Contacting the "other woman"

[Lionqueen2]

Just want to send you a little encouragement. I have a best friend who ,years ago, was in a similar situation. She had a great deal of anger, but both her and her DH decided to work on their marriage. Many years have gone by and they are both very happy. He came back to her and became a model husband. He treated her like a queen and they have gone on to have a wonderful life. I wish the same for you.

 

[ericamanda01]

Making a fool out of yourself I'm sure helped your moral

You were with a cheater, had a baby with a cheater, married a cheater & lashed out at the other woman.....brilliant~

Not only was that mean, it was cruel. Until you have walked in the posters shoes I would suggest holding back the venom a little.

OP, I wish you luck. I hope you and your DH are able to work through this. If not I hope your able to move on and live a happy life.

 

[jfoofj]

Hi again.... I wasn't going to comment on this thread again, but I would like to clarify something...

I, in no way, shape, or form condone what my friends and I did to that girl. We were young (it was over 15 years ago), and I was hurt. No, I didn't give my then boyfriend the same level of trouble, but I still wanted to be with him, so I guess in my 21 year old mind I had to make her more the villian than him. I get it that this was wrong, and I DO regret my actions.

This boyfriend and I did go on to ge engaged because he "proved his love to me" by buying me a diamond engagement ring six months after this incident. We married 18 months later and my son was born three years into our marriage (we had a lot of trouble w/ pregnancy, I lost 4 before I had him). SO, I had grown up a lot by the time I received the phone call from the girl who said she was sleeping with my husband. I has suspected for a while something was up, but ignored it because I was pregnant and told I was being "crazy" and then I was postpartum and "even crazier". Well, once I got confirmation, I was done. I packed up, moved out, divorced him. I yelled at him once, in the privacy of our own home. No drama.

If I could go back and do it differently, I would, as I recommend to anyone I hear of in a similar situation. I strongly believe that what comes around, goes around and these things are best left alone for Karma, Fate, whatever you want to call it, to deal with.

OP, I wish you all the happiness life has to offer, no matter what route this goes for you.

Take care everyone!

 

[OceanAnnie]

Hi again.... I wasn't going to comment on this thread again, but I would like to clarify something...

I, in no way, shape, or form condone what my friends and I did to that girl. We were young (it was over 15 years ago), and I was hurt. No, I didn't give my then boyfriend the same level of trouble, but I still wanted to be with him, so I guess in my 21 year old mind I had to make her more the villian than him. I get it that this was wrong, and I DO regret my actions.

This boyfriend and I did go on to ge engaged because he "proved his love to me" by buying me a diamond engagement ring six months after this incident. We married 18 months later and my son was born three years into our marriage (we had a lot of trouble w/ pregnancy, I lost 4 before I had him). SO, I had grown up a lot by the time I received the phone call from the girl who said she was sleeping with my husband. I has suspected for a while something was up, but ignored it because I was pregnant and told I was being "crazy" and then I was postpartum and "even crazier". Well, once I got confirmation, I was done. I packed up, moved out, divorced him. I yelled at him once, in the privacy of our own home. No drama.

If I could go back and do it differently, I would, as I recommend to anyone I hear of in a similar situation. I strongly believe that what comes around, goes around and these things are best left alone for Karma, Fate, whatever you want to call it, to deal with.

OP, I wish you all the happiness life has to offer, no matter what route this goes for you.

Take care everyone!