Dis Breast Cancer Survivors Part III - GAGWTA!

[luvmarypoppins]

Good morning ladies

Fl Lisa - Thoughts and prayers for you that the sim would go well today

KJ - How are your rads going?

Sha - I think its more of a "prestige" thing around here about the state univ. and I know ds has his heart set on going there. I just dont want to have to pick up the broken pieces, so I am sure praying. Now he says, I want to go some place warm!! like Florida. If he goes to the community college and passes the program he will be a licensed pta and the state univ. will accept him for sure etc.

Laurie - I am glad your dd made that decision. I am sure she will be happy. Are her friends going there too?? I have 2 more tuition payments for ds, yippee!! Did you eat any place besides Cali Grill. Of course you know I love: to hear food reports!! Glad you got to see your other dd. I wish my ds would have done accounting as his college has the bs/ms combined program and then you can sit for the cpa exam, but he only wanted business.

Hmm..and how did the sonogram go? Well it was o.k. It was disney day at the imaging center. I wish these ladies were sitting by me and I could strike up a conversation but they seemed to be coming out, coming from different sides etc. One had a jack skellington jacket, the next a marie the cat shirt and then the last one an eeyore sweatshirt. The test itself was bearable, the pain is on the L side because when they press there is nothing there since he cut most of it out etc. Some dr. was observing. Its a teaching hospital so its to be expected. I have the same sonographer as always, nice and efficient, not everly friendly etc.

The funny part is afterwards. Dh wants to go to the hospital cafeteria. I say I dont want to. I give in. He actually pays to go park and we go in. I am tired etc. All he gets is a chili dog, double cheeseburger and onion rings. I get a sandwhich. I am sitting there thinking..I so want out of here,. it just reminds me of too much bad stuff etc. I am doing this for him. Well later at home, he tells the 3 ds...Oh, I had a "romantic" lunch with your mom at the hosp. cafeteria. WTH?? I honestly didnt know the hospital cafeteria could be a "romantic" place. Hmm, wonder what Sha and Linda think of this?

I also just tried to register for an online appt. for the blood test on sat. There is nothing available. I hope its some kind of computer glitch or else I will be sitting and waiting amongst the masses.

GTAGWTA. Have a great day.

 

[Sha]

Yes the Grand 1 is they yacht from the Grand Floridian. Got it again for 2 hours to cruise around with friends and see the fireworks. I would like to rent it for a few hours for a date sometime.... but as to be the person I will be with for a LONG time before I would do that.

WDW4us2... if you want to come..... I have a couple spaces. Now mind you there will be some alcoholic beverages on board.

 

[wdw4us2]

WDW4us2... if you want to come..... I have a couple spaces. Now mind you there will be some alcoholic beverages on board.

Well, after that day I've had I don't really mind that. lol.

I just got back from my sim. The radiologist is still not able to set me up the way he wants to, so I have to go back to the plastic surgeon for yet more draining. Rationally, I know that this is not a big deal but I just want to get on with the radiation so I can be done with it especially since I'm really starting to feel good again.

 

[Grumpy's Gal]

Hello, I'm not a member of your thread but I just saw it and I have a question and I'm hopeful someone here can help me.......

Just found out a few days ago that one of our friends has stage 4 breast cancer. She called me on the phone to tell me. It was a shock to her as well as to her family. She lives across the US so I can't go see her right now. My question is : what is most appropriate to do? most appreciated? Do I send cards? Certainly not get well card..... Do I send emails? Do I send a gift? something funny? something serious? She is starting chemo asap.

I'm at a loss. I want to do something but I don't want to do the wrong thing.
Any advice is greatly appreciated. Thank you to anyone who can offer advice. You can pm me if you wish.
Have a good day!

edited to say -- she is 60 and her daughter doesn't live at home but she has a husband so she's not alone

 

[Sha]

Well, after that day I've had I don't really mind that. lol.

I just got back from my sim. The radiologist is still not able to set me up the way he wants to, so I have to go back to the plastic surgeon for yet more draining. Rationally, I know that this is not a big deal but I just want to get on with the radiation so I can be done with it especially since I'm really starting to feel good again.

well, if you want to come up for the day... night.. because it is a fireworks one... PM me

 

[jackskellingtonsgirl]

GAGWTA!

Just popping in to say I am thinking of you all!

Hugs and good wishes all around!

