Coach on Sidelines FIVE HOURS After Giving Birth!!

[Miss Jasmine]

Obviously she felt a responsibility to the team. It was her choice. Isn't that nice that we have choices? Why do these threads always turn into women putting other women down? I know I posted this as my first post on this thread, but I was thinking more along the lines of, WOW a busy day, not so much, WOW, what she thinking?

 

[robinb]

It's not like the fate of the free world depends on her being at work. It's a game. Not all that important in the grand scheme of things. I don't think anyone would fault her for choosing her newborn over sitting on the bench. In fact, I bet more people fault her for having that as a priority!

And her team lost! Big time. I bet she freaked out both her players and her assistant coach by showing up like that. I wonder if they would have done better if they could concentrate on the game more.

 

[mking624]

Obviously she felt a responsibility to the team. It was her choice. Isn't that nice that we have choices? Why do these threads always turn into women putting other women down? I know I posted this as my first post on this thread, but I was thinking more along the lines of, WOW a busy day, not so much, WOW, what she thinking?

Yes, it's nice to have choices. It's also nice to be able to choose to think that she was wrong. I would think she'd feel more of a responsibility to her just born child, but perhaps that's just me....as it is my choice to think so.

 

[Miss Jasmine]

What about male athletes and male coaches who either miss the birth entirely or are back to the game that day? Same feelings?

 

[mking624]

What about male athletes and male coaches who either miss the birth entirely or are back to the game that day? Same feelings?

For me, yes, I have the same feelings.

 

[MyGoofy26]

What about male athletes and male coaches who either miss the birth entirely or are back to the game that day? Same feelings?

Absolutely. Just because they're not carrying the child doesn't mean they shouldn't have that child be their #1 priority.

 

[MyGoofy26]

And her team lost! Big time. I bet she freaked out both her players and her assistant coach by showing up like that. I wonder if they would have done better if they could concentrate on the game more.

I'd be a little bitter to have been on either one of those teams and that all the focus went to the workaholic instead of the players that worked so hard to get there.

 

[dmslush]

It really makes me wonder why she even had a child if she can't pull herself away from her job for the first 24 hours of her little baby's life.

I agree. I can't imagine even wanting to leave my 5 hour old baby for any reason!

 

[crazyforgoofy]

Obviously she felt a responsibility to the team. It was her choice. Isn't that nice that we have choices? Why do these threads always turn into women putting other women down? I know I posted this as my first post on this thread, but I was thinking more along the lines of, WOW a busy day, not so much, WOW, what she thinking?

Could I do it? No. Do I think she's a rotten mom because she did. Also no. Do I think women pile on other women ? Oh yeah!

 

[poohandwendy]

Could I do it? No. Do I think she's a rotten mom because she did. Also no. Do I think women pile on other women ? Oh yeah!

I don't think she is a rotten mom, just commenting on the situation from my own viewpoint...just like any other thread. Would I actually say something to her about it if I knew her IRL? Would I even give it much thought? No.

Many people do things that shock me. This one isn't huge, but it's noteworthy in a CB thread kind of way. In the scheme of things, no big deal at all.

 

[robinb]

While feminism has given women the right to make the same rotten choices that men do, it doesn't mean that we have to do it. I think what bothers me the most about this coach is the workaholic, job at any cost, family comes last attitude. I don't think it's a good thing in either gender. Is she a bad mom for leaving her 4-hour old baby behind to coach? I don't know . I see it as a bad sign for her family's future, though. Like Mary said, I think her priorities are messed up.

 

[goodstarr]

I don't see it any different than new parents putting their baby in the nursery all night right after giving birth. So many Dis'ers were up in arms because I said that new parents should want to be with their newborns. "What, keep my baby with me and take care of it and bond - are you crazy?" At least she was only away from her baby for a couple of hours, unlike lots of my patients who don't see their baby for 8-10 hours.

And oh, no, I'm not talking about those of you who practically died during childbirth. I'm talking about all of the able-bodied folks who are up and about (and going to games), who stand in the window and watch the nurses take care of their little bundle of joy. And those who had to have their partners stay to help them with the baby, but OH, the baby's in the nursery! Well, in that case, can you get him a sandwich ?

 

[lulugirl]

Eh, I'm not impressed.

 

[MOMTOMOOTOO]

It's been 5 and 1/2 years and I'm still milking it Don't tell the DH though.

