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[Funball]

what do you do when a person thinks the world revovles around them? lol lol.. other then tell them to look in the mirror at them selves to see how selfish they are!

 

[kelmac284]

Well I just got back from being gone all day. I was waiting for my mom to call with an update and when she finally called they said we should come to the hospital that my uncle wasn't going to make it and everyone was saying goodbye. It was really hard and I really hate remembering people like that. I prefer to remember them how they were but I wanted to go and be there for my aunt and cousins so we went. We stayed there for about an hour and discussed what was next and everyone decided that we would all get together later this evening for dinner and kind of discuss what was next and so "our" family, my parents, my family and myself all went back to my parents and kind of hung out until it was time to get together and then most of the family got together and we all basically just got together and talked. My aunt and the kids are going to make some plans tomorrow but for now the word is they are going to have a memorial service here and then a burial in the town where they lived for several years which is in the bay area.

So again everything is kind of on hold until we know more. Everyone is still kind of in shock and mom and I are worried about my dad and how he is taking it.

It's been a LONG day and I am mentally and emotionally drained. Plus I think I overdid it a bit. I was feeling ok yesterday but I think I was up too much today and I am paying for it but it had to be done.

Anyway that's my news. Any thoughts or prayers for my aunt and cousins is much appreciated as I know they are going to need it! They are all still in shock right now. Thanks

 

[XTinabell]

what do you do when a person thinks the world revovles around them? lol lol.. other then tell them to look in the mirror at them selves to see how selfish they are!

Tell em to come talk to me because everyone knows the world already revolves around ME. I will set them straight.

Well I just got back from being gone all day. I was waiting for my mom to call with an update and when she finally called they said we should come to the hospital that my uncle wasn't going to make it and everyone was saying goodbye. It was really hard and I really hate remembering people like that. I prefer to remember them how they were but I wanted to go and be there for my aunt and cousins so we went. We stayed there for about an hour and discussed what was next and everyone decided that we would all get together later this evening for dinner and kind of discuss what was next and so "our" family, my parents, my family and myself all went back to my parents and kind of hung out until it was time to get together and then most of the family got together and we all basically just got together and talked. My aunt and the kids are going to make some plans tomorrow but for now the word is they are going to have a memorial service here and then a burial in the town where they lived for several years which is in the bay area.

So again everything is kind of on hold until we know more. Everyone is still kind of in shock and mom and I are worried about my dad and how he is taking it.

It's been a LONG day and I am mentally and emotionally drained. Plus I think I overdid it a bit. I was feeling ok yesterday but I think I was up too much today and I am paying for it but it had to be done.

Anyway that's my news. Any thoughts or prayers for my aunt and cousins is much appreciated as I know they are going to need it! They are all still in shock right now. Thanks

I'm sorry to hear about your uncle. I know how emotionally draining this experience is, keep strong. I know when I lost my grandpa I was more concerned for everyone else that was so sad and grieving that I forgot it was okay for me to grieve as well. This is a time when family is most important. I will keep you all in my thoughts and prayers.

 

[kelmac284]

Thank you Tina. Honestly I am just kind of like my aunt and walking around stunned. This was my dad's only real brother but to be honest my dad is kind of a hermit and as sad as it is to say our family used to be REALLY close when my great aunt was alive and every holiday was SO special and all the aunts uncles and cousins got together and I really LOVED holidays because it meant about 40 or 50 of us got together and I REALLY looked forward to it because that was pretty much the only time I saw a lot of them. This particular aunt and uncle lived in San Jose as I said and only came up at Christmas, Thanksgiving and Easter pretty much and would stay at our house a lot of the time. I was VERY close to my youngest cousin and my other cousin who lives in Alaska now, and I were like the three musketeers. Whenever we had get togethers the three of us were a team.

But like always people grow up and grow apart. My girl cousin moved to Alaska with her family when we were in jr high and my aunt and uncle finally moved up here when I was an adult but by then I was married and it wasn't the same. Everyone was doing things in their own lives and what seemed like a great idea never really panned out.

