DDA Chapter 26

[bear74]

So yesterday I worked my last 12 hr shift for awhile.

 

[bear74]

Jeff is asleep in the couch, he had his procedure done this morning. They gave him Xanaex at the Drs. office to help him relax.

 

[Disney Yooper]

I am enjoying the memories posted so far on the new website. Definitely something that will keep me filled with Disney magic when I'm not there. http://memories.disneyparks.disney.go.com/#/landing

 

[my3princes]

This has been a very depressing day. I submitted my resume to a temp agency no less than 4 weeks ago. Apparently it finally hit someone's desk today. She called because she had a "gap" in my work history from 2001 - 2008. I said by gap you mean I only worked one job? Apparently working at the restaurant does not count Because I want to get into Administration or human resources the fact that I was not in an office setting for 8 years means that all that previous work experience is non existant. She said I was "unemployable" and laughed at the fact that I was hoping for $16/hr (which is what I was earning in 2000 Needless to say I am angry, depressed and all around beat down. I explained that I had a baby in 2002 and had been a SAHM, working only part time. Apparently if you choose to stay home with your kids you can kiss any good paying careers goodbye.

I have been employed at at least one job since I turned 16 and now I am unemployable. And why does it take companies 4 weeks to even look at my resume? I think I need to forget about temp agencies at this point. I'm also frustrated by the fact that you cannot walk into an office to apply for a job. Every job has some kind of online application process and if people see what this woman did, a gap rather than the whole picture or whole person then I'm screwed. I even included volunteer activities such as running the entire Lacrosse Program and the school fundraisers to show that I have used administrative skills during that time period


To top off my afternoon I found out that MIL is in the hospital with Pneumonia. Torn about what to do there. Chris and I both have aweful colds, he's been trying to avoid her, the kids have been running fevers, to visit or not to visit? I told Chris to give her a call at the hospital and feel things out. Afterall she never visited Hunter after his surgery. I think she called once while he was in the hospital and has never even asked how he is since

Anyone want to trade places with me for a day to two. I need a break

 

[babytrees]

This has been a very depressing day. I submitted my resume to a temp agency no less than 4 weeks ago. Apparently it finally hit someone's desk today. She called because she had a "gap" in my work history from 2001 - 2008. I said by gap you mean I only worked one job? Apparently working at the restaurant does not count Because I want to get into Administration or human resources the fact that I was not in an office setting for 8 years means that all that previous work experience is non existant. She said I was "unemployable" and laughed at the fact that I was hoping for $16/hr (which is what I was earning in 2000 Needless to say I am angry, depressed and all around beat down. I explained that I had a baby in 2002 and had been a SAHM, working only part time. Apparently if you choose to stay home with your kids you can kiss any good paying careers goodbye.

I have been employed at at least one job since I turned 16 and now I am unemployable. And why does it take companies 4 weeks to even look at my resume? I think I need to forget about temp agencies at this point. I'm also frustrated by the fact that you cannot walk into an office to apply for a job. Every job has some kind of online application process and if people see what this woman did, a gap rather than the whole picture or whole person then I'm screwed. I even included volunteer activities such as running the entire Lacrosse Program and the school fundraisers to show that I have used administrative skills during that time period


To top off my afternoon I found out that MIL is in the hospital with Pneumonia. Torn about what to do there. Chris and I both have aweful colds, he's been trying to avoid her, the kids have been running fevers, to visit or not to visit? I told Chris to give her a call at the hospital and feel things out. Afterall she never visited Hunter after his surgery. I think she called once while he was in the hospital and has never even asked how he is since

Anyone want to trade places with me for a day to two. I need a break

I feel your pain....being out of work for almost 2 years is making me unemployable. It's ridiculous.

 

[bethbuchall]

This has been a very depressing day. I submitted my resume to a temp agency no less than 4 weeks ago. Apparently it finally hit someone's desk today. She called because she had a "gap" in my work history from 2001 - 2008. I said by gap you mean I only worked one job? Apparently working at the restaurant does not count Because I want to get into Administration or human resources the fact that I was not in an office setting for 8 years means that all that previous work experience is non existant. She said I was "unemployable" and laughed at the fact that I was hoping for $16/hr (which is what I was earning in 2000 Needless to say I am angry, depressed and all around beat down. I explained that I had a baby in 2002 and had been a SAHM, working only part time. Apparently if you choose to stay home with your kids you can kiss any good paying careers goodbye.

I have been employed at at least one job since I turned 16 and now I am unemployable. And why does it take companies 4 weeks to even look at my resume? I think I need to forget about temp agencies at this point. I'm also frustrated by the fact that you cannot walk into an office to apply for a job. Every job has some kind of online application process and if people see what this woman did, a gap rather than the whole picture or whole person then I'm screwed. I even included volunteer activities such as running the entire Lacrosse Program and the school fundraisers to show that I have used administrative skills during that time period


To top off my afternoon I found out that MIL is in the hospital with Pneumonia. Torn about what to do there. Chris and I both have aweful colds, he's been trying to avoid her, the kids have been running fevers, to visit or not to visit? I told Chris to give her a call at the hospital and feel things out. Afterall she never visited Hunter after his surgery. I think she called once while he was in the hospital and has never even asked how he is since

Anyone want to trade places with me for a day to two. I need a break

Deb! I am sorry that you are having such a rough time! I know what you mean by unemployable. I have mostly been out of the workforce since my oldest was born in 1991. I have worked part-time at preschools for most of that time (including starting up a very successful program for 2's), but unless I want to stay in preschool, I'm pretty much out of luck. It's even getting harder for me in the preschools, since most want certified teachers. That is why despite the fact that I get almost no hours and little respect where I'm at, I need to stay.