 

[crazyme5kids]

I don't see it any different than new parents putting their baby in the nursery all night right after giving birth. So many Dis'ers were up in arms because I said that new parents should want to be with their newborns. "What, keep my baby with me and take care of it and bond - are you crazy?" At least she was only away from her baby for a couple of hours, unlike lots of my patients who don't see their baby for 8-10 hours.

And oh, no, I'm not talking about those of you who practically died during childbirth. I'm talking about all of the able-bodied folks who are up and about (and going to games), who stand in the window and watch the nurses take care of their little bundle of joy. And those who had to have their partners stay to help them with the baby, but OH, the baby's in the nursery! Well, in that case, can you get him a sandwich ?

Are you a Dr or a nurse?

 

[DisneyAddict_M]

I don't see it any different than new parents putting their baby in the nursery all night right after giving birth. So many Dis'ers were up in arms because I said that new parents should want to be with their newborns. "What, keep my baby with me and take care of it and bond - are you crazy?" At least she was only away from her baby for a couple of hours, unlike lots of my patients who don't see their baby for 8-10 hours.

And oh, no, I'm not talking about those of you who practically died during childbirth. I'm talking about all of the able-bodied folks who are up and about (and going to games), who stand in the window and watch the nurses take care of their little bundle of joy. And those who had to have their partners stay to help them with the baby, but OH, the baby's in the nursery! Well, in that case, can you get him a sandwich ?

Hey, I was taking any last chance at sleep that I could get!

 

[bgirl29]

Oh my!! I cannot believe how mean so many women are being about another moms choice. Do you really believe her relationship with her newborn is going to be affected by being gone for a few hours after the baby is 5 hours old??

Also how about maybe she feels like a MOM to a lot of the girls on the basketball team that she has worked with for a year and wanted to be there to support them. It sounds like the assistant actually did most of the coaching. I can totally understand her wanting to be there, that is a goal her and her team have been working towards for a long time. In my opinion it doesnt say anything bad about the kind of mom she is going to be.

 

[DisneyAddict_M]

Oh my!! I cannot believe how mean so many women are being about another moms choice. Do you really believe her relationship with her newborn is going to be affected by being gone for a few hours after the baby is 5 hours old??

Also how about maybe she feels like a MOM to a lot of the girls on the basketball team that she has worked with for a year and wanted to be there to support them. It sounds like the assistant actually did most of the coaching. I can totally understand her wanting to be there, that is a goal her and her team have been working towards for a long time. In my opinion it doesnt say anything bad about the kind of mom she is going to be.

I don't know about others, but for me personally, I don't think I could sit that soon after birth! I'm crackin' myself up over here.

 

[ilovejack02]

Is she a bad mother? I dont know. Could I have done it? Not no, but HELL no!

What is gonna happen when that child has a soccer game , or music recital, or school play? Is Mom gonna be at a basketball game or coaching a practice, most likely. If the first 5 hours is any indication of how she will be in the future, I imagine Daddy or the nanny will be the one to see the child do all of these things.
Thank God for choices right folks?

 

[mking624]

Oh my!! I cannot believe how mean so many women are being about another moms choice. Do you really believe her relationship with her newborn is going to be affected by being gone for a few hours after the baby is 5 hours old??

Also how about maybe she feels like a MOM to a lot of the girls on the basketball team that she has worked with for a year and wanted to be there to support them. It sounds like the assistant actually did most of the coaching. I can totally understand her wanting to be there, that is a goal her and her team have been working towards for a long time. In my opinion it doesnt say anything bad about the kind of mom she is going to be.

I see, so because we feel it's wrong, all of a sudden we're mean? So what you're saying is that we can only be considered nice as long as we pat her on the back and congratulate her, right?

But anyway, as far as her relationship with her five hour old child being affected....well let's see, if she's willing to put aside the responsibility of her 5 hour old child for a game...who is to say that's not going to continue even MORE so as the child gets older and older?

She may feel like she's a mom to those girls on the team, but the reality is that she is not the mom to those girls on the team. She IS a mom, however, to that five hour old child. In my opinion, your actual child takes a higher priority than a sports team, no matter how you might feel about that team. That doesn't make me a mean woman, it means that my family comes before my job.

It's interesting...I wonder how many people would be blasting the father if he pulled something like this. But a woman does it, and it's all about how wonderful it is that she has the choice.

Workaholics...they exist, you know.

But I guess me thinking differently makes me mean.