Children and teens on the DIS

[icebrat001]

a board for gay and lesbians that is directly below the teen board (nothing wrong with the board I just don't like where it was placed for my teen to find it easily).

Are you serious!

Your child IS going to encounter homosexuals throughout their life. It's probably a few homosexuals in her school, maybe even in her class.

You need to get over it.

 

[hemispheredancer]

Ok, but the posters that start these elicit threads know the rules of engagement, as do those that reply. They should face the consequenses that so many others have faced. What's good for the goose is good for the gander.

 

[WDWMom]

My point is that people don't seem to care that there are teens/children on board who read these posts before they get deleted. I am pretty upfront with my children about life. DD knows I have an uncle who is gay and has lived with the same partner for 30 years.

Everyone knows the rules when they signed up here and don't follow the rules.

 

[Ziva]

How else are the gays and lesbians gonna recruit new members if their board is not proximate to the teen board?

 

[Crankyshank]

Ok, but the posters that start these elicit threads know the rules of engagement, as do those that reply. They should face the consequenses that so many others have faced. What's good for the goose is good for the gander.

How do you know they haven't had any consequences? I know of people banned for inappropriate word usage as well as explicit content. It's just not announced

 

[WDWMom]

Are you serious!

Your child IS going to encounter homosexuals throughout their life. It's probably a few homosexuals in her school, maybe even in her class.

You need to get over it.

I don't need to get over anything.

 

[Bob Slydell]

Everyone knows the rules when they signed up here and don't follow the rules.

And when they don't follow the rules, they're dealt with everything from warnings to being banned. Again, I don't understand what else you would like done?

 

[imsorry]

Have you seen the Disney movie, Aladdin? Ever notice how much of that humor is innuendo and it goes right over the kids heads? I think in most cases, the innuendo posted here is very mild and the kids won't even catch on to it.

I do agree that sometimes people get carried away, and the mods try to keep up. But, to be honest, primetime television (not even cable) is MUCH more "R" rated than anything I have seen here.

 

[WDWMom]

So you don't just have a problem with the location of the board, you have a prblem with the board itself? Should've just said that in your first post.

You should have read the first post

 

[Ziva]

My point is that people don't seem to care that there are teens/children on board who read these posts before they get deleted. I am pretty upfront with my children about life. DD knows I have an uncle who is gay and has lived with the same partner for 30 years.

Everyone knows the rules when they signed up here and don't follow the rules.

So then what is your problem with the gay and Lesbian board? All the examples of inappropriate posts you've cited have been from other Dis boards, so why single out the Gay and Lesbian one?

 

[NMAmy]

Let's see.... inappropriate smilies, posts that refer to sex, a board for gay and lesbians that is directly below the teen board (nothing wrong with the board I just don't like where it was placed for my teen to find it easily).

Am I the only one that feels this way????

You may not be the only one but I don't agree.

Worrying about where the gay/lesbian board is located is just silly. Should it be in a super secret location and you'd have to know the secret password to get in?

I haven't steered my 15 yo dd to this message board because--well, I'm selfish. It's my place to hang out and I'd like to do it without worrying about censoring myself--not that I'm a bad girl on here or anything but I talk about family issues/problems, etc. that I'd prefer dd didn't know about. I haven't really seen a thread on here that I'd have a problem with her seeing. She's not really into message boards so it's not an issue--but if she were, I'd steer her toward the teen board here. I have to have SOMEWHERE I can be alone and talk to grownups occasionally!

 

[Tigger&Belle]

To answer your question, my 18yo DD joined the DIS not long ago (she was 17yo at the time--just turned 18). She doesn't normally read and has only posted a few times. My 15yo son lurked at one point. I think he was mainly interested in seeing where I was hanging out and trying to find dirt on me.

Which brings me to the only reason that I don't really want my kids reading here--I don't want them reading what I post. Not that it's that bad, but seeing my reference to forging a note in the past isn't something that I want them questioning me about. Not that I ever did anything wrong as a teen, mind you .

As far as the gay/lesbian board--my kids know that gay people exist. They have a gay uncle. Even my 6yo asked me what it means to be gay (it means to be very happy, of course... ). It's not a taboo topic in our household.

