DDA Chapter 18

[mommykds]

Soooooooooooo, I'll just keep posting here until I hear something.

 

[mommykds]

Ok, I'll go make the beds to keep my mind off it. Thats what I'll do!

 

[jackskellingtonsgirl]

Amy,
for Noah!

Elizabeth,
She deleted you??? I didn't know you could do that.

You can delete any posts from your wall that you don't want on there. Obviously she doesn't want her other 657 Facebook friends to know that I think she is being ridiculous. I imagine if I really hack her off she will delete/block me. But that's OK. My cousin's DD is on her friend list, so we can spy on Diva that way.

The thing she doesn't get is that the boys she likes DO NOT want to be in a relationship. They are BOYS. They are in high school. They don't want to get married, they don't even want to pick up their socks. Their brains are wired COMPLETELY different than girls. But she is going to keep trying, and she is going to latch on to any little crumb they toss to her. Pathetic.
There is also a very dangerous pathology in our family that says women must be validated by men or they are completely worthless. That's why Mom put up with the Ogre, and that's why Ms. Selfish is married to a loser. Now Diva is knocking her brains out to follow in their footsteps. No high school boy wants to "save" Diva. It's too much baggage. I know she is focusing on the really pompous boys who have no interest in her. It reeks of desperation. I mean, come on! Have a little self-respect! But whatever.

 

[PNO4TE]

Waiting patiently to hear from Anne Marie..................

 

[PNO4TE]

You can delete any posts from your wall that you don't want on there. Obviously she doesn't want her other 657 Facebook friends to know that I think she is being ridiculous. I imagine if I really hack her off she will delete/block me. But that's OK. My cousin's DD is on her friend list, so we can spy on Diva that way.

The thing she doesn't get is that the boys she likes DO NOT want to be in a relationship. They are BOYS. They are in high school. They don't want to get married, they don't even want to pick up their socks. Their brains are wired COMPLETELY different than girls. But she is going to keep trying, and she is going to latch on to any little crumb they toss to her. Pathetic.
There is also a very dangerous pathology in our family that says women must be validated by men or they are completely worthless. That's why Mom put up with the Ogre, and that's why Ms. Selfish is married to a loser. Now Diva is knocking her brains out to follow in their footsteps. No high school boy wants to "save" Diva. It's too much baggage. I know she is focusing on the really pompous boys who have no interest in her. It reeks of desperation. I mean, come on! Have a little self-respect! But whatever.

Everything you say is oh, so true. But you also have to remember that Diva is a child. She thinks and reacts like a child and needs guidance, but obviously doesn't want it! Again, typical child behavior. I remember knowing the Bob was the right boy for me when I was 16. Nothing anyone said to me was going to make a difference because I was all grown up!

I am glad I picked a decent one, but there are certainly times I wish I had been grown up enough to listen to my Mom and Dad. The rest of your life is a helluva long time!

 

[jackskellingtonsgirl]

Elin - It frustrates me. She wastes all of her time flailing and whining. She isn't serious about school, she doesn't have a job. In a couple of years she will have no shot at a scholarship, no work experience, and she will still be whining about not having a boy to save her.
This is another perfect example of why I am glad I am a boy mom. I have no tolerance for whining and drama.

 

[bear74]

You know we are cheering you on, Theresa! I'm sorry about dufus. I wish I could kick him in the leg for you.

loved this

 

[Tammi67]

You can delete any posts from your wall that you don't want on there. Obviously she doesn't want her other 657 Facebook friends to know that I think she is being ridiculous. I imagine if I really hack her off she will delete/block me. But that's OK. My cousin's DD is on her friend list, so we can spy on Diva that way.

The thing she doesn't get is that the boys she likes DO NOT want to be in a relationship. They are BOYS. They are in high school. They don't want to get married, they don't even want to pick up their socks. Their brains are wired COMPLETELY different than girls. But she is going to keep trying, and she is going to latch on to any little crumb they toss to her. Pathetic.
There is also a very dangerous pathology in our family that says women must be validated by men or they are completely worthless. That's why Mom put up with the Ogre, and that's why Ms. Selfish is married to a loser. Now Diva is knocking her brains out to follow in their footsteps. No high school boy wants to "save" Diva. It's too much baggage. I know she is focusing on the really pompous boys who have no interest in her. It reeks of desperation. I mean, come on! Have a little self-respect! But whatever.

Does this change with age?

 

[jackskellingtonsgirl]

Does this change with age?

No. But there seems to be improvement in other areas.

 

[Tammi67]

No. But there seems to be improvement in other areas.

Oh, ok. I got excited there, thinking it had to be happening anyday now.

 

[babytrees]

My mom went the other extreme...she has never said anything about Jim....in this case I wish she would now...I don't know that I would have listened back then but I think she was just doing the polar opposite of what her mom had done with her and my dad.

I have told Jim that I don't want the girls to even date anybody like him and no way in h e double hockey sticks do I want them marrying anyone like him. The girls (and I) deserve better.