As much as I love being a SAHM, my advice to my daughter is to keep working (at least part-time) in her field. "Just working" does not seem to count.

 

[bethbuchall]

I feel your pain....being out of work for almost 2 years is making me unemployable. It's ridiculous.

Theresa! It's sad that so many hardworking people can't find jobs.

 

[mommykds]

Deb,
We are so separated at birth!!! Seems like we go thru lots of the same cr@p at the same time. I know what you are going through so if its any concelation prize you are not alone as one of the "unemployables". I have been told the same thing from a bank I applied to the beginning of this month...since I stopped working FT in 1999 when I had my son I guess the 7 years of working at a financial analyst for a mutual fund company & doing all their budgets & billing counts for NOTHING. I was told by 3 of the department stores I was "overqualified". So I can't get a salesperson job because they think I will leave when I find something more "permanent" & I can't get a full time job because they think I have been home watching Oprah for 10 years!

I wish I had some words of wisdom for you but all I have is a hug.

Seriously did your MIL not see Hunter when he was sick????? wow I am so sorry, sounds like my MIL. I wouldn't go to the hospital sick to see her though.

 

[Disney Yooper]

Last night, our politicians voted for an early out for those that qualify. That means about 25% of my division could retire. Those of us that don't qualify get to pay 3% toward our future retirement health benefits on top of it. So we get to do more with less and pay to do it. I keep reminding myself that at least I'm one of the lucky ones to have a job. There's a side of me thinking it was a bad idea to take the promotion but my old job has the possibility of being outsourced. The guy with a major lead in the Governor race is known for outsourcing. The next 6 months is going to be very interesting.

 

[my3princes]

I'm sorry to be such a whiner. I know that Theresa and Terri are both searching for employment and that Beth wasn't in an ideal situation. I did not know that Anne Marie was searching too Our economy sucks, the entire employment system is out of date for women. Shouldn't we encourage Mom's to take care of their kids without penalizing them down the road I've always believed that a door would open for me in the perfect field, when I was least expecting it, but I've got to admit that my faith is waning.

Vicki, hold on to what you've got, at least until you can find something else. It is not a nice world anymore. There is no etiquette, no compassion and no person to even plead your case too. It's all online and whatever looks good on paper. Maybe I need to make myself look better on paper.

To all of you looking, remember that we are good people, we have valuable skills and we cannot base our self worth on what we are being told. It took me a lot of soul searching this afternoon to realize that.

 

[bethbuchall]

You aren't a whiner, Deb. You are right, though, it is hard out there!

Anne Marie, I didn't know you were looking for a job and having issues, too.

Vicki, I hope that things can work out for you!

 

[mommykds]

I'm sorry to be such a whiner. ...

Hey Deb, That's what we are here for. And your not whining, you are just voicing your opinion of how the job market treats Mommies.

 

[Disney Yooper]

I'm sorry to be such a whiner. I know that Theresa and Terri are both searching for employment and that Beth wasn't in an ideal situation. I did not know that Anne Marie was searching too Our economy sucks, the entire employment system is out of date for women. Shouldn't we encourage Mom's to take care of their kids without penalizing them down the road I've always believed that a door would open for me in the perfect field, when I was least expecting it, but I've got to admit that my faith is waning.

Vicki, hold on to what you've got, at least until you can find something else. It is not a nice world anymore. There is no etiquette, no compassion and no person to even plead your case too. It's all online and whatever looks good on paper. Maybe I need to make myself look better on paper.

To all of you looking, remember that we are good people, we have valuable skills and we cannot base our self worth on what we are being told. It took me a lot of soul searching this afternoon to realize that.

You are 100% right on that Deb. No one's self worth is based on the job that they have. It is the person that they are that defines them. Some of the top people in our organization are not decent people. You are all some of the most awesome people I know. The compassion that you all possess show that everyday!!!

 

[PNO4TE]

I am sorry to read that so many are having eimployment/unemployment problems. I don't care what "they" say... this recession did not end last year! It is ongoing and impacting people who have never been in this position before. I think that what Vicki is seeing in her future is what many of us will be facing. Less pay, less benefits (or the necessity to pay more for what we already are getting) and the uncertainty that our jobs are secure.

I hope all of you can find something to "tide you over" until the right job comes along.

 

[tmfranlk]

Hello all!!! Thank you so much for all of the well wishes and congratuations.

