DH is not a fan....

[izzy25]

So does anyone else have to deal with their significant other not liking Disney? We as a family (myself, DH and daughter) along with my parents went to Disney last September. My daughter was 6 at the time and I'm really wanting to plan another trip for end of Oct 2016 but to stay on grounds this time (we stayed in a Condo last year) and I want to re-do MNSSHP (we missed the parade because of the rain.) our overall experience last year was great, but we went when it was abnormally rainy there so we were rained out a lot. My husband is less then thrilled about wanting to plan another trip. Our daughter will be 8 and I feel to take her while she's young and excited about it. Does anyone else deal with this? I want to plan this trip, but don't want him to be a sour puss about it all the time.

 

[slickpoetry]

what has he specifically said he didn't like about the first trip?

 

[AliceinMaryland]

Can you maybe try and get him involved in the planning process? Maybe if he figures out something to do and it's his idea, he will be proud of it and enjoy it more.

 

[izzy25]

He's not a fan of crowds, he'd rather do other vacations (which OK I can see, however our daughter is still a little young to appreciate other things then rides and swimming and stuff. lol) Plus, I don't plan on this trip being Disney Disney Disney. Yes I want to stay on grounds this time, however I want to plan a day and drive over to Clearwater to see the ocean and spend the day at the beach, have more resort days, etc. Our last trip was very hectic. flew in, that evening we went to MNSSHP, and every day after we were on the go. we really had no down time and I think that may be where he was just overwhelmed with it. so I guess we will see. Like I said I want to plan these trips while our daughter is young and still wants to go. It's honestly ALL she talks about since we went last year.

 

[GeraldineW]

My DH is not a fan of Disney so I deal with that every time I want to plan a trip. My DH won’t stay home/let us go without him, so he comes along grudgingly. I do all the planning because DH has no interest. I make sure we spend a good amount of time in his favorite park (Epcot) and have several opportunities to ride his favorite rides (Soarin and Spaceship Earth). I make sure we go to the Rainforest Cafe because it has been a tradition he enjoys and we no longer have any at home I give him the freedom to stay in the room if he wants, or go off on his own, while we hit the park or the pool or whatever but mostly he stays with us. I remind him that any complaining he does ruins the trip for me and so if he opts to come along then he needs to not complain in my earshot.

 

[Gumbo4x4]

Push it back another year, IMO.

 

[loves to dive]

My DH doesn't like vacations, period, unless they involve diving and even those he will only take about every other year. DS (my son not his) and I love to travel. We go, he stays home and has time alone which he loves, we have vacation which we love. Win, win. DS is now grown so I take a lot of solo trips, again win, win.

 

[cjbcam]

My DH tolerates it but is coming around. We had a trip planned for November (had to cancel because of work) it was his idea. So now we have another trip planned in a few months.
I think he's come around because he knows the kids and I love it. We also do a lot that he wants.

 

[pooch]

My DH doesn't like vacations, period, unless they involve diving and even those he will only take about every other year. DS (my son not his) and I love to travel. We go, he stays home and has time alone which he loves, we have vacation which we love. Win, win. DS is now grown so I take a lot of solo trips, again win, win.

Wow!

 

[Kathryn777]

This is our ... 5th trip since my 8 year old was born (I think). Every year as my husband gets more used to Disney he likes it better. Make sure you're listening to what he wants to do. (As in, not just booking stuff your kid will like, I know a lot of people travel this way but it just aggravates my husband to no end)

 

[alliecat523]

My DH likes to vacation but hates Disney. He hates the kids and crowds. He's also a big guy so rides aren't fun for him. So my DD and I leave him at home and go ourselves. We've done this for the last 7 years. Everyone is happy!

 

[22Tink]

My DH has done one trip to WDW and 5 trips to DLR and says he's had enough Disney. I'm going to WDW in November with 2 of my kids and he's choosing not to come. I'm fine with that as long as he doesn't try to stop me from going! Lol! While he still enjoys other vacations, I'll be hard pressed to get him to do another Disney trip.

 

[Sytrace]

October would be a good time to go. It is still a bit questionable weatherwise, but less rain than August and September brings.
It is good to plan a beach day or two, but keep in mind the water will be a bit cooler in October.
The Gulf side (Clearwater, St. Petersburg etc) is going to be slightly warmer to swim in than the Atlantic (Cocoa Beach, Daytona etc)

The Food and Wine Festival will be happening in EPCOT which is one of my DH's favorite things to do at the park. Walk, eat and drink around the world is always a winner. Maybe have him plan a day or two at EPCOT where he can pick out a favorite band or group to see at the American Pavillion? He might be more excited about a trip if he helps plan a small part of it. Nothing too overwhelming of course because planning can be very frustrating. lol

If he is not into crowds, then maybe he can hang at the hotel when you do the MNSSHP with your DD?

I would suggest getting him involved but on a smaller scale so that he can pick some things he would like to do and yet not feel overwhelmed and not in the loop.
Good luck!

