DF parents

[dclhoney10]

My DF's mom has recently taken very ill, and her doctors do not believe she will be healthy enough to make the trip to Disney World in 2 months for our wedding. In fact, they don't think she will be out of the hospital until a week or two before we leave. DF's dad is her caretaker so he will not be able to attend the wedding either. This news has been really tough on all of us, especially his mom. We are trying to find ways to include them in the ceremony, some how honor his mom without memorializing her before her time.

Has anyone every had or known someone who had this happen? Any suggestions on how we can make them still be a part of the ceremony long distance, or bring some parts of it back home to them? I am open to all suggestions!

 

[WDWBride04/19/2010]

I'm so sorry. I know there is a videography business that allows for a webcast. Also, you could see if you could bring back a corsage for her, and a boutonniere for him. If you are allowing people to take centerpieces (and I don't even know if that can be done w/Disney, but if it can), you could bring one home for them. If flower petals are being tossed, you could bring back some of those.

 

[PrincessShea]

That's horrible. I am so sorry I would just recommend lots and lots of videos and pictures. If the webcast isn't possible, maybe someone can hold up a phone or you can call them immediately afterward.

 

[Wish on a Star]

Is there any way you could record them reading a passage or poem or toast and somehow play it at the reception?

 

[Sarah <3 Disney]

Or maybe take something from both of them to wear on your wedding. Perhaps a brooch from his mother (attach to your bouquet) and have DF wear a pair of his dad's cuff links. This way they are contributing to your wedding day. And if you are honeymooning there, definitely send postcards to them during the trip, so they know you are thinking of them!

 

[lpizzuro123]

I would definately try to get the webcam. Our video company did this but we did not use it as most everyone came to our wedding. It is Stan from STVS that does the webcam. Megkate on the Disboards is doing one next Monday. Maybe you can watch it and see what you think.

Let me know if you need Stan's contact information.

Linda

 

[lpizzuro123]

Here is a link to MegKate's PJ.
http://www.disboards.com/showthread.php?t=1933153&page=51

Post #759 has instructions to watch here webcam. I am definately going to try to watch. I think it will be interesting to watch this.

If you watch you can really see what your DF's parents will see if you guys decide to do a webcam.

Where is your ceremony?

Linda

 

[soulmates]

Is there any way you could record them reading a passage or poem or toast and somehow play it at the reception?

Great idea!!

Or maybe take something from both of them to wear on your wedding. Perhaps a brooch from his mother (attach to your bouquet) and have DF wear a pair of his dad's cuff links. This way they are contributing to your wedding day. And if you are honeymooning there, definitely send postcards to them during the trip, so they know you are thinking of them!

My son got married this past June. My grandmother passed 10 years ago, so I wore her broche..my mother was so touched. For the day, all of us were there together.

 

[alwaysdisney]

Great idea!!


My son got married this past June. My grandmother passed 10 years ago, so I wore her broche..my mother was so touched. For the day, all of us were there together.

Thanks for the idea Soulmates. My mother passed away 5 years ago, and planning a wedding without her has been very hard. The happiest day of my life, will also be the saddest.

 

[kmg148]

Everyone has some great ideas! I really love the idea of a brooch and cuff links, as well as a video of them that can be shown at your wedding!

I'm sorry that she is sick.

 

[soulmates]

Thanks for the idea Soulmates. My mother passed away 5 years ago, and planning a wedding without her has been very hard. The happiest day of my life, will also be the saddest.

I'm so sorry for your loss. My Memere' lived with us since I was 4 so she really was a HUGE influence in my life. I was THRILLED when my son met her, when he was just 2. Sadly, her health declined soon after and her mind was lost to Alzheimers.
Wearing her broche was so important to me...just knowing, she was there with us not just in spirit, but apart of her, physically there, was so comforting. Yes, your wedding will be bittersweet, but having a piece of her with you, I PROMISE, brings some comfort.

 

[WDWBride04/19/2010]

Is there any way you could record them reading a passage or poem or toast and somehow play it at the reception?

Or maybe take something from both of them to wear on your wedding. Perhaps a brooch from his mother (attach to your bouquet) and have DF wear a pair of his dad's cuff links. This way they are contributing to your wedding day. And if you are honeymooning there, definitely send postcards to them during the trip, so they know you are thinking of them!

I like both of these ideas!

My son got married this past June. My grandmother passed 10 years ago, so I wore her broche..my mother was so touched. For the day, all of us were there together.

I'm wearing my grandmother's wedding dress, and my other grandmother gave me a necklace my grandfather had given her.

Thanks for the idea Soulmates. My mother passed away 5 years ago, and planning a wedding without her has been very hard. The happiest day of my life, will also be the saddest.

DF's mom passed away 11yrs. ago and he feels the same way. I know so many women complain about mother-in-laws, but I wish I were getting one.

 

[rebecca_boo]

I am so sorry that she is sick!

My DF's parents aren't coming either. They kept talking about the expenses and we told them we had it covered, turns out that it was a cover and the reason they didn't want it there was because his dad can't fly, we didn't even think about that. My DF isn't too close to his parents but it still made me feel awful.

 

[rebecca_boo]

Oh this might be a bit silly but what about having one of your guests make a little video, like while you are getting ready you give some sort of shout out and thanks to them, and then they get something from your DF and different members of your wedding party.

 

[dclhoney10]

wow, so many responses! Thank you so much everyone for your ideas!

We were talking about having her write a letter or poem or something and have it read at the wedding. If she is up to it, we will ask.

We also really LOVED the webcam or live feed idea, but we are already booked for video with Disney and I have never heard of them doing it. Our wedding is at SBP, so I dont know how well the sound would come out either. I will keep looking into it though!

Ill also ask DF if they have any special momentos that we could have with us for the ceremony to keep them there in spirit.

thanks again everyone!

 

[Petals & Pixie Dust]

wow, so many responses! Thank you so much everyone for your ideas!

We were talking about having her write a letter or poem or something and have it read at the wedding. If she is up to it, we will ask.

We also really LOVED the webcam or live feed idea, but we are already booked for video with Disney and I have never heard of them doing it. Our wedding is at SBP, so I dont know how well the sound would come out either. I will keep looking into it though!

Ill also ask DF if they have any special momentos that we could have with us for the ceremony to keep them there in spirit.

thanks again everyone!

How about Skype? Maybe that is possible? Have you asked Disney...Explain the situation and see what magic they can create for you.