Cassidy has only had one bad guy she's dated and she quickly realized he was a horse's behind. The others have been doofuses but that has been because they are teenagers. Cassidy and I have had a few talks about, "Are you looking to marry any of the boys you are crushing on?" ,"no? well then enjoy being with them and when you move on learn from it". Seems her newest boyfriend crushed another friends heart last year and the girl was telling Cassidy he was a player....she took her words with a grain of salt and is careful. Now, either this boy has changed or he wasn't a player...he is a very respectful young man who spent the weekend training to be a shift manager for Papa Murphy's.

 

[PNO4TE]

Does this change with age?

nope... nope it certainly does not!

 

[PNO4TE]

Oh, ok. I got excited there, thinking it had to be happening anyday now.

 

[marcij]

I just wrote on Diva's Facebook wall and she deleted it! That was rude!

She does not understand that she can not let her life be defined by boys. She whines that the boys she likes don't like her, and the ones that like her aren't good enough. I have told her before that she CAN NOT let the boys have that kind of power over her. But she doesn't listen. She is setting herself up to be miserable, and I tried to point that out. She HAS TO toughen up a little and set some new priorities. But that's not the answer she wanted.

So she deleted me!

I just had drama with my sister this morning. We have a long-standing tradition that we take the kids to get their Easter outfits together. We all get a say, and we coordinate them because that's what Mom wanted and we all agree that we still want to do it. Well, Jen found a dress she liked Saturday night, so she bought them for her daughter and our niece, and bought the coordinating outfit for her son, since he is young enough to have something that matches. Then she told me, "Well, you can just buy something plain for the boys to blend in. Khaki's and a plain shirt." She was basically telling me her kids matter, mine don't, so work around her. I was hurt and frustrated. She then made the statement, "I knew you would be mad." Well then why did you tick the one person off who is trying to help you after you married lazy loser boy?

I'm glad I managed to entertain some of you with the "Special Wishes" a couple days ago.



I'm sorry this happened, Marci. This definitely sounds like a rookie mistake, and I bet that coach never makes that error again. I know I made tons of mistakes my first couple of years of teaching, and I tried my best to learn from each one of them. Hopefully, it will be a great season for everyone!



Congratulations on the offer on your house. I'm praying that nothing falls through! I hope #4 ends up feeling like the right home for you!



Congratulations, Deb, on surviving your whirlwind weekend and passing everything with flying colors! I hope you have a great first day of work today!

And no, not everyone is healthy. Noah is congested again, and he woke up yesterday with his whole face caked in boogers (lovely image, huh? ). After his second nap, he woke up with goopy eyes. I used warm compresses and I encouraged him to nurse as much as possible, so I'm hoping this is something we can work out of his system, without another trip to the doctor. He was still goopy when he woke up at 11 p.m. but not nearly as much so at 2 a.m. and 5 a.m. (Yep, three wake-ups last night). I think I'll go insane if the whole house ends up with pink eye!



You know we are cheering you on, Theresa! I'm sorry about dufus. I wish I could kick him in the leg for you.



That's pretty funny, Elizabeth! I let boys rule my world for way too long, never listening to my mother's wonderful advice, because I never thought it was so wonderful at the time. Luckily, she prayed for me to find someone like Kevin, and thankfully, I finally got some sense knocked into me after dating yet another loser...one who stole and maxed out one of my credit cards. Hopefully Diva will find her own happy ending.



I hope your DD is feeling much better today, Debbie!

I hope you all have a great day!

I hope Noah gets a lot better throughout the day.

She's a mess. I suspect if she doesn't get her head on straight she will end up marrying a loser like Ms. Selfish did, just because she doesn't have any other plans that day.
She was already mad at me for saying she isn't going to be able to go waltzing off to college and join a sorority and spend 4 more years NOT working. There isn't any money for that, and she doesn't have the grades and extra-curricular stuff to set her transcript apart. The colleges aren't going to just hand things to her, and that's what she expects.

Amy, I hope Noah isn't gunky this morning!

Last night as I was watching TV I happened to think "Hmm. My eye kind of hurts." I went in the bathroom to check the mirror. Stye. The whole upper lash line of my left eye is purple and puffy. Very attractive. It just popped up out of nowhere - my eye was fine earlier in the day!

Hope everyone's Monday is off to a good start!

I'm so sorry about the Stye. I hope you can find something to help it feel better and go away faster.

I'm just back from the dentist and $500 poorer... I really dislike getting crowns. I know it's better than other dentist procedures, but it's still no fun.

I better get back to work to help pay for this and the garage door that is being fixed today.

Have a good day everyone.

 

[mommykds]

Waiting patiently to hear from Anne Marie..................

Oh, ok. I got excited there, thinking it had to be happening anyday now.

I just had drama with my sister this morning.

I do not know whay families like to hurt each other. I'll be your adopted sister!!!

