Chicago area Diser's - check in here Part 3

[geffric]

Sorry Rose that I didn't ask how Chrissy was feeling. I just skim and don't keep up as well as I should but I am sorry that you were hurt. You have always been there for any of us and been a support, I am sorry that we weren't there for you when you needed us..

BTW I am another one that didn't have any family help for my boys.. DH and I rarely have gone out the two of us for all 17 years that we have been married. Most of the time we have the boys now that they are older we could be a bit more free.

 

[Bunchkin]

Rosemarie

It is a shame that you feel upset over no one making comments about your DD being sick. That does happen from time to time. Not everyone makes a comment about everything that is said on this thread.
It doesn't happen intentionally, it just happens. Right or wrong.

In regards to others going to WDW and not you:
In my opinion, you're not venting, you're whining!!
Yes, whining.
What happened to being happy for others? Why be upset for people who can afford to do things you can't?
I, nor anyone else here for that matter, control your life or what it amounts to in your opinion.
I don't tell you not to go out and find a part time job during the day to contribute to your family's income. That has been your decision.
Stop complaining about what you can't afford and wishing for a trip.
Take actions that will actually affect your financial situation.

My DH works a full time job AND we own our own business. He works like a mad man. And lucky for us we have been fortunate because of all his hard work. And it allows me to stay home.
We have no credit cards. I have stated this before. We have a debit card and that's it.
I don't have lots of family to rely on. I'm actually paying my younger sister to watch my kids while we are gone. We've never gone any where without our kids until this trip. So you're not the only one out there without babysitters.

If you want to change your current financial situation, I would suggest you stop complaining about what you don't have or can't do, and go out and find a job.

And I think you've come to the wrong place if you don't want to read about people's upcoming trips to WDW.


I won't appologize for expressing my opinions.
I think you're acting immature and slightly jealous of others good fortune.

 

[roseprincess]

Sorry Rose that I didn't ask how Chrissy was feeling. I just skim and don't keep up as well as I should but I am sorry that you were hurt. You have always been there for any of us and been a support, I am sorry that we weren't there for you when you needed us..

BTW I am another one that didn't have any family help for my boys.. DH and I rarely have gone out the two of us for all 17 years that we have been married. Most of the time we have the boys now that they are older we could be a bit more free.

Aww, thanks Geffric
Thanks for your response and concern

 

[roseprincess]

Rosemarie

It is a shame that you feel upset over no one making comments about your DD being sick. That does happen from time to time. Not everyone makes a comment about everything that is said on this thread.
It doesn't happen intentionally, it just happens. Right or wrong.

In regards to others going to WDW and not you:
In my opinion, you're not venting, you're whining!!
Yes, whining.
What happened to being happy for others? Why be upset for people who can afford to do things you can't?
I, nor anyone else here for that matter, control your life or what it amounts to in your opinion.
I don't tell you not to go out and find a part time job during the day to contribute to your family's income. That has been your decision.
Stop complaining about what you can't afford and wishing for a trip.
Take actions that will actually affect your financial situation.

My DH works a full time job AND we own our own business. He works like a mad man. And lucky for us we have been fortunate because of all his hard work. And it allows me to stay home.
We have no credit cards. I have stated this before. We have a debit card and that's it.
I don't have lots of family to rely on. I'm actually paying my younger sister to watch my kids while we are gone. We've never gone any where without our kids until this trip. So you're not the only one out there without babysitters.

If you want to change your current financial situation, I would suggest you stop complaining about what you don't have or can't do, and go out and find a job.

And I think you've come to the wrong place if you don't want to read about people's upcoming trips to WDW.


I won't appologize for expressing my opinions.
I think you're acting immature and slightly jealous of others good fortune.

I'm sorry you are feeling how you are feeling, but you haven't been in a mile in my shoes. Maybe you should, sometime. And no, I am not whining.

I wish you a good vacation

 

[Bunchkin]

I'm sorry you are feeling how you are feeling, but you haven't been in a mile in my shoes. Maybe you should, sometime. And no, I am not whining.

I wish you a good vacation

I feel fine, thanks. I'm just responding to your jealous tirade.

You were obviously looking for people to feel sorry for you and make all your wishes come true. Give you the key to others success.
You make your own success, what ever that may be.