The families really split up after the death of my great aunt in 1986 and everyone has kind of done their own thing. We still see eachother on occasion but it is not like it used to be and that makes me sad. Esp for my kids cuz they don't know what it is like to have BIG family get togethers and see their cousins all the time. There was also a kind of falling out between my dad and one of his brothers and it is a long story but we have kind of been doing stuff with just our immediate family the last few years. I hadn't seen this particular uncle and his family in prob a year and they live right around the corner from me

But nevertheless they are STILL family and I still love them and even though we hadn't been too close over the last few years the memories are still there and it was good to all get together last night. I did tell my mom though that it is so sad how people always wait and never seem to get together till AFTER someone has passed and that is so wrong. We had a big celebration for my great uncle who turned 90 this past september and I am glad we did because his health is failing as well and I am glad we didn't wait till after he was gone to do it! Last night it ALMOST seemed as if we were all together simply celebrating the holiday until you remembered that someone was missing! My aunt kept saying she didn't want to sleep at the house because there are several people that needed places to sleep and she said she was willing to go to a hotel and people kept saying not to kick her out of her bed but what they didn't realize was that I don't think she WANTED to sleep in her bed without my uncle. I GOT it but I don't think they did. My dh and I looked at eachother and she hasn't had time to really let it sink in yet. After he passed yesterday we were all standing outside the icu in the hall and she kept saying she was going to go back in and talking to him. We had to remind her that he was gone. No one had really slept since Friday. It was so weird because he went in to the hospital on Thur and Fri my dad went to visit him in between helping me and he talked to him for several hours and THAT is how lucid he was and then that night I guess things went downhill and then all Saturday it got worse. It is just still so shocking.

Anyway we are getting together again with all the family that has gathered tonight just because everyone is here and I am still not sure when the memorial will be but you are right I have not really dealt with it yet myself. It is all to surreal at this point. I am sure at the memorial it will seem more real.

Anyway thanks for the thoughts and hope you have a good day!

 

[funnygarcia]

I'm sorry Kelly. That was a lot to take in all at once. Make sure to take care of you at this time too.

I know what you mean about family getting together only when there is an illness or funeral. My dad's family was the same way with big parties with extended family on each holiday. We don't do that now as many of my cousins have moved to far flung places and have kids of their own.
I feel sad for my mom as her siblings (oldest girl of 10 kids) move and don't let her know their address.

My dh doesn't understand that type of family togetherness. He just has his mom and sibs.. and even they sometimes don't talk to him .. unless they need something from us. We tell our boys that family is important, no matter what choices they make in life, we will love them and want to be part of their lives.

Pictures... sure....

DH and I were just looking at this pic, it's two years old, Noah has grown so much in the last year that he doesn't even look the same now.

Noah now...

Justin last year for band camp "send off"

 

[funnygarcia]

Our neighbor gave us a ride to the thrift store this morning, such a sweet lady!

Our fave thrift store has 50% off everything on the holidays. It was crazy crazy busy, packed full of people in every aisle. Made me feel a little dizzy, nauseous with the overwhelming shock to the senses. Toughed it out and snagged a few things.

Came home with a HUGE bag full of clothes for all of us. I have three pair of shorts and a cute little two button jacket for the cooler nights and into fall. The guys got more shorts and bunch of jeans for Noah since he has shot up a few inches this year everything he has is too big in the waist!

Walked back home, stopped at Culver's for an early lunch, now we are all laying around and relaxing.

E is going to start his run in a few hours, hoping to get done before his family comes back. They stopped Saturday to stay for the night, on the way to a concert in South Dakota (drive 6 hrs to a concert?? craziness!). They plan to stop on the way home, not sure if they are staying the night or not. The whole thing was bizarre and a little rude, BIL knew he was going to this concert two months ago.. yet they didn't call until right before they left home to ask if they can stay the night...


uhhh sure??

Of course they didn't have a chance to really talk to either of us since E had to dialyze and then they went to bed early as they still had a four hour drive the next day..

Noah was at a friend's lake party and Justin.. well he doesn't know how to entertain visitors very well.

If they had let us know in advance he would have changed his scheduled day off or run early.


I felt like I couldn't leave the room as he had a really bad run the night before. ...


