OK kiddies, WHERE"S MY PRESENT??? Seriously, I have LOL at that, there is no way they spent that much money on me!! DS is still sleeping, I think I have to wait until after dinner to open presents...

ARIES We're quietly sitting on the couch, and suddenly my phone starts BEEPING rather loudly!! and I see the message, and I thought DH had put a 'note' in the "calendar" so the phone was beeping to remind me... "nope - maybe your DS sent it?" No it was a sweet Peep!! too cute!! Thank you!!

BEE Thinking of you, knowing there is much you want to share, but arent allowed to - know you are in my thoughts and prayers!!

 

[eeyore45]

I just mapped out a 4 mile course, not sure if I'm up to it, so I could opt out at 3miles... I have to try - I'll be the Lil Engine that could... "I think I can" and I think a lot about the tortoise and the Hare while I run too!!

 

[Bee]

Happy mothers day all..

I do have a lot to say.. but, I am keeping things in check.. nothing nice or mean is gonna change the fact that he doesnt love me anymore.. I have to accept it and move on...

So, I am moving one.. If I am that easily discarded that there wasnt much there to begin with.. so...


Anyway, I am thinking of you all.

My thoughts and prayers go out to one and all...

Bee

 

[AnnNan]

Can any of you tell me whether you had issues with the smoke from the wildfires in the Orlando area? Or could you tell in the parks that the smoke was a problem at all?

 

[eeyore45]

Do what's best for you!! Put yourself first - get selfish!! Love you - YOU are BEE-utiful!! Truly!!

 

[denecarter]

Have a happy day, Peeps!

 

[harleygirl]

I thought I was ok this year (this will be the 4th MD without my mom) but I don't think I am. I hide things so well on the outside that even DH doesn't know. I don't know if I am going to head to the in-laws tomorrow. I just don't think I am ready. Is that selfish of me? Is it time to just pull myself up and go? Ugh. What really hurts the most is that neither of my best friends asked how I am doing. It's probably my fault for not reaching out. It just makes me feel alone and I just hate feeling that way.

Thanks everyone for the kind words and thoughts. I feel a little better this AM. It helped to wake up to DH making waffles!! I think, like MHL said, it just sneaks up on you. I have yet to go to DH's parents house for MD. This year would be the first. They know the whole situation and always ask if I am coming but never give me a problem if I don't. But I think I should try and go this year since we are married. It's not until 1pm so I have time to decide. Thanks again for all the hugs...it really helps even though they are coming from far away!!!

My Dads birthday woulda been thurs. we always celebrated mothers day and his birthday. its been 3 yrs. and it still sucks everystinking day. but I agree with you that some point try to come out of your "shell" and maybe try to makea new tradition that will helpyou find a reason to smile during the hard times. good luck with it...