Rebelmom67
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I'll try to make this to the point and as unbiased as possible.
I am in the healthcare field, and I must continually further my education with classes and what not. I have a most generous employer who pays for any classes, even if they are in another state. This includes, room, board and all my expenses to get there and back.
There is a huge professional meeting in North Carolina next month and it would fit the bill nicely to satisfy my continuing educational credits. My employer has already paid for my room and classes. Sweet.
My husband could not possibly go because he needs to watch our children for me. They certainly would not be welcomed at these classes and I wouldn't expect it, and the whold atmosphere is totally not family-friendly, it is business, period. Sooooooo (here is where we start getting sticky), I asked a co-worker of mine if she would like to accompany me on this trip. Now, we would stay in the same room and SHE would pay for her food and extras, my employer would NOT pay anything for her. I just basically wanted company and thought we could have a good time. She eagerly accepts and I was looking forward to the trip.
Fastforward to today. There is another co-worker that I'm friendly with, but not "friends", if you know what I mean. My other co-worker (the one going on the trip) is best friends with her. The just friendly co-worker comes up to me and says. "JT, invited me to go with y'all and I'm so excited!!, We can hit all the bars after your classes!!!"
Ummmmm......uhhhhhhhh.....ohhhhhhh......crap. I did NOT invite this woman, I do not want to bar hop after my classes! I invited my other co-worker to keep me company, I didn't expect her to invite our other co-worker along with us!!
My boss has always paid for these excursions (for me, the other girls do not need CE credits) and told me to "have fun". Well, I feel a bit taken advantage of here. I'd rather just go by myself now because I know full well the other girls are just going to want to hang out together, drink and leave me out. They see me as a "free ride". My feelings are really hurt that the co-worker I invited would invite the other one without my consent.
I don't know how to extricate myself from this situation. I thought about letting them have the room that my employer paid for (it is a room with ONE king bed) and me getting another one - but then I don't think it is fair for me to have to pay for a room so they can have a good time.
Am I just being mean and hateful? I would have no problem if I were friends with the girl that my "friend" invited, but I'm not. I know they will end up just using this as their "vacation" and I will be solo and alone the whole time, unless I want to man hunt and get rip roaring drunk every night. I'm just so deflated now. Any advice is welcomed.
I am in the healthcare field, and I must continually further my education with classes and what not. I have a most generous employer who pays for any classes, even if they are in another state. This includes, room, board and all my expenses to get there and back.
There is a huge professional meeting in North Carolina next month and it would fit the bill nicely to satisfy my continuing educational credits. My employer has already paid for my room and classes. Sweet.
My husband could not possibly go because he needs to watch our children for me. They certainly would not be welcomed at these classes and I wouldn't expect it, and the whold atmosphere is totally not family-friendly, it is business, period. Sooooooo (here is where we start getting sticky), I asked a co-worker of mine if she would like to accompany me on this trip. Now, we would stay in the same room and SHE would pay for her food and extras, my employer would NOT pay anything for her. I just basically wanted company and thought we could have a good time. She eagerly accepts and I was looking forward to the trip.
Fastforward to today. There is another co-worker that I'm friendly with, but not "friends", if you know what I mean. My other co-worker (the one going on the trip) is best friends with her. The just friendly co-worker comes up to me and says. "JT, invited me to go with y'all and I'm so excited!!, We can hit all the bars after your classes!!!"
Ummmmm......uhhhhhhhh.....ohhhhhhh......crap. I did NOT invite this woman, I do not want to bar hop after my classes! I invited my other co-worker to keep me company, I didn't expect her to invite our other co-worker along with us!!
My boss has always paid for these excursions (for me, the other girls do not need CE credits) and told me to "have fun". Well, I feel a bit taken advantage of here. I'd rather just go by myself now because I know full well the other girls are just going to want to hang out together, drink and leave me out. They see me as a "free ride". My feelings are really hurt that the co-worker I invited would invite the other one without my consent.
I don't know how to extricate myself from this situation. I thought about letting them have the room that my employer paid for (it is a room with ONE king bed) and me getting another one - but then I don't think it is fair for me to have to pay for a room so they can have a good time.
Am I just being mean and hateful? I would have no problem if I were friends with the girl that my "friend" invited, but I'm not. I know they will end up just using this as their "vacation" and I will be solo and alone the whole time, unless I want to man hunt and get rip roaring drunk every night. I'm just so deflated now. Any advice is welcomed.
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Ummmm, no, I won't be getting snockered with 7 am classes.
