Check Out This Husband On Stike!!!!!

[kpm76]

All I can say is she is going to be a very sad mother one day if she continues to put her childrens wants above her husbands wants or needs. Good for him that he loves his wife so much that he is willing to take a stand for himself.

I agree with you. We don't have kids yet, so I am sure things will change when we do. However, we have a large family and I have watched a few marriages dissolve because the wife/mom becomes all consummed with the kids and could care less about her husband. It's as if all she needed him for was procreation. I do agree though that a 2 month old changes things a little....that's still really young.

 

[FSUGrad97]

All I can say is she is going to be a very sad mother one day if she continues to put her childrens wants above her husbands wants or needs. Good for him that he loves his wife so much that he is willing to take a stand for himself.

It sounds like to me that he has some issues if he thinks it's entirely appropriate to post his issues on a website. Also, we are not hearing her side of this, only his. I would guess that he may not be the perfect husband he is trying to make himself out to be.

I just tried to check out the site and it didn't load - maybe he figured out that a website wasn't the best way to open the lines of communication with his wife. Or, his wife realized what an idiot he is and kicked him to the curb.

This guy is a tool.

ETA: His website was able to load this time, and my original view was correct - this guy is a tool. Complaining about how their room used to be a place for relaxation and now has been taken over by diapers is immature. Seriously, my 2 year old has better coping skills than this guy. How is going on strike on the roof going to help?

 

[sakura-panda]

They interviewed him on the radio this morning (I was listening to Good Morning America Satellite Radio) and he said that the two-year-old sleeps in his own bed unless he is sick, had a "bad baby dream" or if his wife wants to cuddle with him. It's the three-month-old that he wants out of the bed.

At the time, it was 8:30 in the morning and he had been on the roof for about an hour. He has been doing this for about a week and he goes inside to eat and use the facilities. He also sleeps in his bed at night. Some strike!

I don't see how she can take him seriously about this and I don't see how he thinks that this is going to change her mind -- if she's being stubborn, as he claims, then putting out their differences for everyone to see is NOT going to get her to back down!

I also don't see how this is going to help other dads in similar situations (since he also claims that he is standing up for the rights of men everywhere to get their bedrooms back).

It's an amusing story -- but I just don't think it is going to solve his -- or anyone else's -- marital issues.

--Katie

 

[Maleficent13]

The more I read, the more I think the Dh sounds like an ***.

 

[DVC Sadie]

It sounds like to me that he has some issues if he thinks it's entirely appropriate to post his issues on a website. Also, we are not hearing her side of this, only his. I would guess that he may not be the perfect husband he is trying to make himself out to be.

I just tried to check out the site and it didn't load - maybe he figured out that a website wasn't the best way to open the lines of communication with his wife. Or, his wife realized what an idiot he is and kicked him to the curb.

This guy is a tool.

I saw the husband this moring on GMA and he seems very normal to me. His wife was also on GMA and didn't seem to mind at all that he broadcasted their lives on the internet and TV. She thinks he'll change his mind and is taking everything in good humor.

 

[Marseeya]

All I can say is she is going to be a very sad mother one day if she continues to put her childrens wants above her husbands wants or needs. Good for him that he loves his wife so much that he is willing to take a stand for himself.

Sorry, but a 2 month old has needs that trumps a grown adult's any day.

I'm glad my husband was enough of a man to realize that.

 

[AnaheimGirl]

It doesn't sound like she is receptive to the children sleeping anywhere else.

Then he can pick up some of the toys and diapers.

What I really meant was, why is this all her responsibility? It sounds like he wants her to do it all, but in his way. It really cracked me up, the way he said she won't follow his "advice". That makes it sound like she's the parent and he's a columnist or something.

 

[Nancy]

While I don't agree with his methods, I do agree with him somewhat. Our bedroom is our bedroom...kids stuff was not in there. The only time they slept in the big bed was when they were not feeling well or had a bad dream.

We had 3 kids in 5 years...yet we still managed to have plenty of us time...hence the 3 kids in 5 year...LOL! We left them with Grandma for weekends away. I even let my Mom take them to Disney for a week when they were all still under 10 and Dh and I stayed home.

Even though you are a parent you still have to be a couple. Sounds like neither of them are willing to give an inch and compromise. I loved to cuddle with my babies, but I also loved to cuddle with my husband.

 

[Michie]

All I can say is she is going to be a very sad mother one day if she continues to put her childrens wants above her husbands wants or needs. Good for him that he loves his wife so much that he is willing to take a stand for himself.

I agree with putting your marriage first, but I think I would be a little ticked if my Dh took this approach.

 

[FSUGrad97]

I saw the husband this moring on GMA and he seems very normal to me. His wife was also on GMA and didn't seem to mind at all that he broadcasted their lives on the internet and TV. She thinks he'll change his mind and is taking everything in good humor.

Seeming normal and being normal are two different things. Most rational, well-adjusted adults do not camp out on the roof when things don't go their way.

Maybe if he helped out around the house (instead of setting up this web site and sitting on the roof), his wife might be more open to his point of view.