And for you personally, don't let your kids lurk/read/post here if you are not comfortable about it. We all have different comfort levels and it's your job as a parent to decide where you want to draw your line. It won't be in the same place that I draw my line and I might be a lot more conservative than some people. That's ok.

BTW, I'm not a lesbian, either. (My DH is overjoyed to find that out ) And I haven't read the G/L board, but maybe I'll drop in and check it out. Anything to get me out of working some more on those barf stains in my carpeting.

 

[wvjules]

How about directing your teens to the "Teen" board if your concerned about the topics of the CB?

 

[icebrat001]

Personally I don't see the need for one. But then again, I'm not a lesbian. I don't the posts on that board, so I have no clue what is discussed. But I would think other than the gay days, how does planning a trip to WDW for someone who is gay be different from someone who is straight?

There is more talk on the boards other than "gay day", think of it as another community board.

We talk about our family, discrimination we may have encountered at Disney or one another vacation, we talk about a show on showtime called the L word.

We talk about some of the same stuff people talk about on this community board. The only difference is, we don't hear how wrong it is for 2 people of the same sex to be together, or to be married or to have children. We can talk about commitment ceremonies and not hear the why do you need that speech that we sometimes get over here on the community board, most people over here are friendly, but their are a couple that like to start stuff and push their beliefs on others.

While it may be normal for you and your husband to get a king size bed at a disney hotel with no problem at all. Sometimes when a lesbian or gay couple go to a disney hotel and try to get a king bed, they try and give us 2 doubles instead because "who wants to sleep with the same sex", you don't have to encounter that, or just have one of you check in and the other wait in the car to avoid that type of stuff.

 

[Ziva]

You should have read the first post

I read your first post, I was the first person to respond and you said-

a board for gay and lesbians that is directly below the teen board (nothing wrong with the board I just don't like where it was placed for my teen to find it easily).

and then you said-

If it just a board when G&L's can converse, then can we get a SAHM board? Or even a ladies board?

So I'm confused, is it the location or the board? Because it sounds as if you ticked the board exists in your 2nd post. Again I ask if your just mad about the location where would you put it?

 

[luvmydogs]

My point is that people don't seem to care that there are teens/children on board who read these posts before they get deleted. I am pretty upfront with my children about life. DD knows I have an uncle who is gay and has lived with the same partner for 30 years...

And yet you're worried about the placement of the G/L board???!

 

[icebrat001]

If it just a board when G&L's can converse, then can we get a SAHM board? Or even a ladies board?

SAHM board seems like a great idea, lots of tips can be shared there. But then the working moms might want a board too.

But a ladies board? Most not all, but most of the people on the community board are women anyway. What are the women on the ladies board going to talk about?

 

[Shugardrawers]

What are the women on the ladies board going to talk about?

Totally inappropriate things like periods, menopause and bribing our spouses with "getting busy" to do housework!

 

[Tigger&Belle]

Again, if you don't like what your children might read here, don't let them read. You're the parent. I don't let my children play certain video games, watch certain movies. Sometimes they don't like my rules and get mad. Oh, well, I'm the parent and my rules are the ones we go by. I listen to my kids, but I also stick to my guns on what I believe to be the values that I hold important.

Teens hear a lot when they are with other teens--I know that I read and heard a lot worse when I was a teen. And that was practically in the dark ages.

 

[WDWMom]

We talk about some of the same stuff people talk about on this community board. The only difference is, we don't hear how wrong it is for 2 people of the same sex to be together, or to be married or to have children. We can talk about commitment ceremonies and not hear the why do you need that speech that we sometimes get over here on the community board, most people over here are friendly, but their are a couple that like to start stuff and push their beliefs on others.

While it may be normal for you and your husband to get a king size bed at a disney hotel with no problem at all. Sometimes when a lesbian or gay couple go to a disney hotel and try to get a king bed, they try and give us 2 doubles instead because "who wants to sleep with the same sex", you don't have to encounter that, or just have one of you check in and the other wait in the car to avoid that type of stuff.

I am very sorry you have encountered this.

I am not against gay or lesbian people. This isn't about me. it's about what I want to expose my child to, when I am not around to answer questions or to clarify something. My kids ask a ton of questions about life when they hear things they don't understand. I am honest with my answers.

Again the point was that I just don't think this is place is what it use to be.