 

[jackskellingtonsgirl]

Marci - I am sorry about Jen. That was rude and inconsiderate of her to go off and do the outfits without you.
And dental work on top of it!

As far as I know the only treatment for my eye is a hot, wet washcloth.

 

[mommykds]

As far as I know the only treatment for my eye is a hot, wet washcloth.

My grandmother used warm tea bags for her eyes when she got a stye. Always worked to relieve the discomfort.

 

[Mommy2EmMoLu]

This has been an interesting day.

We got back a counter on our house. Looks like we have a bingo! Waiting for all the paperwork for us to sign. They are a cute couple with their 1st baby on the way.

House 1,2, &3 did not work out as far as our searches.

#1 was just too overpriced for the neighborhood.

#2 needed work but is in a beautiful subdivision with a pool & tennis court. However the negotiations with the seller did not go very well.

#3, We were faxing in our offer for that just last night when the realtor called & told us it went to contract yesterday morning!

So plan #4, we had seen a home back in November that was taken off the market while we were looking. Well now it is back on so we made an offer on that one tonight. This one is very cookie cutter & not my style but the price, schools, & location were great...

Good price = more trips to Disney!

Have a great night.

Keeping my fingers crossed for you all.

Don't let me talk you out of it. It's just not my thing. I love to go to the pool, but it's more to relax, and I'll swim when I get hot. I don't go just to swim. There is definitely no relaxing in this place. The waterslides here were way too short, IMO, for the amount of time spent waiting in line. I admit it, I'm Disney spoiled.

You haven't. But it's a 3 hour drive for us and the thought of no relaxing at all makes me think twice!!! I am sure it would be fun for the kids, but Eric and I would probably kill each other!

Do you have the mini?

No, our is a Special Edition. I have no idea why it's special other than it said so on the box! It brews 3 different size cups of coffee. I hate that the coffee is expensive but it is wonderfully convenient.

You all are the best family a girl could ever ask for. Obviously if I told you all that happened this morning I'd still be typing but you all are my sanity in a very insane time.

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Hi Robyn!!!

Hi Steffy!!!

Becky, you are one of the busiest woen I know. Hang in there. Enjoy your trip.

Ditto, Becky!! I don't know how you do it all.

I just wrote on Diva's Facebook wall and she deleted it! That was rude!

She does not understand that she can not let her life be defined by boys. She whines that the boys she likes don't like her, and the ones that like her aren't good enough. I have told her before that she CAN NOT let the boys have that kind of power over her. But she doesn't listen. She is setting herself up to be miserable, and I tried to point that out. She HAS TO toughen up a little and set some new priorities. But that's not the answer she wanted.

So she deleted me!

I am trying not to laugh but can't help it. Just remember, it's not your problem.

Sounds like she is going through the 'love me, Daddy' syndrom, just like my step-dd did.

Did we miss something?!? Are you referring to Bethany?

I'm off, have a nice day.

I loved this Deb!

And no, not everyone is healthy. Noah is congested again, and he woke up yesterday with his whole face caked in boogers (lovely image, huh? ). After his second nap, he woke up with goopy eyes. I used warm compresses and I encouraged him to nurse as much as possible, so I'm hoping this is something we can work out of his system, without another trip to the doctor. He was still goopy when he woke up at 11 p.m. but not nearly as much so at 2 a.m. and 5 a.m. (Yep, three wake-ups last night). I think I'll go insane if the whole house ends up with pink eye!

I hope you all have a great day!

Oh Amy, I sure hope that it isn't pink eye. 's and Spring can't come soon enough.

 

[Mommy2EmMoLu]

It made it so much easier for him. He doesn't know all your last names. He just knows you by your first name. Plus, we were trying to make sure we had all your phone numbers. We kept having to scroll up and down. It was his idea to put you in as Disney ______. It has worked out great.

Great idea!!!

Morning, DDA!

How is Stephanie feeling?

I am waiting to hear back from the sellers on our offer.

Elin - It frustrates me. She wastes all of her time flailing and whining. She isn't serious about school, she doesn't have a job. In a couple of years she will have no shot at a scholarship, no work experience, and she will still be whining about not having a boy to save her.
This is another perfect example of why I am glad I am a boy mom. I have no tolerance for whining and drama.

You wouldn't last long in our house!!!!!

No. But there seems to be improvement in other areas.

I beg to differ.

Marci - I am sorry about Jen. That was rude and inconsiderate of her to go off and do the outfits without you.
And dental work on top of it!

As far as I know the only treatment for my eye is a hot, wet washcloth.

I agree, Marci, that was rude and inconsiderate of her. 's

Elizabeth, I hope you eye isn't bothering you too much.

 

[jackskellingtonsgirl]

My grandmother used warm tea bags for her eyes when she got a stye. Always worked to relieve the discomfort.

I may have to try that tonight.

Tammi - Yes, when did you decide to refer to Bethany as "step-DD" as opposed to "Bob's DD" or "Bethany"?