 

[Sha]

Hello, I'm not a member of your thread but I just saw it and I have a question and I'm hopeful someone here can help me.......

Just found out a few days ago that one of our friends has stage 4 breast cancer. She called me on the phone to tell me. It was a shock to her as well as to her family. She lives across the US so I can't go see her right now. My question is : what is most appropriate to do? most appreciated? Do I send cards? Certainly not get well card..... Do I send emails? Do I send a gift? something funny? something serious? She is starting chemo asap.

I'm at a loss. I want to do something but I don't want to do the wrong thing.
Any advice is greatly appreciated. Thank you to anyone who can offer advice. You can pm me if you wish.
Have a good day!

edited to say -- she is 60 and her daughter doesn't live at home but she has a husband so she's not alone

a patient of mine who had stage 4 told me once during her care she liked to have cards and she enjoyed a calls from her friends. There were days they would talk and reminence (sp) and other times her friend(s) would just listen to her. I think a friend had planned to have dinner sent to the house once across the country (more for her family because she wasnt eating much) I just dont know if that ever done. Not sure but maybe one of those edible arrangements would be good since its a distance thing or if she likes fruit Flowers and chemo might not mix because of the flower scents.

 

[snappy]

I was only stage 1 and needed no chemo, but I will say a card, email, etc would be nice. I really appreciated the food that was cooked on a schedule by DH's co workers. His boss gave him a gift card from Jason's deli that was a nice change of pace.

The smallest things can have meaning, mints, nice gentle hand or body cream, anything that would give comfort. I would say a series of smallish things would show that you are continuing to think of her.

I think the little touches mean more than flowers, etc.

Make sure she realizes you are not uncomfortable talking about her illness. I found it difficult to talk to my kids, so I dumped on my husband.

It really helps to have someone to talk to that you don't have to worry about them getting too sad.

Sleeping can be difficult, a box of sleepy time tea, a soothing CD, some lozenges, cough drops,lemon drops, lip balm, you get the idea.

If you can, give us an update on her. Meantime, I will keep your friend in my prayers.

 

[Grumpy's Gal]

thank you for the thoughts. I will make a plan of what I will send tomorrow.

 

[luvmarypoppins]

Good morning ladies

Grumpy's Gal - prayers for your friend. I liked getting cards alot. I am a card person myself, I send out lots. I got one of those edible arrangements, it was very nice and gift certificates for food are god too. If you want to do some e mail cards my favorite place is dayspring, but it is more religious in nature. Hallmark is limited, american greetings and 123 greetings have some for free too. A little comfort basket might be nice.

Well ds20 unleashed his little verbal tirade on me again yest., so I asked dh to just totally cancel his cell phone. I hope he does. Something tells me its going to be a long week with him gone. Last time I think I was usually crying when he called as ds would just be terrible at the same time. And now with ds not working its going to be a long sat. night too. Bad rains are coming for the week end. Ds 20 was filling out a application for the new grocery store that hasnt even been finished being built. Hmm, it appears it will be a loong,loong summer around here too.

Oh and my stomach is killing me. I am glad I have a high pain tolerance, but I do get grumpy sometimes.

GTAGWTA. Have a great week end everyone.

 

[snappy]

Hugs for you, LMP.

 

[Sha]

You are allowed to be grumpy LMP.

 

[KJ Luvs Pluto]

to you LMP. And be grumpy all you want. You always seem so upbeat, it amazes me with all you go through every day. You deserve to be grumpy as much as want.

Grumpy's Gal - I don't know if this will help you or not but my oncologist said no fruits or veggies that couldn't be peeled or cooked. So if you plan on sending an edible fruit arrangement, maybe they could take that into consideration with the choices that would be put into the fruit selection. I also wasn't allowed anything that had any herbal components to it, the herbs may interfere with the chemo. A gift basket with a soft hat, small bottles of hand sanitzer, a box of individual "Wet Ones" (I used a ton of those, kept them in purse, car, desk etc), magazines (it's hard to concentrate on a book during chemo) or a puzzle magazine, small bottles of lotions with no scents (I think this was already mentioned), a travel pillow, a box of cards with stamps (she may be sending out thank you's to people), or pretty stationary with a nice pen. As others have said, you could divide things up and send things several different times. It's nice to know that people are remembering you over the long haul, not just at the first diagnosis. This process can take a year or more and the cards often fizzle out after the first week or two.

