dad confronts bully on schoolbus

[AustinTink]

I'd like to think I would have done the same thing. I'd just replace the word "kill" with "beat the crap out of". Messing with a special needs kid is the lowest of the low.

 

[jrmasm]

He went totally overboard. You go don't go around threatening to kill kids. He's a nut case.

I agree.

 

[Mr.MouseFan]

Reminds me of that scene in "Madea's Family Reunion" when she gets on the bus and smacks the crap out of the kid in the front seat.

I say good on the Dad for defending his child. Was it over the top? Yes. Do a lot of kids these days need to be put in their place? Absolutely.

 

[MoneyNeverSleeps]

That dad is awesome

 

[Maryr1]

I have a developmentally delayed DD who is 12. She never rode the bus until she was in 4th grade as we were wary of the situations that could occur. Lets face it, mean kids can be really mean-KWIM? One day my phone rang before the bus arrived at home after school. It was one of the "bus Bullies". I politely listened to her diatribe about my "nasty daughter" and her "evil" deeds and went outside to wait for the bus. (My DD was the last stop). The doors popped open and the bus driver (with tears streaming down his face) told me how the bus bullies were just AWFUL(Verbally-no one touched her) to my DD. He had already contacted the garage, they were all written up and put on notice. Their parents were notified and things dramatically improved after that. It wasn't perfect-her disney mp3 player was "borrowed" and never returned, one of her assignment books disappeared -things like that. The bus driver- well he is my hero. He has "bid" our route for the past 4 years and always keeps an eye out for my girl. I will tell you that if it wasn't for him, I would be driving DD every day. As the parent of a devepopmentally delayed child-our challenges are endless and frankly I only have so much "fight" in me. I can see where this man "broke". The school MUST insure the safe transport of that child to and from home. That is part of their job. That is what our taxes are for too.
The time has come for people to be held accountable for their actions. Yes, that man snapped but for heavens sake-it was his innocent daughter. The bullies of today are the society of tomorrow and until they learn accountability we are all in for a rude future.

 

[samshane]

He may have gone overboard - but I can totally sympathize with him as well. My daughter has alopecia and thankfully we only had a couple instances over the years she has been in school with kids bullying her because of the way she looks. I went straight to the school and it was taken care of - and the kids who did it did not do it again. Thankfully the school didn't take the bullying lightly... or I may have been pushed to the point this man was.

 

[Buckalew11]

I think he should get Dad of the Year. How dare those kids bully anyone, much less a special needs child. The school did nothing, so he took it into his own hands.

I will tell you, somebody puts their hands on my kids? Bullies my kids?

If he's charged, no jury in America would convict him....

Don't be so sure...this country has gotten a bit confused on right and wrong.

The driver did try to put a stop to it, but the man was out of control and came towards the driver in a threatening way too.

I disagree. The father was walking off the bus. He did not approach the driver in a threatening way. I am surprised he didn't. Back when I was very young, you obeyed the bus driver and sat still ect. etc.
By the time I was high school, you would not believe what happened on our bus.

 

[Buckalew11]

Oh, I forgot to say...
as a mom of a DD who was bullied, I've been that mad--maybe more mad.

 

[m&m's mom]

You know it's a good point. That idiot Flight Attendent was a hero for his 15 mins. This guy is my opinion was truly doing what most of us in that circumstance would have done.
Someone start a FB petition and I will be the first one to "sign" it.

 

[traviesojmt]

Let me just say that if my DS13 (God help him) was one of the boys who was involved, this man's tirade would seem like a walk in the park. While I never condone language of that sort, I can completely see why this man went off the way he did. I can only hope that when it is all said and done, the parents of the bullies will fix the behavior of their children rather than focus on the man's outburst.

 

[smb6]

Good for dad!

 

[We_Love_Disney]

Mass media, lawyers, parents, politicians, and others have filled the youth with the idea that their rights come far before their responsibilities. Ask any kid what 'rights' he/she has, and guaranteed he/she could rattle off a half dozen. Ask these same kids what responsibilities they have (to society) and I would bet the house that most wouldn't have a clue.

Television programs glorify children talking back to adults - followed by laugh track, children blatantly thumbing their noses at authority - followed by laugh track. Children having sex, drinking, drugging, etc, all without consequence or if there is consequence it is white washed to keep the story line working. Unless there is an adult there with the child telling them that this is only done for humor, they aren't going to know.

Lawyers - worst day ever was when lawyers were allowed to advertise. Nothing is your fault and you can always get money or at least something for your time and trouble.

When parents do not show self restraint, self control, and self respect in front of their children, how will they ever know how to behave? Ranting and raving about how you are owed something or you are entitled to this that and the other thing without explanation about why you are entitled leaves the child thinking they are also entitled to anything out there without having to put in the work.

Politicians and law makers. Blanket laws are insane. In my area, the children are entitled to a ride to school on the bus if they live outside a certain area. Bus drivers can not kick an unruly child off the bus their hands are tied, and guess what, the kids know this. The bus driver in most places do not have aids on the bus, yet they are transporting 75 children. What teacher has that many kids in a classroom while tied to their seat? Teachers can't punish students without going through a process that makes getting a bill made into law look like a stroll in the park! Most teachers try and do what they can, but the kids know their so called rights.

