DavIfer 10.6.12* at home Disney Magical wedding

[librarygeek]

I love the VS dress, so pretty and a great color! Also good luck with finding a second dress, I think it's a good idea And at $200 that is quite a bargain, can't really go wrong!

 

[Mindyjoy]

You really can't go wrong with two dresses.

 

[lilsqueakrr]

1! Ahhhhh!

Okay, so, I'm not a genius and I get hopped up in the moment of things and the adrenaline and my mind completely goes kaputz and does me dirty!

When we booked our wedding in November, I definitely wanted the later time being that I did NOT want a day wedding.. well none of us (myself, DF, mom and dad) thought about the fact that the sun goes down earlier in the fall. I'm a 6pm ceremony, meaning the sun will be setting during our ceremony. Which will be GORGEOUS don't get me wrong, but DF and I aren't seeing each other before the ceremony. Meaning, our pictures on the beach that I've been envisioning since forever, will be in the DARK.
I talked to DF, mom, and dad about it and they were all like 'crap'! Well except dad, cause he just doesn't get it. lol. So I decided to email my photographer about it and see what she thought and what she's experienced at my venue being that she's worked there before.. she agreed with me 'oh crap!' she didn't have the contract in front of her so she didn't know if we were seeing each other before hand, but if we weren't I should definitely try to reschedule it if I didn't already have invitations.

Well of course I don't have invites, we still have 19 months! ha. But CRUD! So now I have to call my venue and pray that they allow me to move it up at least an hour, hour and a half earlier so I can get some daylight and sunset pictures in! Keep your fingers crossed for me!

Like I need this on top of everything else I'm dealing with right now...

 

[librarygeek]

Oooh, I wouldn't have thought of that either! Also, depending on which way your ceremony is facing, you wouldn't want the sun shining directly in your guests eyes either as it's setting. If you can get it moved up that would be good because then you could still get some daylight pics, and some gorgeous sunset pics as well afterward. I would imagine the venue won't have a problem moving it up, but good luck! I hope it works out.

 

[Bickimook2]

Oh that is a problem, well hopefully it will work itself out, that would make for some really pretty pictures at sunset

 

[sw33t_angel]

Those are for you!!

AND

Sending this your way!!!!

 

[KristiLyn]

I'm sure since it's only like an hour before they would be fine with it! And being that you are giving them a notice way ahead of time!!
Good luck!!

 

[lilsqueakrr]

Okay, so.. here's a bit of an update...

As Amber knows first hand.. I was having a major bridal meltdown last night, even after I talked to the woman from my venue!

Turns out, they can book events on the same day as my wedding. As of right now, there is nobody booked other than me but it is possible someone else can book an even there all the way up to 5pm! Yeah, that's right, an HOUR before my ceremony is due to begin. And basically the time that I was planning to arrive to be sure none of my guests saw me. The bridal suite is guaranteed a half hour before my scheduled ceremony.. but more than likely I will be able to get in there at 5pm.
She recommended for myself and my 'maids to show up around 4/4:30pm to take our pictures on the beach, so that after the ceremony it's just the whole bridal party shots, families combined, and bride/groom shots. Only one issue.. Dave canNOT see me and my brother will be with him. What're we going to do? Somehow steal Joseph from the groomsmen shots for a minute? Plus Dave's sister will be with me! I get nauseas just thinking about all this. I don't want anybody to see me before the ceremony, not even guests and especially not Mr. Dave.

I'm so scared of being rushed for our pictures....

PLUS, they canNOT move my event time up. I just want a half hour, that is all. 5:30pm is all I'm needing. She said I should be fine as my ceremony will more than likely promptly start at 6pm and over by 6:30pm. Then we would be taking pictures from 6:30pm on as the sun is setting. I'm fine, but what if that sun decides to set really fast?! And I do NOT want to be rushed. Sunset shots are GORGEOUS. But I don't want to be in the darkness.
She said if someone is looking for a brunch event during the fall she is going to recommend that date, which means they'd be gone by 3pm and all of my worrying will be over! But let's just hope that that actually happens? Or that nobody books at all.