Yes, I've never been in your shoes. Nor you in mine.
Your perception is skewed.

And yes, you were whining not venting.

You're a church going lady, look up coveting others good fortune.

 

[Debbie6221]

Hi all-
I guess I'm in a depressed mood today.
Ok vent time:
I had mentioned a few days ago that Chrissy was pretty sick for 2 days. She is doing better. But no one on our thread aknowleged with a hug or something that she was sick. I wrote about it on pg 812. I know it was about the time the Disboards went down. But I still wrote it. Now, why didn't anyone aknowledge Chrissy being sick and glad she's better??
I am concerned for people on our Chicago thread here.
I have the love of Disney like everyone else here, just can't afford to go.
I guess it depresses me that no one here aknowleged that Chrissy was sick.

I have another vent. I know this is a place to talk about upcoming Disney trips, past trips, future trips, etc. as well as stuff going on in our lives.
I just want to say it is sometimes very hard for me to read about the excitement of people's upcoming trips on our thread as well as other threads I happen to read. I guess I shouldn't read them, I suppose. My heart right now is crying to go on a Disney trip or anywhere. My DH says he would like to go to WDW again, but says we can't afford it, which we really can't I pray so hard we can win a trip via the online sweepstakes I enter, etc. About 3yrs ago, my mom did something pretty nasty. She gave false promises to Chrissy and Matthew, over the phone that she was going to pay for a Disney trip for both of them. The kids got real excited- thinking they were going. Well when I got the phone with my mom, she tells me"Oh, I can only pay $100 towards your trip for 4, you guys pay the rest!" I was very livid she did this to us, as she knew we didn't have a few thousand $$ to go. I did a huge search for Make-A-Wish foundation a few weeks after this incident happened. I referred Chrissy for a wish trip and due to her life-threateneing illness- her heart, Chrissy qualified for the wish, for which we were extremely blessed!
Anyways, I guess I'm venting b/c we still don't have money for a trip, according to DH. He doesn't get paid as much as he should be for the job he is doing. I know, you guys will want me to check the Budget board, which I do quite often.

Anyways, just venting here as I am kinda grumpy with all of you that can afford these vacations, etc. How do you all pay for these vacations? Really, I want to know! Do you go into credit card debt, do you save 1$ a day for a few yrs for the WDW trip? Do your parents pay for the trip? I know what I'm asking is personal, but how do you pay for all these trips??

And all of you that have little kids,elementary age kids, etc. That's great your parents watch your kids for a few days while you go on vacation. Consider yourself extremely blessed, b/c my parents will only take my kids overnight for 1 night/ yr and that's it. Dh and I cannot go a few days away anywhere w/out the kids. Have no one to watch them.

Sorry for my venting, but just very upset right now. As I am home with the kids by myself for a few days, dh is at work. He doesn't get any days off except for Christmas Day and New Years day. No vacation time, since he only gets 10 days/ yr of vacation/ yr total. He only gets 3 paid sick days/yr.
His work used to be off MLK day in Jan and President's Day in Feb, but not anymore. The head honchos took those off holidays away for 2007, so he doesn't get those holidays off anymore. They won't even substitute personal days for them, which makes me very upset. Now we really have to ration his vacation days for 2007, as he hardly gets any, just the 10 days/yr.

Rosemarie,

I have to say that I am a little disappointed in your post. I guess I am using the term disappointed because I think it is really going to make people feel bad and sad who had NO intentions of hurting yours or anyone’s feelings. I can already see it happening as people respond to your post.

I recognize every time I come to this thread that I am talking to a variety of very different people from a variety of different backgrounds. I feel like there are people here who I have more than and people who have more than me. I read and I think… Wow, she is just like me and other times I think to myself I would love to be like that, or accomplish that. Sometimes I think….. She’s a very lucky person and sometimes I pray for those of you who I think need prayers.

