Just a bit of a drama moment in my life. I am just not sure what I am going to do.... but had to come here to share
So you all remember when Steve took the month of Zoe's surgery and was working from home/the hospital etc., right? Well, we knew he was going to be short a bit on vacation time right?
Well here is what has happened in since June.
1.Without telling Steve they continued to doc his vacay time as it accrued.
2.He did get offered that VP position, but declined it because he is in the middle of a bad Chron's flare (remember we just were at the ER a couple weeks ago) and he didn't want the added stress even though there would have been more money. (had he taken this...the added income would have made a difference in what is going on now)
So when he went to put in his time (why now he is just getting to this

) he was basically told he has no time and that they could tell him that he could not go at all. If he does manage to get them to agree to let him have the time off it would mean a full paycheck worth of pay lost plus insurance premiums since they will not cover it during "unpaid" time.
I feel sick... and mad...
Sad thing is in a lot of ways I am mad at Steve the most. I can't believe he didn't watch what was going on in June. I am angry that when his boss left right as all this "hit the fan" he didn't rat his boss out by saying that "Ben approved all my work from home time" Instead he just took it and agreed to who knows what?? obviously more than he thought since they have continued to doc his vacay time.



I can't believe he didn't further watch things. I am just frustrated. I don't want to cancel the entire trip... but I also don't want to go without him.
Any suggestions on how to make this work?
I gave him three options....
1. he quits (he did have another actual job offer in hand just weeks ago...but it was for slightly less than he makes now and...well...unless they give him a sign on bonus he still wouldn't have the vacay time or money set aside to take the time)
2. He takes the pay hit (but this is our rough time of year and to be honest he has gone a bit nuts with spending since June - I swear he had a minor breakdown or something - and so we just are tapped right now, especially with things like my car needing a ton of repairs, our fridge breaking down, me needing dental work and lets not forget all our medical bills that are piling up)
3. He comes down for only part of the time. If they don't pull any more time from him...he might...MIGHT have a few days. Pair that with a weekend and he could in theory come down for part of the trip.
The other option is just to bag the entire trip. Lord knows how much I would hate that...and who knows how much I would lose since we are within the 45 day mark (oh, yes... did I ask him to double check things before we hit 45 days???? YES!!! Damn him all I got was, "I don't want to talk about the trip, Ann. I will make it work" )
I am very mad.... I think I am actually getting more aggravated the more I think about it. Usually, I can "talk it out" and become less mad/frustrated...but... I think I am only getting more frustrated.
ok... I have to go calm down. There is nothing he can do now...so no sense staying mad at him...his ex boss...his current hr department...
sigh....