 

[ArwenMarie]

I think I would gently remind him that this phase of your daughter being so excited to go to Disney is not going to last forever, well at least not for all kids. I remember I was on the fence last year about doing the Princess Tea at the Grand Floridian, because of the price obviously lol. Well, I went for it and it was magical and wonderful. Then this year, guess who won't wear a Princess Dress anymore! I know this sounds cheesy, but I was so glad we went and had made those memories. It was such a special afternoon for her and I, probably even moreso for me. I'm not saying your daughter won't like WDW forever, but the phase she is in right now may pass and turn into something else.

 

[eliza61]

So does anyone else have to deal with their significant other not liking Disney? We as a family (myself, DH and daughter) along with my parents went to Disney last September. My daughter was 6 at the time and I'm really wanting to plan another trip for end of Oct 2016 but to stay on grounds this time (we stayed in a Condo last year) and I want to re-do MNSSHP (we missed the parade because of the rain.) our overall experience last year was great, but we went when it was abnormally rainy there so we were rained out a lot. My husband is less then thrilled about wanting to plan another trip. Our daughter will be 8 and I feel to take her while she's young and excited about it. Does anyone else deal with this? I want to plan this trip, but don't want him to be a sour puss about it all the time.

Let me ask you, how would you feel if someone planned a vacation knowing you'd rather go some where else?

Do some thing he'd enjoy and do Disney some time later. Your daughter will have fun because she is with her family. Disney is not the only place on the planet where families can make memories

 

[DisneyPrince1982]

"Do you like Disney" is a vetting question I use on all first dates. I see what their reaction is. If it's a flat out dismissal of all things Disney, then they are dismissed from the date. If they think its for kids but still somewhat fun, I can probably mold them.

 

[eliza61]

I think I would gently remind him that this phase of your daughter being so excited to go to Disney is not going to last forever, well at least not for all kids. I remember I was on the fence last year about doing the Princess Tea at the Grand Floridian, because of the price obviously lol. Well, I went for it and it was magical and wonderful. Then this year, guess who won't wear a Princess Dress anymore! I know this sounds cheesy, but I was so glad we went and had made those memories. It was such a special afternoon for her and I, probably even moreso for me. I'm not saying your daughter won't like WDW forever, but the phase she is in right now may pass and turn into something else.

Imo that using your kids to manipulate a person. Not being snarky but what about the feelings of the spouse.

For me, family vacations are about FAMILY not just the kids. Now let me say I've never been a person to believe that disneyworld is the only place on the planet where my kids could make memories.

Ironically my husband died when my kids where in the late teens, a few years ago I asked them what some of the most precious memories of their dad where. not one was of Disney.

I asked them what where some of their favorite vacations. Once again, Disney did not make the cut.

I think forcing someone we're supposed to love to go somewhere they don't want to go kinda sucks. I certainly couldn't spend thousands of bucks knowing my partner rather not.

 

[izzy25]

I think I would gently remind him that this phase of your daughter being so excited to go to Disney is not going to last forever, well at least not for all kids. I remember I was on the fence last year about doing the Princess Tea at the Grand Floridian, because of the price obviously lol. Well, I went for it and it was magical and wonderful. Then this year, guess who won't wear a Princess Dress anymore! I know this sounds cheesy, but I was so glad we went and had made those memories. It was such a special afternoon for her and I, probably even moreso for me. I'm not saying your daughter won't like WDW forever, but the phase she is in right now may pass and turn into something else.

This exactly is my point! We have plenty of years to do other vacations. Last year when it was our daughter's first trip, i cried walking into MNSSHP and seeing her face light up when she saw the castle and when we watched the fireworks. That memory alone makes it all worth it to me to take her back because she had an amazing time and it's all she talks about. She is our only child and will be our only so I don't mind spoiling her with trips like this.

 

[DisneyPrince1982]

So does anyone else have to deal with their significant other not liking Disney? We as a family (myself, DH and daughter) along with my parents went to Disney last September. My daughter was 6 at the time and I'm really wanting to plan another trip for end of Oct 2016 but to stay on grounds this time (we stayed in a Condo last year) and I want to re-do MNSSHP (we missed the parade because of the rain.) our overall experience last year was great, but we went when it was abnormally rainy there so we were rained out a lot. My husband is less then thrilled about wanting to plan another trip. Our daughter will be 8 and I feel to take her while she's young and excited about it. Does anyone else deal with this? I want to plan this trip, but don't want him to be a sour puss about it all the time.

Why not do Disneyland instead? You've got all the cool stuff to do in LA and combine it with a few days in the Disney parks so it's not overkill for DH.

 

[cakebaker]

My husband never cared for WDW either. It just wasn't something he liked. So, my girls and I went and he stayed home. Anytime we went to WDW, he got to choose the destination for a trip somewhere for the two of us. It really worked quite well. He didn't mind us going because he knew we loved it and he enjoyed planning for the adult trip without having to compromise on where we would go.