Custom bride's invitation lists

[Codie]

Who do you invite? We thought we were going to have a maximum of 100 people who would actually come down to disney...in our preliminary count it looks like we will definitely exceed that! Now my mom thinks I should invite the 12 partners and their families of the law firm in which I am an associate...anyone have thoughts on this? Clearly they won't all come (they certainly are not going to close down the firm for a few days to all come to my wedding) and I will be having an informal home reception when we get back. Should I invite them to Disney and let them decide? Or just invite them to the follow-up reception??? I am so confused as to what is "right"?

 

[giddygirl]

My suggestion is that you if you can afford it, invite them! What's the downside to inviting them? You're right in that they probably won't all come but if you were planning on inviting them to the reception, invite them to the ceremony...

 

[twojo21]

it all depends on what you can afford & if you & your dh2b wish to have them there.

we are having 50-60 guests for our custom wdw wedding & minivacation (we are paying for our guest's rooms, tickets, hosting a few events) almost all family with the exception of our moh & bm. all our friends & coworkers understand we cant invite the world thats why we kept a strict list. we wanted our destination wedding to be about us & family. we are hosting a casual reception once we settle into our new home that summer after our wedding to celebrate with all our family, friends & coworkers.

hope you have a wonderful wdw wedding either way!

 

[Kismetdreams]

We limited our guest list to family and very close friends. Only two of our co-workers were invited, and one of them was the best man. For the family, mine is much smaller then my hubby's, so we agreed immediate family out to aunt and uncle for him and my surviving great aunts and two second cousins for me. We were paying for the wedding ourselves, on a strict budget, and it worked out well for us. Our other friends at work understood that being at Disney, not everyone in the world could come.

After we got home, we had a BBQ and invited everyone from work to that.

 

[ead79]

We limited our guest list to family (both sides are large) and close friends (both my husbands and mine, plus close friends of both our families). We knew that many would not attend, but we were surprised at how many did come. We did not include coworkers except for one that was a friend.

I don’t think that you should feel any pressure to include the partners. If they all came, and especially if they brought their families, that would significantly increase your costs. If you have the budget for it and want them to be invited, then by all means do so, but it’s not improper to exclude them. The only thing I would not do would be to invite some of the partners but not all (that would probably result in hurt feelings).

 

[Codie]

Thanks for everyone's thoughts...it makes me feel better! I sent around a note to each of the partners explaining we would love to have them but understand that the trip is extensive for them. I advised we'd be having a gathering here locally later. I left it up to them whether or not they wanted an invite. Several of them thanked me for my consideration.