Chivalry is not dead!

[ncbyrne]

For the most part, there's no other place where we are on public transport as much as at WDW. I was amazed at how many women had to stand on a bus, a boat, or the monorail, while men SAT in front of them! My DH gave up his seat every single time a woman needed a seat. The women who sat down were always very greatful, thanked him most heartily and most of them commented on how men just don't do that anymore. Made my DH (and me!) feel very good about his behavior.

 

[Chicago526]

Kudos to your husband!!!

As a female though, I'd also like to see both younger men AND women give up their seats to the elderly and women with babies/kids if they aren't traveling with little ones of there own.

 

[cobbler]

Good for your hubby!! There have been quite a few times where I would have to stand with my son (who at the time would be 10 months old) and sleeping. Talk about fun trying to hold him and balance
Meanwhile there are kids who could have easily sat on a parents lap to make room for myself and other moms and elderly people on the bus.

 

[sherrie]

Good post, this is one of my only peeves at wdw. my hubby and sons always rise. why people can't put their 1 yr old on their lap to offer a seat beats me, i think if this happens in July i will kindly ask someone to do so.

 

[Cinderella37]

My fiance always does this on the buses and Monorail and the women are usually flabbergasted. It's nice to know that there are some other men who are just as courteous. I also give up my seat for someone with kids, kids themselves or elderly individuals.

 

[TerryU.]

My husband always gave up his seat for women of any age.
He even offered his seat to a man holding a sleeping toddler. We know sleeping babies and toddlers can get quite heavy when sleeping. My MIL always comes with us on vacation and when she sees her son doing this, I can see the look on her face, how proud she is of him.

 

[Disneyfreaknjw]

glad to hear that

 

[JessiMommy]

Originally posted by cobbler
Good for your hubby!! There have been quite a few times where I would have to stand with my son (who at the time would be 10 months old) and sleeping. Talk about fun trying to hold him and balance
Meanwhile there are kids who could have easily sat on a parents lap to make room for myself and other moms and elderly people on the bus.

Oh yea! Been there done that. I started up a topic similar to this on the AOL boards & was actually told by a couple posters that I should wait for the next bus if I didn't want to stand. They would not give up their seat to anyone. I said not even the elderly or an expectant Mom or a parent holding a small child? They told me nope they would chose to wait for the next bus if they wanted a seat & I could do the same if I wanted the guarantee of a seat. Can you believe that? Thankfully my DH won't even sit at all if he see's the bus is going to fill. As long as he & I are able we'll be standing for anyone else in need. Glad to know there are some other kind folks out there!

 

[Goofster57]

We had a little different experience once. We got on the bus very late after a long day at the park. The bus was crowded, standing room only. A twenty something man got up and offered his seat to my mother, the women he was with that we found out later was his wife was furious with him. You could see her burning a hole through him with her eyes and then when the poor guy got off the bus she started in with the verbal berating. We all got off at Wilderness Lodge and my Mother made a point to thank the gentleman again and inform the wife how lucky she was to be married to a man that showed caring and compassion to others.

 

[HollyJoy]

My DH does this whenever he can too. Like you, I'm amazed at how many men just turn the other way.

 

[WDWorBUST]

My DH always does this too. I also always give my seat to any older visitors and anyone with children - if they refuse I will offer to let the child sit on my lap - most people won't take me up on it and I understand since there are a ton of perverts out there but I am still going to offer.

On a side note I was 8 months pregnant last September and I always had a seat on the bus....usually because it just wasn't crowded but a couple of times it was because someone gave up their seat for me.

 

[skeletor40]

Originally posted by Goofster57
We had a little different experience once. We got on the bus very late after a long day at the park. The bus was crowded, standing room only. A twenty something man got up and offered his seat to my mother, the women he was with that we found out later was his wife was furious with him. You could see her burning a hole through him with her eyes and then when the poor guy got off the bus she started in with the verbal berating. We all got off at Wilderness Lodge and my Mother made a point to thank the gentleman again and inform the wife how lucky she was to be married to a man that showed caring and compassion to others.

LOL! Some wife! We know who has the manners in that marriage! Seriously I can't even imagine sitting down when a lady, elderly person or mother with child needs a seat.

 

[PatriciaH]

I would offer to give up a seat to an elderly person or pregnant lady but this could really go to the debate board when you think about it. Are woman more important/weaker than men that they warrent a seat more? Don't we want to be equal? Are people with children more important than people without? How do we know the woman not giving up her seat for the 8 month pregnant and showing woman is 3 months pregnant and not showing? How do we know the man not giving up his seat has a sprained ankle? I could see more Southern men giving up a seat -they tend to have "manners" like opening doors, giving a lady a seat, holding a door, etc.. I am from NY though and forget getting a seat on the subway if you are a woman or pregnant People will knock you down for one. I also can not believe the amount of older people I see today throwing trash on the ground, driving insanely, not holding doors, etc.. You expect it from younger people but it is older people I see doing "bad manners" things more these days!

 

[PrincessDana]

On occasion this doesn't work out quite right though!

When DD8 and I were there in October, if ever a bus was full and we had seats, I would always have her squeeze into my lap.

But once, at the end of a day, when we offered her seat to a family of four (mom, dad, and two young kids--I was thinking maybe mom would sit down and hold one kid in her lap), the DAD JUMPED IN THE SEAT before anyone else stating that he had a headache and needed to sit down.

He also proceeded to talk the entire way back to the resort--so apparently the headache wasn't that bad!!

 

[Cinderella37]

Let's not start a debate on a thread about manners!! Whether or not the individual "deserves" a seat isn't the issue; it's the fact that there are men and women out there who still have manners.

 

[wdwguide]

I wouldn't give up my seat just because there is someone who happens to be of the other sex (unless pregnant), but I happily and frequently do so for the elderly and parents with young kids.

 

[skeletor40]

I think there is one thing everybody can agree on. There will always be people who wil give up their seat to another for whatever reason and people who will not give up their seat.

Speaking for myself, I just wish more people would be considerate of others while on vacation. Spread the magic and good vibes around!

 

[Shugardrawers]

I always go to WDW with my sister. Lord knows we are just as tired as everyone else after a long day on our feet. So, when a woman with a baby or elderly or obviously ill or injured person has to stand I move over and sit on my sisters lap and offer them the seat. That way we all get to rest a bit.

Our first WDW trip I was recovering after chemo and was in a wheelchair. You wouldn't believe the number of people who grumbled about having to wait to get on the bus until I was safely in and strapped down. Geez people after 12 hours you can't wait 5 more minutes???

 

[Schmeck]

My DD13 loves to give up her seat on the bus! Sometimes she even refuses to sit when there are empty seats still available, LOL!


I think she just enjoys riding in a moving vehicle standing up, since this isn't allowed in most situations, though

 

[georgina]

I think giving up a seat to someone with small children, is elderly, or pregnant is a very kind gesture. For a man to offer me, an able-bodied, almost 42-year old, woman, is silly, in my opinion. Of course, I dated someone once who insisted I sit in the car while he ran around and opened the car door for me, that was even sillier.