Did I Do The Right Thing (Work Related)

[JayBee]

Originally posted by Beauty
Do you ever just feel like screaming......you know just like a stress release or something..........

Maybe try a Zanax??

 

[LScot]

I'm still thinking this is a bet to see how many of you would post. I think Becki likes riling you up and getting a reaction. It seems to work for her. JMHO. Don't scream too loud, Beauty. I don't think this makes Becki scream. It is attention--good or bad--some people like it.

 

[airhead]

I can't believe this thread is still alive!

 

[MeanLaureen]

Becki.. I just can't sit on my hands anymore. I seriously hope that you are saying all that you are saying in hopes to rile people up and start a controversy.

Please tell me that this is not how you really behave at work in real life.

If it is, you really need to take some time out and think about what you are saying. Your claims here are so narcissistic. You are completely unable to see wrong in yourself - you ask for advice and insist everyone else is wrong and you know best.

Look back at what you wrote. You are hypocritical telling people that your coworkers are bad for wanting to leave early during a hurricane yet you completely ignore my post asking you how that is any worse than you blowing off your job at Bombay by calling in sick because you wanted to stay home and DIS. (and yes, you even started a thread about that!)

Becki, I have been a manager for 18 yrs. I would not have someone on my team that acts like you say you do on the DIS.
Not for a minute.

You need to get yourself a self help book or go to a class about teamwork and managing people if you expect to get promoted into a management position because I can tell you right now.. you will have a heck of a time keeping employees.

I seriously hope you are pulling our legs with the attitude you are taking here.

 

[Bojangles]

What happened to the career in criminal justice? Or the one in psychology? I seem to remember African-American studies? CNA school? Nursing school? What about law school? Are you not going there after all?

In any case, most management jobs require a 4 year degree. You should probably pick a major if you want to be a manager.

 

[Tinkbell]

Originally posted by jipsy
Wow you're near Guiness Book records for that!

 

[luvindisneyworld]

Originally posted by DisMN
Tell that to all the others who DIS and hang out on the net all day while THEY work. Surely you don't think Honeywolf is the only one doing this on company time..........

some of the more respected members of the DIS are getting paid to putz online all day. Make sure you're as "ticked" at them as you are with her...just to be fair.

I dont think its right to Dis all the time why you work,I dont care who does it.

 

[goofygirl]

Gosh.....you could easily subsitute your name in the above sentance. I wonder why?

WHY do certain people get picked on?

Oh I know WHY. Its because some people get off by bullying other people. Those who pick on others are those who are really unhappy with THEMSELVES. They do it to make themselves feel better.

 

[honeywolf7]

*High Five* GoofyGirl....You're exactly right.....these people who pick on us are truly unhappy with themselves and it makes them feel better to pick on others. Anybody with even the most elemental training in psychology would know that.

 

[kejoda]

You couldn't be more wrong.

 

[MeanLaureen]

Originally posted by honeywolf7
*High Five* GoofyGirl....You're exactly right.....these people who pick on us are truly unhappy with themselves and it makes them feel better to pick on others. Anybody with even the most elemental training in psychology would know that.

I'm not picking on you. I'm just stating the facts and my observations, Becki. You don't need elemental training in psychology to realize that you are going to destroy any chances of future advancement in your job not to mention any friendly relationships you might have with your coworkers.

I also don't need elemental training in psychology to realize that no matter what anyone says to you, it's going to be ignored if it isn't all praise and glory and something you want to hear.

 

[dizneenut]

Originally posted by MeanLaureen
I also don't need elemental training in psychology to realize that no matter what anyone says to you, it's going to be ignored if it isn't all praise and glory and something you want to hear.

 

[IceQueen777]

Awwww....goofygirl and honeywolf, the bestest of friends!

I also don't need elemental training in psychology to realize that no matter what anyone says to you, it's going to be ignored if it isn't all praise and glory and something you want to hear.

So true.

 

[Pongo69]

Hw, YOU were the one who posted the original thread. YOU were the one who asked us if you did the right thing. If all you wanted was praise which in my opinion is something you thrive on, than you shouldn't ask questions on a message board knowing full well not everyone is going to make you feel good about yourself.

