DH laid off 6 months ago..when will it end?

[corinascot]

I haven't visited the DIS boards in months. We cancelled our Dec 08 trip to WDW b/c of the economy and DH was laid off in January. I work pt but have been lucky to pick up some extra hours, but this isn't the financial future we pictured.

I haven't even thought of WDW in months and I used to always be planning a trip. Jeez, I feel guilty for even looking at DIS stuff, but I'm having a down day.

I know I should be grateful we're not losing our house, but we were such good savers and have always lived below our means. Now I kind of wonder...what's the difference?

Anyone else in the same boat? (whine, whine, whine..)

 

[mickeyboat]

Sorry you are having such a rough time. I hope things look up for you soon.

Denae

 

[Buckalew11]

The difference, to me, is a a decent night's sleep. While tough economic times can make sleeping tough because of worry, etc., I would not get a wink of sleep if I lived above my means and was in hock up to my eyeballs. As long as we are able to get by--even if it is month to month--I can at least feel good about that.

I think everyone needs a little break from reality and Disney is a good relief. As long as you are planning to a trip and putting it all on a CC that you know you can't pay off, enjoy a little relief of visiting Disney through the net.

I hope things get better soon for your family. Things are looking up here a bit. My DH's company is slashing jobs this month but he chose to get out before they threw him out. He's moved onto a new job in a totally different career. I'm hoping it all works out.

 

[DisneyBlonde]

{{{{corinascot}}}}

I feel your pain. I left my job of 15 years in July 2007 to move in with my new husband in a different state...have not been able to find work here. I worked for a few months then got laid off...and my unemployment is about to run out because it's based on the last so-many months, much of which I did not work. We went from being comfortable to scraping the bottom of the barrel.

I refuse to cancel our upcoming vacation because I really need to get away, and we got free dining...how much better of a deal can you get? But I NEED to find work soon or we're gonna be in a whole mess of trouble.

 

[EmmersIsTheMommy]

My husband lost his job in Feb of this year. We JUST got a new job. We didn't have any savings but we did get our tax return which helped us with some unemployment. We survived with help from family (moved in with my mom) but it was NOT EASY.

I swear I developed 3 ulcers, I got really depressed. What helped the most is talking it out (like you're doing here) and realizing that nothing lasts forever.

It helped us grow closer as a family..DH being home a lot. We made a lot of family time..we did (free) things we wouldn't normally have been able to do with DH working.

We got a job and I started planning a Disneyland trip RIGHT THEN. It's not for 10 more months..but I figured we deserved it. It might help you all to tenitively plan a trip WAY in the future. Or just start a WDW jar. Pennies can't hurt when you finally can afford one, right?

I'm so glad to hear you're not losing your house and that you're used to living a little frugally. We were too, and we also realized where we could cut the fat in our daily lives.

*huge hugs* I'm so sorry. It was an awful time in our lives.

 

[Hercules10]

Anyone else in the same boat? (whine, whine, whine..)

No your not alone. Friend of mine was laid off 7mths ago after 21 years. They didn't even give her severence. Just a box with her things.

This economy has bashed a lot of folks. Hang tough and good luck.

 

[Pugdog007]

I hear you and feel for you. I was laid off back in December from a job I'd been in for 10 years. Found a new job quickly (in a month), then got laid off AGAIN in May. I'm fortunate as well, in that I had a severance from the first job as well as some savings. But it is depressing as that money "disappears" each month from my account, when I just want to work.

Hugs that we'll all get through this.

 

[manning]

{{{{corinascot}}}}

I feel your pain. I left my job of 15 years in July 2007 to move in with my new husband in a different state...have not been able to find work here. I worked for a few months then got laid off...and my unemployment is about to run out because it's based on the last so-many months, much of which I did not work. We went from being comfortable to scraping the bottom of the barrel.

I refuse to cancel our upcoming vacation because I really need to get away, and we got free dining...how much better of a deal can you get? But I NEED to find work soon or we're gonna be in a whole mess of trouble.

Dave Ramsey would like to talk to you. You're hurting financially!! The last thing you need to do is spend what you don't have. The prudent thing to do is cancel the vacation. The money you spend may be needed for that "whole mess of trouble"!!

Good luck to you, things will get better.

I would make that Disney trip a "I got a new job" celebration.

 

[katiedid36]

I too feel your pain. My DH was laid off in May. He has sent out over 100 resumes. He has only had 1 call back. We got a Pin code for our trip in Decemeber. I have until October to cancel but I am holding out hope he will get a job & we can still go. It is a slim hope but it is still hope. Keep your chin up what doesn't kill us will make us stronger!

 

[minniecarousel]

I promise you, unemployment will not last forever.

My DH was down-sized Dec., 2007. He worked some contract work for about 6 months - then nothing for another 6 months. He started a job last Dec at about 2/3 his previous salary. It's a job he likes, with less responsibility and a much shorter commute.

There will be something down the road for him. He just has to do everything he can (I assume he's looking) and you have to believe that this will end.

Hang in there.

