Coach on Sidelines FIVE HOURS After Giving Birth!!

[Sparkled]

That's crazy!

 

[goodstarr]

Actually the hospital I was in doesn't allow the babies to stay in the room all night, so it wasn't an option. They will bring you the baby at feeding times if you would like. I chose not to the first couple of nights. I was in pain and drugged up. So shoot me

Nope, don't want to shoot you. It's really not that deep. Just stated that I didn't understand. And no, I don't need to understand. And yup, I know that people do things differently, so do I.

It's all good! My patients are allowed to do whatever they wish to do. When they ask my advice, I give them their options and tell them that it's their decision as a parent. When they say, "well, what would you do?", I always say, "It's not about what I would do, or what anyone else would do. It's about what makes you comfortable as a parent." That usually annoys them to no end, because I didn't just tell them what they should do. Then they usually send the baby to the nursery

 

[goodstarr]

Why is it necessary for you to understand why she doesnt understand it?
( just messin with you lol)

Come on folks... some of us think this is awesome that she did it, some of us think its crap. Some of us dont really care one way or the other but know it wouldnt be for us. We all have different view points and we dont have to act like each other is stupid and or evil for disagreeing.
This isnt a debate on Iraq and in the big scheme of things really just doesnt matter.

So true!

 

[Briarmom]

LMAO.... I didnt know you lived in EGYPT! WOW, thats neat!

Dang the things you get judged for are wild.... Bet I was getting judged and had no idea. People judge you for shopping at Gymboree???? Holy Moly, wonder what folks say about me since I mainly shop Ralph Lauren and several other high end brands and a few of those trunk show brands.
I do like Gymboree, but not so much for boys... darn cute girl stuff though. I have bought Jack a cpl of things there though.

LOL how is that for OT!!!???
( am i gonna be judged now) ; )

Actually ya know what i got judged earlier for saying I cried when my child got a shot yesterday. Got told I was making it hard for him and i needed to suck it up and be the parent.
I dont know many parents that could sit through a child screaming..
"mommy Im begging you to take me out of here" while being held down.

I cry when my kids get shots, too.

As far as the things I've been judged on...you've only been on the DIS for a few months. Give it time. You'll be shocked. If you're not being judged for any of those things, it's because you knew better than to post on 'those threads'.

 

[AC7179]

My hospital experience was awful with my daughter.

I was induced on Tuesday around 11 a.m. with Pitocin.

They stopped the Pitocin around 7 so I could "get a good night's sleep." So the doctor could get a good night's sleep was more like it cause I contracted all night and did not sleep at ALL.

They started the Pitocin again at 6. Broke my water at 7:00. I was dilated to a 10 at noon and they told me to start pushing.

I pushed for over FOUR HOURS. The doctor came back and when the nurse brought it to his attention that I had been pushing an insane amount of time, he said he thought it had only been an hour and a half.

Anyway, ended up being an emergency situation and the baby, thank God, ended up okay after a few scary minutes.

That being said, they did not give me the option for her to go to the nursery at all and she roomed in with me for the next two nights.

I didn't sleep for THREE days. I would have been a MUCH better mom when I got home had I been able to rest up at the hospital!

 

[goodstarr]

My hospital experience was awful with my daughter.

I was induced on Tuesday around 11 a.m. with Pitocin.

They stopped the Pitocin around 7 so I could "get a good night's sleep." So the doctor could get a good night's sleep was more like it cause I contracted all night and did not sleep at ALL.

They started the Pitocin again at 6. Broke my water at 7:00. I was dilated to a 10 at noon and they told me to start pushing.

I pushed for over FOUR HOURS. The doctor came back and when the nurse brought it to his attention that I had been pushing an insane amount of time, he said he thought it had only been an hour and a half.

Anyway, ended up being an emergency situation and the baby, thank God, ended up okay after a few scary minutes.

That being said, they did not give me the option for her to go to the nursery at all and she roomed in with me for the next two nights.

I didn't sleep for THREE days. I would have been a MUCH better mom when I got home had I been able to rest up at the hospital!

Wow, that's awful
You're probably right.

 

[Briarmom]

My hospital experience was awful with my daughter.

I was induced on Tuesday around 11 a.m. with Pitocin.

They stopped the Pitocin around 7 so I could "get a good night's sleep." So the doctor could get a good night's sleep was more like it cause I contracted all night and did not sleep at ALL.

They started the Pitocin again at 6. Broke my water at 7:00. I was dilated to a 10 at noon and they told me to start pushing.

I pushed for over FOUR HOURS. The doctor came back and when the nurse brought it to his attention that I had been pushing an insane amount of time, he said he thought it had only been an hour and a half.

Anyway, ended up being an emergency situation and the baby, thank God, ended up okay after a few scary minutes.

That being said, they did not give me the option for her to go to the nursery at all and she roomed in with me for the next two nights.

I didn't sleep for THREE days. I would have been a MUCH better mom when I got home had I been able to rest up at the hospital!

Oh hon. I am sure you were so scared.

You should've been given the option of the nursery. That doesn't make sense!

 

[MommyPoppins]

Nope, not horrible parents.

