Destashing tips needed

englishteacha

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How do you decide what to keep and what to get rid of? We live in a very small house, and I'm tired of feeling squished! Once I get rid of some stuff (or box it up to yard sale come spring) I want to paint, so it's incentive to start purging now so I have less to move!
 
I've working on purging off and on for months. Start with the things that are easy to get get rid of
- clothes that hasn't been worn for a long time especially if they don't fit, have a stain, missing a button.
- anything that doesn't work.
- anything that was expired.

By the time I finished with those items, it was easier for me to let go of other things I didn't have use for anymore. The clear shelves and organized cabinets became addictive. When it came to deciding about "more important" things - I was honest with how much I used the item, did it enhance my home or life in any way? If the answer wasn't an obvious yes, I purged it. If it was something I could easily replace for less than $5, I got rid of it.


Good luck!
 
I've been purging for months. Read "it's all too much" by Peter Walsh. It seriously changed my life! I started with one room-could be the smallest or the one with the least amount of "stuff". I am RUTHLESS when it comes to purging. And our life is sooooo much better now we can breathe and our kids actually play with their toys!
 

englishteacha said:
How do you decide what to keep and what to get rid of? We live in a very small house, and I'm tired of feeling squished! Once I get rid of some stuff (or box it up to yard sale come spring) I want to paint, so it's incentive to start purging now so I have less to move!

This is me, except it is because I want to move, and I can't bare to start digging through all of the crap that has accumulated over the last 15 years! I don't know where to start, and I feel completely overwhelmed. I honestly just want to put a sign on my front door inviting people in to make me an offer on anything and everything!
 
Start small and don't let it overwhelm you. Cutter is stressful but it happens while we are busy just living. When I have time, I take one room. I de-clutter that room only. It is usually my dining table and kitchen counters that collect the most. The kids rooms usually take me an entire weekend. It feels so good to get rid of unnecessary things;)
 
Definitely check out the destashing thread, it's very motivating! I like to watch the older Hoarders (Older shows are not quite as in the face gross) for immediate inspiration because it just makes me claustrophobic watching how they used to live. We are not even close to hoarders but it always makes me want to throw stuff out!

I love the Don Aslett book, Not for Packrats Only. He really talks about why people save what they do and how to react. It was funny to read some of the things that I actually had in my possession. (I saved my HS dried corsages for years - why????) Stuff like that hit home for me when I first started out.

You are smart to start while your little one is young. THat's when I collected the most and a move made me start to examine what I was holding on to. Good luck & come join us on the thread!
 
I made a drop off donation to our local thrift shop every Saturday of 2010. Sometimes that was a lot of stuff. Some weeks it was just a few items. But, every single Saturday, on my way to the grocery store, I donated what I'd found that week. That kept me from accumulating a big pile of stuff that was just waiting around to be donated and it made it feel like the process was always moving.

I found that if I had a good sized open-topped box it was easier to toss things into than if I had to bend down and tuck a no longer precious item into a bag. (That's not a tip you will find in any how-to book, but it actually helped me.) I kept the box around and emptied it into the donate bags when it filled. Bags got donated, box stayed ready for whatever I discovered the next week.
 
I made a drop off donation to our local thrift shop every Saturday of 2010. Sometimes that was a lot of stuff. Some weeks it was just a few items. But, every single Saturday, on my way to the grocery store, I donated what I'd found that week. That kept me from accumulating a big pile of stuff that was just waiting around to be donated and it made it feel like the process was always moving.

I found that if I had a good sized open-topped box it was easier to toss things into than if I had to bend down and tuck a no longer precious item into a bag. (That's not a tip you will find in any how-to book, but it actually helped me.) I kept the box around and emptied it into the donate bags when it filled. Bags got donated, box stayed ready for whatever I discovered the next week.

Hey fellow Mainah!! (OP, that is!)

