HOCKEYKAT = hopefully all that walking (and sweating) will balance out all that yummy Disney food. You have been such a motivator on this site, I wish I had all of that "stick to it ness". All the exercise you do! It really inspires me to try a little harder. (35 minutes on the elliptical? all at once? I really need to push myself)
Awww thanks!!! That really makes me feel good. I don't see myself as a motivator, I see myself as a lazy person who struggles all the time with it. I had to work up to the elliptical, I started at twice a week, 15 min, and I am up to 4-5 times a week, 35-45 minutes. I also have a fitness goal, though, to be able to play hockey without feeling like I am going to die, and that helps.
I hear ya. I do not have a husband, but I live with Greg, my boyfriend of over 2 1/2 years and believe me i know how hard it is being with someone that "should" be taking better care of themselves and just isn't. He is quite supportive of me going to the gym, even though he doesn't get why on a saturday i have to just GET UP AND GO..or the chances of me going later are slim...but the hardest thing with him is his diet..or lack of. I try and cook at least 3 times a week, and i make relatively healthful things but he will go and add to them, you know, extra cheese, mayo..whatever it is. I worry because he is getting a belly now and his family history is full of all sorts of cancers and stomach issues ( dyverticulitis, colon issues.)..so he should help himself now I keep saying ( he's only 27)...but of course, he gets defensive and it pretty much goes in one ear and out the other. SOOO frustrating. I feel like such a nag sometimes, but all i want is for him to be healthy and fit. ESPECIALLY being a Firefighter...you would think it was a prerequisite.
Sorry..kind of tangented/vented there....thanks for listening gang
Gina, that helped a lot. Mine is a lot like yours, except he is 36 and not 27, and has much more than a little bit of a belly. His family history includes a dad who had his first heart attack at 35. He does okay on the food part of the diet about 80% of the time, but he gets too many liquid calories and doesn't exercise, neither of which help.
Note to self: I've got to take some time to catch up on everything I've missed. (Over 1200 pages is a bit daunting though...)
The reason I asked about your vacation food mindset is because, in the past, I've been just like your DH. I have always looked forward to vacations because I could "let go." But NO LONGER!!!
If you always do what you did, you'll always get what you got.
I don't think he sounds like an ogre at all. I think I understand where you are coming from. Even though my DH is very supportive and has not much of a weight problem at all, my MOTHER, who is my Weight Watcher's buddy, is a totally different story. She has always been a very "slow loser.." (Her words

) When putting forth effort, I
CAN lose quickly. My mother sounds a lot like your DH right now. The biggest problem with my mom is that she likes her recliner more that she likes to get out and walk (or do any other form of real exercise), and she isn't that great at keeping track of little details that can really sabotage ones weight loss efforts. She's complaining, and I'm pumped. So....
I have decided to just keep my mouth shut and do what I know I need to do for myself.
Rethinking what I posted earlier

...I truly didnt mean to sound insensitive to your issues. I completely understand that it is sometimes best to just go with the flow in order to keep unity among the troops.
Just dont worry -- please. Start now to think about the things youll do when you return from vacation. Think about how you WILL NOT beat yourself up if you gain a few pounds. Your peeps will be here for you when you return. We can try our best to slow the wagon down for you so you can easily hop right back on.
Oh! You didn't sound insensitive! I thought you sounded understanding... my DH has a lot in common with your mom too. "What do you mean I gained 4 lbs? I have been dieting... except for that weekend... and those 2 days... and oh yeah that one night of drinking with the guys... "
I will try to stop worrying. I just know that I am weak and I am afraid of backsliding again. I feel really good that I have accomplished this much and I don't want to get back above 200 ever again. (fwiw in case you don't want to read back 1200 pages, I am currently 175, started at 218, want to be 145, at 5'8")
My husband and I both struggle with our weight. If we are both working hard on getting fit, things are pretty easy. It's difficult when one or the other of us is not really committed and it's really easy to try and bring the other person down with you. Right now we are both working ok - not great but not horrible either. You really have to just focus on yourself. We're both adults and we both make our own decisions. Do whatever you need to do to motivate yourself. I'm thinking about putting some of my favorite items of clothing around the house - things that I need to lose a size to wear. If I have them in sight around the house, I just need to glance at them next time I'm tempted. My difficulty isn't so much my husband but the way I handle stress which is by eating. Right now things are crazy here with school starting, work stuff and getting ready for vacation. One day at a time . . .each day is a new day and a new opportunity!
Great advice! I agree on the both adults thing, and on that it is way easier when he is on the wagon with me.
The worst part about it is the small sabotagy things, like just this one won't hurt, and why are you worrying about 40 calories now when in 2 weeks you will be eating WAY more than that... and when I say that is EXACTLY why I am worrying now, and I get scoffed at. Sigh. We just don't agree on weight loss strategies and he doesn't want to really think about the effect that food and drink have on him, and me trying to stay strict to the diet makes him feel bad, so he scoffs to cover his feelings Defense strategy of... ridicule to combat self-loathing. Okay, enough armchair analysis for today!!
Now you guys know WAY more about me than you ever wanted to!!
Thanks so much for all the support and love. It really means a lot.
And
Dawn, nice jagerbomb!
