Disneyland was out of financial reach for millions of lower income families the day it opened, and WDW even more so. We could never have afforded to go to either when I was a child, and we were not poor.
DH and I were just talking about this last night as we watched the people in Times Square. I am 60 and he is 64, so we grew up watching Disney on Sunday nights, the mornign parades on Thanksgiving Day, and watching teh ball drop on NYE. We both grew up wanting to do all of these things, and never did. Both of our family has 4 children and out parents worked hard to provide but we did not have the extra for those dream trips.
Life is not equatable. Parents make decisions in regards to their spending in a multitude of ways, from toys and gifts, to lessons and sports, to vacations and travel. We raised our own children to realize that there will always be families who have more, or whose choices are different than our own. As a kid that meant we never traveled for a vacation so no DLR for us. As an adult we could only save for one big blowout WDW trip for our family, and everything else was either day trips or had to be within driving distance. I think had we heard any one of our kids complain that it was not fair other kids went places we could not afford my DH woudl have rewarded that kid with a whole lot more chores to demonstrate how many hours it takes to pay for something. The destination is not responsible for our level of stay....we are.
We are empty nesters now, so our discretionary funds are different than when our home was filled with kids. There are times we decide to save for a deluxe resort, but that means we make choices for many months. Dinner out or in? We eat at home. Go to the casino? No..even for cheapskates like us, it would take from our vacation savings. We take lunch to work, and limit where we spend out money at home.
It bothers me a lot when people complain about the cost of resorts, or suggest that Disney or anywhere else for that matter, should supply lodging to meet both their expectations as well as well as their needs, at the cost they deem is appropriate. No. Disney is no different thatn any other vacation destination. It is market driven and has no responsibility to be "fair". You go or you do not. You stay onsite at a level you can afford, or you stay offsite for less money. You drive and park, or you take the shuttle. You eat in the parks or you pack your lunch. Even with all the cost cutting there will still be people who never get to go.
I will close this long post with a personal note. My first husband died when he was 25 and I was 23, and I had three little ones. My finances were tight. My IL's went to WDW a lot. They had a camper so they would drive down and stay in FW. ANyway, they woudl tell my little ones that they would take them to Disney World, but what they meant was into the parks. I live in CT. So after fielding so many disappointed questions from my kids, all under 6 BTW, I finally asked my MIL to either figure out how I was going to afford to fly my family to FL or to stop inviting the chidren to join them. She told me to drive. Are you out of your mind???? Drive 1500 miles in the only car I own, alone with three little ones? She thought that was acceptable. Now maybe for her, but not for me. Again, we have choices, and this would never be one of mine. I had to tell her that unless she presented me with airfare for the four of us, or she wanted to take the children along with them, she was to stop giving them a hope for a trip that I was not able to fulfill.
Well they never did take them to WDW, or anywhere else for that matter, but the man I was seeing and have since married, felt that it was important so we saved like the dickens and gave them that one big trip. Funny thing though, it was the biggie for them, 10 days in FL, but they have wonderful memories of shorter vacations close to home, day trips to Riverside Park with their lunch in the car, because we could afford he season passes, but could not justify eating all our meals there each time, and swimming trips to area lakes with the cousins.