DDA chapter 21

[Pooh67_68]

There was another accident at Disney -
http://www.comcast.net/articles/news-national/20090716/US.Disney.Bus.Accident/

 

[jackskellingtonsgirl]

Elizabeth - I feel your pain. So much so that 6-7 years ago we did the following: We opened a second account that is Bob's alone to use. I have debit cards and access to the account, but I never do ~ except to deposit money into it every time he gets a paycheck. He gets a pay receipt at work so he always knows how much his paycheck was for that period.

90% of our arguments over money have now stopped. He still has no idea about what bills we pay or even how to go about paying them. I handle all our finances too. I think of myself as the CFO in this merger. I am also the CEO, but he doesn't know that...

That is not a bad idea. We might have to consider that.

I have a friend request on Facebook from a girl from high school. I remember her, but mostly that's because I have a REALLY GOOD memory. We weren't friends. She was friends with another girl I kind of knew, so there were times that we sat at the same lunch table. But we never had a conversation. I am positive we never socialized outside of school, never called each other, and may not have ever had any classes together. So why is she requesting to be my friend NOW, 21 years later? That is just peculiar. BUT if I ignore the request I will feel guilty. What to do? What to do?

 

[tinknme]

Good morning

 

[Pooh67_68]

Elizabeth ignore ignore ignore and forget about the guilt.

 

[PNO4TE]

Elin you are at 2 months 2 weeks 2 days and I am at 3 months 3 weeks 4 days.

and there we are! starting our Together Countdown!

Hmmmmm..... do you think you could move your departure date up a day so that it is a more even number?

 

[PNO4TE]

I have a friend request on Facebook from a girl from high school. I remember her, but mostly that's because I have a REALLY GOOD memory. We weren't friends. She was friends with another girl I kind of knew, so there were times that we sat at the same lunch table. But we never had a conversation. I am positive we never socialized outside of school, never called each other, and may not have ever had any classes together. So why is she requesting to be my friend NOW, 21 years later? That is just peculiar. BUT if I ignore the request I will feel guilty. What to do? What to do?

I had a friend request from the older sister of an acquaintance from HS. She is married to the older brother of long-lost friends from my homeroom whose mother was also our housekeeper/nanny-type person when my Mom went back to work. Her connection to me? She thinks we might be neighbors. I thought long and hard about accepting her request and figured it was OK. If I don't like reading her status updates or she bombards me with junk messages I will remove her from my list. Many of the people who have friended me there have done so just to be able to reconnect, briefly. So, I say go ahead! Remove her later if there is a problem.

 

[Pooh67_68]

Sorry Elin the flights have been paid for since John booked them. Although I would love an extra day.

 

[Tammi67]

Good morning, DDA!

I was in a decent mood until DH decided to start fighting with me over the banking FIVE MINUTES after I got up. Stupid DH.

I will say AGAIN how I am sick and tired of handling ALL, and I mean ALLLLLL, of our finances while he sits back and gripes. He has no idea what bills we have and how the funds are allocated. He just wants me to SHOW him the online statement so he can see his deposit (he has direct deposit and now that he is back on commission the amount changes), then if he sees any of my debit card transactions he makes snide remarks. Guess what? I have a JOB! Not only is some of this money MINE, some of my debits are work stuff that I will be paid back for!

The $10 ATM withdrawal yesterday was because another mom picked up lunch and I paid her back! It is on my expense report. But DH doesn't care about any of that - he just wants to jump down my throat about how *I* used the ATM and if HE uses the ATM I get mad. I tell him all the time if he needs cash to go to the ATM, but he is too lazy. He would rather debit 50 things over the course of a week and then call me when I am busy and tell me he debited $3, and then $2, and then he put gas in but he can't remember how much it was. Then he brings me WADS of receipts so I can record all of it.

So it is somehow completely WORTH IT to him to pick a fight with me at 5 AM? Of course that woke DS up, so DH IMMEDIATELY starts harping on him, too. It is going to be a very, very long weekend.

Perhaps separate checking accounts are in order??

 

[Tammi67]

Not until Nov.

I'll take good notes for you.

 

[mommykds]

Good morning,

Elizabeth,
I agree with Elin, seperate accounts might help.
As far as FB, I have 3 friend requests just hanging there for the very same reason you mentioned. 20 years later I have people who were not friends requesting to reconnect.

 

[mommykds]

So we went to the local pool yesterday. The kids had a good time. I am slowly learning how to get around here. Some things are not obvious like in NY. You have to go down winding roads off the beaten track sometimes to find things....Even the DMV is down past a cow farm....my GPS was all confused when I tried to get over there. The GPS said "you have arrived at your destination", but I was at a farm. I figured it out & went another way, got to the DMV but left as the dude there said it was a 3 hour wait? What the heck?

I miss NY.