So we tie the hands of those that can and should help mold and teach our children, and we allow the exploitation of them through other means. It is all mixed up.

Tell you what I think, this generation is going to be one messed up and angry group. I truly fear what my elderly years will be like.

 

[Liberty Belle]

People are applauding this?!

This man comes onto the bus threatening to kill everyone on it, not just the kids who bullied his daughter. This is ridiculous.

Furthermore, the bus driver should have radioed for police help as soon as the man came on and yelled at everyone to sit down. My God, I'm an adult and I would have been terrified.

I would be furious if my child was on that bus.

Yes, I can understand why he did it, but it certainly was not right and I can't believe everyone who is painting him a hero. For threatening to kill a bus full of children?!

 

[Liberty Belle]

My son was being bullied by a kid in our neighborhood when he was 9 and the bully was 12. I talked to some kids in the area and they said the bully was a jerk yet they still hung out with him.

One day, I was out walking while my son was down the street playing with a nice kid. The bully came up, took off my son's shirt and threw it up in a tree. I walked up as my son was trying to get it down but as he would reach for it, the bully would pull his shorts down.

Let's just say that I didn't know I had the Mama Bear in me. I just laid into this kid. While I never used the word kill, I definitely said some things I probably shouldn't have said. I recognize that it could have gone either way and the bully could have made things worse for my son. Thankfully, I must have come across as the 'crazed, don't screw with my kid' mom because he never touched my son again. I did threaten the kid with going to the police so maybe that was it. He has since moved!

Anyway, I understand the dads frustration. I wish he would have refrained from using the word kill because that will become the focus. I think too many of these punks aren't put in their place and so they continue to get away with it.

That's understandable. I have yelled at kids who were bullying my son, too. My husband even called one an *******. But you cannot get onto a bus full of kids, yell at everyone to sit down and then threaten each and everyone of their lives! I'm sure there were innocent kids on that bus who may have been traumatized. We have lockdowns in school every day and the kids know why. Now this man barges onto the bus and yells that he'll kill the whole busload of kids?! If my innocent child were on that bus I would demand police action.

 

[2girlsmom]

Gotta agree with Liberty Belle, as a parent of a child with a disability, I certainly understand and empathize with this father, but threatening to KILL the children on the bus was taking it much too far. There has to be a better way to deal with bullying than having adults demonstrate unreasonable behavior back at them.

 

[robinb]

People are applauding this?!

This man comes onto the bus threatening to kill everyone on it, not just the kids who bullied his daughter. This is ridiculous.

Silly girl! Bullies are only bullies when they are kids threatening other kids!

 

[PrincessKsMom]

Liberty Belle, regardless of how you or anyone else feels about this, did you notice how the children were laughing at him? Not taking him seriously? And obviously not at all terrified of him?

 

[LuluLovesDisney]

I teach inclusion classes and I don't want to watch the video, it would upset me.
However- The bus driver needs to watch the road. He can't watch the kids. This is why there is an aide. If there was no aide, I wonder if some rules were being broken. IDK if every state is the same. However, do consider- a bus aide makes close to minimum wage and would most likely not risk losing their job by getting involved in an altercation. They are not trained, nor do they make enough money to warrant acting like security guards. If they (or a teacher or anyone other than a security guard) touches a child, they can be sued and the school will NOT support them. They can verbally correct them or take names, but what other type of action could they take? Even with verbal correction, some parents will criticize anything that was said to their child that isn't positive.

Parents of bullying victim = sue the school because of the bullying
Parents of bullies = sue the school because their child was "verbally abused" by a teacher/aide correcting their behavior or "physically assaulted" by a teacher/aide pulling one child off another.

To me, "the school" is damned if they do, damned if they don't. Some people expect a school district to do everything - feed, educate, protect, respect, check for lice, etc. for free, but at the same time the litigious society is giving teachers less and less power to ensure discipline and safety and less and less money to do it all with.

The bullying won't stop unless someone who can discipline the offenders comes along. In this case, the girl's parent stepped in. It sounds like he may have stepped over the line, but if I had a disabled child being bullied, I don't know how I would react. It is just sad that things like this happen in the first place.

 

[PatsGirl]

I think Dad showed great restraint in NOT knocking some heads together. Are you kidding me? A condom on the poor girls' head? physical abuse? torment? And the video shows just how terrified this bunch of hoodlums were (NOT) I'm sure there were some children on the bus that were very scared but I'll bet they were the ones sitting in the first few rows, not the ones mixed in at the back of the bus. And good, it's a lesson learned about why they shouldn't bully

Would I get on a school bus and do this? Probably not. Would I confront the bully at his bus stop, absolutely! And then I'd confront his parents too. Time to stick up for our kids and ourselves and not let these punks get away with this crap Time to take back our streets, schools, and towns!

 

[shortbun]

He went totally overboard. You go don't go around threatening to kill kids. He's a nut case.

ITA!!! And-he never would have gotten on my bus. No parent gets on my bus, ever, and that crazy man who threatened the bus driver and children is the reason why. He needs to be in jail overnight to calm down. You don't walk on a school bus and threaten and scare a whole bus load of children. Bad dad and bad man, crazy if he thinks he did the right thing. To all of you who think so too, I challenge you to drive a school bus and put up with crazy parents and children like this. The bus driver did not do his job. That door never should have opened to that man.