Crazy, frustrating life...

[chris1gill]

I am so frustrated

I have a DH that occasionally goes down to his parents house "to clean it out", it's been going on for four years & he's filled about 20 dumpsters To say they hoarded things would be a supreme understatement... this is just one of their houses...

Anyhow, he's on his way to fill another dumpster & his father stops him to tell him that he has to look in the attic... My DH asks him what to look for? HE DOESN'T REMEMBER he doesn't remember anymore... I am so frustrated My DH is trying to explain everything to him, why didn't FIL tell DH when he still had his mind... course FIL says he doesn't know Poor guy, it just kills me.... Poor DH having to go down there to clean this hoarded mess up, then FIL cause he just doesn't remember anything anymore.... It's just so frustrating

 

[NCRedding]

I understand your frustration. DH's parents were hoarders too, and it was awful to clean up after they passed.

 

[Disney Doll]

We have no children, but I swear when I turn 50 I am going to start simplifying my life and getting rid of stuff. If the nieces and nephews want it, fine. If not, I'll donate it to charities etc. I have already organized our financial life pretty well, so if we both die, it'll be pretty easy to figure out. Plus I have it all written down in a binder, right down to the instructions for my funeral!!!!!!!

We're going to Italy in a couple of weeks, so I'll have to take a look at that before I go to make sure it is up to date.

My late DMIL was a bit of a hoarder, and not much of a housekeeper, but she had a heart as big as gold. When she was dying, we were taking care of her at her home, so every day when I was there sitting with her, I would clear out a drawer or closet or cabinet. She had a million chicken pot pie tins, thousands of those white holders that flowers come in, millions of pieces of plastic silverware, vases galore. Let me tell you, when she passed away, it made the transfer of the house from her estate to my DSIL much easier, because a lot had been done. I was a pretty good judge of what looked like it might have sentimental value, so it worked out OK.

 

[Amapola]

We have no children, but I swear when I turn 50 I am going to start simplifying my life and getting rid of stuff. If the nieces and nephews want it, fine.

You know, DH and I have been talking about this for a few years now. We're "only" in our 40's but we have enough STUFF to last us the rest of our lives. How many decorative vases does one person need anyway? When we travel, we bring back ONE item to remind us of the trip, instead of every last tchotchke they have for sale. DH always says "just one more thing for the nieces to throw away when we die" .

We went through my grandparents' house and it was heartbreaking.

to the OP and her family!

 

[chris1gill]

Thanks guys It's just such a, well, tremendous loss, KWIM? The things DH is throwing away, well they are things nobody needs in their home... who needs a hundred bottles of garlic powder? I feel bad for DH... I feel equally bad for FIL because he doesn't remember anything anymore & to sit here this afternoon and try to explain it, it's just heartbreaking.....

I promise I will never do this to my children... I no longer collect hoardes of stuff myself... as a result of this process we've found ourselves in cleaning out their house... we learned there's only so much room for stuff & when that room is filled up, well, it's just filled up

 

[DVC Sadie]

We have no children, but I swear when I turn 50 I am going to start simplifying my life and getting rid of stuff. If the nieces and nephews want it, fine. If not, I'll donate it to charities etc. I have already organized our financial life pretty well, so if we both die, it'll be pretty easy to figure out. Plus I have it all written down in a binder, right down to the instructions for my funeral!!!!!!!

We're going to Italy in a couple of weeks, so I'll have to take a look at that before I go to make sure it is up to date.


We have everything taken care of from estate lawyer to our funerals pre paid all the way down to the floral arragements for said funerals. In the event we both died together we wanted to make sure in writing that our wishes would be carried out.

When we move not only will we be clearing out some stuff we will be living with less stuff. I hate clutter. Whatever has not been used in one years time will be donated or given to goodwill.


Have a great time in Italy.