 

[bethbuchall]

So we went to the local pool yesterday. The kids had a good time. I am slowly learning how to get around here. Some things are not obvious like in NY. You have to go down winding roads off the beaten track sometimes to find things....Even the DMV is down past a cow farm....my GPS was all confused when I tried to get over there. The GPS said "you have arrived at your destination", but I was at a farm. I figured it out & went another way, got to the DMV but left as the dude there said it was a 3 hour wait? What the heck?

I miss NY.

What part of NC did you move to? We thought about you a lot as we drove through on our way to FL and back. I said that I can't imagine starting someplace new at this point in my life but was very excited for you. You will find your way around, and it will start to feel like home soon, I'm sure. (You have to drive past cow farms to the DMV in some parts of NY, too. Of course, it's not generally a 3 hour wait at those DMVs )

And my GPS had a couple of glitches on this trip. The kids said that it's because I'm too cheap to buy the map updates (which is true).

 

[bethbuchall]

I'll take good notes for you.

Take lots of pictures, too, please!

 

[bethbuchall]

Good morning, DDA!

I was in a decent mood until DH decided to start fighting with me over the banking FIVE MINUTES after I got up. Stupid DH.

I will say AGAIN how I am sick and tired of handling ALL, and I mean ALLLLLL, of our finances while he sits back and gripes. He has no idea what bills we have and how the funds are allocated. He just wants me to SHOW him the online statement so he can see his deposit (he has direct deposit and now that he is back on commission the amount changes), then if he sees any of my debit card transactions he makes snide remarks. Guess what? I have a JOB! Not only is some of this money MINE, some of my debits are work stuff that I will be paid back for!

The $10 ATM withdrawal yesterday was because another mom picked up lunch and I paid her back! It is on my expense report. But DH doesn't care about any of that - he just wants to jump down my throat about how *I* used the ATM and if HE uses the ATM I get mad. I tell him all the time if he needs cash to go to the ATM, but he is too lazy. He would rather debit 50 things over the course of a week and then call me when I am busy and tell me he debited $3, and then $2, and then he put gas in but he can't remember how much it was. Then he brings me WADS of receipts so I can record all of it.

So it is somehow completely WORTH IT to him to pick a fight with me at 5 AM? Of course that woke DS up, so DH IMMEDIATELY starts harping on him, too. It is going to be a very, very long weekend.

 

[Tammi67]

I miss NY.

I hope NC starts to feel like home soon. Believe it or not, I still miss the little town in PA that I grew up in, 22 years later. However, I would NOT move back there.

 

[Tammi67]

Take lots of pictures, too, please!

 

[jackskellingtonsgirl]

Anne Marie, I hope you are able to feel comfortable in your new town soon! I would hate to have to learn my way around. Mostly because I have NO sense of direction. Not sure a GPS would even help.

I am going to just leave that friend request for awhile. I did finally ignore the request from Ms. Selfish's aunt-in-law because that was just too much of a stretch. The only other one I have ignored was from a total stranger.

My bosses went to an OB appt. this morning so I came in a few minutes early. Before I left DH said he "didn't mean anything" by his comments, he just wanted to make me mad. What on earth is THAT? He intentionally provokes me at 5 AM? Idiot. Apparently he needs to spend more time AT WORK, because he can't seem to use his time off appropriately.

 

[Tammi67]

For those of you that rent a car, getting to WDW from MCO, is it better to take the Bee Line Expwy to I4, or the Central FL Greenway (rt 417)?

 

[bethbuchall]

Anne Marie, I hope you are able to feel comfortable in your new town soon! I would hate to have to learn my way around. Mostly because I have NO sense of direction. Not sure a GPS would even help.

I am going to just leave that friend request for awhile. I did finally ignore the request from Ms. Selfish's aunt-in-law because that was just too much of a stretch. The only other one I have ignored was from a total stranger.

My bosses went to an OB appt. this morning so I came in a few minutes early. Before I left DH said he "didn't mean anything" by his comments, he just wanted to make me mad. What on earth is THAT? He intentionally provokes me at 5 AM? Idiot. Apparently he needs to spend more time AT WORK, because he can't seem to use his time off appropriately.

Dh occasionally picks fights just to argue. He's not usually like that, but there are times. I don't know if it's attention-seeking or what, but I usually can call him on it now and laugh it off. It's usually when he's bored.

 

[Disney Yooper]

I had a friend request from the older sister of an acquaintance from HS. She is married to the older brother of long-lost friends from my homeroom whose mother was also our housekeeper/nanny-type person when my Mom went back to work. Her connection to me? She thinks we might be neighbors. I thought long and hard about accepting her request and figured it was OK. If I don't like reading her status updates or she bombards me with junk messages I will remove her from my list. Many of the people who have friended me there have done so just to be able to reconnect, briefly. So, I say go ahead! Remove her later if there is a problem.

I agree with this. I have accepted a couple of requests sometime ago and other than the initial contact have heard nothing further. I used it as an opportunity to see if they were Facebook friends with people I did want to reconnect with as well.