 

[Maleficent13]

What I really meant was, why is this all her responsibility? It sounds like he wants her to do it all, but in his way.

What's that saying? "You can tell me what to do or how to do it, but not both."

 

[kpm76]

What I really meant was, why is this all her responsibility? It sounds like he wants her to do it all, but in his way. It really cracked me up, the way he said she won't follow his "advice". That makes it sound like she's the parent and he's a columnist or something.

I don't know alot about the story and maybe you are right that he is not helpful etc. The point I wanted to make though is that I have met plenty of moms who want to do it all (even if they complain) and think that their DH is not capable of helping etc. Eventually the DH loses interest because he's constantly shot down if he tries to help. Sure, there are also plenty of husbands/fathers that are loads but there are also women who believe they are the only ones who can comfort their child etc. In some cases, that's not true but that is the situation they have created because their need to be needed is so great. It's just something I have observed and tucked away for when I have kids.

 

[mom2riceboys]

All I can say is she is going to be a very sad mother one day if she continues to put her childrens wants above her husbands wants or needs. Good for him that he loves his wife so much that he is willing to take a stand for himself.

OMG, the baby is two months old! She also has a two-year-old. That poor woman is probably exhausted. When my youngest was 2 mos old, I was getting about 2-3 hours of sleep each night and trying to take care of a 4-year-old too. Let me tell you, my husband's "NEEDS" were the last thing on my mind. All I thought about was trying to take care of the kids. I had absolutely no time for myself. If I got in shower before 3:00 PM, it was a great day! There is no way I would have been interested in going out for an anniversary dinner with a tiny baby. If the husband offered her a chance to sleep while he took care of the kids, I bet she would have taken him up on that. I am so lucky. My husband has always been great with helping out with the housework and the children. He was also very understanding about having the babies in the bedroom (I breastfed) and letting the older one sleep with us so he didn't feel left out with the new baby. My boys are now 6 and 10. Despite me putting my children's wants and needs above my husband's when they were tiny, I am pleased to report that we are very happily married and have much more time for each other now. We will celebrate our 15th anniversary in October.

 

[buddy&wooz]

The wife is doing publicity with him?

I think they're in it for the fame and probably some cash. Wonder how this hit the media?

If it's for real, he's an idiot, and she's not much smarter if she's not pissed.

 

[Angela Kay]

The more I read, the more I think the Dh sounds like an ***.

I think you're right. If it were my DH, he had better take a loaf of bread and a bucket to the roof with him...cause he dang sure wouldn't be getting in the house to eat and use the facilities!

 

[ChibiJones]

I don't know alot about the story and maybe you are right that he is not helpful etc. The point I wanted to make though is that I have met plenty of moms who want to do it all (even if they complain) and think that their DH is not capable of helping etc. Eventually the DH loses interest because he's constantly shot down if he tries to help. Sure, there are also plenty of husbands/fathers that are loads but there are also women who believe they are the only ones who can comfort their child etc. In some cases, that's not true but that is the situation they have created because their need to be needed is so great. It's just something I have observed and tucked away for when I have kids.

That would be my SIL. My DBro isn't even allowed to take his daughter to my parents house if she isn't around to go with him. We were supposed to go with them to a theme park on our last visit home, but she had a work commitment come up. DBro wasn't allowed to come with us since she couldn't come. Yet she goes all the time with her mom's group while he's at work. That is just messed up.

But as for the guy with the website, what exactly is he on strike from? He never says what he does to help out.

 

[chobie]

Sorry, but a 2 month old has needs that trumps a grown adult's any day.

I'm glad my husband was enough of a man to realize that.

Amen. This guy is acting like he's the child.

 

[jodifla]

In the Detroit newspaper, they had both of them presenting their views in a he said/she said style. To me, she didn't come off that great. She's basically all about the kids.

It didn't come off at all that he wasn't helping; it was more like he was a nonentity in his home now.


Our son was less than three months old when we went on our first night out alone to celebrate our annivesary.

 

[Mishetta]

I think he's probably an idiot who doesn't even help her out, so I think he's done her a favor by moving out! Only 2 kids to take care of instead of 3! (Putting my flame retardent suit on now!)

 

[Nancy]

I don't know alot about the story and maybe you are right that he is not helpful etc. The point I wanted to make though is that I have met plenty of moms who want to do it all (even if they complain) and think that their DH is not capable of helping etc. Eventually the DH loses interest because he's constantly shot down if he tries to help. Sure, there are also plenty of husbands/fathers that are loads but there are also women who believe they are the only ones who can comfort their child etc. In some cases, that's not true but that is the situation they have created because their need to be needed is so great. It's just something I have observed and tucked away for when I have kids.

This is so true! My husband could not put a diaper on right to save his life...they were always too loose, too lopsided, taped to the skin, etc. I also cringed sometimes with the way he held them while he was giving them their bottles...but you know what? He loved them, he wasn't going to cause them harm, so Mom stood back, let him do it his way and kept my mouth shut.
When my oldest was 18 months old, #2 was born. We still had our nights out. When oldest was 41/2, #2 was 3 and #3 was a newborn, if I had to have been in total control I would be locked away now.