As most of you know, my husband Dan ended his life on the 5th. I had expected his time to be limited (due to cancer) but was preparing myself to deal with a natural cause of death. Dan had not been in contact with his family for over 8 years when he died, they have now come out of the woodwork and have been very supportive. We had the memorial service last Thursday and all went very well. I think over all I am handling things pretty well, I am back in my apartment and feel secure there. Caitlyn continues to handle things very well, she cries sometimes and I try to reassure her that it is ok to do so. I find myself eager to go to sleep at night... half expecting to wake up to a different reality. Mornings are very hard.. I wake up knowing that he is gone, and the last time I saw him flashes into my mind. I started back to work yesterday, it seems to help when I stay busy... my boss has cut my work load down a lot and will slowly build me back up, I can't fully concentrate and need to ease back into the everyday grind.
On a sick and twisted note I will list my top ten things NOT to say to someone that has just lost a loved one. *Yes, these things have actually come out of peoples mouths in the last week*
10. "What are you planning on doing with Dan's office furniture? I can make you an offer."
9. "My brother wears the same size clothes as Dan did.... I can come pick some stuff up tomorrow."
8. "Does Caitlyn know he is dead, or are you just telling her he went on a business trip"?
7. "Dan sure did love Caitlyn, but didn't say much about you"
6 "Do you think you pushed him over the edge"?
5 "How much life insurance money are you getting, the reason I am asking is because I want to start a business"
4 "Isn't this just the perfect day"?
3 "Can you pick up my sister's friend's fiancé at the airport, she is coming to see the football game"?
2 "You don't have to pay for my meal but it would be nice"
1 "I know exactly how you feel, my dog died about 6 months ago"
On a sick and twisted note I will list my top ten things NOT to say to someone that has just lost a loved one. *Yes, these things have actually come out of peoples mouths in the last week*
10. "What are you planning on doing with Dan's office furniture? I can make you an offer."
9. "My brother wears the same size clothes as Dan did.... I can come pick some stuff up tomorrow."
8. "Does Caitlyn know he is dead, or are you just telling her he went on a business trip"?
7. "Dan sure did love Caitlyn, but didn't say much about you"
6 "Do you think you pushed him over the edge"?
5 "How much life insurance money are you getting, the reason I am asking is because I want to start a business"
4 "Isn't this just the perfect day"?
3 "Can you pick up my sister's friend's fiancé at the airport, she is coming to see the football game"?
2 "You don't have to pay for my meal but it would be nice"
1 "I know exactly how you feel, my dog died about 6 months ago"