I have always said “everyone should be able to go to Disney” but we all know there are people who will never get to go. Is that sad? Yes. It is very sad. I truly feel bad that your feelings were hurt but there are some things that you need to remember when you visit the DisBoards. For one…they are the DISBOARDS and people are going to talk about their Disney vacations. It is the main purpose of these boards. I would hate for you to not visit here but if you get upset when you read about everyone’s trips (upcoming or over) then maybe you need to start a support thread of your own here where others are in the same boat as you or something like that. I think that this thread is so friendly that you do start to feel like you are a part of each others lives but the truth is that this thread is place to visit and I may be wrong but I believe sometimes people find it hard to keep up with what is going on in everyone’s lives let alone then comment on EVERY single persons lives. For example, I have only been able to read about what’s going on lately and only here and there. Other times I can check more than once in a day plus make comments.

I can guarantee you that everyone felt very bad Chrissy was sick but maybe just didn’t have time to type it out at that moment. I can think of a few comments of mine that were not acknowledged here. I didn’t mind. It’s NOT personal. I figure people are busy. They have a life of there own to worry about. Everyone has different reasons for visiting here.

Of course this is all my opinion and my opinion only. I feel like there are people who just need to come and talk but not comment. Others like Slo and Macraven who are extremely considerate and seem to follow up on everyone. Everyone is different and that is why it is such a neat place to come and talk.
YOU CANNOT TAKE ANYTHING HERE PERSONALY.

I know I haven’t been here that long and I really pray that I have not offended anyone or overstated my bounds but sometimes I just feel like I need to say how I feel.

Rosmarie..in the disboard world you are loved and thought of kindly. I hope things start to turn around for you. Hersey had some very nice words for you. You sound like a truly good, church going, sweet person. I wish only good things for you.

I hope this can all be put in the posting past.

 

[Crissup]

I very rarely ever find time to post anywhere anymore. Even my own board, the Think Tank, I'm a month behind on (aside from a quick spot check each day). In fact, I've probably posted as much on this thread as anywhere else, which is so rarely that the first three or four times I posted, Slo welcomed me to the thread each time. Thus, I almost never post on birthday threads, get well threads, feel good threads, etc. On the rare occassion I do post on a birthday thread, I get worried that people are going to read into the fact that I never posted on their thread, so at that point, I may even decide not to post at that moment.

As for how to afford Disney vacations, luckily, I purchased DVC back when I was single, making a lot of money and virtually no bills. It just so happens that when I married my DW, she also happened to own DVC (in fact, she's been a DVC board mod here for many years). We now live in a much nicer house with nicer cars, and to go along with all that, bigger bills. As a result, we find we don't have as much disposable income. Thank goodness for DVC!!! With DVC, we can afford to go to WDW with very nice accomodations already paid for! So, there's our secret... DVC!!! No true WDW fan should leave home without it!!

 

[rmom50]

RosePrincess: A big hug to you from me. (can't make the cute little smiles work). This is such a stressful time of year - especially financially. I'm so sorry that I didn't ask about Chrissy. I am real bad at this whole Dis thing, but I do enjoy you all. Mainly I just come here to share in the excitement of anyone's talk of Disney. I love it all, but I have been lucky to get to go lately too. You asked how we make extra money for our trips, and I'll share with you that I am an E bay seller. I have a love of antiques and junque of any kind pretty much and have become pretty good at values (get some books at library). I also love to shop and have found things at thrift shops that have sold for profit on e bay. This satisfies my need to shop, love of antiques and Disney! It's also something you could do while staying home with your kids (like me). My youngest son is 14 now and is pretty much self sufficient, so I can't compare my current situation with yours. Plus, Rose, having a special needs child/children like you (your son is special needs too as he is gifted and they are a handful too), is something most of us can't even begin to imagine. I know how horrible it is to have a child with a virus, but a child with a life threatening condition is something entirely different. I think you are an angel to do all that you do and to keep your spirits and your kid's spirits up like you have. Your kid's memories will be of camping while other kid's will be of a lodge. They will all be memories of being with mom and dad. If you ever want to PM me for any reason, please do. I don't think sharing feelings is whining. I think it's being honest and that's trusting us with your emotions. I'll stop now - Big Hugs to you with pixie dust.

For everyone with trips coming up ~~~ I'm thrilled for you and want to hear every detail! Can't wait!

I can't even make my font comic or pink - waaaaaaaaaaaa. <<<<<that's whining - tee hee.