I always hear people say that this would be their last night to get some sleep. Why is the parenting role supposed to start once you get home? I believe that the last night of good sleep should have been the night before conception

So, let me get this right. The baby is in the nursery and brought out for feeds because the baby may keep you awake in between feeds crying or something. And you can sleep with the thought that your baby is crying in the nursery and may need his/her mommy? I'd be thinking, "I wonder what she's doing, whether she's crying, is she ok? Does she need me?" I wouldn't be able to sleep. But I could sleep very well knowing that she is right next to me in her crib.

It's called adjusting to being a new parents - sleep when the baby sleeps and become accustomed.

If my baby was crying the nurse would bring him to me. They just wanted to be held and I couldn't possible stay awake any longer. If you don't get any rest in the hospital after childbirth, the first week being home will be very difficult! My nurses were wonderful! Told me how much they enjoyed spending the time holding and playing with my new baby. Thankfully it wasn't a horrid chore to them!

You wouldn't be sleeping at all if he or she wanted to be held and wouldn't go to sleep.

 

[katerkat]

Based on what's been said here, I should probably tell my DH that he's a bad father. DD was born at 7:48 in the evening, and he went home to get some sleep at 9:30 PM. He went to work the next day, then came to have dinner with me (the hospital took the baby to the nursery and provided us with a steak dinner and wine for him), then went home for the night, and back to work the next day. He came to take us home after work that day, and didn't take any more time off until I went back to work 10 weeks later.

I've got you beat - DH went to work while I was in labor, in a place where it was near impossible to reach him if something happened. DH was back at work two days after he was born. When Russ was five weeks old, he deployed, and spent at least 8 months of Russ's first year deployed or TDY or on Alert status (not at home).

I'd call him and tell him he's a bad father, but he's deployed again.

And the article said she had the "ok" from her Doctor, which means she had a hospital birth, and I don't know of any hospitals that have less than a 24 hour mandatory stay for the newborns. A Doctor sure wouldn't give an "ok" for a 5 hour old baby to go to a germ filled basketball game!

Depends on the doctor and the hospital. My doctor required ME to stay for 24 hours because I had an epidural. We were out the door at exactly 24 hours. She said if I deliver with her for a second child, she'd clear me to leave as soon as she was sure the epidural had worn off. For Russ, that was around 12 hours after his birth. No epidural and I'm sure she'd let me out even sooner. (I dislike hospitals.) As for germs - eh. I know someone who flew with her four-day-old baby to see her dying father. Extraordinary circumstances, yes, but he was still exposed to those terrible germs.

 

[MommyPoppins]

Stupid double POST! Sorry!!

 

[MommyPoppins]

I've got you beat - DH went to work while I was in labor, in a place where it was near impossible to reach him if something happened. DH was back at work two days after he was born. When Russ was five weeks old, he deployed, and spent at least 8 months of Russ's first year deployed or TDY or on Alert status (not at home).

I'd call him and tell him he's a bad father, but he's deployed again.



Depends on the doctor and the hospital. My doctor required ME to stay for 24 hours because I had an epidural. We were out the door at exactly 24 hours. She said if I deliver with her for a second child, she'd clear me to leave as soon as she was sure the epidural had worn off. For Russ, that was around 12 hours after his birth. No epidural and I'm sure she'd let me out even sooner. (I dislike hospitals.) As for germs - eh. I know someone who flew with her four-day-old baby to see her dying father. Extraordinary circumstances, yes, but he was still exposed to those terrible germs.

People keep mention the germs I mentioned! I never said I was afraid of germs. But doctors always seem the ones who don't want you to bring them out in the germs. I've taken all my newborns out within the first week. I am NOT a germaphobe. I was just saying that I didn't think a Doctor would release a 5 hour old baby to go to a basketball game. I don't think that would be the doctors highest prioity.

And honestly, I could care less what she did! I just know that I could NEVER leave the hospital that early and I could NEVER sit on my bum throughout a basketball game and car ride!

 

[goodstarr]

If my baby was crying the nurse would bring him to me. They just wanted to be held and I couldn't possible stay awake any longer. If you don't get any rest in the hospital after childbirth, the first week being home will be very difficult! My nurses were wonderful! Told me how much they enjoyed spending the time holding and playing with my new baby. Thankfully it wasn't a horrid chore to them!

You wouldn't be sleeping at all if he or she wanted to be held and wouldn't go to sleep.

I totally understand what you're saying. I guess that I would feel some kind of way knowing that a stranger was loving and bonding with my baby, but then again I have slept with my baby in the bed during the night, too

BTW, I also love and bond with the babies in the nursery at night. Sometimes I think that they're thinking "who the heck are you?"

 

[katerkat]

People keep mention the germs I mentioned! I never said I was afraid of germs. But doctors always seem the ones who don't want you to bring them out in the germs. I've taken all my newborns out within the first week. I am NOT a germaphobe. I was just saying that I didn't think a Doctor would release a 5 hour old baby to go to a basketball game. I don't think that would be the doctors highest prioity.

