Convincing My Mom To Get AP's.

[StacyStrong]

I don't know whether I'd laugh or be angry if my kid proposed such an idea.

Good luck, I guess.

That went better than I thought. Haha

(I would never accept. I'm old lol)

Edit- She immediately took her offer back when I called to assure her that I was not, in fact, actually begging her for money. She was shocked to learn of the cost. "holy ****" was her response lol. She might now just think I'm insane.

 

[Doug M]

Sorry, the entitlement is beyond my personal experience. I would not even want my parents to give me 1k for a present as an adult (or closer to 15k really). I make my own money and they should enjoy the fruits of their labor. Also your mother sounds like she has to deal with college age children.

I have no words...

 

[FCDub]

OP, I have no idea how old you are, but one day you'll likely (hopefully) look back on this and realize how absurd it is and how unfair it is to put your mother in a situation like this. And your sister, too, it sounds like. She has this thing she loves doing but you want her to give that up so you can go to Disney World?

 

[HopperFan]

Hey guys!

So I really want to get AP's as my christmas/birthday gift this year. My mom knows I LOVE Disney, but the problem is is that I have 2 sisters, so she would have to buy 4 AP's which is around 4,000 dollars. Along with that, we would have to get a hotel room. I try to get her to stay at Value resorts but she probably won't. She was a travel agent, so we get discounts, but we can also stay at the Swan or Dolphin like we have in the past since she is a SPG Member and can use her points there. We fly standby, so that is not a problem, but we also have to pay for food and other things. So obviously, that is a lot of money.

Anyways, can you guys give me tips on how to convince her to get AP's?

Thanks!

PS: I know this sound greedy or whatever but I just want this, it would be fine if I didn't get it, but, I would just like to have it. Also, I would like some tips though rather than some "good lucks" or "it is just up to her". I am just looking for ways to try and convince her to buy them.

Not sure how old you are but sounds like teenager .....?

When you are 18 years old Disney will rent a room to you. So I would get a job and start saving all my money I could for hotel rooms. When you graduate high school ask for an AP as a gift. Then you can do your cheap flight, use your AP and get your Disney hotel room. Magical Express will drive you from airport and you won't need a car. Each trip try to talk a friend, sibling or parent to go with you. It could mean each trip would be totally different.

 

[StacyStrong]

Not sure how old you are but sounds like teenager .....?

When you are 18 years old Disney will rent a room to you. So I would get a job and start saving all my money I could for hotel rooms. When you graduate high school ask for an AP as a gift. Then you can do your cheap flight, use your AP and get your Disney hotel room. Magical Express will drive you from airport and you won't need a car. Each trip try to talk a friend, sibling or parent to go with you. It could mean each trip would be totally different.

This is what I would (and did) do. Except for the APs until this year. And only as a 30th gift to myself.

This is probably the most realistic suggestion.

 

[-_Stitch-Up-Scrump_-]

I learned my lesson, I’ll just ask if we can go for a week or something, I guess I was only thinking of myself and not others, maybe my brain was just dead today after taking my Physcis test

Now give me tips to convince her to take us on a one week trip

 

[FCDub]

I'm not sure what kind of tips people can give you for convincing someone we've never met. Just ask. It's not really super difficult.

 

[bumbershoot]

Well not an entire year, but like 3 or 4 trips. Like one in winter, spring, summer, and fall

Going on a trip during each of the 4 seasons is a year's worth of trips.

my twin would go with me, except she is a dancer so she would rather do an intensive. She has been doing those for like 5 years straight, so I feel as if she would be ok with skipping an intensive to go to DW.

No dancer wants to skip intensives. I know this because my teen son is a dancer, and he wants all intensives all the time. He's on week 5 of summer intensive, dancing 25+ hours a day, and he's got one more, and is going to be very upset when it ends. He has ZERO interest in disney, and only in Universal (Hollywood) if it's before his week-long Tap intensive in southern California.

BUT if your vacations are being created around her intensives all the time, then speaking up about it makes some sense. But don't expect her to not want to dance.

Standby honey pumpkins. We fly for basically free. Both of my parents worked for TWA which went into American.

