Debt Dumpers 2025

[DanceDisney23]

and if it DID, that's the bank's problem and they should be buying their own candy. grrr

That is certainly true. But for the sake of argument, I have never chosen a bank based on the availability of free candy. I don’t know anyone who has, either.

Also, I choose which branch of my bank I visit based on proximity. As long as the employees are friendly and competent, I don’t expect them to provide anything beyond the service I’m there for.

PP’s DW would be better off putting more effort into career and salary growth than in making customers and coworkers feel warm and fuzzy.

 

[ruadisneyfan2]

That is certainly true. But for the sake of argument, I have never chosen a bank based on the availability of free candy. I don’t know anyone who has, either.

Also, I choose which branch of my bank I visit based on proximity. As long as the employees are friendly and competent, I don’t expect them to provide anything beyond the service I’m there for.

PP’s DW would be better off putting more effort into career and salary growth than in making customers and coworkers feel warm and fuzzy.

I completely agree. I bring treats into work to share with coworkers and pretty much all of us do too. We do it to help morale and cope with the emotional stress.
Sometimes when we're really stressed out, we'll order some Buntini's from Nothing Bundt Cakes or Insomnia Cookies. We Venmo whoever put it on their cc.
For anyone who has never had Insomnia Cookies, they are delivered in a box, similar to a pizza box, and still warm out of the oven.
Omg they are decadent and should be illegal.
We have too many patients to buy for them too. The hospital buys treats for them and we keep a basket in the waiting room with cookies, crackers, etc.

 

[WDW_fan_in_TX]

Also, I choose which branch of my bank I visit based on proximity. As long as the employees are friendly and competent, I don’t expect them to provide anything beyond the service I’m there for.

PP’s DW would be better off putting more effort into career and salary growth than in making customers and coworkers feel warm and fuzzy.

DW has said lots of her customers drive across town (a town of 100k people) just to have her wait on them. She told me tonight that she's second in command at her banking center (only about 7-8 employees all together). I asked her about becoming a branch manager, and she said she'd turn it down if they offered it to her because she doesn't want the responsibility or the headache of what the branch manager puts up with.

 

[DanceDisney23]

DW has said lots of her customers drive across town (a town of 100k people) just to have her wait on them. She told me tonight that she's second in command at her banking center (only about 7-8 employees all together). I asked her about becoming a branch manager, and she said she'd turn it down if they offered it to her because she doesn't want the responsibility or the headache of what the branch manager puts up with.

It’s nice that your DW takes pride in her work. But that should be reflected in her compensation, not cost her extra. Also, you guys need to think bigger if working at a bank branch pays so little that you guys need to dip into emergency savings to pay bills or groceries. Can she switch to corporate? Get into a higher paying role in finance? If she got offered the branch manager job, the only correct answer would be yes. And then use that as a stepping stone.

It’s not the time to pat herself on the shoulder because customers are coming from far and wide (allegedly). It’s work, not a social club. But perhaps she can put that likability of hers to work by getting a tipped side job like waiting or bartending? What would her excuse be if you suggested that?

Your DW seems to have a lot of hills to die on that keep her from improving your family’s wellbeing. Meanwhile you guys are on the brink on financial disaster and you also need to improve your physical health which she also seems to sabotage. What is she bringing to the table?

 

[DanceDisney23]

And I’m sorry if my post above was harsh, but your wife is your worst enemy. I know others have pointed that out too. You won’t get anywhere if you keep putting her on a pedestal and making excuses for her.