Cheeky Chicks (and a rooster) Can Cyber Chat For A Whole Year! Part 2

[AllAboutPluto]

You should see her thighs!

I love watching the thin newborn blossom into a fat & happy baby.

I tell you - Kailey has been giving me such a hard time. I thought 5 year olds were supposed to be easy.

Nope.

 

[Grumpy's Wife]

I tell you - Kailey has been giving me such a hard time. I thought 5 year olds were supposed to be easy.

Oh just wait and see what the wonderful teen years bring.

 

[GoofyDad869]

Oh just wait and see what the wonderful teen years bring.

I shudder to think what my daughter's teenage years will bring us...

I'm not nearly as worried about my son.

 

[AllAboutPluto]

I shudder to think what my daughter's teenage years will bring us...

I'm not nearly as worried about my son.

I walked into my son making out with his g/f on the bed two nights ago. Send me strength now, please.

 

[GoofyDad869]

I walked into my son making out with his g/f on the bed two nights ago. Send me strength now, please.

OK, there's that...


My son is 12 right now (7th Grade). He's got a "girlfriend", but I don't think he's quite figured it all out yet. I know he knows about the mechanics of it all, just not the 'how you put it into practice' things yet. So far their encounters have been exclusively school dances & basketball games. He's small for his age, and he'll probably be a late bloomer (I was too, on both accounts).

He's really got a strong sense of himself at the moment. Right / wrong, his weaknesses / his strengths. But I also know he'll lose some of that perspective once the hormones hit.

Neither me or KAMommy are prudes by any stretch of the imagination. I "did that" at 15 (late junior high), so I know when those hormones hit, they hit hard. KAMommy was quite a bit later than me, but it was still high-school age for her. We met in college, so there's a whole different ball of wax (I was pretty wild in my early college years).

My daughter's 7 going on 18. Lord help us. She's much more social, which is good in most respects. She's also much more daring than her brother, in ALL ways. She's gotten in quite a bit of trouble for that too already ('you show me yours, I'll show you mine' kind of behavior). We'll just have to temper that with more positive aspects as time goes by with her. She's also the kind of kid that will do something simply because you tell her NOT to do it.

 

[GoofyDad869]

By the way, AAP, I'm reading your trip report as I'm doing my rounds. I'm on page 4 of the thread and it's very good.

 

[AllAboutPluto]

By the way, AAP, I'm reading your trip report as I'm doing my rounds. I'm on page 4 of the thread and it's very good.

Perhaps I should work on that some more.

My son is 14, 15 in Feb. I'd say he still has a pretty good sense of himself, and hasn't really lost that since he's picked up this more serious girlfriend over the summer. DH and I even commented last night that even with the smooching the other night, he's not getting all wrapped up the teen angst yet. While they do talk on the phone pretty much every night, they've actually gone a week, or even two, without seeing each other and it doesn't seem to be a huge burden or distraction to him. He's a freshman and at the HS, while she's in 8th grade and at the JH, so they're not seeing each other at school either. I suppose the desperation is yet to come...

I think he's a pretty lucky kid in a way, because DH and I are pretty level headed about the whole thing. We choose to remember how we were at that age, rather than burying our heads in the sand and pretending that we didn't do such untoward things in our youth. So we're realists and we discuss things with him as realists. I even said to him (everyone, sit down please) that we're not going to be foolish enough to believe he's going to wait until his wedding night, but we do expect him to wait until he's with a person that he loves and RESPECTS, because once you do it, you can't take it back.

I only hope it WORKS!

 

[CrazyChik]

ahh us children do enjoy worrying your pants off

 

[GoofyDad869]

Perhaps I should work on that some more.

My son is 14, 15 in Feb. I'd say he still has a pretty good sense of himself, and hasn't really lost that since he's picked up this more serious girlfriend over the summer. DH and I even commented last night that even with the smooching the other night, he's not getting all wrapped up the teen angst yet. While they do talk on the phone pretty much every night, they've actually gone a week, or even two, without seeing each other and it doesn't seem to be a huge burden or distraction to him. He's a freshman and at the HS, while she's in 8th grade and at the JH, so they're not seeing each other at school either. I suppose the desperation is yet to come...