Like super scary, considered calling 911 if he didn't recover kind of bad night.
I think the new scale is "off" by a kilo. He has had low blood pressure, feeling too "dry" and dizzy near the end of each run since we started the new charting system.

Anyway... I would dart out to the living room and offer drinks.. chat a tiny bit and run back to check with E again. BIL popped in, said HI and walked out again, um it's not contagious you know.

MIL won't get near our bedroom.. grrr, get over it already! He's been dealing with this for 14 years! Suck it up.

SIL hung out for awhile, she just started taking classes to be a dialysis tech. E let her try to stick him, but she was nervous. I give her an A+ for trying, because even I don't stick him.

so.. yeah.. that's our weekend.
Saturday was 90 degree HOT, yesterday was nicely overcast and today it's a little cool.. I like it that way.

 

[Funball]

well evryone had a nice day at the parks friday saturday and sunday. i also found out that who i thought was my friend, is not really my friend. a girl i used to hang out with at disneyland, turned sour on me! she was all pouty and pissed cuase she coulnd't get a nice area to watch fantasmic saturday night, well and also she expected the crowds to part(like moises and the water) and let her in so she could sit up front...she ruined my dinner i didn't get to finish my bread bowl cause she stormed off in the direction of haunted mansion with her other friend. And she complained for 25 mins that she didn't know why she came if she could not watch fantasmic--we both told her that it was not the end of the world she could see it again. but she didn't want to hear that.

soo i just left with out saying something i was sick and tired of her "the world revovles around me" attitude. and so then the next day she text me and was all pissed etc, and i told her exaclty how i felt about what happend the prev. night--she didn't want to hear that, she told me i was a stalker and i had issues.. and so i wrote back and said yeah i have issues? maybe you should look in a mirror at your self for a change. she is just a really selfish person, didn't care what anybody else was feeling. i hate people like that!!

so i broke my friendship with her, i dont need that negativity around me!

..soo that was friday/saturday, but then the last two days been at the parks, and i feel sooo much better!! WAY better, got to enjoy the festival before it closed!

other then that i am GREAT!!!!


kelmac, i hope things for better for you and your family

 

[XTinabell]

wooly mooly, lots of dramz for the hyena's this weekend or what?
Funball I can't stand being around people like that. I don't care if they're hormonal or what the issue is, relaaaaaaaax and realise that it's not the end of the world when things don't go exactly to plan. Learn to roll with it. Anyway, it couldn't have been easy to cut her out like that but good for you. Geesh.

B that is one heck of a weekend you pulled out. I hope you have a little less excitement this week, I think you all need a break.

I think maybe we all need a break. I can't stop stressing about this stupid photography thing, the more I think about how unprofessional the whole thing has been the angrier I get. I burst into tears today and cried for like a half hour (I would guess my hormones are a little nutty) so I'm really looking forward to getting this all resolved tomorrow. I really liked our pictures so I don't want to just walk away empty handed but at the same time I don't want to allow her to get away with the way she's handled everything and the blatantly ripping us off part.

We wanted an album, she quoted us a price for a 10 page album each extra page costs extra. So we went up to 13 pages, one page has 4 pictures on it so she's decided to tell us AFTER we agreed to the 13 pages that she's charging us per PICTURE not per PAGE! Ugh. Like I said, looking forward to getting this resolved tomorrow.

 

[Funball]

XTinabell;36831515]wooly mooly, lots of dramz for the hyena's this weekend or what?
Funball I can't stand being around people like that. I don't care if they're hormonal or what the issue is, relaaaaaaaax and realise that it's not the end of the world when things don't go exactly to plan. Learn to roll with it. Anyway, it couldn't have been easy to cut her out like that but good for you. Geesh.

ooo no xtinabell it was WAAAYY easy to cut her! seriously she slowed me down at the parks. i am soo glad all that drama is OVER. she is one big drama queen.. i don't understand poeple that can't go with the flow!!is there a smiley for disgusted with people's attitudes?? oh wait i think i found it--

 

[kelmac284]

Morning everyone. Well it seems that everyone has had an interesting weekend to say the least.

