Daughter got her license today...am I the only one who cries?

[CaliforniaDreamin]

I am bawling like a baby at work right now. My daughter got her license. I'm scared to death. I have lost friends in car accidents when I was a teenager. And there are so many drunk drivers, bad drivers, etc on the road. Everyone around me is acting like I'm a drama queen. I can't help it...I'm panicking and crying. Please tell me I'm not the only one who freaks out when their child gets their license!!!
I know I should not be crying or Dising at work...but I really need some encouragement or kind words or something.

 

[MizTink]

I am bawling like a baby at work right now. My daughter got her license. I'm scared to death. I have lost friends in car accidents when I was a teenager. And there are so many drunk drivers, bad drivers, etc on the road. Everyone around me is acting like I'm a drama queen. I can't help it...I'm panicking and crying. Please tell me I'm not the only one who freaks out when their child gets their license!!!
I know I should not be crying or Dising at work...but I really need some encouragement or kind words or something.

I feel the same way. how old is your DD? i think we should be able to keep our kids in a big bubble if we want to.

 

[cheermom1]

I hear ya my dd got her about a month ago

I don;t know what to say but I know I have to let her do it ya know?

 

[pixiedust9]

okay, my daughter is almost 13...but she talks about DRIVING all the time. it scares me to death. i wish there were a way to keep them little forever. in my circle, i am the one parent who does not want their children to grow up and move out. so no, i don't think you are crazy, i don't think you are being a drama queen...you sound like a mom that loves her daughter so much..and for that she should be grateful. as far as everything else, you can just try and make sure that she doesn't text on her phone while driving, limit the amount of friends she can have in the car...in my state its only one, and make sure she is careful...good luck..here's a hug for you...

 

[DisneyBamaFan]

I won't cry, but I will worry - for the rest of my life...

 

[MOmousefan]

As the father of two grown daughters, it was scary when they first went somewhere by themselves. They had to call when they arrived at their destination and call when they left for home.
HOWEVER, it was ten times worse when a boy came to get them for a date! Being a teacher, I could do a background check on the boy, so they had to let me "pre-approve" all suiters. BTW I only had to run off one boy who was less than suitable.
Good Luck!

 

[Jestocost]

Taking my DD for the driving test on Friday, so I'll let you know.

 

[Abbie]

I won't cry, but I will worry - for the rest of my life...

This.

I think this is where if you have faith, it kicks in. Just like raising kids, at some point you have to trust that they are ready for these steps towards independence and hope, pray that you have done all you can do to be sure they are ready. But even with the best, most experienced driver you can't account for the other drivers out there.......so you just have to trust and hope and pray that a power greater than yours will be taking care of your child.

Each of my girls has a clip on angel in their car that says "Never drive faster than your guardian angel can fly!" Still need one for my son who got his license a few weeks back!

The bottom line is that you can't keep your children safe forever at home, they will have to take a lot of scary steps along the route to adulthood and your job is to make sure they are as ready as you can make them. Then let them fly and pray and trust!

I'm sure you'll be feeling better soon about it.

 

[mamacatnv]

I won't cry, but I will worry - for the rest of my life...

Yep, that's me. My DS knows I worry, he is in college now but if he is headed into the mountains to ski or out to the boonies to duck hunt etc. he will still call and tell me he arrived and he will call when he returns home. He doesn't have to, he does it for me. When you ask your DD to check in remind her that it is for you, not because you don't trust her.

It does get easier and it does get better, but I do not think the worry will ever go away

 

[Feralpeg]

My DD will be 22 in March. She only got her license last summer. She still doesn't drive a lot. When I'm with her, it scare me to death. She isn't a bad driver, but it just freaks me out. I want her to become more sure of herself, but it is very hard for me to ride with her because she is so afraid of driving. I'm sure my reaction does not help the situation. She lost two friends to a car accident when she was 16. It has been very hard for her to get past this. I know I will worry forever.

 

[CaliforniaDreamin]

I feel the same way. how old is your DD? i think we should be able to keep our kids in a big bubble if we want to.

She turned 16 in Dec. And I agree with you! I want a big bubble for both my girls! Thanks for making me chuckle. I needed that.

 

[CaliforniaDreamin]

This.

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Each of my girls has a clip on angel in their car that says "Never drive faster than your guardian angel can fly!"

You will not believe me, but I ordered her one online and it came yesterday. I swear to God...thats like the first thing I thought to buy when she got her car.

 

[CaliforniaDreamin]

I won't cry, but I will worry - for the rest of my life...

It never ends, does it?

 

[DisneyBamaFan]

It never ends, does it?

If we are lucky, they will bury us...

 

[The Mystery Machine]

I won't cry, but I will worry - for the rest of my life...

Yep. When my 18yodd is driving home from/to college 2hrs away, I worry.

 

[4nana]

Awww, know you're not alone sweetie.
I remember those days well with our four children and not resting until I knew they arrived at destination safe and sound.

It's a whole new phase for parents watching their babies mature and spread their wings.
I learned to lean on my faith, trust, and banked on the good foundation we gave them.

Abbie, I hear you, even our adult children have visor guardian angels I've given them.
Our soldier in AFG carries one in his wallet.

Congrats and best wishes to your DD!

 

[tinkerfan1]

No, you aren't alone. DS15 just got his license. Yes, they drive ALONE at 15 years old in this state! He will be 16 this month, though. I worry constantly and pray on my way to work and on my way home...before work...before I go to bed... He gets tired, I'm sure, of me telling him to "be careful."

 

[Nolcrest]

I know exactly how you feel. I think all moms do. I just had this conversation this morning with another mom. I hate when my DD drives. She is not a confident driver and really doesn't like to drive either.

Like others have said I just hope and pray that she uses good judgment and I can never sleep a wink when I know she is out.

The first thing I did when my DD got her license was call up my insurance company for an umbrella policy.

May all of our children stay safe!

 

[themilesfamily]

I remember the first time I drove away from my house, my mother stood on the front porch crying and begging me not to drive away! (And I even waited until I was 17 to get my license.)

I was totally embarrassed and thought she was being ridiculous -- now that I have a DD, I'm starting to get where she was coming from. But it made me feel like my mother didn't trust me or have confidence in my ability.

Just sit home and pray a lot. That's probably what I'll do when the time comes. My DH says he plans to tail DD everywhere for the first six months or so! Parenting makes one a little crazy, doesn't it?

 

[CaliforniaDreamin]

If we are lucky, they will bury us...

AMEN! That is all I want out of this life, my girls to bury me.