Celebrating birthdays 3 months later?

I wore a birthday button for our most recent trip - it occurred 8 days after my actual birthday. We couldn't go over my birthday and this trip was a gift from my DH to let me experience my b-day at Disney (I turned 39 on July 4 and I don't want to grow up - so what better way to celebrate then going where you can be a kid? :goodvibes). So I wore the button for about the first part of the trip and had fun with it, then let it go. On our last full day at MK, DD6 asked if she could wear it since we haven't been there for her b-day (hers was 3 months earlier in April). I said sure have fun with it.

The first person to wish her a Happy Birthday left her feeling guilty. We got in line to say good-bye to Mickey when we first arrived and she took it off while still in line, saying she couldn't do it around Mickey because it wasn't true.
She said it felt like she was lying to everyone since her birthday was "so long ago" (in the eyes of a 6 year old I think 3 months is forever sometimes!)
 
I'm seriously hoping the next time we go to WDW that DD will be walking. She's 2 and not walking at all yet..not even standing by herself yet. She just started crawling in May, pulling to stand in Sept and now working on standing by herself and walking while we hold her hands. Her drs said in July she was at the development of a 1 year old. Her PT, though, said in August that she'll catch up to her age level peers in 18 months...so hopefully she'll be walking by this time next year (if not sooner!) Considering after our last visit with her in October 2013 I was convinced that the next time we took her we'd have to get the pass to use her stroller as a wheelchair (as by then she wasn't mobile at all), if she *is* walking, I am absolutely, 100% getting a pin to celebrate that. I can't tell you how many times I saw a little girl walking at WDW last week, wishing and yearning to be able to experience WDW like that with my daughter - having her hold my hand, walking down main street, etc. It has been a long road of dr's appts, multiple therapies, etc to get her where she is today. The day she starts walking, and for a *long* time afterwards I will absolutely want to shout from the rooftops how excited and happy I am that she's finally walking. I can guarantee I will not give 1 whit of thought to what any one else thinks of her button or our celebrating. Anyone who wants to be a scrooge about it for whatever reason is not someone worth my time being concerned about.

I have nothing to add about the argument. Just your post about your little girl made me smile which I don't do often on this site. Thank you for that :) I'm rooting for your daughter.
 
The first person to wish her a Happy Birthday left her feeling guilty. We got in line to say good-bye to Mickey when we first arrived and she took it off while still in line, saying she couldn't do it around Mickey because it wasn't true.
She said it felt like she was lying to everyone since her birthday was "so long ago" (in the eyes of a 6 year old I think 3 months is forever sometimes!)

I ran into the same sort of thing with my son. He turned 11 on September 19. We were there the last week of August, and I asked him whether he wanted a birthday button since his birthday was just a few weeks away. He looked at me like I had three heads and said, "It isn't my birthday."

I don't think wearing a button months after your birthday means you have a smoldering black heart...but I do think it is sort of weird. Why would you say it is your birthday if it isn't? Why would you want to hear "Happy birthday!" if it isn't your birthday?

They have "I'm Celebrating" buttons. Why not just wear one of those?
 

Others find joy in being "seen" in a more social setting. This is completely normal, so I don't see why those who choose to wear the buttons seem to insist that they aren't looking to be recognized or feel special. If that's not your motivation, I can't see any other logical reason to announce the celebration.

There may not be any other explanation that you agree with. For me, it's simply an expression of happiness. Nothing more, nothing less. I don't *expect* any kind of recognition. I, of course, thank people if they do recognize it, but to me if you "expect" something, then you are disappointed if it doesn't happen. It truly wouldn't have bothered me at all if no one had said Happy Birthday to me, because that isn't the point of the button *to me*. YMMV, of course.

Anyone who knows me IRL will be the first to tell you that I am *not* one who enjoys being "seen" in social settings. I am much more the wallflower type than the social butterfly.

Maybe that makes wearing the button a contradiction to some, but IMO, that's their issue not mine.
 
Even if someone were to just wear one of the "I'm Celebrating" buttons, a CM may ask WHAT they're celebrating...and that person will say they're celebrating their birthday and get wished a happy birthday anyway.
 
i guess im supposed to feel sorry for the poster being 'attacked' for there different opinion even tho they called others lying attention hogs with holes where there hearts should be nothing bad there
 
There may not be any other explanation that you agree with. For me, it's simply an expression of happiness. Nothing more, nothing less. I don't *expect* any kind of recognition. I, of course, thank people if they do recognize it, but to me if you "expect" something, then you are disappointed if it doesn't happen. It truly wouldn't have bothered me at all if no one had said Happy Birthday to me, because that isn't the point of the button *to me*. YMMV, of course.

Anyone who knows me IRL will be the first to tell you that I am *not* one who enjoys being "seen" in social settings. I am much more the wallflower type than the social butterfly.

Maybe that makes wearing the button a contradiction to some, but IMO, that's their issue not mine.

I don't mean to pick on you, but I think the reason why people are questioning you is because there is a disconnect in your posts on this thread.

You say that you don't expect anything by wearing a button, that you're shy and that you don't want to call attention to yourself and then ...

I wore my birthday button on our trip, even though my birthday wasn't til 2 days after we got home. I didn't expect anything from it...just enjoyed it for myself. I got lots of birthday wishes.from CMs and guests alike, which was totally enough on.its own. The button also led to a great character interaction with Anna asking me if I'd had enough chocolate on my birthday,.and me saying I hadn't had any yet but that we were headed to the f&w festival, and then Anna started raving about a few things I should try when we were there. It was a great interaction! One of my favorites over many trips! It wasn't about "getting" anything from Disney,.just about enjoying a special occasion at my favorite place.