Normal people fly standby, too. The thing that's getting you the cheap flights is the TWA aspect.

I don't know whether I'd laugh or be furious if my kid proposed such an idea.

I'd be happy b/c it would mean he's lightening up on the dance intensive stuff and is willing to play with me.



OP have you considered Disneyland? It's so much closer to you in AZ. And, um, better IMO.

 

[-_Stitch-Up-Scrump_-]

Going on a trip during each of the 4 seasons is a year's worth of trips.



No dancer wants to skip intensives. I know this because my teen son is a dancer, and he wants all intensives all the time. He's on week 5 of summer intensive, dancing 25+ hours a day, and he's got one more, and is going to be very upset when it ends. He has ZERO interest in disney, and only in Universal (Hollywood) if it's before his week-long Tap intensive in southern California.

BUT if your vacations are being created around her intensives all the time, then speaking up about it makes some sense. But don't expect her to not want to dance.




Normal people fly standby, too. The thing that's getting you the cheap flights is the TWA aspect.



I'd be happy b/c it would mean he's lightening up on the dance intensive stuff and is willing to play with me.



OP have you considered Disneyland? It's so much closer to you in AZ. And, um, better IMO.

She always does her intensives and nationals all the time, which I’m fine with. But I said that because she can’t dance right now because she has a hip pingment, along with clicking hips, hip flexor, and like tendinitis, so we could go since she can’t really do much of anything otherwise, I always support her with her dance first.

 

[Greenfield1984]

Not sure if this is a real post or a super well done troll post. In either case this has been thoroughly entertaining.

Only thing that would make this better is if you had your mom jump into this thread and chat with us.

 

[LoveToDisney]

Too bad you are not my daughter. We could go all the time. I have a hard time convincing my DH to go as often as I want to. I even had a hard time setting up trips when our son was younger. I just have the WDW fever as much as you do. When I wanted to buy into the Disney Vacation Club, I wrote down all the numbers to convince my husband it was a good idea. Well, that didn't work. Years later, he surprised me with a membership on our 25th wedding anniversary. I have gone as much as 6 times a year when I can find someone to go with me. Now, I'm fortunate to talk him into twice a year. Since our son is grown, we don't have restrictions on when we can go. It was nice when the airfare was cheap. You are fortunate that your mom can get super low tickets, but if her income is restricted, you don't want her to go into debt to do vacations. I feel your pain. I agree with some of the other posters to actually write down the true numbers of what you are asking for and you will see that financially it may put a strain on your mom's budget.
I suggest you get a part time job and save towards your WDW obsession instead of buying clothes and electronics, etc. like some kids do and see how much you can contribute to your desire. With good savings habits, you might surprise yourself how quickly your savings account will grow. Good luck!

 

[Ben E N]

I think the best strategy is asking for the moon and settling for the stars. Have you considered asking her to buy a vacation home at Golden Oaks? That way, when she says no to the initial $3 million investment, a few extra thousand on APs will seem free in comparison.

 

[DisneyWishes14]

I think the best strategy is asking for the moon and settling for the stars. Have you considered asking her to buy a vacation home at Golden Oaks? That way, when she says no to the initial $3 million investment, a few extra thousand on APs will seem free in comparison.

Bwahahahaha! This actually works on my DH!!! LOL!

OP, if a week in WDW sounds good to you, start there. With the discounts you said you receive on flights and hotels (plus, if your mom is a TA, she may qualify for a reduced TA ticket), that may be a more reasonable request.

 

[TiggerBouncy]

I mean to put this into perspective for you OP, My wife and I are DVC and AP holders, live closer then you do to Disney, fly very cheap, are adults with decent jobs and we only go twice a year. My son only gets to come once every other year generally (I won't take him out of school).

As far as a week vacation, it sounds like you do that already every now and then, so just tell her that's what you want this year.It doesn't sound like you're a family who can only afford a once in a lifetime trip.

Had my 15 year old asked me for the initial request, I would have.... well, it would not have gone very well for him.

Had he told me that he wants to take a week vacation in Disney for his Birthday / Christmas and he had some money saved up from working this summer (which he does) which he would like to use to pitch in for it, I wouldn't have batted an eyelash and would have sat down with my wife to see if we could make it work.

