DDA Chapter 12

[PNO4TE]

welcome home Elin and Bob.

Thanks, Jennifer. Other than being sick, how did you all enjoy your trip?

 

[PNO4TE]

Elin what a great picture, look forward to reading & seeing more!

Thanks, Janet!

 

[tinker1bell]

Hi Elin, Welcome home. Hope you had a great time

 

[yellowfish78]

Our first "wedding" present! From my mom's cousin who is also singing at the wedding.

 

[yellowfish78]

...and our finished door magnets! Not the best, but I think they're fun!

 

[tinknme]

My mom called me today to let me know her chemo went OK. They reduced the amount of Benedryl (which apparently was making her legs ache) and they eliminated the Ativan (which I think was completely unnecessary, but I guess they added it thinking the episode where she couldn't breathe was an anxiety attack) so she was feeling much better after today's infusion. 3 down, 9 to go. She isn't quite sure what they will do next week. They might give her another Taxol infusion, or they might give her a Neulasta injection and have her take a week off from chemo so she doesn't get too run down.

DH is doing OK so far. He just finished his 2nd liter of solution, now he is supposed to drink 32 oz. of water before bed. Not that he will be able to sleep, because he will be on the potty all night!

I took DS to Chick-Fil-A for dinner so we wouldn't be eating in front of DH.

Poor DS is really sad. He feels like he is in trouble and being singled out for being who he is. Like he is a bad person and he is somehow deficient because he is not as mature as some of the other boys. I hope the discussion today was enough to get him moving in the right direction, but I know for a fact that there are plenty of times that I tell him to settle down and STOP being so silly and he doesn't stop.

Elizabeth so happy to hear your mother is doing so well with the treatments!

Good luck to dh tomorrow

for ds

 

[my3princes]

Ugh.
DS has been getting in trouble at lunch and failing to mention it. So today he got in trouble for the FOURTH time this year. The resource officer told him she was going to call me, so he figured he better tell me a call was coming.
I decided to go in the school and find an administrator for myself. Apparently he and his friends like to be silly and immature. Apparently DS is often the instigator of this behavior. They throw rocks at each other, hit each other with their lunchboxes, generally act like imbeciles.
Yesterday one of the boys flipped one of the special ed kids on his back in the courtyard, and DS was lucky enough to be standing right there. Now they are saying DS is engaging in bullying. PERFECT!

In elementary a kid was telling a story about his brother doing something. DS said that was a stupid thing to do. The kid came back the next day and told DS that he told his brother DS said he was stupid, and now the brother was going to come to school and shoot DS. I was LIVID. I called the principal and she did NOTHING. We had problems with that kid for 2 years.

Now DS is standing next to a kid who gets thrown on the ground and DS is a bully? Great! DS never touched the kid!

I know DS is immature and silly. I KNOW that. I also know he can not anticipate a situation escalating. It's that "Lack of self-preservation" we talked about a month or so ago. But for him to be labeled as a bully? That is just inaccurate. The administrator says "Well, most bullies are kids that have been bullied themselves." Yes, I am aware of that. But saying that makes me look like I am one of those clueless moms who can't believe anything bad about her child. I am not clueless, and DS is NOT a bully!

Today there was some big flap because Kid A took something that belonged to Kid B, so someone else got something that belonged to Kid A and wouldn't give it back, and they all went round and round. And in the end of course DS is one of the ones who gets called into the office by the resource officer. DS's mistake was being involved in the first place. He got Kid A's item and returned it to him, but he didn't get credit for that, he got in trouble for being part of it to begin with.

There is one kid who is definitely a troublemaker, and I have told DS to stay away from him. I have also told him the silly behavior HAS TO stop. So we'll see. I don't know if he CAN stop, because I don't know if he has the ability to recognize that silly behavior is starting and stop it before it gets out of hand.

The administrator is just concerned that eventually somebody is going to go too far and a fight is going to break out. DS said all of the boys have been approached about being silly and too much horseplay, yet they continue to do it. The administrator did tell DS he can ask for a library pass and go read in the library if he wants to get away from the situation, but he likes to spend lunch with his friends. I don't know what to do.