I was on a rampage last night.. my mom just wasn't getting it. Dave did though, THANK GOD! He gets me. He's even willing to go thru the whole converting to Catholic thing now, which he was totally against, cause he can see as to how upset I am about this whole thing.
So he said for me to look into a few churches today, one being the one I grew up in, the other his, and then I'm going to call the one officiant we've been looking into and see if he works out of a church also. I really wasn't wanting to go through the whole precana(sp?) stuff.. but it may have to happen so I don't have a heart attack the day of my wedding.
And I really started envisioning my beach wedding and now I have to change it?!

HELP ME! =[ What would you girls do if you were in my shoes? I'm so scared now. I emailed my photographer to get her input on it all. So let's hope that it's something good please!

 

[LuvLuvLuv]

HELP ME! =[ What would you girls do if you were in my shoes? I'm so scared now.

Well. If I were in your shoes. I would have a week long panic attack, go thru 2 refills of an anxiety prescription and cry until someone gave me a solution (or gave me my way). But! Since you are are strong, well mannered lady... you won't do any such thing

It's honestly a tough situation, and I'm not sure what to do. Even though you don't want an afternoon wedding... it would assure you had daylight. If you went thru the Catholic church... is there a beachy place you could take pictures at after that's nearby?? Any other beach locations that may be more accommodating??

At times like this don't you want to say, "Screw this, I'm going to Disney!" ???

 

[KristiLyn]

Aww I'm sorry. That stinks
I really don't know what I would do. I guess do an afternoon wedding, with a time close enough where after the wedding (almost reception time) it would be starting to get dark?? Whatever time that may be?

 

[lilsqueakrr]

Well. If I were in your shoes. I would have a week long panic attack, go thru 2 refills of an anxiety prescription and cry until someone gave me a solution (or gave me my way). But! Since you are are strong, well mannered lady... you won't do any such thing

It's honestly a tough situation, and I'm not sure what to do. Even though you don't want an afternoon wedding... it would assure you had daylight. If you went thru the Catholic church... is there a beachy place you could take pictures at after that's nearby?? Any other beach locations that may be more accommodating??

At times like this don't you want to say, "Screw this, I'm going to Disney!" ???

Haha, trust me I'm not as well mannered as you think..
My mother already wants to lock me away. haha. I emailed the woman today (see below) and she answered a few of my questions.

If we do the church ceremony we could definitely still do the beach shots and everything, it's just I wouldn't be getting married on the beach which is what I was kinda super stoked about? And the real reason I was looking towards a beach. I could find another beach location I guess, but idk how much that would cost? We've already paid $1000 for our ceremony for the chairs and stuff.

I'm honestly wishing I booked somewhere else..

And you have NOO idea how many times I've said "Disney would be SO much easier" but then all I do is hear an earful from the peanut gallery.

Aww I'm sorry. That stinks
I really don't know what I would do. I guess do an afternoon wedding, with a time close enough where after the wedding (almost reception time) it would be starting to get dark?? Whatever time that may be?

Afternoon weddings are stupid. lol. If that's the case I woulda booked the original date that we had wanted and done the Sunday wedding for cheaper. ha. Therefor making us WAY under budget. ha.

But theyre' not willing to do anything it seems like. All they care about is getting the money and that's that. No sympathy what so ever. heh. I'm so freaked out and stressed out about this whole situation it's not even funny..
Here is the answers that she sent me: Her answers are in red..


Hey Christina, it's Jenifer (105336) again! lol. I'm sure you're already sick of seeing my emails in your inbox.. I just have a couple of questions after talking to my parents and fiance after getting off of the phone with you last night..

#1, if there is to be an event before mine ending at 5, when would you know if that slot will be booked?we don’t have a time frame in which events need to be book by so they can book as late as the month prior

#2, if nobody schedules before our time, would we be able to move our ceremony time up to 5:30 pm? I’d have to speak to my property manager, but I would definitely assume there will be an event, it is a popular month.
#3, if we were to be bringing in our own reception decor, etc when would we be able to decorate if there is only an hour in between? Or would you guys be taking care of that for me? Just specify décor. As far as anything on the tables we will set that up when we set the tables, like centerpieces, etc. if you weren’t using a florist. As far as any other design, right after the event prior ends at 5 we clear the room and you can have it decorated. Keep in mind you will not be in the ballroom until 8 pm. So while there is a 1 hour window between events you will have a few hours for someone to decorate ballroom.

