Dh Says No Way...

[LiteBrite]

My DH is also not the fanatic that I am or creating in my children (yet ).
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My DH kept saying "been there (in 1993 for 3 days)". After I convinced him to go in Oct 2004 I decided to do everything I could to "convert" him. I booked our 2nd family trip to the same hotel and concierge which he loves. That really helped him feel like he was going home. I also got a limo instead of a rental car which he found stressful. Then I let the limo provide car seats for the older ones so we only to hassle with 1 car seat instead of 3. I mailed a package to the hotel so we only had 2 checked bags for the 5 of us. I wanted to make it easy and relaxing for him.

And this is what I think had the biggest impact: I signed him up for the garden tour at Epcot. He's a horticulturalist and it really made it all click for him. It really gave him a great appreciation for all the wonderful details at Disney. When we were sitting in front of the Poly waiting for the limo to pick us up to go home he actually said "this is kinda sad...". So he didn't take the tour til our last full day. On our next trip he'll be taking a tour early on.

My hubby used to be much less enthusiastic about WDW than I was. The thing that changed that? - camping at Fort Wilderness. He loved it so much, it changed his outlook on the whole thing, and now he's a Disney fanatic just like me

If you can find something in particular that your hubby really enjoys at WDW (like the horticulture for lovesdumbo's hubby, or Fort Wilderness for mine), maybe he'll begin to see it in a new light, too.

LiteBrite

 

[rapunzal]

I live with the same type of Grumpy husband when it comes to Disney. Everytime he comes he is complaining...even after I worked and paid for the whole trip. The last two Mays I brought my Mom and we had a blast! Now this offer of free dining comes up...and I have a week to go from school! Would love to book it ...and surprise him...but it isn't much fun spending $3000 with all the complaining!

 

[BibbidyBobbidyBoo]

Alas, my husband is not into Disney, either. It really bites sometimes. I could go every year. My DH; once every 5 years is too much. When the free disney dining plan came out I tried everything to talk him into it; no luck. I am seriously considering leaving Grumpy home and taking our not quite 6 year old DS. I'm just not sure how hard it would be with little one by myself, though. He's not horrible or anything, but he's a very, shall I saw, active little guy and kids can be so unpredictable sometimes. If I lost him at WDW, I don't think I would ever be forgiven. My husband and I share equally in taking care of him, so I'm not sure how relaxing of a time it would be without my DH to relieve me occasionally. Am I selfish, or what?

My husband isn't all into Disney either. He tolerates trips when he must (because of me and the kids LOL) but that is the main reason I took the last trip with my 3 kids (youngest turned 5 during the trip)- all by my lonesome. It wasn't as easy as with him helping but it was doable and we still had fun. I'm sure you can do it with just one.... I mean if you want to.

I'm considering doing it again with just me and the kids during the free dining. I can't make up my mind. I know my mind would be made up already but for the fact I can't seem to book Pop and would have to be at All Stars --- again.

 

[daisy_77]

I guess I am lucky cuz my husband let's me make all the trip decisions. All though he vetoed us staying at AKL for 7 night concierge. oh, well at least I get to go!

 

[leighe]

I totally understand. My DH really enjoys WDW when we get there - but he hates to hear about it before we actually leave. Which I don't really mind because I get to do all the planning! DH also gets really antsy during vacations - wants to know what's going on at home, work, etc. I couldn't care less as long as no one's died or the house hasn't burned down! DH even drove me nuts the last few days of our honeymoon because he kept making lists of things we needed to do when we moved into our new house!

I'm a little worried about our July trip because it's 10 nights long and that's our longest trip yet - except for our honeymoon (not at Disney). He says that he's been so stressed out this summer that he just wants to get away for as long as possible but I'm afraid he'll be a basket-case after 4 days. I even split our ressie - 5 nights at BC and 5 nights at Poly - so maybe he won't get so restless.

Good luck!

 

[YesYourMajesty]

Here is LOTS of pixie dust.

My husband wasnt really opposed to WDW. He just doesnt want to spend every vacation there. I am trying to convince him that we would save a ton of money if we just moved to Florida.

