DELETE THIS THREAD PLEASE

[mebbradley]

I take it you liked it?

I'd be frustrated by that situation as well. Good luck!

 

[DoomBuggy0922]

Strictly speaking, the person who foots the bill gets say about decisions as to whom is there, etc. Now, if you can do 15k and have more than 60 people (which I don't know if you can do with a DFTW?), then I think it's silly for her to put limits. However, as for "plus ones," if the person has been with their SO for more than a year, you should technically invite them as they are a "social unit"--- however, if it's for budget reasons, most people will understand.

Good luck!

 

[belleinpink]

...

 

[Icecoldpenguin]

Thank you ladies. This is just so frustrating. I guess it doesn't help that I'm a spoiled brat and have ALWAYS gotten what I want.

I may have gotten myself into a bit of trouble today. I looked at the spring 2012 collection for Maggie Sottero and found a dress that is just amazing!!!! It's sort of a mix of the dress I thought I'd love (Ambrosia) and the dress I do love (Priscilla). I'm calling my bridal shop on Monday to see when they are getting the spring 2012 collection in so that I can go try on the new dress and the old dress before making any decisions.

At least you can admit you are spoiled...some people can't. Here are my 2 cents for what they are worth. You always want people to feel welcome and if they have a +1 you want to invite them. I think you should narrow your list down to your most important people and take into consideration their plus ones. I know it can be frustrating that you have someone dictating things but that is what happens sometimes when someone is paying for a wedding. Maybe you can come to a negotiation that you get to plan certain aspects and there are certain aspects that they get to have a say in. I really think that working together and sharing opinions and having an open mind will be your best friend here.

we are paying for ours ourselves and so I am having to cut things and change venues so it is affordable but you have to do what you have to do sometimes.

good luck with the dress.

Teresa

 

[belleinpink]

..

 

[DisneyShamrock]

I can tell already this wedding is going to be hell for me. Today I was told by my Gram that I'm not allowed to ask my step dad to walk me down the aisle... Well why the eff not?! He's been in my life for almost 10 years and has done quite a bit for me. Just because you don't like him means I can't ask him to walk me down the aisle?!?!?! Absolutely not. Looks like I'll be taking out a hefty loan to pay for this shindig so that it's the wedding I want... Not the wedding someone ELSE says is ok.

Ok that's my bridezilla moment for the day. Feel free to tell me if I'm out of line. I promise I don't take anything personally.. Sometimes I just need that slap in the face.

Yikes! That's not a bridezilla moment. I don't care who's paying for the wedding, no one--and I mean NO ONE--should be able to tell you who can and can't walk you down the aisle. That's just plain controlling and rude.

I hope you and your DF can take over this wedding. It's your wedding, not your gram's.

 

[librarygeek]

Strictly speaking, the person who foots the bill gets say about decisions as to whom is there, etc. Now, if you can do 15k and have more than 60 people (which I don't know if you can do with a DFTW?), then I think it's silly for her to put limits. However, as for "plus ones," if the person has been with their SO for more than a year, you should technically invite them as they are a "social unit"--- however, if it's for budget reasons, most people will understand.

Good luck!

I agree with Jackie here... I would say that your Gram should get some say in who comes, but not have complete control. Plus 1's are really tricky - the 1 year or more thing can be a good guideline, and if they're living together or something then you definitely have to invite them. I don't remember where you live exactly, but if a Disney wedding is something that will require people to travel far and stay overnight they might have issues with their SO's not being invited. Good luck working it all out!

I can tell already this wedding is going to be hell for me. Today I was told by my Gram that I'm not allowed to ask my step dad to walk me down the aisle... Well why the eff not?! He's been in my life for almost 10 years and has done quite a bit for me. Just because you don't like him means I can't ask him to walk me down the aisle?!?!?! Absolutely not. Looks like I'll be taking out a hefty loan to pay for this shindig so that it's the wedding I want... Not the wedding someone ELSE says is ok.