... you gush about all the cool things that the button brought you.

You can't really have it both ways, saying that you don't wear the button for attention and then raving about all the attention it got you.
 
You can enjoy the attention without EXPECTING the attention. I think that was her point.
 
Our last trip my oldest DD turned 11 a couple of days before our trip, our youngest turned 6 on the trip and my Bday was the day we got back. I let my oldest wear a pin the first day, let my other DD wear hers the whole week and never wore mine because I felt stupid and hate attention. It now sits on my dresser.
 
i guess im supposed to feel sorry for the poster being 'attacked' for there different opinion even tho they called others lying attention hogs with holes where there hearts should be nothing bad there

I'm sorry if I gave you the impression that I want your pity or that I think I am entitled to it. You may, of course, feel sorry for me if you ever see me wearing a birthday button on a day that is not my birthday.

To reiterate the consensus answers to the OP's question:

Does Disney frown on wearing birthday buttons when it is not a kid's birthday? No, because who cares?

Do other guests frown on it? Some do, but who cares?
 
You can enjoy the attention without EXPECTING the attention. I think that was her point.

You can also seek attention without EXPECTING the attention. I think that is the point in response. You may not expect attention, but you want it, otherwise you would put the button in your bag where nobody can see it.
 
Wow. Just - wow.

So - I didn't know you could just get an "I'm Celebrating" button. That sounds more appropriate, given that we will also (hopefully) be celebrating a successful surgery for something that's been causing lots of problems for a long time now. My son will still think it's cool, and he won't be weirded out by all the "Happy Birthday" remarks. Never thought about that! :)

I have added lots of extra "pixie dust" to this trip to create our own celebratory atmosphere, and so I think just a few additional touches, like the button and ordering a special cake, will really top it off for the kiddos (they are 7 and 3).
 
You can also seek attention without EXPECTING the attention. I think that is the point in response. You may not expect attention, but you want it, otherwise you would put the button in your bag where nobody can see it.

I feel like seeking and expecting are kind of the same thing. You can keep saying everyone that wears a button is seeking and/or expecting attention, but that doesn't make it true.

I went once for my birthday (actually it was the day before my birthday - THE HORROR) and I wore a button AND a birthday hat because I thought it was FUN. Literally for no other reason than to make myself and my family laugh and make fun memories. Maybe you shouldn't act like you know everyone's motive for why they do something.
 
Let me know the day she starts walking. I'll SEND you a button!! :) :)


I'm seriously hoping the next time we go to WDW that DD will be walking. She's 2 and not walking at all yet..not even standing by herself yet. She just started crawling in May, pulling to stand in Sept and now working on standing by herself and walking while we hold her hands. Her drs said in July she was at the development of a 1 year old. Her PT, though, said in August that she'll catch up to her age level peers in 18 months...so hopefully she'll be walking by this time next year (if not sooner!)

Considering after our last visit with her in October 2013 I was convinced that the next time we took her we'd have to get the pass to use her stroller as a wheelchair (as by then she wasn't mobile at all), if she *is* walking, I am absolutely, 100% getting a pin to celebrate that. I can't tell you how many times I saw a little girl walking at WDW last week, wishing and yearning to be able to experience WDW like that with my daughter - having her hold my hand, walking down main street, etc. It has been a long road of dr's appts, multiple therapies, etc to get her where she is today. The day she starts walking, and for a *long* time afterwards I will absolutely want to shout from the rooftops how excited and happy I am that she's finally walking. I can guarantee I will not give 1 whit of thought to what any one else thinks of her button or our celebrating.

Anyone who wants to be a scrooge about it for whatever reason is not someone worth my time being concerned about.
 
I don't mean to pick on you, but I think the reason why people are questioning you is because there is a disconnect in your posts on this thread.

You say that you don't expect anything by wearing a button, that you're shy and that you don't want to call attention to yourself and then ...



... you gush about all the cool things that the button brought you.

You can't really have it both ways, saying that you don't wear the button for attention and then raving about all the attention it got you.

I don't wear the button for attention. I don't expect the attention at all. Again, as I said before..expecting (and seeking) means some level of disappointment if no attention is received. And for me, if no one had said anything at all, I would not be at all disappointed. I don't wear it for others.

That said, I am *appreciative* and *grateful* of any well wishes I receive, at any time of year for whatever reason. Last I checked, being grateful and appreciative of something doesn't make someone attention seeking.
 
I'm sorry if I gave you the impression that I want your pity or that I think I am entitled to it. You may, of course, feel sorry for me if you ever see me wearing a birthday button on a day that is not my birthday.
I'm hearing it but I think it is incorrect
 
I feel like seeking and expecting are kind of the same thing. You can keep saying everyone that wears a button is seeking and/or expecting attention, but that doesn't make it true.

I went once for my birthday (actually it was the day before my birthday - THE HORROR) and I wore a button AND a birthday hat because I thought it was FUN. Literally for no other reason than to make myself and my family laugh and make fun memories. Maybe you shouldn't act like you know everyone's motive for why they do something.

Thank you for understanding what I'm trying to say :). What you wrote above is precisely us...it's for fun *for us* and making fun memories *for us*. it isn't about other people in any way shape or form.

My husband will tell you when I get to WDW, I'm like a kid again. I've even been known to skip down Main Street, or in Fantasyland, just like I did as a little girl. I'm sure some would say that isn't appropriate for a "grown adult" either, but I really don't care. It's another expression of the childlike joy I feel being in my favorite place. The joy of being in one place in the world where I *don't* care what other people are thinking, where I can just be free of worries for a little while and escape reality for a just a little bit.
 













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