Rochelle I never got to answer your post from the other day but love the pics and glad you had a fun day at DL.

B Love your family photos. Lovely family you have and yes your boys are getting BIG! Your weekend did sound a bit crazy with the family dropping in. I can't STAND that. I don't even like people dropping by to say hello because no matter HOW much I try to keep this place clean and tidy both the girls AND dh are constantly trashing it and it is embarrassing to me to have people see a messy house. SOOO I prefer people to at least CALL first! That's awesome though that you got those great deals at the thrift store! LOVE me some deals. I got my haircut FINALLY yesterday (was in desperate need and looked like a yeti and figured with everyone coming I NEEDED to do it) and the girls didn't want to go home yet so we ventured in to target and found a couple of movies for 5 bucks and I got them a couple cute shirts for 4. Can't beat that

Sara I am glad you had fun at DL and I agree you don't need a so called friend like that. You are better off! Glad the REST of your weekend was fun!

Tina I am so sorry you are having such a pain with this stupid photographer. I know these things can be SO expensive and I hope you guys can work out a deal! ((hugs))

As for me after Target I went to mom's and we just kind of "hung out" because my aunt and the cousins were supposed to be getting together to discuss arrangements and then everyone that was in town was supposed to get together last night to visit and find out what the "plan" was. Well we FINALLY got a call from my cousin and said to be at my OTHER aunt and uncles house at 4. We got there and then were told that they weren't coming. Apparently my female cousin is having a hard time and they have decided to do an autopsy because my uncle died so suddenly and they don't really have a cause of death and she is against it and on and on. So this is going to delay things a bit and at this point things are unknown. The rest of us were saying that since everyone is in town with more coming that they could most likely do a memorial service this week since you don't need the body for that and then do a burial later and I guess now they are even thinking perhaps a cremation so again it is just up in the air.

So today I am just kind of hanging out. The girls missed their private swim lesson last thursday because of the weather and honestly I thought we should just hold off till we knew more but our friend is really pushing it and she wanted to do it today and since it doesn't seem like anything is going to happen TODAY I said fine. She is going to pick the girls up and take them and it is good for them to have a distraction. Tomorrow is their team photos and again I doubt anything will happen that quickly so as long as they can get that done since we can't really make that up then nothing else is really happening after that. We were going to celebrate Shane and I's birthdays either Thur or Fri but we will do that whenever. That is a non-issue at this point obviously. And IF they end up doing something on Saturday we have decided Shane will go ahead and still take them to the meet and I will go to the service with my parents.

So that is where we stand for now. I desperately need to schedule a mamogram and was just waiting till my surgery was over but now I don't want to do it cuz I don't know what is going on with all this and I am rapidly approaching my trip so now I am thinking I may just wait till I get back. I have waited THIS long. I haven't had one though in 3 years and my doc is ragging on me and I KNOW I need to do it but I switched ins 3 times in the last three years and just had a lot going on healthwise with OTHER stuff so just never got around to it but I NEED to get it done. Just WAY too much going on. Sheesh LOL.

Anyway I hope you all had SOME fun this weekend and hope you have a good day today and an even better week. Take care and talk soon!

 

[ironlou]

Finally in the teens!!!!!

We got F! dessert plan and dinner reservations for WoC! I am so excited that work seems really dull and boring.

 

[tinkermell]

Hi all!

Hope all is fine.

Kelly, I didn't have time to read everything, but did you have some sort of surgery or something?

Love the pics!

Pix, once again, sorry we missed seeing you.

Funball and ironlou, Hello!

 

[kelmac284]

Yeah Mel I had an ablation/Hysteroscopy. It is basically a hysterectomy without taking out the usterus. It is a long story but I was having a lot of really bad bleeding issues so I had that done on Friday. Thanks for asking and I am doing fine.

 

[MotoXPrincess99]

Good Morning!

Lots of drama on my end this weekend too...

