Dating someone younger

[sms]

I know this sounds completely crazy but, I'm 42. I have been out a couple of times with a 26year old. I know he sounds too young but he is very mature. He has 2 kids, not married, works very hard, makes good money, funny, laid back, sweet, and not to mention, very sexy. I probably sound like a school girl, but he makes me feel great when I'm around him. Is this age difference too much!! I can't talk to anyone about this but you guys. I need your honest opinions! Thanks!!

 

[Pomlover2586]

I can see up to a 10 year age difference as OK......but we're talking 16 years!!! Think about this.....you were 16 years old, when he was BORN........I'm 23 and I usually have no issues with some amount of age difference.....but if you were my mother [and you're old enough to be] I'd have to say this was BEYOND PERVY.

Sorry you asked for honesty.....walk away and find someone closer to your age and let him do the same.....

 

[MidgeD79]

I am 46 years old and I say GO FOR IT!!!

 

[BCDisneyFanatic]

Depends what your intentions are .

If you are both just looking to have some fun and enjoy each other's company, I don't see a problem with it. If you are looking long-term, though, I think that's a hard age difference to overcome. When you are 60, he will only be 44...

 

[Serena]

I've had a couple younger men tell me that is not too big a difference.



but for long term, I just don't know.

 

[Disney Doll]

While it doesn't seem like such a big deal now, I always think of the longer term in those situations.

When you're 70, he'll be 54. Tha's a big difference for a lot of reasons.

And yes, I'd be saying the same thing if the man was 16 years older than the woman.

 

[xoprincessmomxo]

Go for it!!!

If you like him, and he likes you then have fun with it and enjoy each other's company. He's an adult.

 

[TAKitty]

My husband is 8 years older and that has had problems. Do you have kids? If so, I think they might find it uncomfortable.

 

[PammyK]

Well, for what its worth, I'm 40 and most of the guys who show an interest in me are all around 27-28. At first I felt uncomfortable but then I realized that if we're both adults so why should it be a big deal. Now, granted none of them have been long-term material but I guess I don't think age should be a factor otherwise you could miss out on something really wonderful.

 

[Serena]

It would be difficult for a long term relationship. A lot of talking and discussion.



My oldest daughter told me that as long as they are not younger than her, she's ok with it.

 

[krcit]

Go for it!!!

If you like him, and he likes you then have fun with it and enjoy each other's company. He's an adult.

Have fun(and then tell me all about it)

 

[hereyago]

Go out and have fun. If it leads to something more, then ya'll will have to really talk about it.

I am sorry, but other posters are saying about if you have kids, they might be uncomfortable. Not to sound mean, because I love my DD11 with all my heart, but I had a life before I had her, i have a life with her and I will have a life when she goes to college.
So you have to do what makes YOU happy, your kids wouldn't have to date him. There is no way I would discuss my dating life or ask my kid how she felt about me dating someone. It wouldn't be up to her who I date.

 

[crz4mm2]

While it doesn't seem like such a big deal now, I always think of the longer term in those situations.

When you're 70, he'll be 54. Tha's a big difference for a lot of reasons.

And yes, I'd be saying the same thing if the man was 16 years older than the woman.

That's what I was thinking.

 

[Andrea]

i say go for it !!!!

if he makes you happy, and laugh and enjoy each other. Have at it. Some times you can date people your own age, and never get that.

who cares

 

[Terry36]

I say why not.

I have a 38 y.o. friend who met a 24 y.o. last year. They hit it off and have been close ever since.

 

[MIGrandma]

Personally I don't think it's anyone's business but your own and his.

If YOU are happy and HE is happy then what's the big deal? A few years' age difference? No problem. Anybody who doesn't like it can go suck an egg.

I just don't understand people who think age differences are such big deals. You can have two 35-year-olds get married and divorced within a year. Age doesn't matter. It's what is in the hearts and minds of the two people involved that matter.

DH and I were both barely 18 when we got married. People said "oh, it won't last, they're too young!" We'll be celebrating our 34th anniversary later this month. Our ages didn't matter. It was our commitment to each other that did.

Good luck to you, and do what YOU feel is right for YOU!!

 

[paintnolish]

Guys do it all the time. Why not? You are both responsible adults. There is such a taboo against women dating younger men although "cougars" are making it hip. That's the joke in our house-I'm a cougar but DH is only 2 years younger!

 

[nmmom95]

Life's too short to worry about what other people think. If you are happy together, then I think that's great, no matter what your ages! Go for it!

 

[BeachGirlFLA]

Personally, I wouldn't do it because I like older men (my bf is 17 years older than me) but I don't see a problem with it, either.

 

[MushyMushy]

Go for it, you lucky lady!

I have a couple of friends who are single at 42 and I keep telling them not to discount guys who are younger than 30.