 

[SamIAm21]

Roseprincess I hope your daughter is feeling better, but you posted on the day the Web Master took the forum bulletin board off line. I for one, was running around like a crazy woman, doing shopping, cleaning my house and getting ready for Christmas. I had barely enough time to get on board and wish all y'all a Merry Christmas. If I neglected to mention your daughter's illness, no malice was intended. However, I have noticed in the past that you never really respond to any of my posts either. I figure it's because what I post doesn't really relate to you at that particular moment. You don't feel moved enough by what I post to respond, and you know what, THAT'S OKAY! It's just the way it is.

As far as my secret in taking Disney trips, well I try to live within my means as much as humanly possible. I don't have a ton of credit card debt, a couple $hundred$ after Christmas now and I'll have that paid off real soon. I save my money and budget out how much I'm going to need to save in order to take a particular trip. I also work everyday. I go to work, my husband goes to work, and my daughter is in school. We don't live in a glamorous house and we don't drive fancy cars. I just got a new car because my old one was becoming really unreliable and basically dangerous. Otherwise, I'd still be driving that old car, because now I have a car payment, which takes $$ out of the budget. We don't eat out but maybe once a month, if that. I shop at Aldi's 99% of the time and cook our meals. I bring my lunch to workd because fast food is expensive. I'm just a typical suburban mom trying to do what I can to keep costs low. Eating out is not typically in the budget but that's okay because when we do go out, it means something, it's a true treat, not a way of life.

It's a matter of working toward your goal. Set a goal, figure out how you are going to reach that goal and then WORK for it. Nothing comes easy to anyone in this world, but if there's something you want, you need to go out and get it. I have never had anyone knock on my door and give me money -- although that would be nice!!

I hope you feel better after venting, but I'd bet others feel a little like they got kicked in the shins.

Hope things get better!

SamIAm

 

[Becky2005]

Roseprincess -- I'm sorry. I did read that Chrissy was sick but then I read that she was better by the time I was able to respond. I didn't think to say something. I'm sorry. Was it Mucinex that was working or am I confused?

I know it does stink with Disney when you really, really want to go but can't and then DH's changing of days off, etc...

Honestly, for us, we DID charge the whole thing. We used tax refunds for it too. We couldn't really afford to go when we did and won't be able to afford to go back a long time either (but I'm trying...may end up just charging the entire thing again and tax refunds come in handy!) I know not the most logical or best financial plan to do it but sometimes you just have to say "the heck with it, we will deal with the financial fall-out later". At least WE did. Here's a quick backstory of ours...we had planned to go when the DS-6 was five. DH is of the thinking that we needed to wait until they were "old enough to remember it" before going. Our plan was all set, then comes along Jan. 2003, DH gets laid off from a job he had for almost 10 years (he fully intended to retire there) AND I find out I'm pregnant with baby #4 all on the same day. I am also a stay-at-home mom which means by DH getting laid off, we just lost our medical insurance. Basically everything got topsy turvy. Fast Forward many moons later, DH gets another full-time job getting 1/2 pay though BUT he gets 2 weeks vacation time after 1 year (we planned on taking 2 weeks to go because we were going to drive and I just didn't think we could cram everything in less than 7 days for our "once in a lifetime trip" basically.) Found out he COULD take them both at the same time. So vacation back on. The last vacation we took before that was 5 years ago, so we don't take them very often. It basically was we needed this vacation for our sanity and it was going to be the the cheapest it ever was going to be as the little one was free and DD was the only one considered an adult.

I so want to go back but I know it will be a very long time before we can afford to go again because now we have 4 adults plus 2 children that we have to pay for everything for with tickets & food. Unless DH happens to get a better paying job OR if I go back to work once DS-3 is in 1st grade (he keeps looking. He now has one better paying than what he had but it's a temp position, so no paid time off at all. They were closed on the Friday before Christmas and Christmas day but DH got no pay for it.) However, we would still need to get about 2 weeks off because we can't afford to fly (nor do I want to deal with the extra hours in the airport & the chance that they can just randomly change/cancel flights on you.)

I hope you are feeling better soon.

To everyone else that is going soon, I do want to say I love reading about your trips though.

 

[Becky2005]

Oops!!! I double posted. Don't quite know how I did that but I did. The computer was too slow I guess.

I need to go play Disney Trivia Pursuit with the youngins as they are anxiously awaiting.