Have a great weekend everyone.

GAGWTA!

 

[jackskellingtonsgirl]

Grumpy's Gal - My mom had Stage III cancer. When she started her chemo I sent her a box with some DVDs, a really soft chenille throw blanket, some super soft socks, and a neck wrap thing you can heat in the microwave. I also bought her a bright silk scarf to wear on her head. Once she started radiation I bought her some really thick body cream.

 

[Sha]

I think I am going to make a list of these ideas and keep them for if something happens for a friend. Would be good for other problems too.

ive got an overnight stay at WDW next Saturday night. Hoping I can get down there early enough to see David Cassidy. Mom is going with after a day of scrapbooking for Breast Cancer. Maybe it will help this funk I am in. Go and see Wishes. See Spectro. Both will be gone this summer (Wishes just for a couple months).

 

[snappy]

I think I am going to make a list of these ideas and keep them for if something happens for a friend. Would be good for other problems too.

ive got an overnight stay at WDW next Saturday night. Hoping I can get down there early enough to see David Cassidy. Mom is going with after a day of scrapbooking for Breast Cancer. Maybe it will help this funk I am in. Go and see Wishes. See Spectro. Both will be gone this summer (Wishes just for a couple months).

I agree, I love all the ideas give. I knew the GAGWTA girls would step up!

Hope your overnight chases the blues away. Tell mom hi for me.

Say it isn't so. They are doing away with Spectro? I noticed it only ran on Saturday on our last trip.

When will Wishes stop? I hope it is going through May. I like seeing both sets of fireworks from my boardwalk view unit at BWV.

 

[Sha]

I agree, I love all the ideas give. I knew the GAGWTA girls would step up!

Hope your overnight chases the blues away. Tell mom hi for me.

Say it isn't so. They are doing away with Spectro? I noticed it only ran on Saturday on our last trip.

When will Wishes stop? I hope it is going through May. I like seeing both sets of fireworks from my boardwalk view unit at BWV.

Fireworks change from the middle/early June to middle of August I think. Main Street Electrical Parade is coming back to WDW (about the same time)

 

[wdw4us2]

LMP - to you. You have a remarkable attitude through everything you put up with. I hope your DH's time away doesn't cause you too much trouble and that your middle DS stays in line.

Sha - Have a great time at WDW! Think of me when you see David Cassidy (check out my tag from the Tag Fairy)!

Grumpy's Gal - A friend of mine sent us a complete dinner package from the Honey Baked Ham Co. It was great because it lasted for a few days and it was during a time when I wasn't cooking at all. The food was really good, too!

I went back to the plastic surgeon yesterday to have more saline drained. It is now about half what it was on the right side. I go for sim #3 on Monday at 1 pm - I am hoping for the best! DD goes back to UCF from Spring Break tomorrow. I am missing her already. She'll be back on Thursday night though for my niece's wedding which is next Saturday.

 

[luvmarypoppins]

Good afternoon ladies

Sha - I think your trip sounds great. Hoping you have a blast!!

Fl Lisa - Wishing you all the best on Mon. David Cassidy!! Hm, I think my sister might have gotten the Partridge Family Christmas Album. I feel old!! I am sure I must have watched the show on tv.

Laurie - must be cool to watch the fireworks from the room. A few times we had rooms where we could actually do that, one was at the Swan or Dolphin, cant remember

Well ds is not happy his phone is off. Dh got a special code to deactivate it, yeah!! Also his boss keeps calling saying he did not give 2 weeks notice and is suppose to come to work tonight. He quit last sun. She also says she will not be a reference for him. Hmm, I dont think that is very nice. He has worked there several years. Well he said he will just use the other lady there as a reference.

Went for the blood test today. Of course I couldnt get the appt. and I had to wait almost an hour. Wow!! I had a new tech who immediately tells me I should have made an appt. I said, um, I tried for 2 days, She says, well you should come next week, I just didnt want to get into it with her.

Ds18 seems really depressed about the college letter. I cant imagine how his heart will break about the other college if he gets rejected. I need to keep praying. He also needs to check with the other college. Now he says he might want to go away. I told him, um, I think its a little too late. You didnt even apply to anywhere etc. Oh well.

GTAGWTA. Have a great day.

 

[Pea-n-Me]

Did I hear David Cassidy??