Daughter broke her arm, Boss less than sympathetic- How to respond?

[Pea-n-Me]

People are offering their stories and advice, based on experience.
Trying to be helpful.
We do not know the details of their positions and situations.
I don't think going off track to attack somebody who was just offering their thoughts is warranted here.
Not helpful.

Attack??

It's not ok to ask questions respectfully?

 

[Wishing on a star]

Anna, as many are discussing here, these things have to be handled in very specific ways.
Nobody has any obligation to be 'sympathetic'. That is not the approach or 'tone' that matters.
They do, however, have to follow the law, and the procedures and benefits, (personal leave.. medical leave... etc.) that should be included somewhere, such as in an Employee Handbook, your benefits package, insurance policies, etc.

I do not know the details of your pregnancy or any condition(s)... But, it would be to your advantage to know the specifics for things like medical leave, personal leave, FMLA, ETC...
If your employer is expecting you to work long shifts, overtime, etc... And, you do not feel that this is in the physical best interest of you and your baby, then I hope that you have a physician who will support you, and give you Dr.s recommendation/advice/mandate that you should be on 'light duty'.

Document... document.... DOCUMENT!!!
It sounds like your employer might not be eager to provide all of the benefits (time off, paid time, etc...) that they should be providing.

 

[Wishing on a star]

Okay.... I do concede that might have been a strong word... But 'question' did not seem like the right word.... I felt that this was more than a simple open question.

 

[declansdad]

Here...

thanks

 

[LovesTimone]

So you were a manager, and on the employee relations committee, and your motto was to keep your mouth shut and head down? You say you had a job to do. May I ask what that was?

Yes, I was a manager, and Yes I was on the employee relations committee and my motto was to keep my mouth shut and head down during the employee relations committee meeting as far as all the gossiping and getting into things that really had no baring on what we were suppose to be doing. I basically could have cared less about who was having an affair.

Yes I had a job to do...and a very busy, challenging, at times heart breaking, very fulfilling job... I was the Activity Director for 240 residents, planning daily activities, not only in the facility but trips and to events outside of the facility, also Resident and Family events - monthly dinners and entertainment, working with all the different disciplines therapy, nursing, dietary, social workers. Then they add in employee relations committee which was planning staff and resident events, stand alone staff events, also we were the people other staff would come to if they knew of a problem someone (staff) was having problems everything from needing food, paying a light bill, or worse domestic violence, or drug and alcohol issues.

My job was to care for and give some joy to residents in their golden years that were not so golden due to health problems. Frist and foremost my job was my Residents. In this type of setting, residents would share things with me and my staff that they might not share with the nursing or therapy departments, also family members would come to me on things that might be concerned about, or just need someone to listen to them about their loved one, and need a shoulder to cry on or a hug. In a sense myself and my staff becomes part of the residents family. You get to know them, not just resident passing med's or giving therapy to but as a person, you hear their stories, about their lives and what they saw, and did, about their children, husband or wife... Its was my honor to have cared for all them.

 

[sk!mom]

Is there a reason that your communication might have given them the impression that you were attempting to be in on time, or very close too it? 2 1/2 hours is a long time to be left short staffed in a hospital pharmacy position. I'm assuming they were either short for the time you weren't there, or the day shift had to stay until you got there without clear knowledge of when that would be.

Point being, would it have been better for them if you had just called in so they could get someone else to cover the shift in its entirety?

Granted, the tact of your boss left a lot to be desired. However, I can kind of see where the message is coming from. While status updates are appreciated, they don't fix the staffing needs of that 2 1/2 hour period.

I agree with this.

I would be upset by the bosses response and would go in and calmly discuss it. I would explain that I was doing my best to come in as, at the time, that seemed better than calling out. I would ask if in the future I had an emergency, would he prefer that I just go ahead and call in for the whole shift using my sick leave?

 

[TexasKiwiPrincess]

Update: I took some advice offered in this thread, kept my head down, documented everything, and did not bring it up to the boss. Basically, I acted like the email never happened. Since that time, my peers have had a number of occasions that resulted in similar missed time from work, and I documented those instances as well, just in case I needed to compare how I was treated vs co-workers. My boss announced last week that he turned in his resignation and has taken a position at a different hospital.

I am satisfied with this outcome. There's nothing permanent in my file and I have everything documented in case anyone brings it up.
So, thank you all for your thoughts and sound advice! Cheers!

 

[indimom]

TexasKiwiPrincess, Hopefully you'll get an awesome new boss!

 

[Forevermarypoppins]

Curious, are you required to tell your boss WHY, you are calling in late/or otherwise. Personally I don't think it's anyone's *** business.
But my healthcare employer has now deemed that we must give a reason for our absence and it WILL be tracked. W H a T E V E R.

 

[mi*vida*loca]

Curious, are you required to tell your boss WHY, you are calling in late/or otherwise. Personally I don't think it's anyone's *** business.
But my healthcare employer has now deemed that we must give a reason for our absence and it WILL be tracked. W H a T E V E R.

I'm not and I don't. I just send a message that I won't/can't come in.