 

[cobbler]

Ugh, my hubby. He just goes along for the ride. He doesn't care where we stay and honestly how long. Which surprises me. I got 9 nights last year but I think that was pushing it.

His only criteria is that we eat at Chef Mickeys for bfast. But without fail there is at least one day when we are there where he is a total booger. I kid you not. He won't smile and is just down right miserable. I wish I could pin point that particular day ahead of time so I could leave him in the room.

 

[BibbidyBobbidyBoo]

I guess I am lucky cuz my husband let's me make all the trip decisions. All though he vetoed us staying at AKL for 7 night concierge. oh, well at least I get to go!

LOL
you're not alone but you know we do have to make them THINK they are making the decisions sometimes.

Ugh, my hubby. He just goes along for the ride. He doesn't care where we stay and honestly how long. Which surprises me. I got 9 nights last year but I think that was pushing it.

His only criteria is that we eat at Chef Mickeys for bfast. But without fail there is at least one day when we are there where he is a total booger. I kid you not. He won't smile and is just down right miserable. I wish I could pin point that particular day ahead of time so I could leave him in the room.

That sounds like my DH... he goes along for the ride although not all that interested in going there. He's into Scuba diving so he IS looking forward to our cruise more than any Disney trip we've ever taken. LOL He usually has one day that he's a "booger" as you put it and I also have felt like I wish I could figure out which day that was going to be. LOL

 

[ZIPBAGS]

I guess I am the odd one here. I am the Disney fanatic and DW enjoys Disney...but doesn't get that into it and doesn't feel the need to go every year. But, I am working on it. My kids are really into Disney. And like I tell my wife and others who ask why I want to take them all of the time is this...My kids are only young for a short time. When they are older we can do trips to various other places (caribbean..etc.) But, for now this is their favorite place. And now that my oldest is about to start middle school. I am feel the need to keep that link to her younger days.

Back to my DW. I am making progress. I had taken my older 2 DD's to Disney last November. She stayed home with baby. And I got to her to go this August for the longest we have ever gone (6 nights) and we have even discussed becoming a DVC owner.

 

[bridgettesmom]

Excuse me, are you talking about my husband?... Seriously, he is the same way, not only with Disney, but, with every vacation we take . His perfect vacation consist of 5 days, not 6, 5 days.The funny thing is ..that most of the time we end up staying more nights, because, we are having such a great time The good news is he is finally changing and for our next trip we are staying 6 nights and he suggested we stay an extra night to go to Tampa So, there is still some hope for your husband, maybe, one day he'll outgrow the 5 days is enough phase

 

[Arielle22]

My dh always liked Disney. However I have managed to suck my husband into the Disboards. It started slowly with me reading him threads. Then it went to him reading over my shoulder, then him reading under my user name. Now dh is "Goofyfatherof2". It used to be that he couldn't understand how I could obsess so much over the trip. Now he has the latest news before I do!

We are going for 10 days in Nov for our 20th anniversary. Usually I plan all our trips and just tell him when to show up. Planning this trip has been fun since he has made some decisions. We picked BW together and he had certain restaurants he wants to visit. Before I felt like he was just humoring me but now he is an active participant.

 

[marycaym]

My hubby is not a disney fan, in fact he considers disney a "trip" not a "vacation" since there is so much to see and do, he does not want to be told we have to be up at 7am and catching the monorail for chef mickey's by 7:45. So we do our disney trips and disney cruises w/my mother - who lives in OH and we don't see often. We also do a family vacation with just the 4 of us (me, hubby and the 2 girls ) and that is usually a "vacation", alot of laying on the beach and just relaxing usually on the Outerbanks. To be honest, I tend not to force the disney issue since I know he will be miserable and therefore make it miserable for me and the girls.

I think in your case you have to compromise, you want to go to disney and he is willing to go but only for so long, so compromise go to disney so you can get your fix but only stay as long as he is willing.

Hope you enjoy your trip!