I'm just scared of the time thing, heh. I'm sorry it's so far in advanced, but I'd rather get some answers now so that I can calm myself.. ha. Cause we don't really wanna jip ourselves of time for our pictures.. heh. Cause we need the whole bridal party together and whole family pictures along with us alone that has to be done after the ceremony.. and who wants a black background when you're in that gorgeous scenery?

My biggest fear is being rushed for pictures before the sun goes down, and like you mentioned yesterday I can take my bridesmaid/family pictures without David before the ceremony on the beach, it's just I don't want to see another bride.. for both of our sakes lol. Who wants to see another bride on their wedding day?? I know I wouldn't haha. =] I absolutely understand. We do our best to not have the brides see eachother. If you come earlier for pictures you will be out on the beach and garden doing so and the bride prior will be done with pictures, so you should be fine.



Call me b*t** or call me whatever, but those answers don't make me feel any better or relaxed about the situation what so ever. I don't want to feel rushed. But it looks like I'm screwed either way. Shoulda known better huh?

 

[Mindyjoy]

Okay, seriously ... what is the penalty to cut and run from this place? It's your one day and if you can't get what you want, maybe it's time to move on.

And, I KNOW I KNOW, everyone is sooo against the first look, which I really don't understand. If it's important to you, then you should absolutely do what you want, but a first look will save you A LOT of stress and headache. You can take all your group pictures before, and then just a few sunset pics after the ceremony.

 

[Bickimook2]

Ok hun listen up. I am in the same situation you are! I thought I was the only one dealing with scheduling and time restraints Let me just tell you that it will be ok. Here's my stories (as in more than one issue lol!). The ceremony problem: I have the old theater were getting married in booked for 4 hours, tear down and picture time and everything and i dont want to see DF prior to the cermony. Our solution: we are setting up the night before as far as decorations (don't know if your venue can do this bc of your location) which will cut an hour. We are doing getting ready pics done at the hotel across the street saving at least 3 hours and we are doing a first look session at the hotel across the street in the lobby saving more time. Now I was totally against this in the beginning but I knew that it would save us soooo much time and I did research on it apparently ppl like doing this more bc it's just you and your DF no one else is around it's a special moment btw the two of you, plus depending on how early you do it you can procastinant and save yourself the trouble of being rushed. After the first look we are heading over 2 hours before the ceremony
is to take place for bridal party and family pictures. After that we chill a half hour ceremony a half hour. We leave and our friends tear down as we head over to reception location to take pics ( we have an hour to do this). Second story the reception time problem: we have our reception all booked from 4:00pm to 12am with reception starting at 5:00pm (see the problem no time for set up). So after I book reception dude tells me that a church group is in our location in the morning so in like when am I suppose to set up and he says well if the space is booked they can't do it. Soooooo I book the space for 2 hours in the morning making it so there is no possible way for anyone to book it on top of us. The cost you may ask $50 and well spent mind you (I'm sneaky I know). So that solves that problem. We come in at 8:00am the day of set up, our vendors do the same, and were good to go. . Basically what I am saying is you can find your way around the curve balls you just have to go in it with a plan and I know you don't want to do a first look I didn't either but if you look at the pics of ppl doing it they are so happy to get that one on one time together I think it was lurkyloos I saw that sold me lol! and to me it's worth it not to have to stress about it. As far as someone booking on top of you can you book the space for an hour that's so random that it makes it completely undesirable to a potential client? I know it's sneaky but a brides got to do what a brides got to do hope some of this helps just know you are not alone. Oh and a good way not to feel rushed is to make sure you come up with a picture list bc it will keep you on track save time and get you all the pics you want. Everything will work out

 

[lilsqueakrr]

Thanks for your input girls! I'm really, really against the first look. Call me old fashioned, but it's something I've been really dead set on. And so is he.

So, here's a little update as far as things go..

