People are reading all sorts of things into this that may or may not be there, probably biased by their own lives. It's pretty simple.
This family talks daily, while the DD is on the way to work. DD broke the well-established routine and didn't call one day, so her mom phone two lousy times to check on the DD. She got no response. The next day, she calls again with no response and begins to leave messages much more frequently. That's understandable. Was she in a bit of a panic? Maybe. But the daughter had not contacted her in two days, depsite numerous messages and that sent up red flags.
After failing to receive any response for two days, the mom resorted to calling the DD's place of employment and yes, she spoke to multiple people trying to find her DD. It probably freaked her that the first few seemed clueless as to where the DD even was. (Laying dead in a ditch somehwere, maybe? It happens.)
The DD sure managed to get her hands on a phone PDQ when she wanted to call the mom and tell her she "hate, hate, hated her." If she'd have used one brain cell and one hand to borrow that same phone (or use a work phone) to call mom after seeing the numerous messages and called mom to say, "I'm fine. My phone is just acting up," all would have been well.
I'm sorry, but telling your mom you hate her (at age 26) because she was justifiably worried about you is ungrateful, mean and inexcusable. She could tell her mom was concerned from all the messages left, but never took one second to call her and calm her fears. Talk about me, me, me. To be blunt, the DD brought the phone calls to her office on herself by not calling her worried mother over the course of two days. She got her hands on a phone super fast when she wanted to bash her mom......funny, that.
Hell would freeze over before I apologized to my DD if she acted that way. By the same token, the daily phone contact would probably cease as well. What a brat.
Look, stuff happens. A friend of mine just had a co-worker die in his 30s. He sat at home for a few days, dead as could be, missing work while people wondered where he was. After 3 days, they checked and found him. That poor guy had no parents to check on him....So no one to miss his phone calls. He may have been dead up to 5 days. I'm sure this kind of thing crossed the mom's mind. When my mother failed to answer the phone and my sister was used to talking to her daily, she had someone check on our mom. She was nearly dead and spent weeks in the hospital recovering. The DD ought to be thankful to have parents who give a rat's hiney about her.
This family talks daily, while the DD is on the way to work. DD broke the well-established routine and didn't call one day, so her mom phone two lousy times to check on the DD. She got no response. The next day, she calls again with no response and begins to leave messages much more frequently. That's understandable. Was she in a bit of a panic? Maybe. But the daughter had not contacted her in two days, depsite numerous messages and that sent up red flags.
After failing to receive any response for two days, the mom resorted to calling the DD's place of employment and yes, she spoke to multiple people trying to find her DD. It probably freaked her that the first few seemed clueless as to where the DD even was. (Laying dead in a ditch somehwere, maybe? It happens.)
The DD sure managed to get her hands on a phone PDQ when she wanted to call the mom and tell her she "hate, hate, hated her." If she'd have used one brain cell and one hand to borrow that same phone (or use a work phone) to call mom after seeing the numerous messages and called mom to say, "I'm fine. My phone is just acting up," all would have been well.
I'm sorry, but telling your mom you hate her (at age 26) because she was justifiably worried about you is ungrateful, mean and inexcusable. She could tell her mom was concerned from all the messages left, but never took one second to call her and calm her fears. Talk about me, me, me. To be blunt, the DD brought the phone calls to her office on herself by not calling her worried mother over the course of two days. She got her hands on a phone super fast when she wanted to bash her mom......funny, that.
Hell would freeze over before I apologized to my DD if she acted that way. By the same token, the daily phone contact would probably cease as well. What a brat.
Look, stuff happens. A friend of mine just had a co-worker die in his 30s. He sat at home for a few days, dead as could be, missing work while people wondered where he was. After 3 days, they checked and found him. That poor guy had no parents to check on him....So no one to miss his phone calls. He may have been dead up to 5 days. I'm sure this kind of thing crossed the mom's mind. When my mother failed to answer the phone and my sister was used to talking to her daily, she had someone check on our mom. She was nearly dead and spent weeks in the hospital recovering. The DD ought to be thankful to have parents who give a rat's hiney about her.
on the other hand, I only talk to my sister once every 1-2weeks. That's the way she likes it and that's cool with me. I see her post on FB every couple of days, so I know she's alive
If she's good enough at her job to be 2nd in command, one panicked phone call from her mom isnt going to do anything to her career.