Ok that's my bridezilla moment for the day. Feel free to tell me if I'm out of line. I promise I don't take anything personally.. Sometimes I just need that slap in the face.

Definitely not an over reaction. I don't think she has any right to tell you who can and can't walk you down the aisle. That's your personal choice, and it sounds like your step dad is the right person to do it. I would definitely not give in to this one!

 

[mebbradley]

I agree with Jackie here... I would say that your Gram should get some say in who comes, but not have complete control. Plus 1's are really tricky - the 1 year or more thing can be a good guideline, and if they're living together or something then you definitely have to invite them. I don't remember where you live exactly, but if a Disney wedding is something that will require people to travel far and stay overnight they might have issues with their SO's not being invited. Good luck working it all out!



Definitely not an over reaction. I don't think she has any right to tell you who can and can't walk you down the aisle. That's your personal choice, and it sounds like your step dad is the right person to do it. I would definitely not give in to this one!

I've told my mom that my grandfather is walking me down the aisle. If he is passed away, Chris's father will walk me down the aisle. He has 4 boys and will never get the chance to walk a little girl down the aisle.

It's your choice, Courtney!

And as for the SO's invited...our rule is that they have to be engaged/married or have been with them for a year to them to get invited. We would rather have more of our families and friends there than to have people we don't know.

 

[MrsDuck]

Yikes! That's not a bridezilla moment. I don't care who's paying for the wedding, no one--and I mean NO ONE--should be able to tell you who can and can't walk you down the aisle. That's just plain controlling and rude.

I hope you and your DF can take over this wedding. It's your wedding, not your gram's.

This this THIS!

Time to put your foot down, girl. Respectfully, though. It may require you to make some sacrifices so be ready!

Keep us updated!

 

[belleinpink]

..

 

[librarygeek]

Wow, awesome shoes! How many inches are those heels?

And that cake is so amazing! It's one of the coolest cakes I've ever seen, hopefully you can work it out to have that.

It sounds like you and your gram are already butting heads a lot on wedding issues. Maybe you should sit down with her and have a talk about how it's your wedding and you won't necessarily agree on everything, but in the end your opinion is the one that matters?

 

[MrsDuck]

Love the shoes and the cake!

As far as dress color, I wanted a white dress but ivory looks better on me. If ivory looks better, no one will know that it's not actually white but you! Just something to consider...!

Sounds like you really need to have a talk with Grandma. I really hope it works out! Let us know how it goes.

 

[belle2211]

I love your cake and shoes!! The shoes had the sequins like mine And the cake. Wow! I am a huge B&theB fan and I LOVE this cake!!!!! If you want to keep the theme, you could do white chocolate favors in the shape of teacups...I had them for my shower. (you could probably put something different in them if you wanted

And we had the centerpieces that would match your pink theme

 

[belleinpink]

...

 

[elleinad16]

Sorry to hear that the talk didn't go over too well.

LOVE those shoes, cake, and those dresses! You have fab taste!

 

[belleinpink]

...

 

[MrsDuck]

Glad you had a nice Thanksgiving and Disney trip! We love love love AKL!

I'm sorry to hear about your fight with your grandma. Weddings really make things stressful. I hope you two can make up quickly and find some common ground on the wedding front.

 

[LuvLuvLuv]

I'm sorry you're having family troubles. You're a stronger person than I am because when they gave me trouble, I shut off and shut everyone out. On of the last straws was when I was told who would be walking me down the aisle--I was done and over it. I know how stressed you must be

As for the dress.... Have her pay for it, then slip the dress salesperson a post-it that says, "order it in white after we leave"

That cake is fantastic!! I think it is perfect!! The shoes are fab--though I could never function in them, lol!

Did you stay at Kidani?? Those rooms will spoil you!!! I do however, think that I have a resort crush on the Contemporary. You will love it--and if you don't stay in the tower, try to book the Deluxe King Garden Room---lots of room to get ready and much cheaper!!!

 

[belleinpink]

...

 

[belleinpink]

...