 

[macraven]

remember the day back in late summer i came on and posted similar to this.............


happy belated birthday,
sorry you went through that,
condolences to the family,
hope the fever is gone,
sorry for the loss,
everyone misses their pets and its hard when they leave us,
you don't look fat, don't go on a diet....
tell me about the trip,
i want pictures,
sorry about grandma,
you're in my prayers..
etc.........


i had some bad issues with son and just couldn't concentrate so i know i neglected many of the homies here. i was embarrased i had not acknowledged many of the friends and what they were going through or had gone through. i read the posts but just did not respond.

when i started posting again, i posted short phrases like above to correct my failings as a dis homie friend here on the chgoland thread.

i know i didn't need to do that but wanted to as i care about everyone here.
i feel really bad when someone has hurt feelings.

i read what was posted tonight and see everyone's thoughts. it is good that we can feel free to express ourselves openingly

a lot of us here have big headaches going on in our lives. coming here lets us talk about disney and our plans for trips to the motherland......
while we were bonding by disney talk, we got to know a few tid bits about each other. along the way then, had a few dis meets and then many have been able to put a face with a name now.

right now, this is a time to move on.
sorry if i am stepping on your toes slo.... we're just having some growing pains and it is time to move on.



AND...........i am still waiting to hear geffrics trip report.

i really had something else to say but got sidetracked.
i'll probably remember it around midnight .........if i see green lights on late tonight, i'll come back and tuck you all in.

 

[HERSEY]

Good morning everyone! Today is a new day. A New year is around the corner. Time to let go of the old stuff and create new stuff.

Tonight I'm going to shred some of the old stuff I need to find a Goodwill box. Stuff happens to be my middle name lately, I need to buckle down a purge again. To late in the year for a garage sale

Hope everyone's day is better a we can move a head to a new year without the old junk cluttering our lives. Ok enough from Sally sunshine Got to get ready for what today brings

 

[slo]

Yawn.......after a week of sleeping in, it's sure hard getting up today.

Today is Kevin's birthday I'm trying to talk him into going out to dinner tonight with one of our new gift cards so then I don't have to cook. We also got a Cold Stone Creamery gift cake for a Christmas gift from our friend (the one we are going to Florida with) so I think we will take that out of the freezer and put some candles on it Then on New Years Eve we celebrate his birthday with the whole family, so I'll get his favorite birthday cake then

macraven - When does your son have to go back to school? Is he going to be home for New Years?
**How's your parents doing? I'm keeping them in my prayers.
**How's your son in Mexico doing? I think about him alot and hope he stays safe.

Hersey - I do alot of my purging twice a year when I take my winter and summer clothes out of the attic. It always feels good to get rid of stuff

Jedi - How are you doing? I think about you alot and I hope you are doing okay.

geffric - Are more people coming to work now later in the week, or does it seem like alot of people took this week off?
**Did your family have a nice Hanaukkuh? Did your boys want a certain gift they were excited about getting?

Bunchkin - How's Hunter's arm doing? I sure hope it's feeling better When Katie had her arm taken our of the cast she was so excited to not have that heavy thing on her anymore.
**I checked the weather in Florida - the average temp is 62 degrees. It's been the 70's everyday. So I'm thinking capris by day, and jeans by night

Debbie - How was your kids Christmas? What was their favorite gift?

Crissup - I welcomed you 3 times - how nice of me I sometimes have a hard time remembering who's visiting for the first time - especially when I'm posting this early in the morning

rmom - Kevin is an ebay seller too He's bought some wonderful things for us by buying and selling through ebay

Sam - Did Megan have a nice Christmas? What was her favorite gift?

Becky - How is your DD adjusting to her backbrace? I've been thinking of her

Rosemarie - My kids loved those punching bags too. Does Chrissy's have water at the bottom as a weight? If so, keep an eye on it - Stephanie's sprung a slow leak and that was the end of the punching bag

Well, I guess I better get ready for work.
Have a good day today

 

[Nite0wl71]

Good Morning All

Don't faint I am finally checking in. Things have been so busy since Thanksgiving. Right now I have a little time because I don't start work until 8am and Stacey is out of town until Saturday. I think things are finally starting to wind down at work. We have had 3 different store managers since right before Thanksgiving. It has been crazy but it is starting to pull together. Now it is just wondering what they are going to do with us when July comes and our lease is up.

