DH left...

[summerrluvv]

I work, but he does make a bit more (20k) than I do. He also has a substantial 401(k) and pension.

I've changed the password for our banking account to some random numbers/letters.

Sorry you have to go through this

You need to do more than changing the password though. If it's a joint account, he can go to the bank and withdraw the money no? You need to move the money into your own account where he can't touch it. Like someone else said, move half if you don't want to move it all.

 

[Wishing on a star]

[QUOTE='Canes Fan]his assistant would be the first one out the door.[/QUOTE]

Nope, I am not so sure..... it would be the OP's DH, as the 'boss' this would be a 'sexual harrassment' liability, and HE would be the guilty party.

 

[MinnieM3]

I'm so sorry for all you have been going through. Take care of yourself and your kids. You may want to document what he's doing/how he's treating DD.

 

[Wishing on a star]

Sorry you have to go through this

You need to do more than changing the password though. If it's a joint account, he can go to the bank and withdraw the money no? You need to move the money into your own account where he can't touch it. Like someone else said, move half if you don't want to move it all.

That's right... your secret password only protects you for tonight... He can't do anything electronicly. Tomorrow, as the bank opens, he can walk in the bank, and do whatever he wishes.

 

[Honu]

[QUOTE='Canes Fan]his assistant would be the first one out the door.[/QUOTE]

Sometimes it's both, but it's common for the employer to request the resignation of the manager to reduce their liability of a sexual harassment suit by the subordinate. Unfortunately, I've had to deal with this (fire people) for this reason more than I'd like to admit.

 

[Pop Daddy]

hey

 

[pfishgirl]

so sorry for your troubles with DD & H

 

['Canes Fan]

I know he's hurt you in ways you can't describe, Mama. but you need to smack the crap out of his head and get him focused on the kids. if he shows no interest, take him to the cleaners. when my wife and I separated, the only thing that kept me going was our daughter.

 

[Tjaleks]

Oh, Honey I am so sorry for the pain you are going through. Believe me you are a strong individual, (kids do that to you), and you will get through this. I know it may not seem like it right now, but the light at the end of this tunnel will be shining bright and will welcome you with open arms. (((HUGS)))

There has been a lot of great advice here tonight. Use what you can to make sure you secure a good future for yourself and your kids.

 

['Canes Fan]

Nope, I am not so sure..... it would be the OP's DH, as the 'boss' this would be a 'sexual harrassment' liability, and HE would be the guilty party.

no, sexual harassment has to be brought 'aware' to the employer. trust me, me it's not a factor. you can be fired from virtually any position in the USA with no recourse.

 

[The Mystery Machine]

{{{hugs}}}

 

['Canes Fan]

but we're WAY off-course here. this thread isn't about employment practices. it's about a family divided. and I'm sorry for getting off topic

 

[tnhillbilly]

About his job. Why bite the hand off that feeds you? for short term enjoyment? Let him keep his job and her job and let them pay you and your dd bills. Think in long term here not how do I get even now.

 

[Serena]

 

[jenny2]

Second, talk to your DD and tell her this was NOT her fault! Kids can get some wierd thinking going when life is in crisis. If she was in trouble and you told Daddy to go she may later think it was her fault.

This is EXACTLY what I was going to say. Chances are she WILL think it was her fault, especially if daddy left as soon as she did something "bad." I was that little girl once, and when my parents separated I *knew* it was because of me. I remember feeling so badly that it was all my fault that they weren't together, and that daddy had a girlfriend, and that mommy was crying again. It was all my fault. It didn't matter how many times they told me it wasn't my fault, I KNEW it was something I did or something I said. Of course, now as an adult with children of my own that idea is crazy. But I'll never forget those feelings.

Hugs to you... hang in there...

 

[TheDisneyBunch]

Oh I am so sorry for what you are going through. Sending huge ((HUGS)) your way! I wish I had the right words to say. I can not imagine how I would feel in that situation! I really hope for the best for you and your daughter!

 

[Mysteria]

Just wanted to add and tell you to be strong. You will get through this.

Myst

 

[Tracey1974]

 

[Microcell]

I am so sorry you have to go through all this. I hope he gives you everything out of guilt. He probably won't I would imagine he will make it out to be your fault. You got good advice here. You might want to go to an ATM first thing before the bank opens to get some cash to have on hand, I don't know how fast he would work, but couldn't your accounts get frozen?

 

[NJOYURLIFE]

Hugs and pixie dust to you and your children.