 

[Ben E N]

In all honesty to the OP, wanting to be given things when younger is normal. There is minimal sense of satisfaction in getting them, though. The real joy is when you get older, and get to pay for those things yourself. It is a reward for all of your hard work.
I am at work right now happy as can be because I am doing the OP's dream plan - 4 trips in one year, based around school breaks, due to having an AP. My kids are doing it, too, but not because they asked me for it. I get to take them because I want to.

 

[Ladyfish77]

Now give me tips to convince her to take us on a one week trip

Easy. Get a job and earn money toward the trip. Give her the money and tell her you want to spend vacation time with your family at Disney. Put some sweat equity into it. If you're taking Physics you must be in HS. Babysit, mow lawns, clean houses, lifeguard. Lots of jobs out there--save up for a year and I bet you could pay for the vacation or most of it.

 

[-_Stitch-Up-Scrump_-]

Too bad you are not my daughter. We could go all the time. I have a hard time convincing my DH to go as often as I want to. I even had a hard time setting up trips when our son was younger. I just have the WDW fever as much as you do. When I wanted to buy into the Disney Vacation Club, I wrote down all the numbers to convince my husband it was a good idea. Well, that didn't work. Years later, he surprised me with a membership on our 25th wedding anniversary. I have gone as much as 6 times a year when I can find someone to go with me. Now, I'm fortunate to talk him into twice a year. Since our son is grown, we don't have restrictions on when we can go. It was nice when the airfare was cheap. You are fortunate that your mom can get super low tickets, but if her income is restricted, you don't want her to go into debt to do vacations. I feel your pain. I agree with some of the other posters to actually write down the true numbers of what you are asking for and you will see that financially it may put a strain on your mom's budget.
I suggest you get a part time job and save towards your WDW obsession instead of buying clothes and electronics, etc. like some kids do and see how much you can contribute to your desire. With good savings habits, you might surprise yourself how quickly your savings account will grow. Good luck!

Thanks for the advice!

 

[kniquy]

Anyways, can you guys give me tips on how to convince her to get AP's?

My guess is that if she has been in the travel industry then she likely knows how to save a buck on travel. The value of the AP is in the number of visits you can make each year. If you plan on at least 2 - 5 day trips then the AP make sense, especially with all the discounts. But if you are hoping that the AP will be the reason you go then I don't think she will bite. $4K is a lot of money to plunk down on park tickets. Maybe her time off is limited and she wants to take other vacations, so locking herself into WDW trips is not something she wants to do.

I am not sure how old you are but if you are of working age then maybe you can stike a deal for next christmas. Maybe you work and save of 1/2 of the money (so 2K) then she can pay the other half.

It really is a numbers game so if she has a strong desire to travel to WDW the just present the numbers and how you can help with saving the money for the AP. If she sees your commitment then maybe she will see the benefit.

But keep in mind. WDW trips are amazing, but there are many other parts of the country that are worth visiting too.

 

[-_Stitch-Up-Scrump_-]

I mean to put this into perspective for you OP, My wife and I are DVC and AP holders, live closer then you do to Disney, fly very cheap, are adults with decent jobs and we only go twice a year. My son only gets to come once every other year generally (I won't take him out of school).

As far as a week vacation, it sounds like you do that already every now and then, so just tell her that's what you want this year.It doesn't sound like you're a family who can only afford a once in a lifetime trip.

Had my 15 year old asked me for the initial request, I would have.... well, it would not have gone very well for him.

Had he told me that he wants to take a week vacation in Disney for his Birthday / Christmas and he had some money saved up from working this summer (which he does) which he would like to use to pitch in for it, I wouldn't have batted an eyelash and would have sat down with my wife to see if we could make it work.

Thanks for the advice! I will try to do that!

 

[Islandwdw]

The best advice you can have is to start NOW to plan for the adulthood you want, where you can afford to buy an annual pass and hotel, food, as often as you like. That means college, trade school, or other means of securing a well-paying job. How are your grades? What classes are you taking? Activities? Service hours? Are you looking into scholarships, or have you planned for funding? At 15, NOW is the time to be working towards your goal. Not later.