As posted everything flew along after Tuesaday's long wait. Woke up Wed morning still back at 10-15 apart. By 11 they were approaching 5 min, but still pretty minor pain-wise. Called at 11:15 about being checked at the dr but they said at 5 min they just sent straight to L&D. Went back to 8 min apart so I held out a little to see what happened, but apparently shouldn't have wondered. By 12:30 I told Mom I thought maybe we should go. She took me to meet Phil at work at took Terra with her to pick up Rachel. Phil and I got to the hospital about 1:15 and by then we'd jumped to 3 min. Triage rooms were all full so the put me in a L&D room and good thing since I was now 5cm and staying. Rachel and Terra arrived and Mom had to go to work for a little bit.

Got the IV and antibiotics going and the anethesologist was able to come quickly. Thank God because the back labor was terrible again this time. He'd been done less than 20 min when my water broke. Checked a minute later and I was 9cm. Called Mom at 3:24 to tell her that update and not to rush back as she "might" not make it. They called the dr and decided that a "practice push" might not be wise. haha. She came down the 3 flights of stairs just in time as Deva was finding her own way out. I think that i might have pushed 2 1/2 times and there she was at 3:44pm.

Terra was so dang cute! She held my hand the whole time and was quite the little coach. Then after Deva came she moved back and forth between making sure Deva was okay and coming to ask me "Mom, do you need anything? Are you doing okay? Is there nything that I can do for you?" : The doctor has raved about her every time I've seen her. She spent a good part of the evening holding Deva and worried that we'd be okay when they had to leave that night.

We came home today around noon and are doing great! Deva's sleeping better here than she was at the hospital and she's eating like a champ. I'll get my pictures uploaded as soon as I can get on the other computer.

 

[KristineN]

Seems it's time...

My water broke....this is a first for me. It was a shocker! So I'm packing up my last minute stuff and off we go to L & D. I was calm up to now....now I'm trying not to freak out! Will keep you posted.

 

[my3princes]

Hello all!!! Thank you so much for all of the well wishes and congratuations.

As posted everything flew along after Tuesaday's long wait. Woke up Wed morning still back at 10-15 apart. By 11 they were approaching 5 min, but still pretty minor pain-wise. Called at 11:15 about being checked at the dr but they said at 5 min they just sent straight to L&D. Went back to 8 min apart so I held out a little to see what happened, but apparently shouldn't have wondered. By 12:30 I told Mom I thought maybe we should go. She took me to meet Phil at work at took Terra with her to pick up Rachel. Phil and I got to the hospital about 1:15 and by then we'd jumped to 3 min. Triage rooms were all full so the put me in a L&D room and good thing since I was now 5cm and staying. Rachel and Terra arrived and Mom had to go to work for a little bit.

Got the IV and antibiotics going and the anethesologist was able to come quickly. Thank God because the back labor was terrible again this time. He'd been done less than 20 min when my water broke. Checked a minute later and I was 9cm. Called Mom at 3:24 to tell her that update and not to rush back as she "might" not make it. They called the dr and decided that a "practice push" might not be wise. haha. She came down the 3 flights of stairs just in time as Deva was finding her own way out. I think that i might have pushed 2 1/2 times and there she was at 3:44pm.

Terra was so dang cute! She held my hand the whole time and was quite the little coach. Then after Deva came she moved back and forth between making sure Deva was okay and coming to ask me "Mom, do you need anything? Are you doing okay? Is there nything that I can do for you?" : The doctor has raved about her every time I've seen her. She spent a good part of the evening holding Deva and worried that we'd be okay when they had to leave that night.

We came home today around noon and are doing great! Deva's sleeping better here than she was at the hospital and she's eating like a champ. I'll get my pictures uploaded as soon as I can get on the other computer.

What a heartwarming story I'm glad that everything went so well. Terra is such a good big sister Looking forward to the pictures.

Seems it's time...

My water broke....this is a first for me. It was a shocker! So I'm packing up my last minute stuff and off we go to L & D. I was calm up to now....now I'm trying not to freak out! Will keep you posted.

Good Luck. We'll be praying for you today. I hope you have the easiest delivery based on the horrible pregnancy

 

[MrsHeg]

Welcome home Tia, can't wait to see baby Deva

Kristine - I'll be thinking of you and waiting to hear of Jenna's arrival

Deb - hang in there, I'm positive things will work out for you

Tammi - my shoulder is much better than it was before surgery, but I still don't have full use of it and still have pain, the next step would be a shoulder replacement but I can live with where it is for now, that's something that will only be done as a last resort.

Right now I'm having some tests done for RA and other things, in the past five years I've gone from having no problems with arthritis to have problems with my feet, knees, hips, shoulders, hands, and neck. I've also been having some problems with my vision, and numbness in my face so I'm having an MRI done on my brain Friday. I'm pretty bummed about all this, I just got all the bills from he surgery taken care of and here we go again.

 

[PNO4TE]

Tia - Sounds like things are going as planned. Welcome home!! I am glad that Terra is so excited to be a big sister. Hope Phil is also as excited. Have fun with your new family.

Kristine - Come on, Jenna! Hang in there, Bill!!

Debbie - I am so sorry to hear about your continued troubles, but glad you are having some tests done to try to finally discover what is going on. I am sending along my best wishes for brilliant doctors and a good diagnosis.

 

[PNO4TE]

Good morning, DDA!