Another thing, I don't think anyone who posted on this thread has a vandetta against you nor are they miserable. The only person who is doing an injustice to you is yourself. You put your life here in cyberspace for everyone to read. You talked about the many men you had over your children. We didn't ask, YOU put it here!!!

I'm not trying to hurt you, but don't you think it's time for you to stop acting like a child in a woman's body and start being the woman God put you on this earth to be.

 

[airhead]

....always so much drama around this OP? ??? HW,you have kids???

 

[IceQueen777]

Originally posted by airhead
....always so much drama around this OP? ??? HW,you have kids???

Yes, but I don't think they live with her. She moved to Florida to be with new fiance, and I believe the kids are living with their father or another family member in another state.

 

[SandraM]

This is from July 13 in the "Hometowns" thread:

"I'm living in Bradenton, Florida and I've been here since June 8th. The kids are with me and my fiance, he and I are getting married in two months, and I'm going to nursing school down here.....I met him on vacation down here (he was my best friend's male best friend and we fell head over heels in love.....I finally understand the meaning of the word love and I understand what a relationship is really supposed to be like....even though he's 57 and I'm only 28....he loves the kids and he and I adore each other and I know to not only depend on the man I'm with like I used to but also to be there for the man I'm with to lean on)"

I've had a look through many of the threads posted on/by the OP, (the list runs to nearly 200 pages) and to be quite honest I really don't know whether to laugh or cry. The OP has made many lovely, thoughtful and supportive comments, but also many superficial, self-centred ones. And there have been so many issues (I'm not going to start quoting in this post) as to make me feel "how could a person deal with all this without professional (as in psychological) help". What I have seen regularly with the OP's threads is a demand for approval of her actions; criticism is rejected with a defensive comment; suggestions for positive action are dismissed with an inane reason as to why the helpful advice can't be taken.

It's not right to just dismiss someone who has taken so much of their time to be part of the DIS community, but it is difficult to help a person who doesn't seem to want to be helped. Having read through many threads on over 50 of the pages referred to above, I am quite heartbroken for the OP's two children, whom I gather she loves deeply but (having come from a somewhat dysfunctional background herself, and having beecome a mother at a pretty young age) does not have the ability to cope with their emotional needs as well as her own. This does not make her a bad person. As I have read the threads, it has struck me that there is not one independent supportive person in the OP's life.

As an exercise, I wonder if there is someone on the DIS who is a member of another Board who could pose the OP's original question, so that the answers would not have any pre-conceived ideas relating to the OP here? Personally I don't think there would be much difference in the tone of the answers posted, but perhaps it would reassure the OP that the respondents to her thread were being honest. Just a thought.

 

[Catzeyes]

I to my knowledge have never made a negative responce to any post by anybody in all the years that I have been here. I in the past have been like dana and bit my tongue in regards to honeywolf's post's. However enough is enough, Becki, get yourself some help. You asked for advice you need to see someone for help.

 

[luvindisneyworld]

I am not picking on you.I am just stating the facts.You need help.

 

[Trinity721]

Originally posted by honeywolf7
these people who pick on us are truly unhappy with themselves and it makes them feel better to pick on others. Anybody with even the most elemental training in psychology would know that.

Um, ok... Maybe if you heard this in Psychology 101 it might be true. But for me, having gotten my Bachelors in psychology, it is not true. We aren't picking on you. Maybe some of us have gotten more outspoken in our thoughts than others. Though, some of us know you better than others because of your previous posts. Many posters here have just been trying to give you advice about the workplace, and I would bet that many of them have worked in a corporate or office setting longer than you have. Most people would be happy with advice from experienced people who have been there and done that. You seem to get defensive about it.

I don't mean to be rude or mean, or try to hurt you. But honestly, HW, are you seeing anyone for counseling or therapy? Again I am no expert by any means and having a degree does not really entitle me to "diagnose" anyone, but from what I have studied you show signs of some type of personality disorder and IMO you would benefit from some help. A sentiment that has been echoed several times on this thread....