Crazy Greiver Update

[Credit Man]

Continued prayers for you and your family.

 

[WDWLVR]

I agree with Wendy, the hardest day is the first day you are alone. At least that's how it was when my mom died. The wake and funeral was fine, but it was after the funeral and after everyone else left the house that I felt the worst. I had DH with my and still felt empty and alone so I'm sure it will hit you too. There will be many little times like shopping etc. when you see something that was his favorite. Everything like that brings back memories.

Embrace the good ones, don't be afrair to cry, and I think you are doing a good thing by writing in a journal. Writing things our really helps me.

You and your family continue to be in my prayers.

 

[browneyes]

{{hugs}} I can only imagine what you are going through right now. I bet it was hard on you to see his twin come in also. Like Rajah says, you're not crazy. You're just going through a terrible time right now. I pray that you and your little Princesses are doing well. {{hugs}}

 

[Sal]

I have also been thinking of you and your family constantly since your first post. I think you are doing amazingly well. I am so glad you have your dad to lean on.

I understand the twin thing. When my dad's identical twin died, it was so hard. I remember when my dad was standing beside the casket thinking it looked like it was him both in and out of the casket. He was also trying hard to be there for his SIL and her children while he was devastated himself. I know it was hard for people to even look at him sometimes, they were so much alike. It broke my heart to hear that your daughters thought their uncle was their dad.

I agree with everyone else, do what feels right to you about the clothing.

Remember that there are many people who are praying for your family. Take care of yourself.

 

[nativetxn]

{{{HUGS}}} my friend. You can call on us anytime, we'll always be here for you.

I wish I could give you a {{{HUG}}} in person. You have some very sad days ahead of you. I'm keeping you, your little ones and now, your husband's twin, in my prayers. What pain you must all be experiencing.

Katholyn

 

[dianeschlicht]

I will be praying for your continued strength. Somewhere down the road, this will all become even more painfully real than it does now. Remember that we are all here to listen if you need us.

 

[jtbdas]

Vicki,

May you have the continued strength and courage needed during this time of sorrow. From my family to yours, our hearts and prayers are with you and your family.

 

[olena]

My heart still aches for all of you. If writing helps, just pour it on the pages. God Bless and be with all of you....*HUGS*

 

[Kitty 34]

{{{{HUGS}}}}. Keep strong. Continued prayers for you and the girls.

 

[KIRSTIN'S MOMMY]

I am in tears thinking about the pain you must be going through right now. Please know that you're not crazy, and you're not alone. Continued prayers for your family, from mine.

 

[Pin Wizard]

Originally posted by house_of_princesses
When they showed me the casket where he'll be, I wilted against my dad.

((((((((((((((((((Hugs))))))))))))))))))))))))

That was exactly when I lost it. I handled the meeting with the funeral director well except when I had to choose a casket. I completely lost it! My husband's sis-in-law ended up hugging me quite a while. You're doing great, Vicki! Prayers for you and your family.

 

[PamOKW]

I'd like to add my condolences and prayers for your family. You aren't crazy....you are actually quite brave. You are holding it together for your children but you need an outlet, too. You can say anything you want here and get feedback that you can read or ignore. It's safe to say anything you feel might be "crazy" because we aren't family or friends (well we are "friends" but I think you know what I mean) so you can say anything. We won't be hurt or judgemental. Write it here, write it in a journal or type it into the computer. Whatever makes you feel better and gives you the strength to be there for your family.

 

[mhopset]

I'm so sorry. I have no words to make you feel better. I'm just letting you know you and your girls are in my thoughts and prayers.

 

[Stephen's Mom]

I'm so sorry for what you are having to go through. This is one of the greatest fears I have about my DH (who's only 35 but is a workaholic in a stressful job) so reading your posts have hit an uncomfortable nerve with me to say the least. I hope you and your daughters find the courage the cope with this terribly difficult situation. You will all be in my thoughts and prayers.

 

[Pooh93]

I am so sorry for this terrible loss. Many prayers, good thoughts and {{HUGS}} for you and the children. God Bless.

 

[Claudia1]

I cannot add anything to what has already been said except to send your prayers and hugs, too.

The God that brought you together, blessed your marriage and gave you your children, is the same God that will never leave you. I once had a friend describe to me how she sought God in extreme crises. She imagined curling up in His lap, like a little child, and letting Him hold her while she cried. May God hold you in your grief and sustain your family in the future.

 

[TigH]

Oh, Vicki, my heart goes out to you. You are so brave to be able to share all these thoughts and feelings with us. I only wish there was a way I could be with you and help you through this. Please know that you are important to me and that I would love to be with you and give you a hug an a shoulder to lean on. I wish I had the words to say to make all your hurt and pain go away. The strength that pours through in your posts is amazing, you seem like a very courageous lady. You are in my thoughts and prayers. xo

 

[Jomrog]

Vicki,
I just want you to know that even though I don't know you, I am thinking about you all the time. I have no clue about how you must be feeling but reading your post really puts things into perspective for me.

I pray that you & your family can get through this unbelievably difficult time. Just take it day by day, hour by hour. Take whatever time & support you need for this. Let people help. You need them around you right now.

I am just so sorry about your loss.

 

[Poohbear123]

{{{Hugs}}} and Prayers thru this difficult time....Faith

 

[wdwnutze]

You and your family will continue to be in my thoughts and prayers. Feel free to post whenever you need to. Right now, you need to do what helps you the most. Take good care of yourself, your girls will need your strength. I'm sure your husband will be forever watching over you.
As for the suit, if he didn't care for them, put him in what he was most comfortable in. When my 14yo niece died, they had her in her favorite, raggy old sweatshirt. My s-i-l wanted her to be comfortable "forever". Hugs to you and your family.