In an nutshell DBF's 16 year old cousin disclosed to me that her dad has been "touching" her. She said that she tried to tell her mom but her mom didn't believe her. I called DBF's sister who was molested by her uncle (the same guy) when she was young but when she had tried to tell her aunt she didn't believe her so she ran away when she was 15. We called Child Protective Services and they took DBF's cousin to a foster home. We have to go to court on Thursday. DBF's sister is going to try and get custody of her but because her husband has a DUI on his record we don't know if they will let her.

I am going to get her a prepaid cell phone today and some clothes and take them to her today.

Pretty much DBF's aunt is covering up for her husband and saying nothing happened. She has the whole family believing that the cousin is lying. I'll admit that his cousin has caused problems and lied in the past and if it weren't for the fact that I have heard the stories from DBF's sister about what had happened to her growing up and not I'm hearing the EXACT same thing from his cousin I 100% believe her.

 

[kelmac284]

((hugs)) Sara that is a tough one! Good luck! We had the SAME problem with my stepdaughter but in HER case she didn't tell us about it till AFTER she had gotten in trouble at school. It made it really awkward because she had gotten arrested for stealing and THEN she decides to tell us that her stepdad had molested her. So we didn't know if it had REALLY happened or she was trying to take the heat off herself for the stuff she had done wrong. We HAD to give her the benefit of the doubt because what if it WAS true. But it was a really bad situation. Of course her mom TOTALLY denied it and said she was lying. JUST like your situation and we filed a police report and it went on and on for awhile but for one thing in our case it was in another state and it had supposedly happened when she was 7 and she didn't say anything till she was 16 and they were no longer married and it was just a hard thing.

Basically the Phoenix police told us that they wanted HER (stepdaughter) to confront him and they would tape the convo and try and get him to admit what he did. Otherwise it would never fly. Well obviously that wasn't going to happen and the case never went anywhere.

Then she ended up running away and getting into TONS more trouble and to this day I wonder if it was true or not but again we HAD to follow through with it just in case.

((Hugs)) and good luck! It is a long tough road but you have to believe them because what else can you do. At least in your case you have someone else you KNOW that it happened to and perhaps she can be a witness. That is a good thing in your case!

I hope it all works out for everyone involved!

 

[MotoXPrincess99]

((hugs)) Sara that is a tough one! Good luck! We had the SAME problem with my stepdaughter but in HER case she didn't tell us about it till AFTER she had gotten in trouble at school. It made it really awkward because she had gotten arrested for stealing and THEN she decides to tell us that her stepdad had molested her. So we didn't know if it had REALLY happened or she was trying to take the heat off herself for the stuff she had done wrong. We HAD to give her the benefit of the doubt because what if it WAS true. But it was a really bad situation. Of course her mom TOTALLY denied it and said she was lying. JUST like your situation and we filed a police report and it went on and on for awhile but for one thing in our case it was in another state and it had supposedly happened when she was 7 and she didn't say anything till she was 16 and they were no longer married and it was just a hard thing.

Basically the Phoenix police told us that they wanted HER (stepdaughter) to confront him and they would tape the convo and try and get him to admit what he did. Otherwise it would never fly. Well obviously that wasn't going to happen and the case never went anywhere.

Then she ended up running away and getting into TONS more trouble and to this day I wonder if it was true or not but again we HAD to follow through with it just in case.

((Hugs)) and good luck! It is a long tough road but you have to believe them because what else can you do. At least in your case you have someone else you KNOW that it happened to and perhaps she can be a witness. That is a good thing in your case!

I hope it all works out for everyone involved!

Thanks, me too. Like I had said before if it had not been for SIL's stories I would be leaning toward not believing his cousin just becasue of all the trouble she has caused in the past but now I wonder if all the trouble she has caused was becasue she wanted to be taken away but didn't want to say what was happening.

 

[Funball]

Good Morning!

Lots of drama on my end this weekend too...

In an nutshell DBF's 16 year old cousin disclosed to me that her dad has been "touching" her. She said that she tried to tell her mom but her mom didn't believe her. I called DBF's sister who was molested by her uncle (the same guy) when she was young but when she had tried to tell her aunt she didn't believe her so she ran away when she was 15. We called Child Protective Services and they took DBF's cousin to a foster home. We have to go to court on Thursday. DBF's sister is going to try and get custody of her but because her husband has a DUI on his record we don't know if they will let her.