I think he's a pretty lucky kid in a way, because DH and I are pretty level headed about the whole thing. We choose to remember how we were at that age, rather than burying our heads in the sand and pretending that we didn't do such untoward things in our youth. So we're realists and we discuss things with him as realists. I even said to him (everyone, sit down please) that we're not going to be foolish enough to believe he's going to wait until his wedding night, but we do expect him to wait until he's with a person that he loves and RESPECTS, because once you do it, you can't take it back.

I only hope it WORKS!

I think in the end, it all boils down to the RESPECT thing. Both self-respect and respect for the other person. And how can you teach & preach self-respect to somebody, especially if they have little to begin with? It's all in the way you live, in my opinion (take that for what it's worth). Both for yourself and your child. And back to the respect thing - When I was growing up, my dad always said to me "Do as I say, not as I do." Looking back, that's about the saddest (and possibly the hardest) thing I can think of to ever have to say from the heart, as a parent to a child. Because as soon as that is said, respect is very difficult (if not impossible) to achieve. I know I still have major problems respecting - and trusting - my dad, almost 20 years after moving out.

I've made it a point to never be in a situation as an adult where I'd have to tell my own child "Do as I say, not as I do". It's a struggle too, but it's THE important thing with me now that I'm a dad. And trying to be a realist is important too. Especially when other kids start to enter the picture. Kids can be squeaky-clean when they know they're in the presence of an adult, and knowing where that mask edge is is really hard to detect sometimes.

And if I had it to do all over again, I'd do (or NOT DO, as the case may be) a lot of stuff differently. For what that's worth. But I guess that's why they call it "life", ehh?

 

[GoofyDad869]

ahh us children do enjoy worrying your pants off

Yes, but take notes on the conversation here. Please.

 

[CrazyChik]

hey i'm not like that!! most of the time. ssoo i can be a lil moody and hey maybe i have arguments and roll my eyes behind your back and pull faces and backstab you but i am NOT considering you know what at 12!! tyvm

 

[GoofyDad869]

hey i'm not like that!! most of the time. ssoo i can be a lil moody and hey maybe i have arguments and roll my eyes behind your back and pull faces and backstab you but i am NOT considering you know what at 12!! tyvm

Uh huh... (sarcastic doubting parent speaking...)


Just as long as you know all my things about thongs and stuff are really jokes. For the record, I don't own any thongs (that still fit...)

Most 12-year-olds are not ready for the emotions involved in that act. Same goes for 15. Heck, some 35-year-olds I know are not ready for the emotions involved in that act...

 

[CrazyChik]

Uh huh... (sarcastic doubting parent speaking...)


Just as long as you know all my things about thongs and stuff are really jokes. For the record, I don't own any thongs (that still fit...)

Most 12-year-olds are not ready for the emotions involved in that act. Same goes for 15. Heck, some 35-year-olds I know are not ready for the emotions involved in that act...

eerrmmm at 35 that is a tiny weeny bit sad!

 

[GoofyDad869]

eerrmmm at 35 that is a tiny weeny bit sad!

Yes it is. But some 35-year-olds are really only 10-year-olds on the inside.
And some 15-year-olds are really 25-year-olds on the inside.

Gotta go to a meeting. Later!

 

[CrazyChik]

ciao GD

lalala where has everyone else flown off to??

 

[Sthronds]

Wow did I miss a deep conversation. Hazzi, listen to GD, he has good advice.

Morning! It's a freezing day here on the coast and nobody is handling it well, considering we are all spoiled weather wimps. One co-worker complained about having to wear a sweater over her t-shirt.

I hope you all have a lovely day!

 

[CrazyChik]

oh lord!! they complained about wearing a sweater over their t-shirt???

it is very very rare to find us with just a t-shirt on with the exceptions of weirdos indoors with heating in the pool and in the verry verrry rare hot summa's!!

 

[Sthronds]

I tell you, we are spoiled with the weather. It is unusually cold here and people are just not used to it. When I was in England last March, I thought I would die it was so cold.

 

[CrazyChik]

it wasn't that cold in march.

 

[Sthronds]

Yes it was! It snowed!