My suggestion would be to have him meet with the guidance councilor. He needs to have someone other than you or dh, give him the behavioral guidelines that he is expected to follow. Coming from a school official with appropriate content and explanation could go a long ways. He can also explain his point of view and perhaps be lead in the right direction. I'm sure you tell him things all the time, but you're Mom and it may not sink in.

well the Dr said that my ears were clear so no infection. The rapid strep test came back negative. She thought it was strep or tonsillitis. So I am on a Z-pack.

okay here it is

Very nice

Emma loves school but she's having a rough time figuring out where/how she fits in. She had a tomboy pal in preschool but all the girls in her K class are real girly girls. She tells me the boys don't want to be her friend.

SO....earlier this week Emma comes home and tells me she had to go the principal's office because a classmate hit her. She understood that she wasn't in trouble but I was surprised that her teacher didn't call me. I emailed her teacher and told her I wanted to know what happened. Her teacher called me and told me the child that hit her has impulse control issues. When they asked him what happened he would only say that his brain wouldn't work fast enough to tell him not to do it but wouldn't say why he did it. Sounds like his behavior has been excused in the past. Emma hasn't had any problems with him since.

So when I was talking to the teacher I mentioned that Emma is struggling trying to fit in. She suggested I look for books in the library about differences so Emma will be comfortable with who she is. Emma has always been comfortable with who she is. She's struggling to find a friend who is comfortable with who she is. The teacher assured me its still early in the year and friendships will come. Emma is still happy to go to school so I'm trying not to get too worried yet.

I don't think it matters if she has male or female friends. I think she needs to find another child that has similar interests. It will take some time to realize they have things in common. I would guess that she is playing with different kids each day, and from what I get from Colby I think he is playing with different kids each day too. He doesn't seem to mention one kid more than any other.

I'm getting ready to print our door designs. I don't have magnetic paper but have magnetic tape. Should I put the paper in a plastic sleeve and then use the magnetic tape on that or just on the paper? (It's a heaver cardstock type paper.)

I would laminate it then use the tape. The paper could tear and a plastic sleeve will have some slack in it, pulling away from the door.

We did! And, eventually I will be able to tell you all about it. But for now, here is a picture that CA Grill took of us Saturday evening during our dinner there. They were delighted to have us celebrate with them and came to our window table just after Wishes and took this to email to us.

Very nice picture.

 

[my3princes]

Our first "wedding" present! From my mom's cousin who is also singing at the wedding.

Very nice and homey.

...and our finished door magnets! Not the best, but I think they're fun!

These came out well

 

[yellowfish78]

Where's my laminator when I need it?!

What store would have a laminator?

 

[my3princes]

Where's my laminator when I need it?! :headache

What store would have a laminator?

Staples

You can also buy laminate self stick sleeves at Walmart or BJs

 

[yellowfish78]

Do they laminate them for me or is it something that I do myself?

 

[tinknme]

Our first "wedding" present! From my mom's cousin who is also singing at the wedding.

...and our finished door magnets! Not the best, but I think they're fun!
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Doesn't that wedding gift just give you the chills

I love the magnets, you did a wonderful job

Hopefully you will have something else arrive tomorrow

 

[PNO4TE]

Ok, now that they're settled this morning...

That was very scary to read, so I can only imagine how difficult it was to deal with in the car. I am glad that Elise seems fine now, Jennifer.

I love your new signature picture collage!

 

[my3princes]

Staples

You can also buy laminate self stick sleeves at Walmart or BJs

Do they laminate them for me or is it something that I do myself?

If you get the self stick sleeves you just slip the paper in and pull off the backing, carefully sticking it together. Those turn out fairly stiff. They probably have a laminate machine which they could laminate things for you.

 

[PNO4TE]

Hi Elin, Welcome home. Hope you had a great time

Thanks, Terry! We had a marvelous time!

 

[tinknme]

Where's my laminator when I need it?!

What store would have a laminator?

Weird sense of humor I guess, but this made me chuckle

 

[my3princes]

I'm heading to bed. Good night all

 

[yellowfish78]

I'm heading to bed. Good night all

Night, thanks Deb!

 

[PNO4TE]

...and our finished door magnets! Not the best, but I think they're fun!

Loved these. I have to admit that I was trying to figure out why you had a license plate that read "R(obert) Hiney Man"

 

[tinknme]

Night Deb!

Jennifer I love Virginia's birthday invitation. Wow a year already!