 

[milmore104]

I hope this gives you a little hope... My DH was the same way didn't want to take off work and didn't want to spend the money to go thought we could have just as much fun at home and not spend the dough! Well I had decided to book a trip for 10 days. I hadn't been to WDW since I was a girl so I had some planning to do. I picked to stay at OKW in a 1 bedroom it looked like something he'd like nice and quite when the parks got to be too much! We you know what I'm going to say next after that first trip I can't seem to keep him from asking "HOW MANY DAYS TILL WE GO HOME AGAIN?" he is a HUGE Disneyholic now! And the money issue NEVER comes up he just asks that I not over stretch our budget. I'm sure once your DH gets there and relaxes he'll LOVE it and become a Disney holic himself. After all it is the happiest place on earth. My DH loves it even more now that we have a child he can bring!

 

[MOMOFMNM]

I hope this gives you a little hope... My DH was the same way didn't want to take off work and didn't want to spend the money to go thought we could have just as much fun at home and not spend the dough! Well I had decided to book a trip for 10 days. I hadn't been to WDW since I was a girl so I had some planning to do. I picked to stay at OKW in a 1 bedroom it looked like something he'd like nice and quite when the parks got to be too much! We you know what I'm going to say next after that first trip I can't seem to keep him from asking "HOW MANY DAYS TILL WE GO HOME AGAIN?" he is a HUGE Disneyholic now! And the money issue NEVER comes up he just asks that I not over stretch our budget. I'm sure once your DH gets there and relaxes he'll LOVE it and become a Disney holic himself. After all it is the happiest place on earth. My DH loves it even more now that we have a child he can bring!

that is soooo sweet!! thank you to all who have replied!! You are all awesome and I am blessed to get even one night at the Poly and 1 day at the MK...and now I get 6 days and all parks...and that is our compromise!! Seems very fortunate if you ask me He is getting a bit more excited as I have sent him links from Allears on the Poly, and the stunt shows and restaurants he will like!! Today I said to him "I got CM's for our 1st dinner!! And wake me up at 5am to get lunch at the castle for the next day" he said..."and how much is THAT costing me??" I sweetly replied "it is all taken care of, it included in your package price!!" He said, "WOW!" I say, we get to eat with Cindy and Belle and Snow White!" To which he replied:

"Sounds great! Do you think they will be wearing little to no clothing?"

GEESH...MEN!!!

He was kidding of course...
at least I hope so!!

 

[tlbwriter]

Well, now you get to create some good memories to erase the bad ones.

 

[milmore104]

It sounds like he's starting to come around. Wait till he gets there and sees the look on yours and your childrens face he'll know he make the right compromise! have a Magical Vacation the first of many!!!!

 

[lovesdumbo]

Sounds like he might like Marrakesh Restaurant in Morocco in Epcot with the belly dancers and while I've never been I hear the food is good too.

 

[pamouselover]

My Dh is not that bad but not all crazy like me.
Even my DD and DS dont seem to excited about going again. They say I am to into DISNEY. We are not going Mom for two months!
They call me a disney freak. I guess because I just love the planning part and nobody here wants to help me plan anything.
I cant even get them to do there MUST SEE LIST.
My Dh does like disney just not enough for me, yet he did get excited about eating in the castle. But I think he has a crush on snow white!
ZIPBAGS -Boy a man that loves disney!
Boy your wife does not know how lucky she is!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

 

[jimmalru80]

This is one "non-grumpy" DH that would cause quite an uproar if he wasn't allowed to go to WDW with his family. If they want to go, I'm leading the way. I'll book the vacation, call for ARs, set up a schedule and make sure I'm packed and ready to go a month before. There is nowhere on earth that I would rather be than with my "gang" at WDW!! Nowhere.

 

[Lou-Ann]

My hubby was left with much debt as well although not physically scarred as yours was. he was not into vacations of any kind and worked constantly to get out of debt. It took me 10 yrs after our marriage to go to Disney World. He kept saying, "Ive seen Disneyland and have no desire to go". He was not on the monorail for 10 minutes when he decided we needed annual passes which we renewed for the next 10 yrs. He has turned his compulsion into Disney trips and if we do not go 2 x per yr he is not a happy camper. May this happen to you as well......I am sending you lots of dust. If he is into trains.......Book him on the Train tour. It is cheap and very manish. Mine has done it several times and loves it. Kind of makes it personal for him.... Good luck.