I will try to not stay away so long this time

I hope everyone had a great holiday and has an even better New Year.

 

[Bunchkin]

Good morning to all!!

I really need to quit staying up so late!


Hersey Would you mind stoppping by with your shredder?
I have a lot to shred, and I figure between my shredder and yours, we should get a lot done. I have tasty snacks and yummy wine............


slo Thanks for asking about Hunter's arm. It is doing ok. He's not in too much pain, but it is still stiff. So he is starting phys. therapy on Friday to help with straightening the arm out and making it more flexible.
He goes in for p.t at 9am, and I go back for my p.t at 4pm. Maybe I should ask them from a group discount!!!

I have been watching the Weather Channel too for Orlando's weather.
It does seem to be getting cold at night. When we went during Christmas, we did need pants and shorts. But mostly pants. This year it seems to be a little warmer than normal. But I'm happy with that!!
I'm getting up a suitcase from the basement today! I'm going to Fabreeze it!!!!

Happy birthday to Kevin!!! How old is he?? I hope you go out for dinner. That cake sounds yummy!



Niteowl I'm glad you stopped by!!! It's good to hear from you!
How are Amy and the girls doing? Are they still moving?
I hope all works out at work.

 

[Bunchkin]

Niteowl I just noticed you are going to WDW in 5 days!!! Congrats to you!!
How long will you be there? Slo and I will be there in 8 days!!

 

[roseprincess]

Hi all-
Thank you all for your responses
I was just venting yesterday b/c I was feeling pretty low at the time about a few things. I was told by Slo quite awhile ago and very recently that I am allowed to vent here on our board as well as everyone else can vent too, on whatever they want to vent about, things going on in their lives, etc.
It was a vent, that's all.
I didn't mean to stir up alot of controversy here, as some of may think I was trying to do. It was just a vent from me, that's all, so don't take it too personally.

Yes, I am very blessed about the little things I have and the big things I have. I have a roof over my head that I am thankful for. I have a wonderful husband and 2 wonderful kids that I am thankful for.

I know there are about 3 of you Disers here I can relate to that had or are going thru tough times, whether it's financial or family related. It's good to know there are some of us here that I can relate to.

I basically joined our thread as a community thing, to be in community with all of you. To make friends and aquaintances. That's what life is about, to be in community with one another

I do enjoy reading your Disney trips. I'm sorry if I offended anyone on this. Sometimes reading all the Disney trips here and other boards do get to me once evey few months, and I just can't read them anymore. That's something I need to deal with. Sometimes I need to get away from the boards b/c of this. DH says I read too many of these boards and I should stay away reading all these Disney trips b/c he knows it makes me sad at times. But that's life I suppose.

I'm over my vent from yesterday. It's a new day. Continue talking about whatever, whether it's Disney trips or anything else. I really don't need anymore responses from my vent. I'm done


Dh did buy a printer for Christmas, it was Christmas present he gave to me. We never had a printer before. He just hooked it up last night. So I am thrilled to finally have a printer and I don't have to bother DH at work to print this or that out for me. We just print out important Cub Scout info stuff. It will be fun to play with the printer!

 

[roseprincess]

Slo- Happy Birthday to Kevin!!!
Have a great birthday dinner and dessert!!
*Yes, Chrissy has the punching bag with the water on the bottom. Thanks for the warning of the water could possibly leak.

NiteOwl- Nice to see you here!! Say hi to Amy for us!

Hi to everyone else

 

[geffric]

Morning.. Just two more days of work.. This time is really stressful, i have 2 deals that may or may not come in.. If they don't I am dog meat..

Kevin.. sound like you have a celebration on your upcoming trip in only 1 week..

Mac what is happening at your end with your parents and your boys??

Jedi I have been thinking about you , how are you doing? Are you going to keep busy this weekend?

Crissup yep buying DVC in the early days have made a big difference for us too. remember when we got park passes too..

QOTD - Plans for New Years Eve??

I am going to my cousin's daughters wedding on New year's Eve. This is the 2nd New Year's Eve wedding. Last year, we went to Cleveland for a wedding too. I am looking forward to seeing my cousins and my aunt.