And honestly, I could care less what she did! I just know that I could NEVER leave the hospital that early and I could NEVER sit on my bum throughout a basketball game and car ride!

I don't think I was up for a basketball game, but I had a weird amount of energy for like the first week. Then I crashed.

My doctor also wasn't a big worrier about germs. Maybe it's a benefit of delivering in the more "crunchy" Pac NW? She told me I could fly cross-country with the baby when he was three weeks old. Stores and such, as soon as I was ready for it.

 

[MareQ]

As for germs - eh. I know someone who flew with her four-day-old baby to see her dying father. Extraordinary circumstances, yes, but he was still exposed to those terrible germs.

Not sure why anybody is hung up on germs to begin with - are people actually under the impression that hospitals are not FULL of germs?

 

[U2_rocks!]

Not sure why anybody is hung up on germs to begin with - are people actually under the impression that hospitals are not FULL of germs?

No kidding!

 

[SeaSpray]

I heard this woman being interviewed on Good Morning America this morning. She said she did NOT plan this beforehand. Once the baby was born, she said some of the nurses started to kid around with her, saying that she'd be able to go to the basketball game as long as her doctor "OKed" it. I have a feeling that it grew from there, and before she knew it, she was walking into the game.

She said she did NOT coach; her assistant did. They showed a picture of her at the game; she was wearing sweats and appeared to be sitting on a regular gym bench.

I'm wondering if this is going to be something she lives to regret doing. It's obvious that she didn't give it much thought before acting on it. I mean, she may be OK with her decision, but I have a feeling that she'll be getting a LOT of unsolicited comments (good and bad) and opinions from people, from now on.

For the record, I kind of feel sorry for her because I hope she and her family won't have to endure any emotional abuse in the future over this, but I absolutely do not agree with her decision to leave her 5-hour-old newborn baby just so she could attend the game. I don't expect people to agree with MY opinion on this, but I had to give my opinion, nonetheless.

 

[RunDanceSkate]

Another thing to add to my list on the Bad Mommy thread. DS was born, 9lbs after a day and a half of labor, (no drugs of any type) complete with puking up green jello all over the doctor. DS was exhausted when he was born, hard work for a baby, and after lots of cuddle and nursing time while they stitched me up, he zonked out in my hospital room with DH by his side and MIL drove me to my final university exam. I wrote the 3 hr exam in 1.5 hrs (got an A ) and was back with my newborn (now 6hrs old) son in less the 2 hours. I spent two nights in the hospital with DS because the ceiling of our bedroom in our military house was collapsing due to ice. Otherwise we would have gone home. I could have written the exam later but the military shipped DH off just 24hrs after DS was born and I didn't want to leave DS with my MIL or anyone else. So I wrote the exam with my class before DH left.

Almost 3yrs and half a country away. With DD I went to an appointment at the hospital when I was a week over due. They put gel on me and said they would check me in an hour to see about starting a drip. We never got to the drip. When the gel was added I was 0cm dilated 45min later DH delivered our DD. Despite us calling out and pushing the call button, no one appeared until the hour was almost up. Imagine their shock when they saw me nursing a baby. We didn't have much faith in the hospital at that point so we contacted our family doctor and arranged for him to stop by the house, he was a friend and neighbour, and we took our DD home when she was less then 3 hrs old, we lived 6 blocks from the hospital and had a registered nurse living on either side of us (one was the other side of our semidetached house). We figured that we had a better chance of one of them hearing cries for help then the hospital staff.

 

[Alyssa88]

Is she a bad mother? I dont know. Could I have done it? Not no, but HELL no!

What is gonna happen when that child has a soccer game , or music recital, or school play? Is Mom gonna be at a basketball game or coaching a practice, most likely. If the first 5 hours is any indication of how she will be in the future, I imagine Daddy or the nanny will be the one to see the child do all of these things.
Thank God for choices right folks?

Growing up my father missed many dance recitals or other performances. He had to work, he had to make money for the family, I never felt neglected or upset in any way. Hell if he wasn't working so hard, I might have had to give up my very expensive passion. Why is different if the mother/ coach would miss an event here and there. People have to work, thats reality.

 

[U2_rocks!]

Imagine their shock when they saw me nursing a baby. We didn't have much faith in the hospital at that point .........

Geez, I'm not surprised! When are hospital staff going to clue in to the fact that childbirth can be pretty unpredictable! I loved having my second and third babies at a birthing centre where the midwife and doula (or at least one of them) was with me at all times during labor and delivery, and were always right outside the door after baby and I were all settled in. I was the only birthing mother in the place (it was very small), and I had everyone's undivided attention! Nothing could have gone wrong without someone cluing in to it right away and calling in the emergency backups or the ambulance service that was 3 driveways down.

 

[robinb]

Almost 3yrs and half a country away. With DD I went to an appointment at the hospital when I was a week over due. They put gel on me and said they would check me in an hour to see about starting a drip. We never got to the drip. When the gel was added I was 0cm dilated 45min later DH delivered our DD. Despite us calling out and pushing the call button, no one appeared until the hour was almost up. Imagine their shock when they saw me nursing a baby.

Holy cow! You win .