My photographer emailed me back and told me basically there is no hope for any type of outdoor pictures AFTER the ceremony due to the sun going down. So I have a few options..
a.) first look.. NOPE.
b.) earlier in the day (say 2-3ish) church ceremony
c.) find another beach location

So far I'm really liking option c. Was so funny when she emailed me, she was like dooon't panic. Welp. TOO late! ha.

So here is what I'm thinking..
starting tonight/tomorrow I'm researching other beach locations. Going to call them to see how to go about booking a ceremony at their spot and as to how far in advanced that I would have to actually book it.
contact my local church and talk to them about cost, precana, etc for a ceremony in the church (would definitely make mom happy). Do the same for Dave's church as well.
await for my consultant at the venue to email me back, then ask about paying a little extra to block out some extra time. therefore, no longer time issues for pictures!
just say SCREW IT ALL and head down to Disney and have myself the wedding that I REALLY want.

Personally, my favorites the last.
But lord knows that'll never happen!

But either way before I book anything additional, I'm going to wait until the first weekend of October and literally sit outside and watch the sunset and see how long it lasts, times, etc. Yep. I'm a freak. But it has to be done.

I'll make sure Dave takes me to a nice romantical dinner at a nice restaurant that night on the water.. hah.

Ugh, so that's that. Lemme know what you think?
I wish I could just fold and find another venue. But then my date may not be available and I'm not finding new dj or photographer. Just not happening.

 

[librarygeek]

Ugh. Sorry to hear about this! I am not sure if it's even possible from what you said, but I don't think any afternoon wedding would be so terrible. We're getting married at 3:00 pm. Otherwise I'm kind of with Mindy - what would be the penalty to backing out now? Not only is this an issue, but their attitude is troubling, because what if something else comes up? You don't need more stress.

I'm also having a small issue with decorating. Wish we could do it the night before, but they've got a jazzercise class that practices in the hall until 11 am, so they can't set up til then. I don't know if I should plan to head over there for a little bit in that small time frame in between, or if I should leave the decorating up to the hall. I'm a little nervous about that cause I've got some intricate stuff.

 

[Bickimook2]

We're getting married at 3:00 too, in fact every wedding I have been to in the last 5 years has been between 2 and 3, what's wrong with that option?

 

[KristiLyn]

I don't really have much advice with it (I chose option: screw it all and head to Disney.. ) but I just wanted to say good luck with this stress! Just remember, it's about you and your df, so do what makes you two happy!

 

[lilsqueakrr]

Thanks girls! I have no issues with STARTING at 3 or 4 or even 2, but if we changed our time slot we'd be ENDING at that time... Odd. Or starting at 11 and ending at 5. No bueno. I don't like that. It's ugly. haha.

Right now I think we're going to research some little beach chapels in the towns and my photog mentioned some place we can get married on a rock jetty! Sweet! ha. So idk, we'll see. I've kinda lost all hope for my venue??

And thanks Kristi!! I'm on that boat with both feet! Except I think I'm the only one on it?? Aside from you of course!

 

[KristiLyn]

I'm definately on the boat

 

[librarygeek]

Thanks girls! I have no issues with STARTING at 3 or 4 or even 2, but if we changed our time slot we'd be ENDING at that time... Odd. Or starting at 11 and ending at 5. No bueno. I don't like that. It's ugly. haha.

Right now I think we're going to research some little beach chapels in the towns and my photog mentioned some place we can get married on a rock jetty! Sweet! ha. So idk, we'll see. I've kinda lost all hope for my venue??

And thanks Kristi!! I'm on that boat with both feet! Except I think I'm the only one on it?? Aside from you of course!

I think you've still got some good options! And I understand now, I don't really think I'd want a wedding going from 11-5 either. People aren't really in the mood to party and dance in the afternoon as much as they are in the evening.

A beach chapel would be totally cute, and good compromise! Plus, and I don't know how important this is to you, but it would be a good way to tie in your religion too. I'm not overly religious but I do have some beliefs so I knew I definitely wanted to get married in a church if at all possible.

Good luck working it all out! I know you won't really be relieved til things are straightened out.