I do this, too, with lots of stuff. I am a congenital stasher-stacker; my mom did it, my nana did it, my siblings ALL stack! I have found that if I have to take the time/energy/motivation to actually put something away, I will stack it rather than do the "right thing." SO... I have a manilla envelope thumbtacked to my corkboard, and any receipt that I might want (think present returns, taxes, etc.) goes in there. We have a bag under a shelf in the entryway, and that's where all returnable bottles go; DH will take them downstairs and bag them up (he counts them and returns them by 50s... he makes up for my stackiness!), but now they aren't lined up on the counters, because I kNOW I am not taking them downstairs! In our spare room, we set up DD's old pack-n-play. That's where I throw things until it's time to bag them up (usually managed by DH :rolleyes1) and take them to Goodwill. I have a mailing envelope, and that's where all bills go the minute they come out of the mailbox, and my "filing cabinet" for paid bill stubs is a shoebox in a cabinet above the TV. It used to make DH totally nuts for me to do this, but now he realizes that it's organized, somewhat, and he's calmed down... a bit. It works for me, and that's what counts ::yes::

My biggest issue is GETTING STARTED. I know what to do (just look around the basement and storage room!) BUT nothing's straightforward. To get one room destashed, I'd have to find spots to put everything, but that means trying to find places to put the things that are already IN those rooms. I know I should get rid of stuff, but we are talking about things like our crystal set, DD's porcelain Disney princess figurines, kitchen stuff, etc. Yes, it's been in storage for 9 years now, but still... it's a dilemma. Doing one thing means a series of events has to happen before I can do what needs to be done, and I don't want a big project; I just want that little stack of boxes to go away!
 
but what we have done is completely empty the room. (This might be great for you since you want to paint.) The room will look wonderful. Then, only put back what you love.

You can keep the other things in a box for a month or so. If you miss it, go get it. If not, then donate it.

This works great with the kids rooms. If they don't remember they it then they don't need it back.

Good luck! I've been selling things on CL and love it!
 
Well, I've listed stuff for sale online and have 2 boxes and 3 bags to go to goodwill next week. Our local thrift shop only takes clothes. I'm splurging on a proper desk for myself that has drawers so I can organize my stationery and pencils and things, so that will look nice. And I got all the paint for the living/dining room!
 
Sentimental is the toughest, "but this was from so and so....." Take a photo, save it on a CD. Done. Keep one special object from so and so.

Paper. One day a week you have to deal with paper clutter. It's not fun. Just do it and then reward yourself. You will be able to get it down to an hour a week plus time to pay bills.

Make decisions. Think about all you hang on to because maybe, you might, you just can't decide, what if..... DECIDE!

Keep a date book. You can staple invitations.... right into the book so they don't float around. All those lists of baseball game practices IN the book, not on a sheet of paper.

Start very small, maybe a kitchen drawer, and even that could take a couple of hours. (Keep in mind your goal should be to know what is in a drawer before you open it.) Do NOT buy any kind of organizing "stuff," until you have organized, otherwise you will have the wrong stuff for the job.

Back to the drawer idea. Use old boxes as dividers. Start putting things "with their friends," pencils with pencils, coupons with coupons.....

Don't know what it is and you've had it for years. Pitch.
Never used a coupon in years. Recycle.
Haven't tried a new recipe in years? Recycle.
Broken. Gone
Busted. Just give up. You haven't fixed it yet. Pitch it.
Too dirty/old to use. Pitch it.
Cool, but never used. Donate.

Get yourself a big box and immediately toss in donations.

Now vacuum out the drawer, use the boxes and/or box tops as dividers, and "poof," you now have a drawer that is perfect. Close drawer. Open drawer. Pat yourself on the back. Continue.

Kitchen continued.....
Do you really use old yucky dish towels? (I do. So I keep.) Pitch.
Why do you need fancy cheese servers if you do not entertain? Donate.
Old chipped anything for "just in case." Pitch.
Mismatched anything. Donate! This stuff is very popular. Let it have a new life.

Now on to your sock drawer. Pitch those socks with holes. Get rid of the patterned socks UNLESS you really wear them. How many pairs of fuzzy slipper socks do you really need? (How often do you do wash?)

Now the underwear drawer..... You get the idea.
 
I would love to be able to do this!

However, DH is somewhat of a hoarder, as is DS.

With DH, if it is worth money, he can't get rid of it. Only exception is the local auction house, where he will get at least *something* for it.

DS has a hard time parting with video games that he never plays. And Legos. He has enough mini-figures to purchase a smaller used car with, if he were to sell them!