 

[tink1957]

I'm so sorry you're having trouble, I feel your pain. I was laid off from my job of 11 years in Oct 08 due to the business closing, got a new job in Feb & was laid off again in April due to lack of work. I'm lucky enough to have a small inheritance from my Mom & unemployment, but it's not going to last forever. I put down my deposit for our Sept trip in March & I refused to cancel my DD's graduation trip as I had promised her this for several years. Luckily, I have the money to pay for the trip in full, but I still worry about the future.

 

[apirateslifeforme]

I lost my job in February. I did data entry and there is NOTHING out there that would pay me even close to what I made - heck, it doesn't even come close to what I get from unemployment. I KNOW I can do more, so I've been applying for administrative jobs. Nobody calls. I'm qualified, the unemployment office officials are of the opinion that my resume and cover letter are "wonderful," yet still... *crickets*

I've been registered through WIA to get some retraining...maybe this way I can get a job close to what I had before. Of course, even that has been a difficult process

I understand...it's very discouraging and frustrating. Hope things work out soon.

 

[elizke]

I'm with ya! I'm a stay at home mom who's been trying to rejoin the workforce for the last year, and now DH was let go at the beginning of June and is not working for the first time in our 23 year marriage. It's really a huge bummer. These stupid horrible times!!!

We took money out of his retirement because that's the only way we can survive on our own and keep the house and insurance for the family (us and DD10 & DS13). We could not afford things like repeated Disney trips even before this happened, so at least I don't have to miss that. And I must say DH has been very positive and has worked harder at getting a job than anyone I've ever seen. But if this goes on too long I know the mood around here could change and I just hope we don't get to that point.

I've stepped up my own efforts to get a job and some of DH's leads look promising, and I picture myself at some point saying how it turned out to be a good thing, since it led to him getting a better job or my finally getting back to work.

At the risk of going on too long, that has been the case for us before. DH to be was laid off 3 months before we got married long ago. He already had two kids (7 and 9 at the time), so we weren't just starting out with no responsibility financially, and it was tough. There went our honeymoon fund, etc. By wedding day he was working again, and it was that job that led to bigger and better things for him. So that was always my silver lining story, and I just hope this one will end as another.

Good luck to all!

 

[Mickeyistheman]

OP...many many many

You are going to need them. I got laid off from a job that I LOVED!!! I was doing it for 15 years and then poof gone. So far nothing. As another poster stated you send out all these resume's and you are more than qualified and they still don't even send you an email or leave you a message saying sorry we can't hire you.

It is very depressing, I have gone through many ups and downs. Some really bad downs. If you are working now and have a job and can pay for that Disney trip now DO IT!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! You need to have some form of something that makes you happy or else you will be depressed like myself.

I live in NJ and there are no decent paying jobs available. Just to pay my regular bills I would literally have to work 2 partime jobs 7 days a week. Now am I at the point yet...no but my fear is that IF I do get hired and things get worse BAM I get laid off again like a few others. So many fears and so much frustration.

You are not alone and I will tell you this...don't be afraid to come on here. I have had some very dark moments and many fellow Dis friends on here made me smile and gave me some hope. So come on down and talk about it. You will feel better.

Good Luck to you and your family

 

[Buckalew11]

I just want to say that very often you have to take a job that pays less--a lot less. My DH's new job is almost a 50% paycut! Yikes. It is scary, but he wasn't going to be drawing a check so you do what you gotta do and work where there is a paycheck to pay the bills. We're in the process of building a house. This is a scary time for us personally but it has also drawn us closer.

DH went ahead a re-registered for nursing school and is studying after work everyday. He passed his first test and has 7 more to complete. We are hoping that this change of jobs will someday be worth it for him.
I'll probably look for some part time nighttime work soon. I work part time now and do not want to physically take on more of what I do. It is just very hard work and I'm ready for retirement--not more hours, LOL.

Lots of stories here. People are hurting and worried. Let's hope things start looking up soon!

 

[JoiseyMom]

You are not alone. DH was laid off for 12 months and doing contracting work before he got a full time job this past May. He did have to take a 30k pay cut....but we made it through. This current job he loves and there is lots of potential.

We went though this back in 2001 where he was laid off quite a few times and underemployed for awhile. We have survived it all.

I am sure something will turn up soon!! Good luck!

 

[wic0721]

I know how you're feeling, I was laid off from my job of 11 years in March. The job opportunites out there are pretty depressing! I make more on unemployment! I am planning on taking some courses and change careers though, and luckily my husband's job is very secure.

We are going to Disney in September, I'm getting free dining and was one of the lucky people who got an upgrade.

I refuse to let this crappy economy get me down!

 

[corinascot]

Thanks for all the kind words and hugs. For a time I thought a trip to WDW would cheer us up, but our summer vacation this year was a 2 night trip to Toronto and it just wasn't that fun. Too much worry about the money we were spending. I'd rather take a celebratory trip when dh gets a job or I get a full time job.

He's 56 and he was a manufacturing account rep...not that employable, so a very large part of me thinks he will never find a job like he had before. We're looking at jobs that pay under $30,000 now and he's not even getting interviews. Very discouraging.

Good luck to all you job hunters.

 

[kaytieeldr]

Anyone else in the same boat? (whine, whine, whine..)

Pretty much. I got laid off just a couple of months ago, but I haven't even had an interview - and I'm my sole support. I'm also in denial, having booked a September 2009 trip in September 2008 and not being willing to cancel it yet.