College tuition question

[Acklander]

OP

If your kids aren't aware of your financial situation it's time you sat down together as a family and explained the facts.
I grew up in a working class family with several kids (and yes, we were all GOOD kids). My parents were very honest with us - we would always have a roof over our heads and food on the table, but the reality was - we were from a working class family. From age 14 onward we were responsible for our own clothing and expenses. If we wanted college, it was our own responsibility as well. Because my parents could only provide the basics, doesn't mean that they loved us any less, or we weren't as deserving as other kids - it was just our (and many other families) reality. Yes, extra activities like music are nice, but if you can't afford it,then you can't afford it. If its important to your son, he will find a way.
I've seen lots of posts where you talk about your son and how great he is. You have many reasons to be proud of him. Give him (and your other kids) the opportunity to step up to the plate by being honest with him. They just might surprise you and you will have all the more reason to be proud of him.

 

[KennesawNemo]

This thread is far more entertaining than summer re-runs...excluding Big Bang Theory...of course!

I have to confess I took a peek at noon on Friday while waiting for my coworkers to go to the cafeteria. 2 mins later I decided I would just grab sth and come back to finish. I spent the whole lunch hour and finished the whole 12 or 13 pages......

 

[rantnnravin]

according to THIS post, the son knows and "understands" the dire financial stress they have been under lo these many years

has she EVER posted on a different board here?

 

[DOREEN1779]

This thread is far more entertaining than summer re-runs...excluding Big Bang Theory...of course!

I love that show! But I have to that admit this thread has given me quite a lot of insight.

 

[leahjade]

Wow, people really have some spare time on their hands to research every post by a certain person and to have memorized their every life fact. We get the point and maybe instead of spending time attacking this woman for hours a day, you could volunteer at a local soup kitchen or animal shelter.

 

[Acklander]

according to THIS post, the son knows and "understands" the dire financial stress they have been under lo these many years

has she EVER posted on a different board here?

If he knows and understands then all is good. He's not going into college with high expectations and grand plans. Honestly- he won't be the only starving college kid trying to hold things together. And while we want to make things easy for our kids, a little struggle is good for him and helps build character. If he wants sneakers, saxophone, spending money and so on, he can get a job like millions of other good college kids. If no one will hire him because he doesn't have a car, he can start banging on doors and seeing if their are odd jobs in the neighborhood he can do to make money. Where there's a will, there's a way.

 

[DOREEN1779]

Wow, people really have some spare time on their hands to research every post by a certain person and to have memorized their every life fact. We get the point and maybe instead of spending time attacking this woman for hours a day, you could volunteer at a local soup kitchen or animal shelter.

I don't think the OP is being attacked. Other posters have seen posts she has made and are questioning her intentions. I have followed this thread and I doubt any one person has launched a personal attack for hours a day on this women. I also volunteer at our local hospital but I do like to read and post on the DIS, so I personally don't see a problem.

 

[mdsoccermom]

Wow, people really have some spare time on their hands to research every post by a certain person and to have memorized their every life fact. We get the point and maybe instead of spending time attacking this woman for hours a day, you could volunteer at a local soup kitchen or animal shelter.

Does it get lonely up there on your high horse? I mean, the irony is painful. At the same time you are chiding for people for being on the computer, you are on the computer.

Momxx5 only posts when she needs something, and her posts stand out. Hardly an effort.

 

[DOREEN1779]

Does it get lonely up there on your high horse? I mean, the irony is painful. At the same time you are chiding for people for being on the computer, you are on the computer.

Momxx5 only posts when she needs something, and her posts stand out. Hardly an effort.

Well said!

 

[JB2K]

Wow, people really have some spare time on their hands to research every post by a certain person and to have memorized their every life fact. We get the point and maybe instead of spending time attacking this woman for hours a day, you could volunteer at a local soup kitchen or animal shelter.

News flash for leahjade...

We, as a group, do not do this because we have too much time on our hands -- we do this for the benefit of the unsuspecting hundreds of new users that read these posts, each year.

We do these things as a "warning" to these new people that not eveyone on the DIS are quite on the "up and up". If you link all of OPs posts together, you'll find there are quite a few holes in them (in fact, I, myself was giving OP the benefit of a doubt, yesterday -- after the follow-up post by
rantnnravin, that benefit of a doubt has again changed (and OP now has a little further explaining to do).

So, leahjade, with that piece said, what's our volunteering for charitable causes going to do from keeping an unsuspecting DISer from sending OP a few bucks (via PayPal), or perhaps a laptop, or maybe even a saxophone...it's not like this has never happened, before...