With me, other than my collection, I am ready just to toss everything.

We did sell a desk that was in the front room. DH immediately commented that the house looked bigger, and DS didn't mind that it was gone either. It felt sooo good to get some space back!
 
I've started one room at a time. I'm currently doing the kitchen. I have 2 boxes - one is donate, 1 is sell.

The trash stuff (if it's expired or broken or we just didn't like it) goes directly into the garbage.

My problem is my husband. He sees something in the box and immediately pulls it out and wants to keep it.
I have managed to sell a few items on Craigs List like the waffle iron and the never used crock pot but I can't get him to stop pulling stuff out of the box and putting it into the basement which is causing another mess.

I really want to get rid of the china but no one around here is buying that stuff. Oh well, maybe someday I'll find someone who wants it.
 
If you are good at selling fantastic! Sadly though, so much clutter is saved and never sold. If a partner was convinced that things should be sold, versus donation, I would suggest creating a time line that everyone agrees with. Maybe one box of stuff per month could be listed on Ebay, or taken to a resale shop.

Personally, if you have a lot of "stuff," then I suggest a donation truck. Pack it up and it is gone. You gave for a good cause, and that feels good

Another idea is to brainstorm how exactly a partner plans to sell the stuff. Often someone will say, "We should sell this," but it is never put in action. Think local clubs, say to sell off train things. Call and ask. Maybe there is a hobby magazine you can list your stuff...... This takes action, and I have found stuff collects quickly, and action often never happens.

Another idea is to find local resale shops, versus Ebay. Locally we have a resale shop that takes furniture. Finding shops to resale women's clothes and children's clothes seems much easier then finding shops to resale art, furniture.....

There is always a garage sale. Massive amount of work! BUT it works. Be sure to have a donation truck scheduled to pick up the leftovers. Do not bring them back into the house.
 
I start small in one area doing only what I can accomplish. This motivates me to continue. My DS and I did his toy closet over the last 2 week-ends. I did 3 piles keep, pack away (playmobil that he loved and took care of), and yardsale. My tip about yardsale is I will price the tub I filled this week so that it is ready when I do my sale in April. I also write on a calendar what area I will work in. For me if I write it down I have to finish it to check it off. This gives me a plan and see who busy our week will be when I plan. We will be very busy next Sat. So I picked a small area to clean out on Friday night. That way I am still focusing on the task each week. We will be finished with all toys before Christmas making room for the new things before they arrive. It is also a motivater for him to clean up. Good luck!
 
Keeping toys for a future generation is another tough one. The way I thought about this is toys that truly span the generation of time: Brio, Playmobile, Animals, and Rokenbok. We pulled out any batteries (Rokenbok), labeled and put it away.

As far as stuffed animals, unless it was the favorite top three, off they went. Same with quilts and other lovies.

I do not keep baby/toddler clothes as keepsakes. I did keep them for my younger son. (Our boys are 5 years apart. Keep in mind that any kind of elastic will break down. Socks, underwear, swimsuits. Pitch.) I have also found that usually, and of course this is different for each family, many family members do not want your hand me downs, or don't appreciate them. Have an honest conversation,, before you start storing stuff for a sister, cousin.... My best friend stored everything for her niece's son, only to find out the niece did not want hand me downs. My best friend paid to mail them out to her. Honest conversations.

Again, take photos of favorite outfits and then sell them. My best friend hates to get rid of old baby clothes. Ask yourself why? Do you really need 5 boxes of baby clothes to remember the itty bitty baby? Nope. Keep one outfit.
 
My DH is in negotiations for a new job in Florida so we are looking at a possible move from Wisconsin. Destashing is a way of life for us right now. I took 9 trips to Goodwill this week and I am sure there will be more. We have given away tons of stuff to family too. At first it was really difficult to let go of some things but now it has become a sort of cleansing feeling. It's kind of freeing to get rid of so much unused stuff.
 
One of my projects soon will be to put all those framed family photos into photo albums, because we don't have room to display them! I sold some baby things and a teapot today, and my Goodwill piles are growing. I've pretty much decided that if I don't love something, it can leave. If it has lots of sentimental value (like my late MIL's china), we'll store it out of the way.
 














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