I am going to get her a prepaid cell phone today and some clothes and take them to her today.

Pretty much DBF's aunt is covering up for her husband and saying nothing happened. She has the whole family believing that the cousin is lying. I'll admit that his cousin has caused problems and lied in the past and if it weren't for the fact that I have heard the stories from DBF's sister about what had happened to her growing up and not I'm hearing the EXACT same thing from his cousin I 100% believe her.

omg sara! ((hugs)) i have been in that same place as you,only i was the one that it happend to! and yes i had some family members not believe me, even my own step mother(my dads wife, parents are not married) she didn't believe me, well we went to court never had to see the guy again, here we are 10 years later, my step mothers daughters have had kids, and guess what? the same thing happend to them, poor little dears, they said he called it a "tickle game" with them, well they are like 5, sooo this time the stepmother believes us---and dad went to prison--it's a good place for him, he deserves to be there.

kelmac-- i am glad that the surgery went well..sorry for your loss.

 

[kelmac284]

See I know. I struggled with that too. And I had been molested as a child so I told stepdaughter that I would fight for her tooth and nail but WHATEVER you do DON'T lie about this. I said I take this VERY seriously because in my case it was a friend of my parents and I told my mom and she wanted to bury it under the carpet because she was afraid my dad would get upset and try to "hurt" his friend and it would just "cause problems". Uh OK! So in otherwords mom it's ok for him to GET AWAY with it cuz you want to spare my dad from any problems????

I said EVEN if you don't care about what happened to ME, what about what he is probably DEF doing to OTHER KIDS!!!!! She even admitted that she thought he had done it to his stepkids because of the way they acted towards him! SHEESH!

I HATE how so many people, esp the older generation try to bury this stuff under the rug and pretend like it never happened. That is why I told Lynn I would back her up to the limit but PLEASE PLEASE don't lie to me to use it to get attention or out of something.

So as I said I truly hope in your case your gut is right and I think as you said you have a better scenario BECAUSE of what happened with the sister. NOT that it is EVER a good situation but you know what I mean. At least we know that there is proof that he has been doing this before. So again I really truly hope for ALL involved that if it indeed is true that this sicko gets the book thrown at him cuz I just despise people that do this stuff and as far as I am concerned NO MERCY!

 

[MotoXPrincess99]

I HATE how so many people, esp the older generation try to bury this stuff under the rug and pretend like it never happened.

I am seeing this too and just don't get it. Pretend like it never happened so you and your family don't get embarrased??? I don't know. I don't understand why her mom is protecting him, for her own selfish reasons I guess or she really doesn't think anything happened but I can't see that being true because she knows what happened to SIL.

 

[Funball]

See I know. I struggled with that too. And I had been molested as a child so I told stepdaughter that I would fight for her tooth and nail but WHATEVER you do DON'T lie about this. I said I take this VERY seriously because in my case it was a friend of my parents and I told my mom and she wanted to bury it under the carpet because she was afraid my dad would get upset and try to "hurt" his friend and it would just "cause problems". Uh OK! So in otherwords mom it's ok for him to GET AWAY with it cuz you want to spare my dad from any problems????

I said EVEN if you don't care about what happened to ME, what about what he is probably DEF doing to OTHER KIDS!!!!! She even admitted that she thought he had done it to his stepkids because of the way they acted towards him! SHEESH!

I HATE how so many people, esp the older generation try to bury this stuff under the rug and pretend like it never happened. That is why I told Lynn I would back her up to the limit but PLEASE PLEASE don't lie to me to use it to get attention or out of something.

So as I said I truly hope in your case your gut is right and I think as you said you have a better scenario BECAUSE of what happened with the sister. NOT that it is EVER a good situation but you know what I mean. At least we know that there is proof that he has been doing this before. So again I really truly hope for ALL involved that if it indeed is true that this sicko gets the book thrown at him cuz I just despise people that do this stuff and as far as I am concerned NO MERCY!

yeah i don't to highly of people who commit acts like this.. u know it messes kids up! and the ones that do it do not know how they are effecting othe people around them.