 

[Praying Colonel]

Wow, people really have some spare time on their hands to research every post by a certain person and to have memorized their every life fact. We get the point and maybe instead of spending time attacking this woman for hours a day, you could volunteer at a local soup kitchen or animal shelter.

Irony.

 

[leahjade]

I don't think the OP is being attacked. Other posters have seen posts she has made and are questioning her intentions. I have followed this thread and I doubt any one person has launched a personal attack for hours a day on this women.

I think if your teenaged son or daughter was being cyber-bullied as you folks are doing to this woman, you'd be calling the principal so fast your heads would spin. I'm sure this woman is not perfect and has made some mistakes but so have you and yours.

 

[leahjade]

we do this for the benefit of the unsuspecting hundreds of new users that read these posts, each year.

Aren't we righteous? Most people are smart enough to figure out con artists on their own without a mommy having to tattle on them. I think new users would get the point after your 1st or 2nd page, but for this to go on for days and days is ridiculous. I can guarantee if you child was being harrassed on facebook like this you would be outraged.

 

[Planogirl]

I just think it's all very sad whatever the circumstances.

 

[JB2K]

I think if your teenaged son or daughter was being cyber-bullied as you folks are doing to this woman, you'd be calling the principal so fast your heads would spin. I'm sure this woman is not perfect and has made some mistakes but so have you and yours.

We are not talking teenagers and high school, here, leahjade -- we are talking to OP, who according to her posts, is a middle-aged mother of 5.

Some of us think OP is "playing the system" at the expense of kind-hearted DISers, such as yourself, while others think she's an unlucky person who has made her fair share of mistakes.

Me? I think a little of both. The topic of the post was college scholarships and how OP thought it to more of a financial liability than the blessing it's intended to be (a strange way to be grateful, if you ask me)...

Even though you can't see it for yourself, this website has archived an incredible amount of history on OP -- check it out, some time and connect the dots for yourself...

 

[clm10308]

I think if your teenaged son or daughter was being cyber-bullied as you folks are doing to this woman, you'd be calling the principal so fast your heads would spin. I'm sure this woman is not perfect and has made some mistakes but so have you and yours.

How can you bully someone on an anonymous message board? The OP is free to stop participating and posting at any time. This message board in no way compares to a child being bullied. We don't go to school with this OP. we don't know where she live,except for what she has posted.

Yes, people are making inferences by looking at all the stuff that has been posted. Big Deal.

 

[leahjade]

We are not talking teenagers and high school

You don't have to be a teen to be bullied - ask any HR manager - there are hundreds of lawsuits for workplace bullying in the courts right now.
I'm not sticking up for this woman's actions (though she's innocent until proven guilty) but it's easy to tear apart someone on an anonymous message board. It makes you feel superior and powerful - things a bully may not often get to feel in everyday life.

 

[JB2K]

Aren't we righteous? Most people are smart enough to figure out con artists on their own without a mommy having to tattle on them. I think new users would get the point after your 1st or 2nd page, but for this to go on for days and days is ridiculous. I can guarantee if you child was being harrassed on facebook like this you would be outraged.

Most people, perhaps so.

But this isn't "most people" - and it's certainly not harrassment. Granted, there have been some tongue-in-cheek type comments about OP as it relates to her postings on this board, but nothing that fits "defamation of character" type of stuff.

As for "my child", like I said, this isn't high school or anything that compares to what happened in my local area a few years ago. This is about a person, who, to break it down in the simplest terms possbile, is a financial train wreck, but yet posts on a message board catering to the Walt Disney World experience (quite honestly, if I didn't have enough money to buy light bulbs or $15 toilet seats, this would be the last website I would be visiting -- only because my priorities would change).

We now return you to our regularly-scheduled topic...

 

[DOREEN1779]

I think if your teenaged son or daughter was being cyber-bullied as you folks are doing to this woman, you'd be calling the principal so fast your heads would spin. I'm sure this woman is not perfect and has made some mistakes but so have you and yours.

I simply stated my opinion, I don't think I was mean about it. But we all have the right to agree or disagree. As for your above quote, this is an adult we are talking about and this is not facebook. If the DIS moderator thought she was being personally attacked, the thread would have been shut down. Don't be angry because some people are not in agreement with you, everyone makes mistakes.

 

[Allison]

Does it get lonely up there on your high horse? I mean, the irony is painful. At the same time you are chiding for people for being on the computer, you are on the computer.

Momxx5 only posts when she needs something, and her posts stand out. Hardly an effort.

You know what is even more ironic about leahjade criticizing others for posting on this thread? She has more posts on it than any other poster.